One of the six perfections of Mahayana Buddhism is called "Patience" which doesn't just mean gritting your teeth and waiting. It has a much wider context here. It's more about staying open and relaxed in the face of difficulties.
This was a presentation given at FPMT UK Buddhist groups in 2013. It follows and Indian Master Shantideva and Tibetan Master Lama Tsong Khapa (lamrim).
See more:
www.joyous-effort.com/patience
This document provides an introduction and table of contents for a book about achieving happiness. The introduction discusses how happiness means different things to different people but we know it when we feel it. It also discusses how we internalize criticism from others and have mostly negative self-talk. The subsequent chapters will discuss overcoming fear to find happiness, choosing happiness as an option, prioritizing happiness, being authentic, letting go of judgment, living in the present, and the relationship between health and happiness.
The document discusses anger, including what anger is, common causes and triggers of anger, different types of anger, and strategies for managing anger. It defines anger as a basic human emotion typically triggered by hurt, mistreatment, opposition to views, or obstacles to goals. It lists common anger triggers like rudeness, tiredness, injustice, and humiliation. It also describes 12 different types of anger from behavioral to deliberate. Finally, it discusses anger management, including understanding triggers, expressing anger constructively, and using a CUDSAIR framework to confront problems that make you angry.
This document discusses anger management and provides steps to help control anger. It explains that anger is a normal emotion but can become unhealthy if uncontrolled. Uncontrolled anger can harm personal and professional relationships and success. While anger has causes like frustration of goals or threats, responding negatively can damage respect and relationships. The document then provides 12 steps to manage anger which include maintaining an anger log, using support systems, relaxation techniques, empathy, humor, trust-building, listening skills, assertiveness, and forgiveness.
This document discusses anger management and contains several sections on the topic. It begins with an objective and overview of the sections. It then defines anger, discusses when anger becomes a problem, and whether feeling angry is wrong. Later sections explore the differences between anger and aggression, causes of anger and how it affects relationships, different types of anger, and anger management. The final sections provide information on dealing with anger through various techniques like breathing, exercise, and seeking refuge in Allah from Satan in Islam.
A group program using Compassion Focused Therapy, adapted from the book CFT Made Easy by Russel Kolts, and The Power of Self Compassion by Mary Welford and the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
This document outlines an anger management training presentation titled "50 Ways for Anger Management". It discusses various topics that will be covered in the training, including what triggers anger, how the brain works in relation to anger, cognitive distortions that can lead to anger, and models for understanding and managing anger like the Johari window and cycles of anger. It provides information on signs of anger, unrealistic expectations that can trigger anger, and when anger becomes a problem. It also offers 50 different ways to manage anger, such as learning your triggers, releasing anger assertively, and using assertiveness techniques like pausing before responding. The overall document serves as an outline for an anger management training seminar.
Philosophy Essay on "What to pursue to have a good life?"Ismakhalid1
1) The document discusses different philosophical perspectives on how to pursue a good life, including hedonism, ethical egoism, and focusing on others' interests.
2) Ntozake Shange advocates for a philosophy of hedonism where one prioritizes their own pleasure over moral concerns. However, the document argues this has loopholes because internal satisfaction cannot be gained from harming others.
3) Epicurus provides arguments for not fearing God or death and for accepting what nature provides in order to be happy, but the document says this view only works for atheists and a good life requires good deeds.
4) Overall, the document concludes that true happiness comes from sacrifice and fulfilling one's duties
The document discusses the concept of mindfulness and the law of attraction. It states that one's thoughts and beliefs directly shape one's reality, and that negative thoughts can attract negative experiences while positive thoughts can create positive experiences. It encourages cultivating mindfulness of one's thoughts, replacing destructive feelings with uplifting ones, and carefully guiding one's thoughts to attract what one desires.
This document provides an introduction and table of contents for a book about achieving happiness. The introduction discusses how happiness means different things to different people but we know it when we feel it. It also discusses how we internalize criticism from others and have mostly negative self-talk. The subsequent chapters will discuss overcoming fear to find happiness, choosing happiness as an option, prioritizing happiness, being authentic, letting go of judgment, living in the present, and the relationship between health and happiness.
The document discusses anger, including what anger is, common causes and triggers of anger, different types of anger, and strategies for managing anger. It defines anger as a basic human emotion typically triggered by hurt, mistreatment, opposition to views, or obstacles to goals. It lists common anger triggers like rudeness, tiredness, injustice, and humiliation. It also describes 12 different types of anger from behavioral to deliberate. Finally, it discusses anger management, including understanding triggers, expressing anger constructively, and using a CUDSAIR framework to confront problems that make you angry.
This document discusses anger management and provides steps to help control anger. It explains that anger is a normal emotion but can become unhealthy if uncontrolled. Uncontrolled anger can harm personal and professional relationships and success. While anger has causes like frustration of goals or threats, responding negatively can damage respect and relationships. The document then provides 12 steps to manage anger which include maintaining an anger log, using support systems, relaxation techniques, empathy, humor, trust-building, listening skills, assertiveness, and forgiveness.
This document discusses anger management and contains several sections on the topic. It begins with an objective and overview of the sections. It then defines anger, discusses when anger becomes a problem, and whether feeling angry is wrong. Later sections explore the differences between anger and aggression, causes of anger and how it affects relationships, different types of anger, and anger management. The final sections provide information on dealing with anger through various techniques like breathing, exercise, and seeking refuge in Allah from Satan in Islam.
A group program using Compassion Focused Therapy, adapted from the book CFT Made Easy by Russel Kolts, and The Power of Self Compassion by Mary Welford and the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
This document outlines an anger management training presentation titled "50 Ways for Anger Management". It discusses various topics that will be covered in the training, including what triggers anger, how the brain works in relation to anger, cognitive distortions that can lead to anger, and models for understanding and managing anger like the Johari window and cycles of anger. It provides information on signs of anger, unrealistic expectations that can trigger anger, and when anger becomes a problem. It also offers 50 different ways to manage anger, such as learning your triggers, releasing anger assertively, and using assertiveness techniques like pausing before responding. The overall document serves as an outline for an anger management training seminar.
Philosophy Essay on "What to pursue to have a good life?"Ismakhalid1
1) The document discusses different philosophical perspectives on how to pursue a good life, including hedonism, ethical egoism, and focusing on others' interests.
2) Ntozake Shange advocates for a philosophy of hedonism where one prioritizes their own pleasure over moral concerns. However, the document argues this has loopholes because internal satisfaction cannot be gained from harming others.
3) Epicurus provides arguments for not fearing God or death and for accepting what nature provides in order to be happy, but the document says this view only works for atheists and a good life requires good deeds.
4) Overall, the document concludes that true happiness comes from sacrifice and fulfilling one's duties
The document discusses the concept of mindfulness and the law of attraction. It states that one's thoughts and beliefs directly shape one's reality, and that negative thoughts can attract negative experiences while positive thoughts can create positive experiences. It encourages cultivating mindfulness of one's thoughts, replacing destructive feelings with uplifting ones, and carefully guiding one's thoughts to attract what one desires.
This document provides an introduction to the Here & Now meditation technique. It discusses how the mind can be the source of suffering through its imprecision, "shoulds" and judgments. The meditation aims to tame the mind and experience the original, wordless mind of stillness beyond thoughts of past and future. It introduces some key concepts like the difference between the original mind and secondary mind of words, and how separating from identification with the mind can help overcome feelings of lack and suffering.
