The document discusses how to make decisions that balance your own happiness with the happiness of others. It explains that people often feel conflicted when choosing between themselves and others because of the human need to belong. However, the Buddhist concept of "Inter-Being" recognizes that everyone is connected, so what makes you happy can also make others happy. The document advises that if you follow your heart and truly believe a decision is right for you, you should not feel guilty for any negative outcomes, as all feelings are temporary. It concludes by recommending writing down goals and action steps focused solely on moving toward your goals.

1. How to make the right decision for
yourself
Mykim Tran

2. Introduction
• Do you sometimes caught yourself in between making other
people or yourself happy because you cannot do both at
once?
• When you decide to do things for yourself, do you develop a
selfishness feeling from within that creates a lot of suffering
for you?
• On the other hand, when you do things for other people, do
you also suffer because you are not doing things that make
you happy?
• As a result, it does not matter what you decide to do, you
end up suffering

3. The cause of human suffering
• The main reason why you develop conflict between making
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yourself and other people happy is because of your human being
needs
According to Maslow’s Hierarchy human of needs, one of the
human being needs is to belong and receive love and affection
from other people
You believe that to receive this human need, you would have to
impress other people in order to get their acceptance
When you do not do things for other people, you will develop
suffering
And that is why, sometimes, you end up doing things for other
people that you might not like

4. Understanding “Inter-Being”
The term “Inter-Being” come from the teaching of Zen
Master Thich Nhat Hanh on Engaged Buddhism, which
means everything and everyone is connected
“Inter” means connect, and “Being” means living things and
human beings
In this case, if you are happy, other people will also become
happy
If you are sad, other people will also become sad
If other people are happy, you will also become happy
If other people are sad, you will also become sad

5. Making your decisions
It does not matter what you decide to do, everyone and
everything will be affected by your actions
In this case, whatever you decide to do that will bring you
happiness, other people will also experience happiness
Whatever you decide to do, if you believe in your heart that
you are making the right decision for yourself, then you
should not feel guilty for any reason; even if a negative
outcome is the result
Whenever you feel uncomfortable when you make the right
decision for yourself, that feeling is like any other feeling, it
will come, but it will also go away

6. Making decisions
However, if you follow your heart, most likely
you will make the right decision for yourself
Sometimes the decision could be for you, while
other times, they could be for other people
Also, you have to be patient with yourself and
other people because sometimes the benefits do
not manifest right away

7. Action Steps
1. Write down all of your goals
2. Write down action steps that will only move
you toward your goals

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