2. What are Love Languages?
Different ways people express love
We each have a primary way that we must
receive love in order to feel loved
Our deepest emotional need is the need to be
loved

3. What are Love Languages?
Couples have different love languages
If you want to keep love alive you need to speak
your partner’s love language
The key is to find your partner’s love language

4. What are the 5 Love Languages?
1) Words of Affirmation
2) Quality Time
3) Receiving Gifts
4) Acts of Service
5) Physical Touch

5. 5 Love Languages
1) Words of Affirmation
Verbal compliments, words of appreciation
Verbal compliments are greater motivators than
nagging words
Receiving words of affirmation are more likely to
be motivated to reciprocate and do something
that your spouse desires

6. 5 Love Languages
• Words of Affirmation- Different Dialects
Verbal compliments
Encouraging words
Kind words
Humble words
• Words say one thing / Tone says another
• Your partner interprets based on tone of voice,
not the words being said!

7. 5 Love Languages
2) Quality Time
Giving your partner your undivided attention –
focus on what you are hearing
Doing something with your partner where you
are giving them your full attention
Purpose is doing something together!

8. 5 Love Languages
• Quality Time – Different Dialects
Quality Conversation – focusing on your partner
and giving them your undivided attention when
you are talking to them
Quality Activities – doing things with your
partner and giving them your undivided
attention while engaged in an activity

9. 5 Love Languages
3) Gifts
Visual symbols of love
Expressions of love
People whose primary love language is gifts like
the idea that someone thought enough of them
to give them something
Cost of the gift is not important

10. 5 Love Languages
• Gifts – Different Dialects
Gifts that you buy – anything you give your
partner will be an expression of love
Gifts of self – gift of presence – being there
when your partner needs you
Do not wait for a special occasion
If physical presence is important – tell your
partner!

11. 5 Love Languages
4) Acts of Service
Doing things you know your partner would
like you to do
Require thought, planning, time, effort, energy
We can request things of our partner, we can
never demand things!
Requests give direction to love – demands
stop the flow of love

12. 5 Love Languages
5) Physical Touch
The need for physical contact
Loving touch from your spouse - anywhere/anytime
Your partner knows best what he/she perceives as a
loving touch

13. 5 Love Languages
• Physical Touch Notes:
Men sometimes mistake physical touch as their primary
love language because they desire sex so intensely
Male sexual desire is physically based
Female sexual desires are based by her emotions - if she
feels loved, admired, or appreciated
If a man does not enjoy physical touch at other
times it may not be his love language

14. 5 Love Languages
• Now it’s your turn…..
What makes you feel most loved by your partner?
What does your partner do that hurts you the most?
What have you most often requested of your
partner?
In what way do you regularly express love to your
partner?
How do you relate to each other?