Spending quality time with children and offering them positive attention helps them become more respectful and affected by consequences. It also reduces attention-seeking behaviors. Establishing clear household rules helps children understand appropriate behaviors. Parents should discuss discipline strategies and consequences to reinforce the rules. Teaching children skills like anger management, impulse control, problem solving and delaying gratification can help them regulate their behaviors and emotions.

1. • One of the simplest ways to build a positive
relationship is to spend quality time with
children.
• Offering them positive attention creates an
environment where children become more
eager to please, more respectful, and are
more affected by consequences.

2. Example
• When kids receive regular doses of
healthy, positive attention, they reduce their
attention seeking behaviors. For example,
kids are less likely to whine, ask the same
question over and over, or start poking at their
sibling.

3. • Establishing a set of household rules helps kids
understand which behaviors are acceptable, and
which ones are off limits.
• A list of household rules can also help kids
understand how rules differ in different
environments. For example, it may be acceptable to
yell at the playground but that's not OK in the
library.

4. • It is important to discuss what sort
of discipline strategies will be used to
address the rules. There should
be positive and negative consequences
for kids that help them to follow the rules.

5. (5) WAYS TO TEACH YOUR
CHILD ANGER MANAGEMENT
SKILLS

6. 1. Differentiate Between Feelings and
Behavior
• Kids often have difficulty understanding the
difference between angry feelings and
aggressive behavior.
• Teach your child how to identify and verbalize
feelings instead of acting them out.

7. • Also, give the message that feeling angry is
OK. Anger is like any other emotion, and there
are times that it is appropriate to feel angry.
This can help kids learn that feeling and
talking about angry feelings aren’t bad.

8. 2. Model Appropriate Anger
Management Skills
• It’s essential that you role model appropriate
behavior to teach kids how to manage their
anger. If your kids see you lose your cool,
they’ll be much more likely to have trouble
managing their own anger or understanding
what’s appropriate and what isn’t.

9. • Create opportunities to talk about feelings
and share appropriate ways to deal with
them.
• Take responsibility for your behavior
when you lose your cool in front of your
kids. Apologize and discuss what you
should have done instead

10. Example
• Say, “I am sorry that you had to see me
yelling today when I was mad. I should have
gone for a walk to cool off when I was angry
instead of raising my voice.”

11. 3. Establish Anger Rules
• Anger rules should center around
behaving respectfully toward others. Kids
need to learn that just because they feel
angry it doesn’t give them a right to hurt
anyone.

12. • Address areas such as physical
aggression, name calling and destruction
of property so that kids know they can’t
throw things, break things or lash out
verbally or physically when they’re mad.

13. 4. Teach Healthy Ways to Manage
Anger
• Teach them to take a break when they are
becoming frustrated.
• Show them how to relax by doing something
enjoyable.

14. • Also, teach problem-solving skills and help
them learn how to resolve conflict peacefully.
• Most importantly, teach them to walk away
when they are angry before they become
aggressive.

15. 5. Offer Consequences When
Necessary
• Kids need positive consequences when
they follow the anger rules and negative
consequences when they break the rules.

16. (10) WAYS TO TEACH CHILDREN
IMPULSE CONTROL

17. 1. Teach Kids About Feelings
• When kids develop an understanding of the
difference between feelings and behaviors, it can
help them control their impulses.
• A child who understands that it is okay to feel mad
but not okay to hit, can see that he has choices
about how to deal with his feelings without reacting
impulsively.

18. 2. Teach Listening Skills
• Teach your child to listen to directions by
asking him to repeat back what you said
before he takes any action.

19. 3. Teach Problem-Solving Skills
• Teach your child to brainstorm several
solutions to a problem. Then, show him how
to consider the pros and cons of each
potential solution. This will help your child
learn to think before he acts.

20. 4. Teach Anger Management Skills
• Teach your child how to manage his anger so
he can calm himself down when he’s upset.

21. 5. Establish Household/Classroom Rules
• Develop clear rules that help your child know
what is expected of him.

22. 6. Provide Structure
• Keep your discipline consistent and your child's
routine the same.
• If you are consistent in saying, “You need to hold
my hand in the parking lot when we get out of the
car,” each and every time you go to the store, your
child will be much less apt to take off running in the
parking lot.

23. 7. Practice Delayed Gratification
• Sometimes parents don’t tell kids about fun
activities or surprises until right before hand
because they know their child will ask about it
constantly.

24. 8. Model Appropriate Behavior
• Your child will learn a lot about impulse
control by watching you.
• Model appropriate ways to wait patiently and
tolerate delayed gratification.

25. 9. Encourage Physical Activity
• When kids are physically active they have a
better chance at managing their impulses.
Encourage moderate amounts of physical
activity. Outdoor activity can be especially
helpful.

26. 10. Play Impulse Control Games
• Play games that provide a young child with a fun
way to practice impulse control.
• Games such as Simon Says, Red Light Green
Light, or Follow the Leader require impulse control.
• There is also research from Stanford University that
shows playing memory games can improve impulse
control.