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Grow Model
SMART Goals using questions
OSCAR Model
Scaling Questions
GROW model
The Grow Model is useful for getting
practical things done. Things like
doing a project, starting a new hobby
or habit, improving a relationship or
work for example.Internal issues
such as ‘what do I really want from
life’ are better addressed with a
different approach.
The GROW model is one of the most
widely taught simple coaching
models around. Listed with each
chunk of the Grow model are some
questions you can use to help you
structure a particular aspect of your
mentoring conversation.
So let’s get started.
Goal
G is for Goal Question
Goal Questions can be
more long term focussed -
perhaps the focus of your
early converstions with your
mentee.
● What specifically do you want to
accomplish?
● What will be different as a result
of working on this area?
● How will we know that you have
achieved this goal?
● By when do you want to have
this done?
● In a month or by the end of the
year or whatever timescale
makes sense - what do you want
to have accomplished?
G is for a Goal Question
Or more short term
focussed - perhaps to hone
in on the focus of a
particular meeting or
conversation
● What do you most want to talk
about?
● What would be a good outcome
for our time together today?
● What needs to happen today so
that afterwards you feel our
conversation was time well
spent?
● How could you rephrase that
goal so it depends only on what
you do and not on anyone else?
reality
R is for Reality
Here we explore what is the
starting point for our
mentee. Reality question
examples are
● How many times did you do that in the last
week?
● How many XXX (new customers, job
applications, blog posts, walking steps - link
to goal) are you achieving right now?
● When was the last time that happened?
● What have you actually accomplished on that
front this week/month?
● Who else is involved? In what way?
● What have you tried already? What
difference did that make so far?
● Which factors are most important in this
matter?
● What choices have led you to this place?
options
O is for Options
Inviting your mentee to
explore different
possibilities
Also try hypothetical ‘What
if’ questions
● What could you do about this?
● What other potential courses of action
can you think of? ….. And what else?
● Lets see if we can come up with 5
potential solutions? ….. And what
else?
● What could you do to overcome this
obstacle?
● Who could help? …. Anybody else?
● What other resources could you draw
on to tackle this? ….Anything else?
● What have you seen others do that
might work for you?
Wrap it up …. Or find the Will(ingness)
W is for Wrap it up
W is for Wrap it up
● Which option do you want to
pursue?
● If we turn that into an action step
- what will you now do by when?
● What step could you take this
week that would move you
towards your goal?
● You mentioned that you could do
XXX …. What will you commit to
doing?
Or some people check out the Will(ingness)
It is also useful to check for
motivation at this stage
● On a scale of one to ten, how likely
is it that this step will get done in
the time frame you set?
● What can we change to there is a
higher chance of you making
progress (may need to reframe
goal)
● Are there any obstacles we need
to address to make sure this step
gets done?
SMART Goals
SMART
Most of us have come
across SMART objective
setting - as a mentor you
can use the same
framework
This time using coaching questions to
help your mentee define and clarify
their goal.
Here goes ….
S is for Specific….. to clearly state where you are going
Tip - A Goal states the
destination - where and when,
not the how. Focus on where
the mentee wants to go and
less about how to get there till
the goal is set.
● What exactly do you want to
accomplish?
● What will it look like when you
reach your objective?
● Choose a time frame that makes
sense for this objective - what
exactly would you want to have
accomplished by then?
● Be more specific - what is the
outcome that you want?
M is for Measurable
Figuring out a way to
measure progress
● How could you quantify this goal
(with a number) so we’ll know
when you’ve reached it?
● You said you’d like more ‘me’
time - define what you mean by
‘more’
● How could you shape this goal
so it is more measurable?
A is for Attainable
It’s within your capabilities
and depends only on you?
● Is this goal within your
capabilities?
● Is this goal reasonably possible?
● Are there any barriers that hold
you back from reaching this
goal?
● Does this goal depend on
anyone else’s choices? How
can we reword it so it depends
only on you?
R is for Relevant
Caring enough to make it a
reality
● Why is this important to you?
● What are you willing to let go of
or cut out of your commitments
to work on this goal?
● On a scale of one to ten, how
important is it for you to reach
this goal?
T is for Time Specific
The mentee sets their own
deadline
● By when will you reach the goal?
…. Or the new habit?
● When will you start?
● What’s your deadline?
Oscar Model
O is for Outcome
The OSCAR model is often
used by mentors when
supporting their mentee
with longer term goals.
