The document outlines the concept of love languages, detailing how individuals express and receive love through different means such as words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. It emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own and others' love languages to meet emotional needs and enhance relationships. Additionally, it provides practical suggestions for expressing love in each category and encourages readers to take a quiz to discover their love language.

1. LanguagesofLovebyMelanie Shoults

2. LoveLanguagesHow people receive and give loveForeign LanguagesPeople speak how they want to hearMeeting emotional needsCriticism = pleading for love

3. TheLoveTankHow much love we can holdHow loved we feelMore love = Fuller TankLess love = Empty TankWhat empties a tank:Feeling despised (not just unloved)Draining dayEmotional outbursts“Tank Check”  0-10

4. Wordsof AffirmationComplimentsEncouraging WordsMotivationWhat they wantExpressing DisappointmentLovinglyAppreciation

5. Words of AffirmationNOT:NaggingFlatteryAt the top of your voice

6. Words of AffirmationHow to Express Love:Keep a notebookHear on TV Read in books Overhear from a friend Things they do wellPositive things/AffirmationsIn public and otherwiseWrite a love letter, note, poem, etc.Note: Words are IMPORTANT!

7. Quality TimeGiving your undivided attentionListening, not analyzingMaintaining eye contactNot limited to locationConversation and activities

8. Quality TimeNOT:Watching TVAnalyzingInterruptingGoal: Spend time togetherQuality TimeHow to Express LoveTalk to each otherGo out to lunch or dinnerHave a discussion at dinnerPlay games, build puzzles, etc.Go on a picnicGo for a walkCall on lunch break, leave voicemail messagesWhatever your spouse likes to doStart a garden, wash the car, Unlimited possibilities!

9. Receiving GiftsGifts are symbols of loveInexpensive is okayNot only for special occasionsBeing with them isa gift

10. Receiving GiftsHow to Express Love:Keep a notebookParade of giftsFlower at the park/neighbors yard/etc.Handmade cards, paintings, wood carvings, ceramics“Time” couponsGive to charity “in honor of”Something living: tree, flowering bush

11. ActsofServiceAnything to help someoneRe-examine stereotypesRealize the importance

12. ActsofServiceHow to Express Love:Ask for a list of ten things for the next month, prioritized (you do everything!)Keep a list of requests or “nags”“Honey, I love you so much. I really appreciate you. I’d love to thank you in advance for (mowing the lawn).”Wash the car Cook a meal Vacuum the floorWalk the dogTake out the garbage Change the baby’s diaper…… The possibilities are endless!

13. Physical TouchA child’s needCan communicate love or hatredMany dialectsExplicitMassageImplicitSitting together

14. Physical TouchNOT:Withdrawing physicallySexual harassmentCold shoulderAffairsLove Tank: Explosion!

15. Physical TouchHow To:Ask your spouseHolding handsPlay “footsie” under tableShoulder massageFoot massage (unless ticklish)Arm around shoulder (in public)Fingers through hair

16. LimitationsEverything out of loveNothing in returnNot manipulationThe big word: LOVE

17. Discover your Love LanguageTwo types of peopleNever lovedVery lovedTake the QuizBilingual People

18. Why This is Important to MeI read the book by Gary Chapman

19. Applicable to all people

20. Not just significant-others:ParentsGrandparentsSiblingsCo-workersFriendsAnybody you interact with on a daily basis

21. Additional Resource5lovelanguages.comTake online quizConference infoBuy the booksGary Chapman’s blogAnd more!