Compile a list of questions you would want
to ask your spouse before deciding to
What would you do if your spouse did not
Learning Objective and FCS Standards
Learning Objective: Students will identify the
basic types of children’s needs, compare and
contrast parenting styles, and identify ways to
guide behavior in children.
FCS Standards: 06-12.3.1, 3.A, 3.B, 3.C, 4.B,
06-12.1.1, 1.A, 1.C, 1.D
What is the function of a family?
A family meets the physical,
emotional/social, and intellectual needs of
children within that family structure.
Through religious training or cultural
Meeting Children’s Needs
Physical Needs - Shelter, food, clothing, medical care
Anything that helps a child grow HEALTHY and STRONG.
Intellectual Needs - Toys, challenging activities, school
Anything that helps a child’s MIND GROW.
Social Needs - Communicate, share, get along with
Anything that will help a child MEET NEW PEOPLE and KEEP THOSE
Emotional Needs - Love, care, “unconditional” love
Anything that will help a child develop HEALTHY EMOTIONS.
Meeting a Child’s Needs
You will be assigned a child of a certain age.
Your job is to brainstorm ways that parents can
meet the need of that child in all areas. Make
sure they are age appropriate.
Meeting a Child’s Needs
Given everything we have learned about
parenting so far, would you be able to provide
all the needs for a child if you were to become
Which needs could you provide? Which
needs could you not provide? EXPLAIN.
How parents and other caregivers care for and discipline
Authoritarian-This parent believes children should obey without
Democratic-Children have more input and are given a certain
amount of freedom and independence.
Permissive-Children may set their own rules. Rule breaking is
ignored by the parents. Children are encouraged to think for
You will be given a list of things your child
does to misbehave and assigned a
You must decide how you will handle the
situation based on your parenting style.
What type of parenting style do your parents
mostly follow? Explain.
What type of parenting style do you think you
will follow? Explain.
On a notecard…
Write a scenario where a child (6 months-
8 years) misbehaves and hand it to your
Guiding Children’s Behavior
Guidance-using firmness and understanding to
help children learn how to behave.
With guidance, children learn Self-discipline:
the ability to control their own behavior.
Children move from understanding right from
wrong through praise or scolding to developing a
conscience: inner sense of what is right.
Ways to Guide Children
Be a good role model.
Setting limits-children need them to grow into
responsible adults. To determine a limit ask
Does the limit allow for learning and exploration?
Is the limit fair and age appropriate?
Does the limit benefit the child or is only for the
convenience of the adult?
More ways to guide children…
Positive Reinforcement-a response that
encourages a particular behavior.
Comment on the behavior right away
Recognize small steps
Help children take pride in their actions
Tailor encouragement to needs of the child
Use it wisely. Overuse is not motivating.
Dealing With Inappropriate Behavior
When dealing with misbehavior consider these
Is the expected behavior age appropriate?
Does the child understand the behavior is wrong?
Did the child do it knowingly or was it beyond their
When punishing, parents should show
disapproval of the action, not the child.
Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior
Negative Reinforcement-a response aimed at
discouraging children from repeating the inappropriate
Loss of Privileges
Don’t bribe, make them promise to behave, shout or yell,
shame or belittle, threaten to withhold love, or
exaggerate the consequences
Consistency is vital!
You will receive a scenario (someone else’s)
about a child misbehaving.
How would you handle this scenario as a
Respond to the scenario in two different ways.
Which is the one you would most likely choose?
After learning about parenting and guiding
children’s behavior, what are three
questions you might want to add to your
list to ask your spouse before you have