This document discusses anger management and conflict resolution. It defines conflict and explains the positive and negative aspects. Different types and styles of conflict are described. Causes of anger and triggers are explained. Techniques for managing anger like relaxation, breathing, and conflict resolution strategies are provided. The conclusion emphasizes the difference between anger as an emotion and aggression as inappropriate expression, and learning to express anger appropriately.
This document provides guidance on anger management and controlling aggressive behavior. It outlines skills needed for dealing with anger such as identifying feelings and cues indicating anger, recognizing aggressive acts, understanding consequences of anger, and developing coping mechanisms. The document then discusses specific strategies for managing anger such as relaxation techniques, avoiding triggers, expressing anger appropriately, problem solving, and forgiving others.
A group program using Compassion Focused Therapy, adapted from the book CFT Made Easy by Russel Kolts, and The Power of Self Compassion by Mary Welford and the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
Anger is a natural response to pain or unpleasant feelings that often stems from feeling hurt, rejected, threatened or experiencing loss. It is an emotion that is directed at a target that one perceives as the cause of this pain. While anger can provide short bursts of energy, prolonged anger has many negative effects on both physical and mental health. It increases stress hormones, raises blood pressure, and harms the brain and body over time. Managing anger through relaxation techniques, exercise, humor, and addressing the root causes of anger can help mitigate these damaging health impacts.
A group program using Compassion Focused Therapy, adapted from the book CFT Made Easy by Russel Kolts, and The Power of Self Compassion by Mary Welford and the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
This document discusses mindfulness and cultivating compassionate awareness. It explains that mindfulness allows us to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment, and see them as passing mental events rather than truths about ourselves. The document uses metaphors like the "manic roommate" to illustrate how our inner voice is not always helpful or accurate. Regular mindfulness practice through exercises like body scans can strengthen areas of the brain related to emotional regulation and decrease fear and anxiety over time. Homework involves daily mindfulness meditation to develop compassionate strengths.
Minding Our Business: Contemplative Practices for Meeting Suffering, Comfort ...lakesidebhs
From Lakeside Behavioral Health System's Spring 2016 EAP/MHP Conferences.
This workshop is about learning to love and enjoy our work with our most complex clients while giving them some skills to love and enjoy themselves. You’ll see this means increasing our own mindfulness and self-compassion.
This slide show was designed to present the body of research related to reconciliation\'s effects and guide teachers in useful methods of character development with their students.
Eight Verses for Training the Mind: the Bodhisattva Ideal and the Bodhicitta ...manchesterbuddhistcentre
The document discusses two verses from "Eight Verses for Training the Mind" by Kadampa Geshe Langritangpa. The first verse is about regarding others as superior to oneself in order to overcome pride. The second verse is about watching the mind and forcefully stopping disturbing emotions as they arise, as they hurt both oneself and others. The document provides context and commentary on these verses, discussing concepts like Buddha's compassion, cherishing others, disturbing emotions, and forcefully stopping klesas.
Mindfulness & Grief: The Transformative Power of NowHeather Stang
The practice of mindfulness can help bereaved people calm their mind, relax their body, and make meaning from their loss. Learn how three members of an 8-week Yoga for Grief group found refuge in the present moment, tapped into their “Buddha Nature,” and used mindfulness meditation, journaling and the principles of Buddhist psychology to: practice compassion and forgiveness for the self and others; use skillful means to cope with the dual process of grief; gain insight into their natural wisdom and resilience; continue the legacy of their loved one; and improve their own physical health and increase self-efficacy.
[These slides are from Heather Stang’s presentation at the Association of Death Education and Counseling 36th Annual Conference in Baltimore, MD in April, 2014. Additional information on how to structure an 8 Week Mindfulness & Grief Group may be found at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BDBJGtrGc_s.]
Objectives:
1. Illustrate the parallels between the ancient principles of Buddhist psychology and how they relate to modern theories of thanatology.
2. Explain how the mindfulness practices present moment awareness and compassion which can be used to relieve physical and emotional suffering.
3. Review case studies that illustrate how the practice of mindfulness meditation and yoga contributes to meaning making and posttraumatic growth.
References:
Stang, H. (2014). Mindfuness and grief. London:CICO Books. http://amzn.to/1gJXqKH
Wada, K., & Park, J. (2009). Integrating Buddhist psychology into grief counseling. Death Studies, 37(7), 657-683.
Brach, T. (2012). True refuge: Finding peace and freedom in your own awakened heart. New York: Bantam Books.
Cacciatore, J., & Flint, M. (2012). ATTEND: Toward a mindfulness-based bereavement care model. Death Studies, 36(1), 61-82.
Rinpoche, S., Gaffney, P., & Harvey, A. (1992). The Tibetan book of living and dying. San Francisco: Harper San Francisco.
Heather Stang, MA is the author of Mindfulness and Grief, a book based on the 8 week groups she developed. She earned a Masters in Thanatology (Death, Dying & Bereavement) from Hood College in 2010, and is a mindfulness meditation instructor and Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy practitioner at the Frederick Meditation Center. Her focus is on helping the bereaved stay healthy and increase immune functioning through mindfulness based practices, relaxation and expressive arts.
Helping Clients Discover the “WOW” Factor in Woundingslakesidebhs
This document discusses how woundings from childhood or traumatic events can lead to hurt, and coping mechanisms like minimization actually cause more hurt. When trauma is not processed, it can result in PTSD symptoms like reliving the event, avoidance, or hypervigilance. Therapeutic interventions aim to uncover the underlying beliefs formed by the trauma, like feelings of unworthiness. By exploring triggers and faulty beliefs through techniques like empty chair work, clients can process the trauma and form healthier beliefs like self-acceptance and self-compassion. The goal is for clients to honor the wounded self and feel regulated emotions when discussing the event.
This document discusses managing emotions at work and provides steps for mastering emotions. It notes that people often feel frustrated with bosses, upset with coworkers, and angry with customers. It recommends recognizing emotions, understanding that thoughts precede emotions, and accepting that changing feelings comes after the fact. Possible solutions include reconsidering harmful beliefs, keeping an emotion journal, talking to supportive friends, engaging in self-education, and seeking counseling. A nine-step process is outlined for managing emotions, thoughts, and behaviors through awareness, acceptance, identification, and goal-setting.
Eight Verses for Training the Mind: the Bodhisattva Ideal and the Bodhicitta ...manchesterbuddhistcentre
When someone we have helped and placed our hopes in greatly harms us, this verse teaches us to see them as an excellent spiritual friend. This is an incredibly difficult practice that involves letting go of expectations, hopes, and feelings of betrayal. Rather than retaliate or feel like a victim, we must understand others and see challenging situations as opportunities for spiritual growth and insight into impermanence and interdependence. Forgiving others and life itself is a profound way of renouncing suffering and progressing on the bodhisattva path.
The document summarizes the Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta, which describes the Buddha's first teaching about the Four Noble Truths and the Middle Way. It explains the four truths - suffering, its cause, its cessation, and the path to its cessation. It also describes how the Buddha put the "Wheel of Dhamma" in motion by teaching the three turnings and twelve aspects of the four noble truths.
1) Ben struggled in gym class in school and bonded with a friend over avoiding physical activity. After dropping out of multiple colleges, he and his friend opened an ice cream store called Ben and Jerry's.
2) The document discusses cognitive distortions like catastrophizing and black and white thinking that can influence people's core beliefs about themselves. It emphasizes developing a balanced, honest view of oneself and others.
3) Healthy thinking involves knowing one's strengths and weaknesses, recognizing that people generally do their best, and having flexible, accurate beliefs about oneself and others.
