The document discusses engaging fathers in pregnancy centers and fatherhood initiatives. It provides an overview of a workshop on using mothers as a gateway to involve fathers more. It discusses the importance of fathers and the negative impacts of father absence, such as increased poverty, poor educational and health outcomes for children. It also notes that many fathers lack parenting skills and knowledge but want to be more involved in their children's lives.
Hey grandma, can i live with you grandparents and the opioid epidemicMrsunny4
The other day I received a phone call from Helen. She and her husband Rick were beside themselves after learning their daughter, a 42-year-old PhD student, had relapsed into drug addiction. The couple, in their late-sixties, were not only charged with finding help again for their struggling daughter,
Presentation given at Holly Ridge Elementary school to audience of fathers interested in signing up for the Watch Dog Dads program to increase father involvement in the schools.
Singapore Fatherhood Public Perception Survey 2009Dads for Life
Findings from the Singapore Fatherhood Public Perception Survey 2009, commissioned by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS), point to the need and desire in Singaporean fathers to be more involved in active fathering.
97% of Singaporeans are of the view that fathers play an important role in their children’s lives, according to the Singapore Fatherhood Public Perception Survey conducted in 2009.
The survey commissioned by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports, covered more than 2,000 respondents from a cross section of the population.
96% of the fathers surveyed wish that they could spend more time with their children in their growing years.
Findings from the survey show that there is agreement that fathers have a strong influence in shaping their children’s values (82%), as well as affecting general behaviour (80%) and psychological health (77%).
96% of the fathers surveyed also feel very committed to their role as a father, and 95% of them say that being a father and raising children is one of the most fulfilling experiences a man can have.
However, fathers still spend less time with their children than mothers. On average, during the weekend, a father typically spends about 8.4 hours a day with his children as compared to 10.5 hours spent by a mother.
When asked about the roles and responsibilities of a father, 46% of respondents still point to being the breadwinner as a man’s key role in the family.
Hey grandma, can i live with you grandparents and the opioid epidemicMrsunny4
The other day I received a phone call from Helen. She and her husband Rick were beside themselves after learning their daughter, a 42-year-old PhD student, had relapsed into drug addiction. The couple, in their late-sixties, were not only charged with finding help again for their struggling daughter,
Presentation given at Holly Ridge Elementary school to audience of fathers interested in signing up for the Watch Dog Dads program to increase father involvement in the schools.
Singapore Fatherhood Public Perception Survey 2009Dads for Life
Findings from the Singapore Fatherhood Public Perception Survey 2009, commissioned by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS), point to the need and desire in Singaporean fathers to be more involved in active fathering.
97% of Singaporeans are of the view that fathers play an important role in their children’s lives, according to the Singapore Fatherhood Public Perception Survey conducted in 2009.
The survey commissioned by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports, covered more than 2,000 respondents from a cross section of the population.
96% of the fathers surveyed wish that they could spend more time with their children in their growing years.
Findings from the survey show that there is agreement that fathers have a strong influence in shaping their children’s values (82%), as well as affecting general behaviour (80%) and psychological health (77%).
96% of the fathers surveyed also feel very committed to their role as a father, and 95% of them say that being a father and raising children is one of the most fulfilling experiences a man can have.
However, fathers still spend less time with their children than mothers. On average, during the weekend, a father typically spends about 8.4 hours a day with his children as compared to 10.5 hours spent by a mother.
When asked about the roles and responsibilities of a father, 46% of respondents still point to being the breadwinner as a man’s key role in the family.
The Gen2 Survey is an in-depth nationwide survey of the Millennial generation. The purpose of the study is to examine Millennials who were churched growing up and understand the key influences which either encouraged or deterred them from believing and practicing the faith of their parents.
K101.3 C.E.O PLATINUM is committed to community service. For more than 5 years
K101.3 has been working to improve the lives of low income single parent homes
through food and clothing drives, to spirtual, financial and relationship counseling and career development.
Almost half of the children in the U.S. are deprived of the lifelong benefits of two parents who share the parenting throughout the first 18 years of their children’s lives. Who are children living with? FACT: The vast majority of children say they want – or wanted - more time with their fathers after their parents stopped living together. Kids want more shared parenting.
