1. STRESS
AND
ROMANCE
DR.
SHRINIWAS
KASHALIKAR

2. The STRESS; caused by hunger, thirst, sexual
deprivation, lack of shelter, illiteracy, ill health, and lack
of overall freedom to blossom at individual and global
levels; if mismanaged; damages (besides other aspects);
the most vital aspect of our life; the romance!
Romance is the vital sap. Romance is the fuel. Romance
is the energy. Romance is the light. Romance is life. If the
water of romance (everything that we possess, use,
practice, consume, indulge or enjoy) rises from the roots
of our life tree (through NAMASMARAN, which opens
the door to our top) to the top; then our life tree blossoms
with romance! If the water of romance gets short
circuited or gets leaked on the way, then gradually the
romance in life desiccates and life degenerates.
All the excitement, thrill, exhilaration of blossoming is
absent and we become caricatures of ourselves.
The first or immediate sufferers of our mismanaged
STRESS are our closest persons; such our mother,
father, brothers, sisters, fiancée, spouse, children.
The next to suffer are our servants, employers, and
friends and so on. Subsequently our mismanaged
STRESS harms our institution, village, town, city,

3. province, nation and the whole world. The suffering is
however not necessarily in a specific sequence!
Apart from this disastrous effect of STRESS due to
various causes; the romance desiccates due to the
STRESS produced by the conflict between preaching in
ideology, philosophy, spiritualism, religion, asceticism,
austerity, penance, rituals, mysticism, occultism; on the
one hand and the natural attraction of the majesty,
grandeur, glamour, glitter, pleasures, fun, excitement,
joy and thrill involved in epicurean or hedonist way of
life. Romance evaporates also because of the STRESS
produced by the conflict between the compulsion to study
the curricular subjects such as science, engineering,
medical subjects, mathematics, geography, history,
civics, grammars etc and the natural attraction for the
intensely romantic other activities.
The Total Stress Management (the core of which is
NAMASMARAN); trains us to conquer STRESS in
general (that desiccates the romance in our life); and
preserve, nurture and blossom the romance in our life.
The STRESS produced by conflict is also managed by
Total Stress Management (the core of which is

4. NAMASMARAN); in which we learn to study (and
create an environment conducive to such study) the
spiritualism, ideology, curricular subjects etc; by choice;
as an opportunity; and not under pressure. Thus we
enjoy the essence of all these; which is linked with our
own; as well as the universal romantic core. This process
of conscious evolutionary transformation; blossoms the
romance from within; and makes us more objective. It
reduces everything that mars romance; such as the
fetishes, dogmas, whims, fancies, obstinacy, and
adamancy; and makes us far more and sublimely
romantic to our heart’s content; and fulfills our life in
every possible way; by virtue of being open, considerate
and understanding.
Total Stress Management (the core of which is
NAMASMARAN); thus blossoms and immortalizes the
sublime romance throughout; in our life; and therefore is
a golden opportunity to be grabbed with both hands;
right from childhood.