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Discovering your Love Language
The document discusses the five love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. It provides examples of how each love language shows affection and what specifically falls under each category. The document encourages readers to discover their own love language and their partner's language to improve understanding and reduce relationship problems. It also includes a love language assessment for readers to determine which language is their primary way of feeling loved.
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- 1. 11/01/16 1 Roel S.Tolentino, MD, MBA,Roel S. Tolentino, MD, MBA, FPCS, FACS, FPSGS, FPSO, FMOSPFPCS, FACS, FPSGS, FPSO, FMOSP Surgical OncologistSurgical Oncologist Professor of Surgery Level IVProfessor of Surgery Level IV Personality, Leadership and Business CoachPersonality, Leadership and Business Coach Past President - Philippine Society of OncologyPast President - Philippine Society of Oncology Discovering your Love LanguageDiscovering your Love Language
- 2. Memorial Sloan KetteringCancer Center (NYC) University Hospitals of Columbia University and Cornell Medical College (NYC) MD Anderson Cancer (Texas) Beijing Cancer Hospital (China) Chongqing Medical University (China) Suining Central Hospital (China) De La Salle University –De La Salle University – BS. Biology;BS. Biology; MedicineMedicine Manila Med –Manila Med – General SurgeryGeneral Surgery SLMC –SLMC – Surgical OncologySurgical Oncology Ateneo GSB -Ateneo GSB - MBAMBA Prof. Roel Tolentino, MD, MBA
- 3. 11/01/16 3 Roel S.Tolentino, MD, MBA,Roel S. Tolentino, MD, MBA, FPCS, FACS, FPSGS, FPSO, FMOSPFPCS, FACS, FPSGS, FPSO, FMOSP Surgical OncologistSurgical Oncologist Professor of Surgery Level IVProfessor of Surgery Level IV Personality, Leadership and Business CoachPersonality, Leadership and Business Coach Past President - Philippine Society of OncologyPast President - Philippine Society of Oncology Discovering your Love LanguageDiscovering your Love Language
- 4. Objectives At the endof the lecture, the audience will be aware on the five love languages. will be encouraged to use this knowledge to reduce relationship problems.
- 6. 11/01/16 6 Me Mypartner/friend Language
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- 9. • Read eachpair of statements and pick the one that best describes you.
- 10. 1 A. I liketo receive notes of affirmation from you. E. I like it when you hug me.
- 11. 2 B. I liketo spend one-on-one time with you. D. I feel loved when you give me practical help.
- 12. 3 C. I likeit when you give me gifts. B. I like taking long walks with you.
- 13. 4 D. I feelloved when you do things to help me. E. I feel loved when you hug or touch me.
- 14. 5 E. I feelloved when you hold me in your arms. C. I feel loved when I receive a gift from you.
- 15. 6 B. I liketo go places with you. E. I like to hold hands with you.
- 16. 7 A. I feelloved when you acknowledge me. C. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.
- 17. 8 E. I liketo sit close to you. A. I like it when you tell me that I am attractive.
- 18. 9 B. I liketo spend time with you. C. I like to receive little gifts from you.
- 19. 10 D. I knowyou love me when you help me. A. Your words of acceptance are important to me.
- 20. 11 B. I liketo be together when we do things. A. I like the kind words you say to me.
- 21. 12 E. I feelwhole when we hug. D. What you do affects me more than what you say.
- 22. 13 A. I valueyour praise and try to avoid your criticism. C. Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me than one large expensive gift.
- 23. 14 B. I feelclose to someone when we are talking or doing something together. E. I feel closer to friends & loved ones when we wrestle, hug or shake hands.
- 24. 15 A. I likeyou to compliment my achievements. D. I know you love me when you do things for me that you don’t enjoy doing.
- 25. 16 E. I likefor you to touch me when you walk by. B. I like when you listen to me sympathetically.
- 26. 17 C. I reallyenjoy receiving gifts from you. D. I feel loved when you help me with my home projects.
- 27. 18 A. I likewhen you compliment my appearance. B. I feel loved when you take the time to understand my feelings
- 28. 19 E. I feelsecure when you are touching me. D. Your acts of service make me feel loved.
- 29. 20 D. I appreciatethe many things you do for me. C. I like receiving gifts that you make.
- 30. 21 B. I reallyenjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention. D. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me.