Using Protective Factors to Inform Work with Child MaltreatmentMFLNFamilyDevelopmnt
This 2 hour webinar will focus on best practices for clinicians and other service providers working in the child abuse prevention community. The presenter will highlight not only risk factors associated with child maltreatment but also the 6 protective factors and describe how they can reduce likelihood of abuse or neglect. This webinar will assist clinicians and advocates in identifying activities/services they currently or could begin to offer families that build protective factors.
"It works!" "I don't believe there are downsides to spanking!", "Spanking is not hitting and certainly not abuse!" , "It is a normal and necessary part of parenting in my community!". These arguments and many others are commonly used by parents to defend their use of spanking as a discipline technique. While many parents are continuing to spank their children, researchers are starting to reveal meta-analyses that conflict with the ideas behind the arguments in favor of spanking. This 90-minute webinar will provide service professionals with an in-depth look at spanking, the research behind it, and its effects on children's development.
The Gen2 Survey is an in-depth nationwide survey of the Millennial generation. The purpose of the study is to examine Millennials who were churched growing up and understand the key influences which either encouraged or deterred them from believing and practicing the faith of their parents.
K101.3 C.E.O PLATINUM is committed to community service. For more than 5 years
K101.3 has been working to improve the lives of low income single parent homes
through food and clothing drives, to spirtual, financial and relationship counseling and career development.
Almost half of the children in the U.S. are deprived of the lifelong benefits of two parents who share the parenting throughout the first 18 years of their children’s lives. Who are children living with? FACT: The vast majority of children say they want – or wanted - more time with their fathers after their parents stopped living together. Kids want more shared parenting.
Using Protective Factors to Inform Work with Child MaltreatmentMFLNFamilyDevelopmnt
This 2 hour webinar will focus on best practices for clinicians and other service providers working in the child abuse prevention community. The presenter will highlight not only risk factors associated with child maltreatment but also the 6 protective factors and describe how they can reduce likelihood of abuse or neglect. This webinar will assist clinicians and advocates in identifying activities/services they currently or could begin to offer families that build protective factors.
"It works!" "I don't believe there are downsides to spanking!", "Spanking is not hitting and certainly not abuse!" , "It is a normal and necessary part of parenting in my community!". These arguments and many others are commonly used by parents to defend their use of spanking as a discipline technique. While many parents are continuing to spank their children, researchers are starting to reveal meta-analyses that conflict with the ideas behind the arguments in favor of spanking. This 90-minute webinar will provide service professionals with an in-depth look at spanking, the research behind it, and its effects on children's development.
Developed by parenting and fatherhood experts, 24/7 Dad® is run by organizations across the nation serving fathers and families as 12, 2-hour sessions in a group setting or in a one-on-one home-based program, teaching men the characteristics they need to be good fathers 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Research shows that 24/7 Dad® successfully changes fathers’ attitudes, knowledge, and skills- and is designed to equip fathers with the self-awareness, compassion, and sense of responsibility that every good parent needs.
Presented at the Federation for Families Conference, December 4-6, 2009
(Bradley D. Norman, LCSW, Director, Family Partnership Institute, EMQ FamiliesFirst
YoungMinds Parents Say: Understanding the tension between confidentiality and...CYP MH
CYP IAPT 2014 National Conference
This workshop will build on the learning of Young Minds Parents Say’s work around Parent Participation in CAMHS, exploring, through practical and live examples, some of the key issues emerging in relation to the tension between confidentiality and information sharing with parents.
Fatherhood’s Mission
Men have within them the creative seed to be carriers of vision, strength, and discipline. We seek to draw on this collective energy by coming together to impart insights, develop strategies and action steps for the purpose of creating championship fathers who are Involved, Responsible and Committed to our kid(s) and community. For all men know that being a father is not for the faint of heart and best not done alone.
Another sample paperRelating Adults and ChildrenA S.docxrossskuddershamus
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A Significant Element in Community Development
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Can you see how a phrase intended to clarify or add information is actually distracting to the reader?