Some questions to get
started are ….
What is it you’d like to achieve from
our working together? … or working
together today?
What is your long term goal?
Imagine you have reached your goal.
What does it look like?
What does it feel like?
How will others know?
S is for Situation
Our aim is to raise
awareness of the mentees
current situation
How do you currently feel about your
situation?
Where are you now in terms of your
goal?
What has been happening in your
work and life recently?
How do others feel about the
situation?
C is for Choices and Consequences
Inviting the mentee to think
through the choices and
consequences of different
options and how this will
impact themselves and
others
What current options for action are
available to you?
What are the consequences of any
potential choice?
What would be the impact on other
people?
Which choice(s) have the best impact
for you and for others?
A is for Actions
If you like, you can also link
actions and make them
SMART actions
What immediate actions will you
take?
When are you going to take them?
Have your actions been moving you
towards your goal?
To what extent are you still motivated
to move towards this goal?
R is for Review
How would you like to review
progress?
In what ways have your actions been
moving you towards your goal?
Are you still motivated to move
towards this goal?
Scaling Questions
Scaling Questions
This approach comes from Solution Focussed Therapy. It is
useful when people seem to be faced with a problem or a
condition they have been unable to resolve so far. It is a
more advanced type of coaching model. Perhaps one you
can try out once you have become a bit more comfortable
with using questions to facilitate your mentee to find their own
answers.
Step 1
On a scale of 1 to 10 ……?
So say someone is suffering pain you could say
So if 10 is the most unbearable agony possible and 1 is the most blissfill comfort, what number would you
put yourself on right now?
Say they answer 8. Next ask how will you know their discomfort level has decreased to a 7
You can apply this concept to all kinds of situations. For example
If 1 is the worst job ever and 10 is your dream job - where are you now on the scale?
If 10 is the most stressed out at work and 1 is the most relaxed - where are you right now?
Step 2
Is about asking questions that invite positive change.
So what would it be like if you were ….. One number higher or lower on the scale. If a one point change is
too much - what about half a point? Or even just a tiny bit more or less in the right direction.
And what is preventing you from being ….. (the new number)?
And what will it be like when you are …… (new number +/-1)?
Draw a stair case or a ladder and write the numbers 1 and 10 at either end
Let’s explore how important or energized you are to changing things right now ….
Created by
Shirley Smith
#theholdingspace

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4 simple coaching models

  • 1. 4 simple coaching models for people who mentor
  • 2. Jump straight to Grow Model SMART Goals using questions OSCAR Model Scaling Questions
  • 3. GROW model The Grow Model is useful for getting practical things done. Things like doing a project, starting a new hobby or habit, improving a relationship or work for example.Internal issues such as ‘what do I really want from life’ are better addressed with a different approach. The GROW model is one of the most widely taught simple coaching models around. Listed with each chunk of the Grow model are some questions you can use to help you structure a particular aspect of your mentoring conversation. So let’s get started.
  • 5. G is for Goal Question Goal Questions can be more long term focussed - perhaps the focus of your early converstions with your mentee. ● What specifically do you want to accomplish? ● What will be different as a result of working on this area? ● How will we know that you have achieved this goal? ● By when do you want to have this done? ● In a month or by the end of the year or whatever timescale makes sense - what do you want to have accomplished?
  • 6. G is for a Goal Question Or more short term focussed - perhaps to hone in on the focus of a particular meeting or conversation ● What do you most want to talk about? ● What would be a good outcome for our time together today? ● What needs to happen today so that afterwards you feel our conversation was time well spent? ● How could you rephrase that goal so it depends only on what you do and not on anyone else?
  • 8. R is for Reality Here we explore what is the starting point for our mentee. Reality question examples are ● How many times did you do that in the last week? ● How many XXX (new customers, job applications, blog posts, walking steps - link to goal) are you achieving right now? ● When was the last time that happened? ● What have you actually accomplished on that front this week/month? ● Who else is involved? In what way? ● What have you tried already? What difference did that make so far? ● Which factors are most important in this matter? ● What choices have led you to this place?
  • 10. O is for Options Inviting your mentee to explore different possibilities Also try hypothetical ‘What if’ questions ● What could you do about this? ● What other potential courses of action can you think of? ….. And what else? ● Lets see if we can come up with 5 potential solutions? ….. And what else? ● What could you do to overcome this obstacle? ● Who could help? …. Anybody else? ● What other resources could you draw on to tackle this? ….Anything else? ● What have you seen others do that might work for you?
