Behaving in a socially acceptable way can be tricky for some children some of the time. In this guide, we’ll consider first how and why to look beyond the label of ‘bad behaviour’ to gain a better understanding of what is going on for our child. Then we'll consider how we can respond in an appropriate way and support our child to reduce the frequency and intensity of tricky behaviours.
Towards the back of this guide, you'll find a behaviour journal and a behaviour change plan. These are designed to be printable and copiable; feel free to copy, use and share them.
Cherry-pick the ideas that you think might work for you and give them a go. You can always revisit others later if you need to.
Good luck!
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Understanding & Responding to Challenging Behaviour
1. Understanding &
Responding to Challenging
Behaviour
Helping
you to help
your child
Simple, actionable ideas for parents, carers
and other supporting adults
2. Behaving in a socially acceptable way can be
tricky for some children some of the time. In
this guide, we’ll consider first how and why to
look beyond the label of ‘bad behaviour’ to
gain a better understanding of what is going
on for our child. Then we'll consider how we
can respond in an appropriate way and
support our child to reduce the frequency and
intensity of tricky behaviours.
Towards the back of this guide, you'll find a
behaviour journal and a behaviour change
plan. These are designed to be printable and
copiable; feel free to copy, use and share
them.
Cherry-pick the ideas that you think might
work for you and give them a go. You can
always revisit others later if you need to.
Good luck!
Introduction
The first step
to changing
behaviour is to
try to really
understand it
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3. Before we can attempt to impact on a child’s
behaviour, we need to try and understand why
the behaviour is occurring.
In many instances, the behaviour can be seen
as meeting a need.
If we can identify what need the behaviour is
meeting then we are halfway towards finding
some practical ways forwards.
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Be Inquisitive
-1-
Attention
Basic need
e.g. food /
drink
Escape
Sensory
regulation
Care or
connection
To be
heard
- What Need is being Met? -
4. It's important that we don't judge behaviour
simply at face value. Two behaviours might
look very similar but serve a very different
purpose, whilst two different-looking
behaviours might serve the same aim.
The simplest and best way I have found of
working out what need is being met is simply
to keep repeating the question ‘why?’.
This idea is based on the ‘5 whys’ approach
to manufacturing pioneered by Toyota who
found that by continuing to ask the question
why (rather like a relentless toddler), we
often come to a simple answer that can be
acted upon.
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What need is being met?
-2-
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Toyota’s “5 whys” approach – a
worked example:
- Why did the robot stop? -
The circuit has overloaded, causing a fuse to blow.
- Why was there insufficient lubrication? -
The oil pump on the robot is not circulating
sufficient oil.
- Why is the pump not circulating sufficient oil? -
The pump intake is clogged with metal shavings.
- Why is the intake clogged with metal shavings? -
Because there is no filter on the pump.
- Why is the circuit overloaded? -
There was insufficient lubrication on the bearings,
so they locked up.
6. By taking a similarly inquisitive approach to
children’s behaviour, we can often gain a much
clearer understanding of the issue and
therefore develop a more appropriate
response.
If we can talk to the child at a time of calm,
then often they can work through the five whys
with us; otherwise we can take a moment to
explore this with other adults who’ve observed
the behaviour.
It’s important to do this at a time of calm – not
when both child and adult tempers are flared
up by a recent incident. Try to take a
supportive, non-judgemental and genuinely
inquisitive approach to the behaviour and
remember that behaviour is not always a
response to the immediate environment but
could, in fact, be the result of what has
happened in the preceding hours.
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Address the Right Issue
-3-
7. Many parents of neuro-diverse children
report that their children meltdown almost
immediately upon reaching home, whilst
their teachers report they have behaved well
all day at school.
Parents sometimes interpret this as a sign of
something being done wrong at home, when
in fact it is likely that the child has worked
incredibly hard to act ‘normal’ throughout
the school day as they know that this is what
is expected of them, but once they reach the
safety of home, a whole day’s worth of
sensory and social over-stimulation boils
over, resulting in a meltdown.
So don't assume that the site of the issue is
the source of the issue or that you're doing
something horribly wrong; children's
behaviour is often most challenging to us
when they are with the faces and in the
spaces where they feel most safe.
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Jekyll and Hyde?