Introduction
The relationships that children have with their families are instrumental to a family’s well-being and the well-being of the community. However, parents’ work and family commitments avert most of family members from being physically present and involved in activities together that promote learning and development. At the extreme, child neglect is associated with poor outcomes for children, including the development of emotional and behavior disorders (Cicchetti, Lynch, 1995). American families are not following healthy relationship standards, not providing enough support and guidance to youth, leaving their communities distant and unsociable. Time spent with parents is important for socialization, development of relationships, and learning appropriate ‘life tasks’ for young children. Healthy family relationships fuel the health of all families, building strong communities and composing a future for ourselves one generation at a time. As a civilization, it is in our best interest to make a conscious choice: to make family life a priority and apply ourselves toward improving the quantity and quality of time families spend together, and increasing overall the happiness of today’s families and communities.
This paper intends to address this concern, bring attention to its presence shown in families across America, and discuss techniques on how to promote healthy change in the lives of a family using its external and internal developmental assets to enrich specific elements of the human experience.
Statement of the Problem
For reasons that significantly vary in nature and are difficult to verify, American families are not following a healthy design. YMCA of the USA polled 1,005 parents from across the United States, investigating how much support and success they experience in raising healthy, responsible, and caring children and teenagers. Among those surveyed, 46 percent feel overwhelmed by everything, 34 percent feel unsupported by family or friends, and a staggering 52 percent feel that they are unprepared for a situation that arises, overall feeling dissatisfied with their parenting. To further dismay, in the same study, a majority (53 percent) of parents surveyed said they don’t often seek support in the vital and challenging task of raising children and teenagers. This devastating combination of dissatisfactory parenting and inability to seek help lands American.
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EvanTell & NFI present:
Generational Transformation
Using Mom as Gateway™ in Pregnancy Centers
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your LIFE work…
And think more about it as promoting…
Life ABUNDANT!
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life
and have it abundantly. John 10:10
I want you to re-think …
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I attended either the PRC’s on the Frontlines of
Restoring Fatherhood, Restoring Families webinar on
September 24th and/or the workshop Reaching Men at
the recent Care Net Conference in Denver?
Yes
No
POLL
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Poll:
What statement best represents your relationship with
your father either past or present?
A. It is/was great! He was/is
involved, responsible, and committed to me.
B. He was a good dad – but wish it was more
C. He was not a good father
D. I knew who he was, but I didn’t know him- he
doesn’t know me
E. Didn’t know him/don’t know who he is
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Stages of Adoption
Awareness
I know there is a problem.
Interest
I want to find out more.
Decision
I have to do something.
Implementation
This is what I am going to do.
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Overview of the Workshop
About Generational Transformation
About NFI
Why fathers matter
Defining “gateway and gatekeeper”
What is Maternal Gatekeeping?
Behavioral Aspects, Reasons and Affects of Maternal
Gatekeeping
Mom as Gateway™ Workshop Content
Strategies for getting moms involved in your fatherhood
involvement efforts
Comments & Questions
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For the Moms
Mom as Gateway™
Maternal Gatekeeping
Involving Moms in Involving Dads
________________________________________________
For the Dads
DoctorDad® Workshops
Building Skills
24/7 Dad Power Hour™
Building Hearts
Generational Transformation:
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NFI is a non-profit, non-partisan organization that was founded in 1994 to begin a
society-wide movement to renew fatherhood in America.
National Fatherhood Initiative Mission:
To improve the well-being of children by increasing the
proportion of children with involved, responsible, and committed
fathers in their lives.
Educate
Educate and inspire all
Americans, especially
fathers, through public
awareness
campaigns, research, and
other resources.
Equip
Equip fathers & develop
leaders of
national, state, and
community fatherhood
initiatives through
curricula, training, and
technical assistance.
Engage
Engage every sector of
society through strategic
alliances and partnerships.
NFI’s Mission is carried out using a “Three E” Strategy
Who Is NFI?
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NFI, continued
Key Message:
Fathers are
Irreplaceable
& an Essential
Ingredient for
Child Well-Being
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So, What Areas do Fatherlessness Impact?
Poverty
Emotional/Behavior
Maternal and Child health
Crime/Incarceration
Sexual Activity and Teen Pregnancy
Child Abuse
Child Obesity
Education
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Impact on Maternal and Child Health:
Babies with a father’s name on the birth certificate are 4 times
more likely to live past 1 year of age!
