Whats your love language

1. Whats Your Love Language?

2. Whats Your Love Language? (Check out the 5 basic Love Languages
in this post and discover yours)
The words "Love language" is a term you have probably never heard
about. Yet it is a very vital and important aspect of any relationship
that can have an impact on its success or failure.
People would naturally give love in the way they prefer to receive it
(no doubt about that). But then has it ever occurred to you that your
spouse may not decode, understand and connect to your gesture of
love the same way you feel they should because it is a love language
that the recipient does not understand?

3. These differences but most importantly the ignorance of a spouse's love language
has destroyed many homes and relationships as both parties have concluded that
they were simply incompatible when all they really needed was to simply observe
each other's love language and have an "open and honest communication" on the
best way they could easily communicate their love to each other in a manner they
would leave them both happy and emotionally fulfilled.

4. There’s a relationship “secret ingredient” that a man craves in
order to feel intense, committed love. Without it, he will always
keep one foot out the door.
 The #1 reason you’re not his priority anymore
 If he’s shutting you out, here’s what’s missing...
 Why he does the bare minimum (and what to do about it)
 The difference between “like” and “love” (most women miss this)
 Men fall in love with women who have this “secret ingredient”
 The “secret ingredient” to lasting commitment

5. So what exactly is this thing called love language?
Your love language can simply be defined as the way or manner in
which you prefer to receive love. Personally, I term it the specific type
of actions or in-actions you receive from your spouse that can or
would only make you feel truly loved, cared for and emotionally
fulfilled and vice versa for the other person involved.

6. So below are the five (5) basic love languages:
Acts of service
Words of affirmation
Receiving gifts
Physical touch
Quality time together
You should after this post be able to clearly discern your love
language and that of your spouse. Make no mistake, this could be the
solution to that tension in your home. So how exactly do this love
languages practically come into play?

7. Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation:
A husband's love language may be act of service and he would show
his love for his wife by doing the laundry and doing the dishes as
often as possible for her but would end up confused when he does
the laundry and she doesn't perceive it as an act of love but only
comes it as him performing household duties because the love
language she comprehends is Words of Affirmation (Verbal
Affirmation that he loves her, cares for her, is crazy about her and
would never leave her as often as possible).

8. Similarly, she may try using what she values (words of Affirmation) to
express her love to him which he would not value as much as she
does. If only she would clearly understand his major love
language as Acts of Service and mow the lawn for him for example,
only then can he fully perceive it in his own love language as an act
of her love for him.
She may buy all the gifts in the world for him continuously if she feels
that is his major love language but he may just never feel as loved as
he would have felt if she proofed her love for him via Acts of Service
i.e mowing the lawn.

9. Receiving Gifts:
If a lady is however hooked up with a gift lover (a man who feels and
understands the expression of love by getting surprise gifts and
occasions) and she is able to give him gifts as often as possible as an
act of her love, he would be much more happy and emotionally
fulfilled than if she majorly uses Words of Affirmation with him.

10. Physical Touch, Quality Time Together:
Does your spouse feel really loved and happy when you both hug,
hold hands or physically express your affection for him or her? Then
chances are that his or her major love language is that of physical
touch.
Similarly, a lady that craves quality time together with you maybe
once or twice a week will never be really happy if all you do is send
gift delivery to her office weekly and only arrange for time together
once in four months.
You just would never understand her frustration when she tells you
she doesn't feel loved when you have given your very best from the
bottom of your heart.

11. So how then can I know my partner's love language?
Personally, I think you should seek to understand your partner's love
language and try to prioritize that particular one or two languages
amongst the other types when expressing your love to him or her.
Try to observe how they express love to others and also analyze what
they complain about almost often and what they request most often
from you, friends or family.
After all, love should be about giving, giving, giving and then
receiving.
So what's your own love language and in what way has it affected
your relationships with others? Feel free to share in the comment
session. I would really love to hear from you.