9. 9
Nelson Mandela
“The first thing is to be
honest with yourself.
You can never have an
impact on society if
you have not changed
yourself.”
10. o Spiritual sources of conflict
Result of original ancestor’s separation from God and negative
influence from evil spiritual forces
o Individual sources of conflict
Disunity within the individual and confusion of values
o Family sources of conflict
Family dysfunctions affect succeeding generations.
o National/international sources of conflict
National policies affect future generations and can lead to
conflict within or between nations.
Sources of Conflict
11. Historical Sources of National Conflict
o National crimes
burden future
generations.
o US Civil War
o Ethnic/religious
resentments
accumulate.
o Balkan conflicts
13. Does Fighting Resolve Conflict?
Fighting can be necessary
For self-defense
To defend the weak
Fighting does not resolve conflict
Defeating an enemy does not answer
his grievances or end his hatred.
The defeated are tempted to seek
revenge.
14. Results of World War I
Left: General Ferdinand Foch (2nd
from right) at German surrender in
Compeigne forest near Paris
Above: Adolf Hitler (with hand on
hip) visiting the site of the German
surrender, June 22, 1940
16. Basis for Conflict Resolution
Lost Restored
State of
Conflict
State of
Harmony
Indemnity conditions:
Efforts to reverse the
process by which the
original harmony was lost.
18. Steps in Conflict Resolution
Step 1.Self reflection &
reorientation
o Consider how one might have
dealt with the problem
differently.
o Take responsibility for one’s
contribution to the conflict.
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“We never get rid of an
enemy by meeting
hate with hate; we get
rid of an enemy by
getting rid of enmity.”
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
20. Steps in Conflict Resolution
Step 2.Reversal & restitution
o Address whatever caused the
other to feel hurt and violated.
o Be open to efforts to reconcile.
o Seek to correct injustices.
21. Steps in Conflict Resolution
Step 3. Reconciliation & renewal
o Give up claim for retaliation.
o Forgive and be open to receive
forgiveness.
o Resolve to help the other to change.
o Foster good will.
22. Actions That Lead to Peace
Humility: - Admitting to not always being right
- Being open to learn from others
Generosity: - Giving beyond convenience
- Giving unconditionally, without
expectation of return
Service: - Showing acts of caring to meet others’
needs
- Respecting the dignity of the recipient
- Reversing exploitation through service
23. Giving even to those who have done one
harm
o Converts the enemy into a friend.
o Reverses ancient patterns of
abuse and revenge.
Greatest Act of Love:
Winning over one’s enemy
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Jesus Christ
“I say to you, love your
enemies, and pray for those
who curse you, do good to
those who hate you, and
pray for those who
persecute you, so that you
may be sons of your Father
in heaven.”
Matthew 5:44-46
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Islam
“My Lord, who is the
greatest of Thy servants in
Thy estimation?”
“The one who forgives when
he is in a position of power.”
Hadith of Baihaqi
27. Attitude of an Ambassador for Peace
o Show concern for both sides.
o Affirm the value of both sides.
o Gain trust from both sides that each is being
treated fairly.
o Aim for a win-win outcome.
o Guide both sides beyond blame and accusation.
28. Mediation Skills: Towards the Offender
o Help the offender accept responsibility.
o Encourage admission of wrong.
o Help the offender accept the challenge
of reconciliation.
o Avoid labeling and blaming.
o Praise and offer a second chance.
29. Mediation Skills: Towards the Offended
o Help the offended forgive and release
grudges.
o Help the offended recognize own faults.
o Help the offended to accept an apology.
o Foster harmony and friendship with the
offender.
30. Promoting Peace and Reconciliation
o Service programs
o Sports competitions
o Cultural programs
o Dialogue between religions
o Women as peacemakers
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Mahatma Gandhi
“When I despair, I
remember that all
through history the ways
of truth and love have
always won.”
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Anwar Sadat
“Any life that is lost in war
is a human life, be it that
of an Arab or Israeli.
Innocent children who are
deprived of the care and
compassion of their
parents are ours. They are
ours, be they living on Arab
or Israeli land.”
Speech to the Israeli Knesset
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Rev. Sun Myung Moon
“The reason why God does not
punish an enemy is that He is
thinking of the enemy’s
parents, wife and children
who all love him.
When you understand that
heart of God, could you take
revenge on your enemy?”