Source: Alio, A.P., Mbah, A.K., Kornosky, J.L., Marty, P.J. & Salihu, H.M. "The Impact of Paternal
Involvement on Feto-Infant. Morbidity among Whites, Blacks, and Hispanics". Matern Child Health J. 2010;
14(5): 735-41
Infant mortality rates are 1.8 times higher for infants of unmarried
mothers than for married mothers.
Source: Matthews, T.J., Sally C. Curtin, and Marian F. MacDorman. Infant Mortality Statistics from the
1998 Period Linked Birth/Infant
A study of 2,921 mothers revealed that single mothers were twice
as likely as married mothers to experience a bout of depression in
the prior year. Single mothers also reported higher levels of
stress, fewer contacts with family and friends, less involvement
with church or social groups and less overall social support.
Source: Cairney, John and Michael Boyle et al. “Stress, Social Support and Depression in Single and Married
Mothers.” Social. Psychiatry and Psychiatric Epidemiology 38 (August 2003): 442-449
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Impact on Teen Pregnancy & Sexual Activity:
Being raised by a single mother raises the risk of teen pregnancy, marrying
with less than a high school degree, and forming a marriage where both
partners have less than a high school degree.
Source: Teachman, Jay D. “The Childhood Living Arrangements of Children and the Characteristics of Their
Marriages.” Journal of Family Issues 25 (January 2004): 86-111.
...adolescents in father-absent homes were more likely to report being
sexually active compared to adolescents living with their fathers...the
study also revealed a statistical significance between father absence and
adolescent self-esteem
Source: Hendricks, C. S., Cesario, S. K., Murdaugh, C., Gibbons, M. E., Servonsky, E. J., Bobadilla, R.
V., Hendricks, D. L., Spencer-. Morgan, B., & Tavakoli, A. (2005). The influence of father absence on the
self-esteem and self-reported sexual activity of rural. Southern adolescents. ABNF Journal, 16, 124-131.):
442-449
...based on the study, findings, the inability to bond in satisfactory ways
with a father or father figure may result in earlier onset of sexual activity
and the higher risk of teen pregnancy.
Source: Burn, V. E. (2008). Living without a strong father figure: A context for teen mothers’ experience of
having become sexually active. Issues in Mental Health Nursing, 29, 279–297.
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Children in father-absent homes are two to five times more likely to:
live in poverty
fail in school
develop emotional or behavioral problems
abuse drugs
be abused and neglected
become involved in crime
commit suicide
Why Fathers Matter
> The Consequences of Father Absence
> The Benefits of Father Involvement
Children with involved fathers are more likely to have:
better cognitive outcomes, even as infants
higher self-esteem and less depression as teenagers
higher grades, test scores, and overall academic achievement
lower levels of drug and alcohol use
higher levels of empathy and other pro-social behavior
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There is a father absence crisis...
93 91
20
30
40
50
60
70
80
90
100
Percent who agree there is a father
absence crisis
Moms
Dads
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… But Dads are Seen as “Replaceable”
55
66
20
30
40
50
60
70
80
90
100
Percent of moms who agree
that fathers are replaceable
By mothers
By other males
What moms
think…
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Do Dads Have the Skills?
• Over half of dads feel they are replaceable.
• Only half of dads reported that they felt ready to be fathers when they first
became fathers.
• Only a third of dads strongly agree with the statement that they have all the
necessary skills and knowledge to be good fathers.
What Dads think…
2006 Pop’s Culture: A National Survey of Dads’ Attitudes on Fathering
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Do Dads Have the Skills? (cont.)
• Moms not living with dads reported “lack of knowledge
about how to be a good dad” as the biggest obstacle to
good fathering and “lack of parenting resources
designed specifically for fathers” as 3rd highest. These
obstacles ranked 3rd and 4th for moms overall!
