By the identifying ones self on the maturity continuum and then planning to move up continuum can help individuals to lead effective lives. Lives which are lived proactively and in which most of the resources are spent on the circle of influence rather than wasting resources on circle of concern.

1. June, 2014.
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JS Consultancy Services

2.  Review
 Maturity Continuum
 Understanding Reactive and Proactive People
 Understanding the Circle of Influence and
Circle of Concern

4.  To change ourselves We should
first understand ourselves.

5. Surface
Behavior
Attitude
Visible to Others
Hidden from
Others
Perception Values

9. • Dependence: the paradigm under which we are
born, relying upon others to take care of us.
• Independence: the paradigm under which we
make our decisions and take care of ourselves.
• Interdependence: the paradigm under which we
cooperate to achieve something that cannot be
achieved independently

10.  Analyze yourself : where do you place
yourself on the continuum of maturity ?
◦ Physically
◦ Mentally
◦ Emotionally
◦ Socially
◦ Economically

11. 1
Be
proactive
Dependence
Independence
Interdependence
PRIVATE
VICTORY
PUBLIC
VICTORY

12. 1
Be
proactive

13. Stimulus Response

14. Freedom
To
Choose
Stimulus Response
Self-
Awareness
Imagination Conscience
Independent
Will

15.  Responsibility = “Response-ability”
 Proactive people:
◦ Behavior in the product of one’s decision based
on values
◦ Personal leaders
◦ Take the initiative and are solutions to
problems
◦ Successfully handle direct, indirect and no
control problems

16.  Reactive people:
◦ Behavior is the product of one’s condition based
on feelings
◦ Unhappy people who feel victimized and
immobilized, who focus on the weaknesses of
other people
◦ Blame other people and circumstances they feel
are responsible for their own stagnant situation.

17. Reactive Language Proactive Language
There's noting I can do Let’s look at our alternations
That’s just the way I am I can choose a different approach
He makes me so mad I control my own feelings
They won’t allow that I can create an effective presentation
I have to do that I will choose an appropriate response
I can’t I choose
I must I prefer
If only I will
Proactive Model

18.  You want to be a proactive person however
there are too many problems, too many
issues around you ? Where to start from

19. CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE

20.  Draw your own circle of influence and circle
of concern?
 Include things, persons and issues or idea
that are either in your circle of influence or
are in your circle of concerns?

21.  To spend your resources (time, money,
thinking, ……) on your circle of influence and
try to spend less amount of resources on
your circle of concerns.
 What will happen as result of this strategy ?

22. CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE

23.  Questions ?