This document provides worksheets to develop emotional intelligence. It discusses the five domains of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. For each domain, it explains the concept and provides questions for self-reflection. It also provides tactics for becoming more emotionally literate and developing social and personal tactics to improve emotional intelligence.
Eight Verses for Training the Mind: the Bodhisattva Ideal and the Bodhicitta ...manchesterbuddhistcentre
The document discusses the Buddhist concept of bodhicitta, or the mind of enlightenment. It provides metaphors to describe bodhicitta, such as a wish-fulfilling gem or tree. The document emphasizes that bodhicitta must be developed through practice, not just meditation but dedicating one's entire life to the Dharma. It outlines Atisha's teachings on bodhicitta, including the famous Eight Verses for Training the Mind.
Anger is a normal emotion that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury, but uncontrolled anger can harm health and relationships. While it is a myth that anger must be expressed externally to avoid exploding, managing anger positively requires identifying triggers and sources of anger and developing coping mechanisms like taking deep breaths or removing oneself from the situation. Proper anger management focuses on using anger constructively rather than eliminating it entirely.
This document discusses emotional intelligence and managing emotions. It defines emotional intelligence as the ability to understand, control, and express one's emotions. It provides examples of different emotions like afraid, angry, ashamed, and describes activities to help perceive, understand, and manage emotional reactions. The document emphasizes that part of managing emotions is choosing our mood and knowing that moods are within our control to help motivate or concentrate depending on the situation. It concludes with brief bible verses about maturity and confidence that with God's help one can continue growing in emotional intelligence.
What Ancient Wisdom and Modern Science say about Meditation Atul Pant
Meditation has been shown through research to positively impact brain functioning and emotional states. Neuroscientist Richard Davidson's research found that long-term meditators showed increased activity in areas of the brain associated with positive emotions. Short-term meditators who completed just 2 weeks of compassion meditation training also showed brain changes, behaving more altruistically and with reduced threat response. Various forms of meditation aim to cultivate focus, awareness, compassion, or other mental states and can be practiced by those new to meditation. Ancient texts describe meditation as a means of introspection and integrating conscious and subconscious mind.
DrRic Meditation for Stress (slide share edition)DrRic Saguil
This document discusses various techniques for meditation and stress reduction. It begins by stating that while medicine hasn't invented these practices, it is changing how they are provided. It then provides 5 sections that outline different types of meditations including focused meditation, supported meditation using various senses, moving meditation, and open meditation involving the environment. Throughout it discusses how meditation impacts stress response and gene expression by improving the environment for our genes. It promotes regular practice and a healthy lifestyle to support meditation and reduce stress.
This document provides an introduction to the Here & Now meditation technique. It discusses how the mind can be the source of suffering through its imprecision, "shoulds" and judgments. The meditation aims to tame the mind and experience the original, wordless mind of stillness beyond thoughts of past and future. It introduces some key concepts like the difference between the original mind and secondary mind of words, and how separating from identification with the mind can help overcome feelings of lack and suffering.
This document discusses anger management and conflict resolution. It defines conflict and explains the positive and negative aspects. Different types and styles of conflict are described. Causes of anger and triggers are explained. Techniques for managing anger like relaxation, breathing, and conflict resolution strategies are provided. The conclusion emphasizes the difference between anger as an emotion and aggression as inappropriate expression, and learning to express anger appropriately.
This document provides guidance on anger management and controlling aggressive behavior. It outlines skills needed for dealing with anger such as identifying feelings and cues indicating anger, recognizing aggressive acts, understanding consequences of anger, and developing coping mechanisms. The document then discusses specific strategies for managing anger such as relaxation techniques, avoiding triggers, expressing anger appropriately, problem solving, and forgiving others.
A group program using Compassion Focused Therapy, adapted from the book CFT Made Easy by Russel Kolts, and The Power of Self Compassion by Mary Welford and the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
Anger is a natural response to pain or unpleasant feelings that often stems from feeling hurt, rejected, threatened or experiencing loss. It is an emotion that is directed at a target that one perceives as the cause of this pain. While anger can provide short bursts of energy, prolonged anger has many negative effects on both physical and mental health. It increases stress hormones, raises blood pressure, and harms the brain and body over time. Managing anger through relaxation techniques, exercise, humor, and addressing the root causes of anger can help mitigate these damaging health impacts.
A group program using Compassion Focused Therapy, adapted from the book CFT Made Easy by Russel Kolts, and The Power of Self Compassion by Mary Welford and the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
This document discusses mindfulness and cultivating compassionate awareness. It explains that mindfulness allows us to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment, and see them as passing mental events rather than truths about ourselves. The document uses metaphors like the "manic roommate" to illustrate how our inner voice is not always helpful or accurate. Regular mindfulness practice through exercises like body scans can strengthen areas of the brain related to emotional regulation and decrease fear and anxiety over time. Homework involves daily mindfulness meditation to develop compassionate strengths.
Minding Our Business: Contemplative Practices for Meeting Suffering, Comfort ...lakesidebhs
From Lakeside Behavioral Health System's Spring 2016 EAP/MHP Conferences.
This workshop is about learning to love and enjoy our work with our most complex clients while giving them some skills to love and enjoy themselves. You’ll see this means increasing our own mindfulness and self-compassion.
This slide show was designed to present the body of research related to reconciliation\'s effects and guide teachers in useful methods of character development with their students.
Eight Verses for Training the Mind: the Bodhisattva Ideal and the Bodhicitta ...manchesterbuddhistcentre
The document discusses two verses from "Eight Verses for Training the Mind" by Kadampa Geshe Langritangpa. The first verse is about regarding others as superior to oneself in order to overcome pride. The second verse is about watching the mind and forcefully stopping disturbing emotions as they arise, as they hurt both oneself and others. The document provides context and commentary on these verses, discussing concepts like Buddha's compassion, cherishing others, disturbing emotions, and forcefully stopping klesas.
Mindfulness & Grief: The Transformative Power of NowHeather Stang
The practice of mindfulness can help bereaved people calm their mind, relax their body, and make meaning from their loss. Learn how three members of an 8-week Yoga for Grief group found refuge in the present moment, tapped into their “Buddha Nature,” and used mindfulness meditation, journaling and the principles of Buddhist psychology to: practice compassion and forgiveness for the self and others; use skillful means to cope with the dual process of grief; gain insight into their natural wisdom and resilience; continue the legacy of their loved one; and improve their own physical health and increase self-efficacy.
[These slides are from Heather Stang’s presentation at the Association of Death Education and Counseling 36th Annual Conference in Baltimore, MD in April, 2014. Additional information on how to structure an 8 Week Mindfulness & Grief Group may be found at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BDBJGtrGc_s.]
Objectives:
1. Illustrate the parallels between the ancient principles of Buddhist psychology and how they relate to modern theories of thanatology.
2. Explain how the mindfulness practices present moment awareness and compassion which can be used to relieve physical and emotional suffering.
3. Review case studies that illustrate how the practice of mindfulness meditation and yoga contributes to meaning making and posttraumatic growth.
References:
Stang, H. (2014). Mindfuness and grief. London:CICO Books. http://amzn.to/1gJXqKH
Wada, K., & Park, J. (2009). Integrating Buddhist psychology into grief counseling. Death Studies, 37(7), 657-683.
Brach, T. (2012). True refuge: Finding peace and freedom in your own awakened heart. New York: Bantam Books.