• Moms not living with dads were very dissatisfied with
dad’s performance…
2009 Mama Says: A National Survey of Mothers’ Attitudes on Fathering
What Moms think…
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Moms and Dads Disagree on Obstacles
What Dads Overall Think The
Obstacles Are
1. Work responsibilities
2. Media/popular culture
3. Financial problems
4. Lack of knowledge
5. Child’s mother*
What Moms Overall Think The
Obstacles Are
1. Work responsibilities
2. Dad’s relationship with own dad
3. Lack of knowledge
4. Lack of parenting resources for dads
5. Lack of support from
relatives/friends
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NRFCBI Logic Model
Barriers to Engagement
Studies suggest that fathers are not engaged in child welfare processes
because:
Child welfare agencies have a history of being primarily mother focused
Some child welfare caseworkers view involving fathers as complicated and
burdensome
Child welfare agencies are hesitant or fear involving fathers with a history of
domestic violence because their engagement may compromise mothers’ and
children’s safety
Sources:
Dungee Greene, A. & Anderson Moore, K. “Nonresident Father Involvement and Child Well-Being among Young Children in Families on
Welfare.: Marriage & Family Review, 29(2/3), 2000, 159-180; Franck, E. “Outreach to Birthfathers of Children in Out of Home Care.” Child
Welfare, 80(3) 2001,381-399; Malm, Murray & Geen, 2006; O’Hagan, K. “The Problem of Engaging Men in Child Protection Work.” British
Journal of Social Work, 27(1), 1997,25-42.
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NRFCBI Logic Model
Barriers to Engagement
Studies suggest that fathers are not engaged in child welfare processes
because:
Child welfare caseworkers may view fathers as insignificant to the family unit, or
may avoid fathers out of fear of violent reactions, or have a general distrust of men
Some fathers need assistance with parenting skills before assuming a more
prominent role in their children’s lives
Some out-of-State fathers cannot access reliable transportation
Sources:
Dungee Greene, A. & Anderson Moore, K. “Nonresident Father Involvement and Child Well-Being among Young Children in Families on
Welfare.: Marriage & Family Review, 29(2/3), 2000, 159-180; Franck, E. “Outreach to Birthfathers of Children in Out of Home Care.” Child
Welfare, 80(3) 2001,381-399; Malm, Murray & Geen, 2006; O’Hagan, K. “The Problem of Engaging Men in Child Protection Work.” British
Journal of Social Work, 27(1), 1997,25-42.
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NRFCBI Logic Model
Barriers to Engagement
The Quality Improvement Center on Non-Resident Fathers (QIC-NRF) conducted numerous focus
group and interviews with child welfare professionals, asking them what their barriers to father
engagement were. They said:
Lack of training for child welfare professionals
Unfriendly “father” environment
Lack of interagency collaboration to locate fathers (e.g. child support agency connections
Lack of policy/procedures to help identify, locate, and contact fathers
Worker reluctance to contact fathers
Feeling that it makes case management more difficult
Mothers act as “gatekeepers”
Fathers don’t want to be contacted
Protecting informal support arrangement
Domestic violence issues
Don’t know the father’s identity
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Barriers to Engagement:
What are the possible barriers in pregnancy centers?
Men in the center? (what is the message—are all men unsafe?)
Are we waiting for all things to fall in place? (will that ever happen?)
Are assumptions for what is best correct?
Wasting God given opportunities?
Can’t get male volunteers
Have male volunteers- don’t know what to do with them
Can’t get men/dads in the center
Have men/dads but don’t know what to do with them
Maternal Gatekeeping
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New or Expectant Fathers say...
My dad was never there. I want to be there for my kids.
I realize the impact that my father had on me. Even though he
wasn’t there, he made a huge impact on my life- he left a lot of
questions unanswered.
I’m here because I want to do things right!
I want to give my child the one thing I never had, an involved
father!
I want to get this one right!
A Careerbuilder.com survey of 1521 working dads in 2007
indicated that 38 percent would take a pay cut to spend more time
with their children
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Defining Terms:
Gateway: an opening to a main entrance or exit way.
Gatekeeper: a person who controls access.
Merriam Webster’s Definitions
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What Is Maternal Gatekeeping?
Refers to a mother’s protective beliefs
about the desirability of a father’s
involvement in their child’s life, and the
behaviors acted upon that either
facilitate or hinder collaborative
childrearing between the parents.