  • 11. Wrap it up …. Or find the Will(ingness)
  • 12. W is for Wrap it up W is for Wrap it up ● Which option do you want to pursue? ● If we turn that into an action step - what will you now do by when? ● What step could you take this week that would move you towards your goal? ● You mentioned that you could do XXX …. What will you commit to doing?
  • 13. Or some people check out the Will(ingness) It is also useful to check for motivation at this stage ● On a scale of one to ten, how likely is it that this step will get done in the time frame you set? ● What can we change to there is a higher chance of you making progress (may need to reframe goal) ● Are there any obstacles we need to address to make sure this step gets done?
  • 15. SMART Most of us have come across SMART objective setting - as a mentor you can use the same framework This time using coaching questions to help your mentee define and clarify their goal. Here goes ….
  • 16. S is for Specific….. to clearly state where you are going Tip - A Goal states the destination - where and when, not the how. Focus on where the mentee wants to go and less about how to get there till the goal is set. ● What exactly do you want to accomplish? ● What will it look like when you reach your objective? ● Choose a time frame that makes sense for this objective - what exactly would you want to have accomplished by then? ● Be more specific - what is the outcome that you want?
  • 17. M is for Measurable Figuring out a way to measure progress ● How could you quantify this goal (with a number) so we’ll know when you’ve reached it? ● You said you’d like more ‘me’ time - define what you mean by ‘more’ ● How could you shape this goal so it is more measurable?
  • 18. A is for Attainable It’s within your capabilities and depends only on you? ● Is this goal within your capabilities? ● Is this goal reasonably possible? ● Are there any barriers that hold you back from reaching this goal? ● Does this goal depend on anyone else’s choices? How can we reword it so it depends only on you?
  • 19. R is for Relevant Caring enough to make it a reality ● Why is this important to you? ● What are you willing to let go of or cut out of your commitments to work on this goal? ● On a scale of one to ten, how important is it for you to reach this goal?
  • 20. T is for Time Specific The mentee sets their own deadline ● By when will you reach the goal? …. Or the new habit? ● When will you start? ● What’s your deadline?
  • 22. O is for Outcome The OSCAR model is often used by mentors when supporting their mentee with longer term goals. Some questions to get started are …. What is it you’d like to achieve from our working together? … or working together today? What is your long term goal? Imagine you have reached your goal. What does it look like? What does it feel like? How will others know?
  • 23. S is for Situation Our aim is to raise awareness of the mentees current situation How do you currently feel about your situation? Where are you now in terms of your goal? What has been happening in your work and life recently? How do others feel about the situation?
  • 24. C is for Choices and Consequences Inviting the mentee to think through the choices and consequences of different options and how this will impact themselves and others What current options for action are available to you? What are the consequences of any potential choice? What would be the impact on other people? Which choice(s) have the best impact for you and for others?
  • 25. A is for Actions If you like, you can also link actions and make them SMART actions What immediate actions will you take? When are you going to take them? Have your actions been moving you towards your goal? To what extent are you still motivated to move towards this goal?
  • 26. R is for Review How would you like to review progress? In what ways have your actions been moving you towards your goal? Are you still motivated to move towards this goal?
  • 28. Scaling Questions This approach comes from Solution Focussed Therapy. It is useful when people seem to be faced with a problem or a condition they have been unable to resolve so far. It is a more advanced type of coaching model. Perhaps one you can try out once you have become a bit more comfortable with using questions to facilitate your mentee to find their own answers.
  • 29. Step 1 On a scale of 1 to 10 ……? So say someone is suffering pain you could say So if 10 is the most unbearable agony possible and 1 is the most blissfill comfort, what number would you put yourself on right now? Say they answer 8. Next ask how will you know their discomfort level has decreased to a 7 You can apply this concept to all kinds of situations. For example If 1 is the worst job ever and 10 is your dream job - where are you now on the scale? If 10 is the most stressed out at work and 1 is the most relaxed - where are you right now?
  • 30. Step 2 Is about asking questions that invite positive change. So what would it be like if you were ….. One number higher or lower on the scale. If a one point change is too much - what about half a point? Or even just a tiny bit more or less in the right direction. And what is preventing you from being ….. (the new number)? And what will it be like when you are …… (new number +/-1)? Draw a stair case or a ladder and write the numbers 1 and 10 at either end Let’s explore how important or energized you are to changing things right now ….