Cacciatore, J., & Flint, M. (2012). ATTEND: Toward a mindfulness-based bereavement care model. Death Studies, 36(1), 61-82.
Rinpoche, S., Gaffney, P., & Harvey, A. (1992). The Tibetan book of living and dying. San Francisco: Harper San Francisco.
Heather Stang, MA is the author of Mindfulness and Grief, a book based on the 8 week groups she developed. She earned a Masters in Thanatology (Death, Dying & Bereavement) from Hood College in 2010, and is a mindfulness meditation instructor and Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy practitioner at the Frederick Meditation Center. Her focus is on helping the bereaved stay healthy and increase immune functioning through mindfulness based practices, relaxation and expressive arts.
Helping Clients Discover the “WOW” Factor in Woundingslakesidebhs
This document discusses how woundings from childhood or traumatic events can lead to hurt, and coping mechanisms like minimization actually cause more hurt. When trauma is not processed, it can result in PTSD symptoms like reliving the event, avoidance, or hypervigilance. Therapeutic interventions aim to uncover the underlying beliefs formed by the trauma, like feelings of unworthiness. By exploring triggers and faulty beliefs through techniques like empty chair work, clients can process the trauma and form healthier beliefs like self-acceptance and self-compassion. The goal is for clients to honor the wounded self and feel regulated emotions when discussing the event.
This document discusses managing emotions at work and provides steps for mastering emotions. It notes that people often feel frustrated with bosses, upset with coworkers, and angry with customers. It recommends recognizing emotions, understanding that thoughts precede emotions, and accepting that changing feelings comes after the fact. Possible solutions include reconsidering harmful beliefs, keeping an emotion journal, talking to supportive friends, engaging in self-education, and seeking counseling. A nine-step process is outlined for managing emotions, thoughts, and behaviors through awareness, acceptance, identification, and goal-setting.
Eight Verses for Training the Mind: the Bodhisattva Ideal and the Bodhicitta ...manchesterbuddhistcentre
When someone we have helped and placed our hopes in greatly harms us, this verse teaches us to see them as an excellent spiritual friend. This is an incredibly difficult practice that involves letting go of expectations, hopes, and feelings of betrayal. Rather than retaliate or feel like a victim, we must understand others and see challenging situations as opportunities for spiritual growth and insight into impermanence and interdependence. Forgiving others and life itself is a profound way of renouncing suffering and progressing on the bodhisattva path.
The document summarizes the Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta, which describes the Buddha's first teaching about the Four Noble Truths and the Middle Way. It explains the four truths - suffering, its cause, its cessation, and the path to its cessation. It also describes how the Buddha put the "Wheel of Dhamma" in motion by teaching the three turnings and twelve aspects of the four noble truths.
1) Ben struggled in gym class in school and bonded with a friend over avoiding physical activity. After dropping out of multiple colleges, he and his friend opened an ice cream store called Ben and Jerry's.
2) The document discusses cognitive distortions like catastrophizing and black and white thinking that can influence people's core beliefs about themselves. It emphasizes developing a balanced, honest view of oneself and others.
3) Healthy thinking involves knowing one's strengths and weaknesses, recognizing that people generally do their best, and having flexible, accurate beliefs about oneself and others.
This document provides worksheets to develop emotional intelligence. It discusses the five domains of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. For each domain, it explains the concept and provides questions for self-reflection. It also provides tactics for becoming more emotionally literate and developing social and personal tactics to improve emotional intelligence.
Eight Verses for Training the Mind: the Bodhisattva Ideal and the Bodhicitta ...manchesterbuddhistcentre
The document discusses the Buddhist concept of bodhicitta, or the mind of enlightenment. It provides metaphors to describe bodhicitta, such as a wish-fulfilling gem or tree. The document emphasizes that bodhicitta must be developed through practice, not just meditation but dedicating one's entire life to the Dharma. It outlines Atisha's teachings on bodhicitta, including the famous Eight Verses for Training the Mind.
Anger is a normal emotion that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury, but uncontrolled anger can harm health and relationships. While it is a myth that anger must be expressed externally to avoid exploding, managing anger positively requires identifying triggers and sources of anger and developing coping mechanisms like taking deep breaths or removing oneself from the situation. Proper anger management focuses on using anger constructively rather than eliminating it entirely.
This document discusses emotional intelligence and managing emotions. It defines emotional intelligence as the ability to understand, control, and express one's emotions. It provides examples of different emotions like afraid, angry, ashamed, and describes activities to help perceive, understand, and manage emotional reactions. The document emphasizes that part of managing emotions is choosing our mood and knowing that moods are within our control to help motivate or concentrate depending on the situation. It concludes with brief bible verses about maturity and confidence that with God's help one can continue growing in emotional intelligence.
What Ancient Wisdom and Modern Science say about Meditation Atul Pant
Meditation has been shown through research to positively impact brain functioning and emotional states. Neuroscientist Richard Davidson's research found that long-term meditators showed increased activity in areas of the brain associated with positive emotions. Short-term meditators who completed just 2 weeks of compassion meditation training also showed brain changes, behaving more altruistically and with reduced threat response. Various forms of meditation aim to cultivate focus, awareness, compassion, or other mental states and can be practiced by those new to meditation. Ancient texts describe meditation as a means of introspection and integrating conscious and subconscious mind.
DrRic Meditation for Stress (slide share edition)DrRic Saguil
This document discusses various techniques for meditation and stress reduction. It begins by stating that while medicine hasn't invented these practices, it is changing how they are provided. It then provides 5 sections that outline different types of meditations including focused meditation, supported meditation using various senses, moving meditation, and open meditation involving the environment. Throughout it discusses how meditation impacts stress response and gene expression by improving the environment for our genes. It promotes regular practice and a healthy lifestyle to support meditation and reduce stress.
This document outlines 15 steps for meditation for beginners. It describes making the body, mind, and thoughts ready before beginning to sit in meditation with the eyes closed. It recommends finding a teacher to learn from and to practice meditation regularly. With determination and patience over time, the document says that one can progress in meditation experience, feel joy, and evolve their technique to just be present in the moment.
The enthronement ceremony of tubd yinza rinpocheRandal Eastman
Veronique Qin has head from Shanghai to remote Sichuan province to help a poor village, and in the process was able to join a very special Buddhist ceremony - and was herself given a Tibetan name, Tubd-Lamu.
Silence of the Soul [in english] (por: carlitosrangel)Carlos Rangel
(oct.08) Every moment in life can be a meditation, all we need is intention and awareness - texts from the book "Conversations with God" by Neale Donald Walsch.
Graphic production: Carlos Rangel
Transtation to English: Paul Cushman
The document contains quotes about meditation from various figures. It discusses meditation as a way to enter the quiet that exists beneath surface thoughts, as a healthy lifestyle choice like exercise, and as the language of the soul. Several quotes note that meditation can foster the ability to inhibit quick emotional impulses and bring order to everyday life. Meditation is described as being painful at first but ultimately bestowing bliss.
25 Inspirational Quotes That Make You Want to Stop and BreatheBrad Ormsby
25 of the most inspirational meditation quotes from some of the wisest people who ever lived. After reading this you'll actually desire meditation. And some of them may even challenge the way you think about your life...
My own personal philosophy to life.
This handbook on how to live freely expresses my own personal views, values and how I deal with my own shortcoming, I am no psychologist nor do I claim to be one, the goal of this handbook is to merely outline the various methods and values that have proven to be highly helpful and effective in achieving and maintaining contentment within my own mind and my day to day life.