-4-
8. It’s worth taking time to observe patterns
and gain a thorough understanding of what
is happening in your child’s world that is
resulting in the distressing behaviour,
whether that’s anger, aggression,
withdrawal, soiling, self-harming or any
other behaviour of concern.
Keeping a behaviour journal can help too –
this can help us to pick out patterns of
behaviour and identify whether there is
anything that needs to be avoided, managed
or altered.
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Hunt for Patterns
-5-
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Note the tricky moments
Keeping a journal of when behaviour escalates can help us to identify patterns.
Note as much detail as possible about what happened, where, who was present,
what was happening before, what happened next etc.
Behaviour Journal Supporting Notes
Keeping a behaviour journal can help us to understand more about a
chid's behaviour, putting us in a better position to sustainably support
them.
What went well?
It is also helpful to keep a note of any time when things went especially well, or if
there was the risk of behaviour escalating but this was avoided, as we can learn
a lot from these moments too.
Keep going for a few days
Keep a record for a few days then consider the what, when, where and who of
when things go right and wrong. This can often help us gain a better
understanding of both how to take steps to avoid distressing behaviour and can
also identify situations that your child finds actively calming or supportive.
Give Your Child a Voice
Where possible the behaviour journal should be completed in the child’s words,
either directly or with the support of an adult. This will help them to feel a sense
of ownership and will also help them to understand that there are steps they can
take to change how they feel and that this is not completely beyond their control.
10. Name:
What happened?
Where were you?
Who were you with?
What led up to this?
Did anything help or make things worse?
What would you do again or do differently next time?
Behaviour Journal
Date / Time:
11. Once we’ve taken the time to understand
what need is being met by the behaviour,
we can think about how else this need
might be met.
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Replace, Reduce, Reflect
-6-
Explore with the child and other supporting adults what might
help. For example if their behaviour seems to be a result of a
need to calm anxious thoughts, you might think with them
about how they could use breathing or relaxation strategies
instead. If the problem seems to be that the best way they
have found of communicating their distress is through their
behaviour, then maybe think about other options such as them
showing you a red card, or using emojis or other symbols to
warn you about how they’re feeling.
calm anxious or angry thoughts
release pent-up emotions
communicate distress
make things feel predictable
take time out from sensory overload
Maybe your child needs to...
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Your child needs to feel supported
It’s important your child feels supported but that they also understand it’s
important that they try, with support, to reduce the frequency of the distressing
behaviour.
Behaviour Change Plan Supporting Notes
Having achievable goals for a child's behaviour can be motivating for
both you and your child.
Achievable goals
It can be helpful to set small, achievable goals with the child and to celebrate
each of these milestones as it’s reached.
Regular reflection
It’s important too to reflect back periodically and to understand what is helping
and what is not with regards to changing their behaviour.
Curious not furious
Continuing to take a non-judgemental, inquisitive approach with them will best
enable them to become more confident in talking about their thoughts, feelings
and experiences.
When things go wrong
Be flexible and understand that things won’t always go exactly as we’d hope.
Instead of seeing these moments as failures, use a time of calm to revisit the five
whys and reflect back on what happened. This way, the tricky moments become
learning moments and can help us to make different, more supportive decisions
moving forwards.
13. Name: Behaviour Change Plan
What is the behaviour that you want to
change and what need is it meeting?
RECOGNISE
How else might this need be met?
REPLACE
Set a small, achievable goal for reducing the behaviour
REDUCE
Revisit this in a few days time, celebrate successes
and learn from challenges
REFLECT
14. It's important that you find the way that works
best for you and your child, but a few things that
can really help include:
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Works Best When You and your
child are a
team - be
curious and try
new things
together
- Experiment -
Be prepared to try different things and notice what works and
what doesn't. Noting patterns and changes will help you learn
quickly if you take a flexible and curious approach
- Notice -
Notice what's going well, as well as when things begin to feel
tricky. Talk to other people who spend time with your child
and ask them to notice and feedback too. Be curious together.
- Forigve -
Forgive yourself if you handle an incident less than perfectly
and forgive your child for those moments when things get
tricky. Try to look forwards with curiosity rather than
backwards with animosity
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who support my work on Patreon.
If you already support me on Patreon, THANK YOU. If
you don't, please consider supporting me at
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Helping
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your child
- Thank You! -
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