- 31. 22 C. I feelloved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift. A. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words (written or spoken)
- 32. 23 D. I feelloved when you help me out with my chores. C. I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.
- 33. 24 C. I appreciateit when you remember special days with a gift. B. I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don’t interrupt me.
- 34. 25 B. I enjoyextended trips with you. D. I like to know that you are concerned enough to help me with my daily task.
- 35. 26 E. Kissing meunexpectedly makes me feel loved. C. Giving me a gift for no occasion makes me feel loved.
- 36. 27 A. I liketo be told that you appreciate me. B. I like for you to look at me when we are talking.
- 37. 28 C. Your giftsare always special to me. E. I feel loved when you kiss me.
- 38. 29 A. I feelloved when you tell me how much you appreciate me. D. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do a task I have requested.
- 39. 30 E. I needto be hugged by you every day. A. I need your words of affirmation daily.
- 40. Scoring Add Total Numberof Answers: A. Words of affirmation B. Quality Time C. Receiving Gifts D. Acts of Service E. Physical Touch
- 45. There are fivelanguages of loveThere are five languages of love Words of AffirmationWords of Affirmation Quality TimeQuality Time Receiving GiftsReceiving Gifts Acts of ServiceActs of Service Physical TouchPhysical Touch
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- 48. First language:First language: Wordsof AffirmationWords of Affirmation These are compliments or words ofThese are compliments or words of appreciation.appreciation. Words of encouragement.Words of encouragement. The tone of your voice matters. Keep it kind!The tone of your voice matters. Keep it kind! If asking for something, make it a request, not aIf asking for something, make it a request, not a demand.demand.
- 49. 11/01/16 49 Do notworry,Do not worry, gagaling ka agad!gagaling ka agad!
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- 51. Second language:Second language: QualityTimeQuality Time It is spending time with each other, without beingIt is spending time with each other, without being distracted by other things around you.distracted by other things around you. You are both doing an activity.You are both doing an activity. Focus is on being togetherFocus is on being together ..
- 52. Second language:Second language: QualityTimeQuality Time Know your spouse by talking with each other.Know your spouse by talking with each other. Sharing of time!Sharing of time! Be willing to share your feelings, wishes, dreams,Be willing to share your feelings, wishes, dreams, andand heartachesheartaches..
- 53. 11/01/16 53 Where nau?Where na u?
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- 55. Third language:Third language: ReceivingGiftsReceiving Gifts A gift is a visual symbol of the loveA gift is a visual symbol of the love you have for the other.you have for the other. The cost of the gift does not matter.The cost of the gift does not matter. Gifts may be homemade, bought, or found.Gifts may be homemade, bought, or found.
- 56. Third language:Third language: ReceivingGiftsReceiving Gifts A single flower given a dozen times will haveA single flower given a dozen times will have more meaning than a dozen roses given one time.more meaning than a dozen roses given one time. Gift is a visual symbol of love.Gift is a visual symbol of love.
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- 59. Fourth language:Fourth language: Actsof ServiceActs of Service Acts of service is love expressed byActs of service is love expressed by actions.actions. You put thought, time, energy, and effort.You put thought, time, energy, and effort. May be shown as helping with various chores.May be shown as helping with various chores.
- 60. Fourth language:Fourth language: Actsof ServiceActs of Service It takes time and effort to decide what specificIt takes time and effort to decide what specific actions would mean the most to your spouse.actions would mean the most to your spouse.
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- 63. Fifth language:Fifth language: PhysicalTouchPhysical Touch No, it’s not just about sex.No, it’s not just about sex. It may include:It may include: hugshugs holding handsholding hands brief touch to one’s shoulderbrief touch to one’s shoulder brief kiss before leaving homebrief kiss before leaving home
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- 65. 11/01/16 65 Words ofAffirmation Acts of Service
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- 67. 11/01/16 67 Quality Time Actsof Service
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- 82. ““One of thebest feelings in the world isOne of the best feelings in the world is knowing that your presence and absencknowing that your presence and absenc both mean something to someone."both mean something to someone." 11/01/16 82 LOLA NIDORA QUALITY TIME
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- 86. 11/01/16 86 • Wordsof Affirmation • Quality Time • Receiving Gifts • Acts of Service • Physical Touch
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