This document discusses why and why not people forgive, how to forgive, and provides guidance on forgiveness from different perspectives. It says we forgive to release anger and resentment which are burdens, and because we have been or will be forgiven. It says we don't forgive because we haven't received an apology or still feel pain, but forgiveness is about freeing yourself, not the other person. The document encourages small, daily acts of forgiveness and extending grace to others and yourself. It provides perspectives on forgiveness from Christianity, Buddhism, Islam, and atheism.
This document discusses the concept of bliss life and reducing suffering. It states that everyone wants happiness but also experiences unhappiness, due to pursuing happiness and avoiding pain in a conflicting way. True happiness and unhappiness are both considered suffering when one is attached to expectations and desires. Suffering arises from likes, dislikes, and 12 supporting factors, and is given and received through thoughts, actions and speech. Understanding the mechanics of suffering allows one to choose to reduce suffering by studying and practicing techniques mentioned on the website blisslife.org. The overall message is that true bliss and peace come from reducing attachment to desires and expectations.
This document provides information about an anger management training course presented by Harry L. Morgan, a licensed mental health counselor. The document outlines the course objectives, which are to understand the types, causes, expressions, and roots of anger, as well as how the brain relates to anger and addictions. The course aims to teach skills to control destructive anger and develop healthy responses to anger to improve interpersonal relationships. It discusses famous quotes about anger, myths about anger, and the types and effects of uncontrolled anger. The document also examines the causes of destructive anger, including biological, psychological, neurological, medical, and spiritual factors. It provides tools for controlling anger, such as relaxation techniques, communication skills, and medication if needed. Finally
How to let go of the thoughts that cause depressionkirti betai
Depression is different from other illnesses in that, in addition to the physiological symptoms (loss of appetite, nervousness, sleeplessness, fatigue), there are the accompanying thoughts that can be so incredibly painful.
Everyone loves a good person and good deeds. A good person thinks well of others and always tries to do the right thing. He who loves mankind will try to alleviate their sufferings and contribute to their development. Inevitably, feelings of respect and love will be created in the hearts of human beings for him. The spirit of love is very important. It is a natural process for human beings to have different personalities as some people are fond of travel, some people are interested in art, some people like solitude, some are playful and talkative, but despite all these contradictions, the feeling of love is a common feature in all human beings with the birth of man, the first passion that is bestowed by nature is love.
This document summarizes an anger management workshop presented by Prof. Abha Singh. The workshop aims to help students understand and control anger through techniques like relaxation, rational emotive therapy, distraction methods, and ancient wisdom from texts like the Bhagavad Gita and Atharva Veda. Key points discussed include defining anger and differentiating it from other emotions, understanding constructive and destructive aspects of anger, and learning anger management techniques to safely express anger in healthy ways.
The document discusses forgiveness and anger management. It defines anger as a basic human emotion typically triggered by feelings of hurt, mistreatment, or obstacles to goals. While anger varies between individuals, most adults experience anger once a day on average. Anger can be constructive if well-managed, but expressing anger triggers defensiveness in others and risks damaging relationships or developing a reputation. Forgiveness is defined as letting go of the need for revenge and releasing negative thoughts. Forgiving can be difficult but is healthier than holding grudges. The document provides tips for forgiving such as acknowledging pain, protecting oneself, understanding others' perspectives, and performing acts of verbal or written forgiveness. Asking for forgiveness is also important for health, relationships
The document discusses the concept of forgiveness and its benefits. It defines forgiveness as letting go of negative emotions like anger and resentment towards someone who has harmed you. Forgiveness is a process of compassion and acceptance rather than a single act. The document also discusses the problems that stem from lack of forgiveness, like increased anxiety, depression, and health issues. It provides tips for managing anger through controlling thoughts, apologizing, limiting time spent angry, and focusing on self-improvement rather than trying to change others.
The document contains a collection of quotes attributed to Buddha, the founder of Buddhism. Some of the key themes expressed in the quotes include the importance of living wisely and virtuously, controlling one's thoughts and mind, avoiding anger and hatred, finding peace from within, living in the present moment, and showing compassion to all beings.
This document discusses managing emotions in healthy ways. It explains that recognizing and understanding emotions helps manage them better. Hormonal changes during puberty can cause mood swings. While emotions themselves are neutral, expressing them constructively through empathy, self-reflection, and coping strategies leads to well-being, whereas hostility and defense mechanisms can harm relationships and health. The document provides tips for handling difficult emotions like fear, guilt, and anger through relaxation, activity, and social support.
17 easy ways to become a happier and calmer person - Depression Cure - https:...Vikas Gupta
This document provides 17 methods for becoming happier and calmer by changing one's approach and conduct. Some key suggestions include being kind to yourself, practicing forgiveness, developing patience, slowing down the pace of life, keeping reactions internal, considering alternative perspectives, and using stress-reducing techniques like meditation, exercise, music, and spending time with children and pets. Adopting these behaviors can help people experience more peace in their daily lives.
1) The document discusses the importance of forgiveness and provides tips on how to forgive and forget past hurts. It notes that forgiveness can improve physical and mental health by reducing stress and negative emotions like anger and bitterness.
2) Specific health benefits of forgiveness include lower blood pressure, a stronger immune system, less headaches, back pain, and stomach issues. Forgiveness also allows for better sleep and reduces the risk of heart disease and stroke associated with harboring anger and grudges.
3) The document provides quotes on forgiveness from famous figures like Gandhi, Bruce Lee, Hannah Arendt, and Martin Luther King Jr. It emphasizes that forgiveness takes strength, courage, and is a constant attitude rather than an occasional act
Emotions are complex states of feeling that result in physical and psychological changes influencing thought and behavior. Love is a complex set of strong positive emotions felt towards another person or thing. Signs of falling in love include not being able to stop staring and thinking about the person, wanting to make them happy, and increased heart rate when together. Fear and phobias are emotions that alert us to potential dangers and can be overcome gradually with therapy. Happiness involves positive feelings like joy and contentment, while sadness is associated with negative feelings after loss or failure. Neutrality in decision making aims to remove emotion. Emotions like anger, envy, disgust, shame and depression are also explored in the document.
Religious perspectives on anger are discussed. Christianity views causeless or excessive anger as sinful, while righteous anger can be acceptable. Islam sees anger as a sign of weakness. Buddhism defines anger as being unable to bear an object or intending to cause harm, and views it as a destructive emotion. Hinduism equates anger with sorrow from unfulfilled desires.
The document then discusses common causes of anger including fatigue, hormones, genetics, and learned behaviors. It notes anger arises from opposing pain, and is magnified by attributing pain to intentional acts. Physiological effects of anger are described, such as increased heart rate and muscle tension due to brain neurotransmitters preparing the body for action. The prefrontal cortex
17 easy ways to become a happier and calmer person - Depression Cure - https:...Vikas Gupta
This document provides 17 easy ways to become happier and calmer. It discusses methods such as being kind to yourself, practicing forgiveness, developing patience, slowing down the pace of life, controlling reactions, avoiding drama, and using cooling techniques like meditation and aromatherapy. Specific tips include talking to yourself with compassion, forgiving yourself and others for mistakes, thinking before worrying, comparing problems to more serious issues, and taking time for calming activities like listening to music or scent therapy. The overall message is that small changes in approach and behavior can help people feel more peaceful and content.
Bereavement ( Due to the death of someone close to us )
Is the most severe stressor imaginable
It is a time of overwhelming emotions.
Can be profoundly painful and distressing.
Brings a high risk of mental and physical health problems for a long time
Normal reaction in every culture across the world.