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Maternal Gatekeeping (cont’d)
Another Definition
A collection of beliefs and behaviors
that may inhibit a collaborative effort
between men and women in family
work.
Behaviors
Assume primary responsibility for
childrearing tasks.
Criticize the father’s actions when he
is involved.
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Behavioral Aspects
How the mother speaks about the father in the presence
of their child
To what extent the father is included or updated on the
child’s health, schooling or social life
The extent to which the mother communicates to the
father that she knows what is best for their child and the
correct way to do things—while he does not.
An example from a “fatherhood expert”:
Dads Doing Good- Mobile Library
Dad's Doing Good/Honda Odyssey/ Mobile Library
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Reasons for Maternal Gatekeeping
Difficulty relinquishing familial responsibility
Validation of her identity as the “mother”
Age of the child
View the father as incompetent or even dangerous to the
child
Based on actual evidence; or
On personal perceptions of him and his failures
in the male familial role
Don’t know? – Do know?
JackieBrewton
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QIp-muJskvs
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Affects of Maternal Gatekeeping
The ability of the child to adjust to parental
divorce or separation is weakened
Can damage the father-child relationship
Can damage the parents’ ability to cooperate and
keep their conflict levels low and out of the
child’s earshot or awareness
Threat to the overall well-being and adjustment
of the child
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Dr. Kyle Pruett Study
Mothers hold infants 9 out 10 times in the same
position. Fathers hold infants10 out of 10 times in
different positions.
During play with children, mothers use external
objects (ex., toys, books, balls) but fathers use
their bodies.
When children encounter novel situations, fathers
are generally 3 times the distance away from
mothers’ position.
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Behavioral Aspects
Studies have demonstrated that when
mothers perceived their partners as
motivated and competent to engage in
child care responsibilities, fathers were
more involved in childcare.
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Research
Overall, the implication is that the relationship between
father’s perceived investment in their actual levels of paternal
involvement are moderated by mothers beliefs about the role
of the father.
There is a strong implication that mothers perceptions of the
paternal role are better predictors of father involvement than
fathers’ own perceptions of the paternal role.
Paternal Identity, Maternal Gatekeeping, and
Father Involvement (Family Relations, 54 (July 2005), 360-
372.Blackwell Publishing.)
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Things to include when addressing Gatekeeping:
Increase mothers’ awareness of what gatekeeping
is, how it operates, and how it is sometimes misused
out of anger and hurt
Offer concrete examples that will facilitate mothers’
understanding of the negative impact of excessive
gatekeeping and the importance of supporting father
involvement (one hand)
Engage mothers in exercises that will facilitate the
reduction of restrictive maternal gatekeeping
behaviors that inhibit father engagement.
Great to have staff go through the same exercises as
part of professional development
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I have purchased and downloaded the Mom As
Gateway program for today’s webinar?
Yes
No
POLL
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Mom as Gateway™ Workshop
Objectives of Workshop
Increase mother’s awareness of what gatekeeping is, how
it operates, and how it is sometimes misused out of anger
or hurt
Offer concrete examples that will facilitate mothers’
understanding of negative impact of excessive gatekeeping
and importance of supporting father involvement
Engage mothers in exercises that will facilitate the
reduction of restrictive maternal gatekeeping behaviors
that inhibit father engagement.
In PRC’s- help women confront their decisions
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Mom as Gateway™ Workshop
Contents:
Three 90 minute sessions
1. The Role of the Gatekeeper
2. Power & Control in Relationships between Men & Women
3. Minimize Excessive Gatekeeping
Can be used as stand alone workshop or
Ideal companion to other programs such as NFI’s
24/7 Dad®, Doctor Dad®, or other father programs.
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Each session will lay out what is needed for
preparation and set up.
Activity and Time
Session Goal is always listed
Step by Step Procedures
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Mom as Gateway™ Workshop
Each session has 3-4 activities
and notes to facilitators
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Mom as Gateway™ Workshop
Each session will have a closing activity
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Mom as Gateway™ Workshop
Each new session will have a ‘check in’ from
the previous session
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Tool Box Strategies
Conduct Father Friendly Check Up
Develop a Strategic Plan
Keep focus on the Child well being
Ask about dads’ involvement during initial intake
process with moms- Pursue! Ask!
