In reality all the stress of defamation is essentially due to our subjectivity. Either we are weak, meek, helpless and diffident; or we are weak, arrogant, impatient and overconfident; because of our subjectivity. Hence the holistic solution for overcoming the stress of defamation; is to grow objective. The immortal gurus say that this is possible through the practice of NAMASMARAN.

1. STRESS
DEFAMATION
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SHRINIWAS

2. KASHALIKAR

3. It is a common experience that the accolades and admonitions
from our parents, teachers, relatives, friends; and even our
followers and fans (if we are a celebrity); determine our
happiness and sadness respectively.
But why is this so?
This is because in our mind there is always a process of self
evaluation on the basis of what we need and what we want;
and what we feel and what others “need, want and feel”; about
us. Sometimes we give more importance to our subjective
views and at other times; to those of others!
But amidst this conflict, there are occasions when we tend to
agree with the opinions of others but can not comply with
them. For example, we may agree with the public opinion that
speaking truth is great; but we may not be able to follow it;
and then we may develop guilt, lowliness and self hatred.
If we cannot assert our conscience adequately, we may
get bogged down by the opinions of the others and develop
good or bad self image! In such a situation, we can be
totally devastated if public opinion about us; is spoiled.
This stress of bad public opinion or defamation is there
with us for millennia!
It is because, we are unable to negotiate with public opinion;
that the public opinion becomes dangerously important, and
we then try to hide our so called vices from the society! This

4. forms the basis of our hypocrisy on the one hand and our
black mailing by others on the other!
But even as we try to hide our “vices” from the society; since
we agree with these opinions about our “vices”; in the heart of
heart; these bad opinions keep reverberating in our person’s
mind and make us miserable by guilt complex, which can lead
even to violence towards ourselves (suicide) or others
(murder)!
So the black mailing, suicides, murders and other crimes
related to defamation can be prevented if we understand; “it is
human to err but it is divine to forgive!” We have to learn to
forgive ourselves and others! But this is easier said than
practiced!
Not the defamation itself; but even the idea, thought and
apprehension about defamation is so severe, that it can be
destabilizing and devastating and ruin our life! We can get
several examples in day to day life one of which is daughter’s
marriage and related issues in sections of India.
As we have already seen, the defamation is a result of our
thinking about ourselves and the peoples’ thinking about us. It
is important to know ourselves (and the others) better, through
NAMASMARAN and assert ourselves, which is what is done
in Total Stress Management.