If ooccasionally aware in advance about someone's certain end of his/ her life then the experience of grieving partly begins before their death occurs.
Despite these feelings it may be possible to plan ahead for this difficult time which
Can help reduce the complications in the
First hours and days of bereavement, and
Later as you struggle to carry on.
Can be comforting because you are able just to cope with the circumstances without the added pressure to “get yourself together” and sort things out
The document discusses different perspectives on conquering restlessness from various spiritual texts and teachers. It explains that restlessness arises from being identified with the constantly desiring mind rather than the knowing presence. Both Buddhism and Vedanta discuss observing feelings like boredom or restlessness with awareness in order to realize one's true nature beyond conditions. The Dalai Lama emphasizes that kindness and compassion are necessities to survive, and his simple religion is cultivating goodness within.
The document discusses the ego and its role in separating humans from the Truth/Mahanam. Some key points:
1) The ego, or sense of "I", keeps people apart from Mahanam and makes them think they are the doers rather than instruments of God.
2) Ego is the root cause of suffering and bondage. Complete surrender to God is needed to rid oneself of ego.
3) Ego and superstition are the greatest sins as they divorce humans from Truth. Ego must be cast off to attain the Kingdom of Truth.
4) The individual sense/ego intensifies life's difficulties and shuts out awareness of constant communion with God. Surre
Mindfulness involves kindness and a self-compassionate stance towards yourself.
Participants have to connect with the inner critic and how to effectively cultivate a friendly and caring relationship with oneself
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Refuge: taking safety from the Buddha, his Teachings and the CommuityKerry Prest
This document discusses the Buddhist concept of refuge and the nature of suffering. It explains that birth is suffering due to the pain, dysfunctional tendencies, and afflictions associated with it. It also discusses the suffering of old age, sickness, death, unpleasant experiences, separation from pleasant experiences, and not getting what one wants. Taking refuge in the Buddha, Dharma and Sangha can protect one from suffering by developing conviction, aspiration, joyous effort and attaining liberation from suffering and its causes. Knowing the causes and faults of afflictions and their antidotes can help identify the "enemy" of suffering.
Giant Compassion: the wish to remove other's sufferingKerry Prest
The wish to free others from their pain: compassion from a Buddhist perspective.
Talk given at Jamyang Liverpool, July 2014.
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Joyous Effort: how to enjoy the spiritual path.Kerry Prest
Joyous Effort is the 4th of the Six Perfections that are taught in the mahayana. It explains how to have joy in things which bring us real happiness, and how to avoid those things which get in the way.
This talk was given at FPMT UK Buddhist groups in January 2014.
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Buddha Nature: the fundamental potential for enlightenment.Kerry Prest
The Buddha said we all have the innate potential for the state of perfect happiness and freedom from all negative emotions. This talk gives an overview of the topic from the text by Maitreya "Sublime Continuum".
This talk was given to FPMT UK Buddhist groups in 2013.
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Insight into reality: how things exist according to the Buddha.Kerry Prest
The root of all problems according to the Buddha is a fundamental mis-apprehension of how things actually exist. This is a brief overview of the Special Insight chapter of Tibetan Master Lama Tsongkhapa's "lamrim dring".
This talk was give at the Sawarswati Buddhist Group, in 2013.
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The often misunderstood topic of how to correctly rely on a spiritual mentor, according to Tibetan Buddhism.
Using quotes from Lama Tsong Khapa, FPMT Spirital Director Lama Zopa Rinpoche and others, this talk was given to FPMT Buddhist groups in the UK 2013.
The topic is excellently explained in a book by Lama Zopa Rinpoche called "Heart of the Path" and from a western point of view by Alex Berzin "Wise Teacher, Wise Student".
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Negative emotions: the root of all problems. A Buddhist approach to mental he...Kerry Prest
Explanation of the inner enemy, the deluded states of mind which make our lives misery.
Based on presentations found in the Great Treatise on the Stages of the Path to Enlightenment (lamrim chenmo) by Tibetan Saint Lama Tsong Khapa. This presentation was given at FPMT UK Buddhist groups in 2013.
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Lucid Dreaming: Understanding the Risks and Benefits
The ability to control one's dreams or for the dreamer to be aware that he or she is dreaming. This process, called lucid dreaming, has some potential risks as well as many fascinating benefits. However, many people are hesitant to try it initially for fear of the potential dangers. This article aims to clarify these concerns by exploring both the risks and benefits of lucid dreaming.
The Benefits of Lucid Dreaming
Lucid dreaming allows a person to take control of their dream world, helping them overcome their fears and eliminate nightmares. This technique is particularly useful for mental health. By taking control of their dreams, individuals can face challenging scenarios in a controlled environment, which can help reduce anxiety and increase self-confidence.
Addressing Common Concerns
Physical Harm in Dreams Lucid dreaming is fundamentally safe. In a lucid dream, everything is a creation of your mind. Therefore, nothing in the dream can physically harm you. Despite the vividness and realness of the dream experience, it remains entirely within your mental landscape, posing no physical danger.
Mental Health Risks Concerns about developing PTSD or other mental illnesses from lucid dreaming are unfounded. As soon as you wake up, it's clear that the events experienced in the dream were not real. On the contrary, lucid dreaming is often seen as a therapeutic tool for conditions like PTSD, as it allows individuals to reframe and manage their thoughts.
Potential Risks of Lucid Dreaming
While generally safe, lucid dreaming does come with a few risks as well:
Mixing Dream Memories with Reality Long-term lucid dreamers might occasionally confuse dream memories with real ones, creating false memories. This issue is rare and preventable by maintaining a dream journal and avoiding lucid dreaming about real-life people or places too frequently.
Escapism Using lucid dreaming to escape reality can be problematic if it interferes with your daily life. While it is sometimes beneficial to escape and relieve the stress of reality, relying on lucid dreaming for happiness can hinder personal growth and productivity.
Feeling Tired After Lucid Dreaming Some people report feeling tired after lucid dreaming. This tiredness is not due to the dreams themselves but often results from not getting enough sleep or using techniques that disrupt sleep patterns. Taking breaks and ensuring adequate sleep can prevent this.
Mental Exhaustion Lucid dreaming can be mentally taxing if practiced excessively without breaks. It’s important to balance lucid dreaming with regular sleep to avoid mental fatigue.
Lucid dreaming is safe and beneficial if done with caution. It has many benefits, such as overcoming fear and improving mental health, and minimal risks. There are many resources and tutorials available for those interested in trying it.
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Heartfulness Magazine - June 2024 (Volume 9, Issue 6)heartfulness
Dear readers,
This month we continue with more inspiring talks from the Global Spirituality Mahotsav that was held from March 14 to 17, 2024, at Kanha Shanti Vanam.
We hear from Daaji on lifestyle and yoga in honor of International Day of Yoga, June 21, 2024. We also hear from Professor Bhavani Rao, Dean at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham University, on spirituality in action, the Venerable BhikkuSanghasena on how to be an ambassador for compassion, Dr. Tony Nader on the Maharishi Effect, Swami Mukundananda on the crossroads of modernization, Tejinder Kaur Basra on the purpose of work, the Venerable GesheDorjiDamdul on the psychology of peace, the Rt. Hon. Patricia Scotland, KC, Secretary-General of the Commonwealth, on how we are all related, and world-renowned violinist KumareshRajagopalan on the uplifting mysteries of music.