Use Mom As Gateway™ workshop
Use Understanding Dad™ program
Create opportunities for dads and their kids to do
activities together and market to moms as a
“Mom’s Day Off”
Offer sessions to staff on gender and parenting
differences between moms and dads
Offer sessions to moms on gender and parenting
differences between moms and dads
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Tool Box Strategies
Create or partner with a resource center for Child Care options in your community
What is available in the local churches? Church members? Other Moms?
There are a number of great online resources for Parents and Providers:
Federal Office of Child Care http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/occ has:
Resources for Providers
Learn what providers should know about child care assistance for families.
Learn about funding to help start or improve a child care program
Receive funding to serve children from low-income families
Resources for Parents
Find good quality child care
Find help to pay for child care
Find your local Head Start program
Health and safety regulations for child care programs in your State
Report child abuse and neglect
BabyCenter.com
ChildCareAware.org
Kidshealth.org
Zerotothree.org
Federal Office of Head Start http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/ohs/
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Can’t BE what you don’t SEE
Increasing the skills of the dad, increases the dad’s
confidence as a father.
Increasing the skills of the dad, increases the mom’s
confidence in him!
Essential Communication Skills
Domestic Violence Prevention
Build up Dad’s Skills
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Tool Box Strategies
Plan activities that will engage dads’ interest
Small groups
Fatherhood Resource Centers
Provide, refer, or connect dads to other
father programs (partners)
Sports related
Hands-on
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Awareness of Barriers to Teen Population
Teen Parents have a myriad of complicated issues
that might impact their level of involvement.
Practitioners should educate themselves on the
issues of the teen parent population. Issues such
as, housing, access and visitation, generational
gatekeeping*, just to name a few.
*Moms of moms
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Recruiting and Retaining Teen Fathers
Any effort to recruit the interest of teen dads should start
with an assessment of your programs father friendliness.
Establish Trust
Provide practical help at the onset to include not just
parenting education; but counseling, career development
etc. wrap around services
Communication and Co-parenting education
Recruit male volunteers as mentors and workshop
facilitators/counselors.
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For the Moms
Mom as Gateway™
Maternal Gatekeeping
Involving Moms in Involving Dads
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For the Dads
DoctorDad® Workshops
Building Skills
24/7 Dad Power Hour™
Building Hearts
Generational Transformation:
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EvanTell/NFI Webpage:
http://store.fatherhood.org/t-evantell.aspx
Videos:
Sav-A-Life PRC: A Day in the Life of Fatherhood Coordinator Russell Worrell
https://vimeo.com/63608955
NFI/Honda Odyssey- Dads Doing Good
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IavzxaDISyQ&list=PLvVsfWgZ5EIPXiPusVBfL
ZQVPEW5Gp3g0
Jackie Brewton- Teen Abstinence Speaker
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QIp-muJskvs (Men Ain't Boys) (2:41)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCsD5AqkPj8 (Males vs Men) (4:13)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_p4BOxC5CSE&list=PLE093E674BB836269
(Basketball star) (4:00)
Resources:
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"He will restore the hearts of the fathers to
their children and the hearts of the children
to their fathers...”
Malachi 4:6
Generational Transformation:
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Comments- Questions ?
Thank You!
Ave Mulhern
240-912-1265
amulhern@fatherhood.org
Make sure to check out the EvanTell webpage
http://store.fatherhood.org/t-evantell.aspx
Editor's Notes
Part of Generational Transformation is working with both mom (via PRC’s) and with dads (vis church mentors)
We will talk later about the actual stats on why fathers matter
Facilitator: How does this impact your ability to share the gospel with the moms
In situations with parents not living together- mom may say she doesn’t know who the dad is ‘with’ re: friends/aquaintances or may say don’t want child near his friends/acquaintances – if they don’t know who they are – how do they know they are not good? Are the moms making the right choices in friends/aquaintances as well.
Part of Generational Transformation is working with both mom (via PRC’s) and with dads (vis church mentors)
Part of Generational Transformation is working with both mom (via PRC’s) and with dads (vis church mentors)