Dr. Prasad Veluthanar shares an Ayurvedic perspective on treating autism, Dr. IchakAdizes helps us navigate disagreements at work, Sravan Banda celebrates World Environment Day by sharing some tips on land restoration, and Sara Bubber tells our children another inspiring story and challenges them with some fun facts and riddles.
Happy reading,
The editors
Trusting God's Providence | Verse: Romans 8: 28-31JL de Belen
Trusting God's Providence.
Providence - God’s active preservation and care over His creation. God is both the Creator and the Sustainer of all things Heb. 1:2-3; Col. 1:17
-God keep His promises.
-God’s general providence is toward all creation
- All things were made through Him
God’s special providence is toward His children.
We may suffer now, but joy can and will come
God can see what we cannot see
3. The Six Perfections
Generosity vs. Miserliness
Ethics vs. Wanting to Harm
Patience vs. Hatred
Joyous Effort vs. Laziness
Concentration vs. Distraction
Wisdom vs. Ignorance
13. Aversion
Hate
Rage
A mental factor that…agitates the mind through being
unable to bear or through intending to harm the object.
Dissatisfaction
Frustration
Anger
15. "Off the pitch I am nothing like the way I am on it.
The passion I have for football, it's very different,
I've always expressed it like that, that's the way I
play, but I also understand that I need to change.“
Striker Luis Suarez
16. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.7 Having found its fuel of mental unhappiness
In the doing of what I do not wish for
And in the hindering of what I wish for,
Hatred develops and then destroys me.
17. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.8 Therefore I should totally destroy
The fuel of this enemy;
This enemy has no other function
Than that of causing me harm.
23. Lamrim Chenmo
Volume 2 pg. 153: Bodhisattva Levels:
“Persons who have patience will not have many
enemies later on and they will not have many
separations from those to whom they are close. They
will have much happiness and contentment. They will
have no regret at the time of death…”
24. Lamrim Chenmo
Volume 2 pg. 153: Compendium of the perfections:
“Patience is the best approach for dealing with the
inclination to disregard others’ welfare…
The greatest strength for those who practice
asceticism...”
25. Healing Anger by HH Dalai Lama
“…patience becomes very important, because only
through patience is one able to overcome the obstacles to
compassion.”
26. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.134 While in cyclic existence patience causes
Beauty, freedom from sickness and fame.
Because of these I shall live for a very long time.
27. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.127 It delights the tathagatas
And perfectly accomplishes my own purposes as well.
It dispels the suffering of the world.
Therefore I should always practice it.
29. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.1 Whatever wholesome deeds,
Such as generosity and making offerings to the sugatas
Have been amassed over thousands of eons,
Will all be destroyed by anger.
31. Harmful Intent (Malice, Ill Will)
1) Ripened result: rebirth in one of the three lower realms.
2) Results similar to the cause:
a) Experiences similar to the cause: you will be a person who easily becomes
frightened and panicky.
b) Actions similar to the cause: having the tendency to hurt others; your anger and
hatred increases.
3) Environmental results: having to live in a violent place where there is war and
contagious diseases.
34. Destroys from the root =
never gives a result, even
if it meets the conditions
35. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.3 My mind will not experience peace
If it holds painful thoughts of hatred.
I shall find no joy or happiness;
Unable to sleep, I shall feel unsettled.
36. Healing Anger HH Dalai Lama
“…when such intense anger and hatred arise, it makes
the best part of our brain, which is the ability to judge
between right and wrong and assess long-term and shortterm consequences, become totally inoperable.”
37. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.4 Even those who depend on a master
Who cares for them with wealth and services
Will overcome and kill
A master who gets angry.
6.5ab By it, friends and relatives are disheartened;
Though he gathers people with gifts, they will not
serve him.
38. Garland of Birth Stories
When your complexion is spoiled by the fire of anger,
You cannot look good, though adorned with jewellery.
You may sleep on a good bed, but
Your mind suffers the sharp pains of anger.
40. “You always hurt, the one you love.”
words by Allan Roberts and music by Doris Fisher
You always hurt the one you love
The one you shouldn't hurt at all
You always take the sweetest rose
And crush it till the petals fall
42. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.2 There is no negativity like hatred,
And no fortitude like patience.
Therefore, earnestly cultivate
Patience in a variety of ways.
43. The Divisions of
Patience
1) The patience which doesn’t retaliate
2) The patience which accepts suffering
3) The patience which is intent on the Dharma
44. Developing the patience of disregarding
harm done to us by others
OBJECT
Does the object have self control?
Adventitious or inherent?
Is the harm direct or indirect?
What is the cause that impels harmdoers?
SUBJECT
Contradictions
45. Lamrim Chenmo
Volume 2 pg. 160-161:
What would be reasonable grounds for anger towards
harmdoers?
46. “They first had the thought of wanting to harm me,
prepared the method, and then either prevented my
happiness or inflicted unpleasant physical or mental
suffering, so my anger is justified.”
47. Are you angry because …
(a) They inflicted harm while they had the self-control
not to harm you?
(b) They were utterly without any self-control and hurt
you while helplessly impelled by something else?
48. Causes + Conditions = affliction arises
Seeds = no affliction arises
Incomplete or no causes + conditions
Object
Unrealistic
thinking
Regardless of if they think “I will cause malice.”
AFFLICTION
49. Are you angry because …
(a) They inflicted harm while they had the self-control
not to harm you?
(b) They were utterly without any self-control and hurt
you while helplessly impelled by something else?
50. We are willing to help someone if we know they are sick.
51. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
109: Just as a doctor does not fight but helps
Patients who are possessed by spirits, though they get angry,
So the Sage sees that the afflictions are at fault
Not the persons who have the afflictions
52. Four Hundred Verses
6.34: If all beings could achieve results
According to their wish, then,
Since no one wants suffering,
No one would suffer.
53. Lack of self-control?
If we think, “Other-powered? It is not true. It was he who
got angry. It is nothing to do with whether or not he was
put up to it by the afflictions in his continuum. He
willingly got angry at me. That is how he wanted it.”
The reply is, “So, when he suffers, is it because he first
thought, “I need some suffering.”?”
Khensur Rinpoche Geshe Tegchok
54. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.35: If, when under the influence of the afflictions,
People will even kill their treasured selves,
How can they not cause harm
To the bodies of others?
55. Developing the patience of disregarding
harm done to us by others
OBJECT
Does the object have self control?
Adventitious or inherent?
Is the harm direct or indirect?
What is the cause that impels harmdoers?
SUBJECT
Contradictions
56. Lamrim Chenmo
Volume 2 pg. 162:
The fault of doing harm to others either is or is not
in the nature of living beings.
57. “If it is in their nature, it is wrong to get angry…”
58. “If it is adventitious, it is also wrong to be
angry…”
59. “This is not the case, as it is the person who harms me, so
it is correct to be angry with this person.”
60. Developing the patience of disregarding
harm done to us by others
OBJECT
Does the object have self control?
Adventitious or inherent?
Is the harm direct or indirect?
What is the cause that impels harmdoers?
SUBJECT
Contradictions
61. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.41: The stick and so forth directly cause the harm.
But if I am angry at the one who throws it,
Then, since hostility impels them,
It is better to get angry at hostility.
62. We don’t get angry at the gun, but
what caused the gun to go off.
Same logic applies to the person
and the affliction which caused the
person to “go off.”
64. Developing the patience of disregarding
harm done to us by others
OBJECT
Does the object have self control?
Adventitious or inherent?
Is the harm direct or indirect?
What is the cause that impels harmdoers?
SUBJECT
Contradictions
65. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.42: I, at a former time, inflicted
Harm such as this on living beings.
Therefore, it is fitting that I, who hurt others,
Should receive this harm.
66. Lamrim Chenmo
Volume 2 pg. 164: Sha-bo-ba:
“When you say, ‘I am not at fault,’ it indicates that
you, in fact, have not internalised even a bit of the
teaching.”
68. Developing the patience of disregarding
harm done to us by others
OBJECT
Does the object have self control?
Adventitious or inherent?
Is the harm direct or indirect?
What is the cause that impels harmdoers?
SUBJECT
Contradictions
73. The Divisions of
Patience
1) The patience which doesn’t retaliate
2) The patience which accepts suffering
3) The patience which is intent on the Dharma
74. 1. Not retaliating
2. Accepting suffering
3. Intent on the Dharma
1. Hatred &
Hostility
2. Hostility &
Discouragement
3. Dislike &
Disbelief
75. Discouragement = giving up a spiritual life
Spiritual life = virtuous life
Virtuous life = happy life
80. The way to develop
acceptance
1) Rejecting the idea that when suffering occurs it is
absolutely unpleasant
2) Showing that it is appropriate to accept suffering
81.
82. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.10: Why be unhappy about something
If it can be remedied?
And what is the use of being unhappy about something
If it cannot be remedied?
83. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.9: Whatever befalls me,
I shall not disturb my mental joy.
Having been made unhappy, I shall not accomplish what
I wish for
And my virtues will decline.
84. Healing Anger HH Dalai Lama
“Mental joy refers to a state of calmness and stability…by
being unhappy and discontented, one will not be able to
accomplish what one wishes. So in a way being unhappy
is quite pointless.”
85. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.16: I shall not be impatient with
Heat, cold, wind, and rain,
Illness, bondage, beatings, and so on;
If I am, the harm increases.
92. The way to develop
acceptance
1) Rejecting the idea that when suffering occurs it is
absolutely unpleasant
2) Showing that it is appropriate to accept suffering
93. Showing that it is
appropriate to accept
suffering
1) The good qualities of reflecting on suffering
2) The advantages of bearing suffering’s hardships
3) It is not difficult to bear with…
95. Definite Emergence
“If we think the house we are living in is a squalid,
claustrophobic hovel, we will not want to carry on living
in it and we will want to move elsewhere.”
Khensur Rinpoche Geshe Tegchok
96. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.12cd: Furthermore, suffering has good qualities:
Through being disheartened with it, arrogance is
dispelled,
Compassion arises for those in cyclic existence,
Negativities are shunned, and joy is found in virtue.
97. Lamrim Chenmo
Volume 2 pg. 174:
From these five and what they indicate, recognise other
good qualities on your own and then repeatedly train
your mind to think, “This suffering is a condition that I
want.”
98. Showing that it is
appropriate to accept
suffering
1) The good qualities of reflecting on suffering
2) The advantages of bearing suffering’s hardships
3) It is not difficult to bear with…
99. Lamrim Chenmo
Volume 2 pg. 175:
Think, “I know that in the past while passing through
cyclic existence I suffered for the sake of trifling desires
and minor needs, yet I disregarded the many sufferings…”
100.
101. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.75: But now since great purpose will be established
From harm which is not as much,
I should solely be joyful
Towards such suffering that dispels the harms of all
beings
102. Hardship – for more suffering
Hardship – for an end to suffering
103. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.72: Is it not excellent if a man condemned to death
Is released after having his hand cut off?
Is it not excellent if I am spared from hell
By way of human suffering?
105. Showing that it is
appropriate to accept
suffering
1) The good qualities of reflecting on suffering
2) The advantages of bearing suffering’s hardships
3) It is not difficult to bear with suffering if you gradually grow
accustomed to it, starting with the small
106. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.14: There is nothing whatsoever
That does not become easier through habituation.
So by becoming used to small harms
You will bear great harms as well.
110. I should take it on and stay calm
with the powerful mind of patience
111. Bodhisattva’s Deeds
6.17: Some, seeing their own blood,
Become especially brave and steady,
But some when they see the blood of others
Fall unconscious
6.18ab:These come from the minds fortitude
Or from its timidity.
112. The Divisions of
Patience
1) The patience which doesn’t retaliate
2) The patience which accepts suffering
3) The patience which is intent on the Dharma
113. Steps on the Path to Enlightenment
Geshe Lhundub Sopa
“Not liking a practice, not wanting to do a practice, or –
even if we do it – feeling uncomfortable and having
reservations about the practice, are all aspects of
impatience.”
114. Steps on the Path to Enlightenment
Geshe Lhundub Sopa
“In order for religious practitioners to be comfortable and
inspired to practice, they must understand the causes,
the nature and the results of each practice.”
115. Misdeeds the two selflessnesses
Reality of and there effects
Conviction
6) Meditation goal
3) The desired object
EnlightenmentBuddhas and Bodhisattvas
Powers of the
7) Meditationto be adopted
4) The object method
Six perfections good effects
Good causes and
8) Study to see the reality of the Dharma.”
“Using wisdom and practice
Khen Rinpoche Lobsang Jamphel
The twelve branches
of scripture
118. KNOW and MEDITATE on
the reasons before we
encounter the real thing
119. No one wants to
suffer
For ourselves…
Suffering should be understood
The causes should be abandoned
Cessation of the causes should be realised
The path to the cessation should be practiced
120. No one wants to
suffer
For others…
All religions teach love and compassion as a foundation
Hatred is the opposite
Therefore patience becomes the most important topic
121. Steps on the Path to Enlightenment
Geshe Lhundub Sopa
Patience is… “accepting whatever happens because we
understand the nature of the situation and its causes.”
Specifically, after having generated bodhicitta, how to sustain, increase and not let it degenerate.
“There are many ways to develop a feeling of urgency about the necessity to practice patience. The most effective one for us at the present time is to contemplate the benefits of patience and the disadvantages of anger.” Geshe Sopa
Visible effects
Fully ripened effects / invisible effectsFirst pictures and video of Dubai-based actor Omar Borkan Al Gala emerge – and he’s a hunkLAST UPDATED AT 13:46 ON Thu 25 Apr 2013WITH HIS dreamy eyes, well-groomed beard and razor-sharp cheekbones, Omar Borkan Al Gala is undeniably handsome. And according to US website Jezebel he’s one of three men who were deported last week from Saudi Arabia - reportedly because of his good looks.The first images of the swoonsome Dubai-based actor and photographer emerged after Arabic newspaper Elaph reported a trio of hunks had been deported from Saudi Arabia over fears women would find them irresistible.The three men, who are all from the United Arab Emirates (UAE), were attending the Jenadrivah Heritage and Culture Festival in Riyadh, the Saudi capital, when religious police “forcibly” removed them from the event.While we do not know the identity of his studly companions, the incident has done wonders for Al Gala’s profile. His Facebook page is filled with invites to foreign countries from women promising he won’t be deported. Here’s a four-minute video demonstrating just how seriously handsome he is. Ladies, enjoy:“The best long-life puja for you guru is give up aggressiveness others”. Khen Rinpoche
Practising patience fulfils my own aims = dharmakayaPractising patience fulfils others’ aims = rupakaya
Destroys fully ripened result, results similar to the cause.Delays positive results or lessens a positive result.Destroys from the root = never gives a result, even if it meets the conditions. Eg., when we use the 4OP’s to destroy negative karma.
Eg., Starving oneself due to relationship problems, business problems. Worry over loosing money = leading to sickness and drinking/drugs.They might even kill their loved ones.