This document discusses strong-willed children and provides guidance for parenting them effectively. It defines strong-willed children as spirited, passionate, and self-motivated individuals who see rules as guidelines and are creative problem-solvers. The document advises building strong relationships with unconditional love and respect to influence children, using calm, firm communication, explaining rules' purposes, and holding children accountable in a way that involves them in problem-solving. It emphasizes adapting to each child's unique needs and seeking help if safety is threatened.
Presented by Tami DeCoteau
I’ve entitled my presentation “Relationships Matter” because I am going to talk to you about the important bond between a child and his caregiver, and how that bond occurs and how it impacts the child at all level of development.
DeCoteau Trauma-informed Care - Relationships MatterAiki Digital
By Tami DeCoteau...
"I’ve entitled my presentation “Relationships Matter” because I am going to talk to you about the important bond between a child and his caregiver, and how that bond occurs and how it impacts the child at all levels of development."
HISTORICAL TRAUMA AMONG NATIVE AMERICANS
Presented by:
Dr. Tami De Coteau, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
DeCoteau Trauma-Informed Care & Practice, PLLC
www.decoteaupsychology.com
Present Day Trauma
Poverty, Violence, Suicide, Inadequate Education, Substance Abuse, Inadequate Health Care, etc.
Historical Trauma
Genocide
Indian Boarding Schools
Government Agencies
Centralized Authority, etc
Trauma by definition is unbearable. Intolerable. Overwhelming. Out of control.
In fact for many people, the memory of trauma is so upsetting that they will try to push it out of their minds, move on, act as if nothing happened.
Trauma affects not only those who are directly exposed to it, but also those around them. Wives of men who suffer from PTSD tend to become depressed, the children of depressed mothers struggle with anxiety and insecurity. Having been exposed to violence as a child makes if difficult to establish trusting relationships as an adult.
Not just and event that took place sometime in the past, it is an imprint. …a trauma imprint that leaves traces on our mind, body, and brain.
This imprint of trauma has ongoing consequences for how we manage to survive in the present.
The document discusses attachment disorders and secure attachment in children. Secure attachment is formed through attuned interactions between caregiver and infant, which helps the infant feel safe and regulate their emotions and behaviors. Insecure attachment and attachment disorders can be caused by neglect, abuse, frequent caregiver changes and other traumatic experiences, and can impact brain development and lead to difficulties forming relationships and controlling emotions. Treatment focuses on forming a corrective attachment through structure, attunement, empathy, maintaining a positive effect, and supporting the development of reciprocity between child and caregiver.
This document discusses attachment disorders in youth. It identifies four main attachment styles: secure, avoidant, anxious, and ambivalent/disorganized. Symptoms and challenges of each style are described. Experiences like abuse, neglect or loss of a parent can lead to attachment problems. Treatment focuses on developing trust and connection through a PACE attitude of playfulness, acceptance, curiosity and empathy. Creating a coherent narrative by connecting a youth's story to behaviors and trauma can help repair attachments. Educating caregivers is also important for therapeutic parenting.
Unresolved childhood attachment issues can lead to difficulties forming secure relationships as an adult. Patterns of attachment continue across generations, so adults with insecure attachments may struggle in relationships and in parenting. While attachment disorders in children are often treated successfully, adult attachment disorders are more complex and can be more difficult to treat. More recognition and treatment options are needed to help suffering adults form healthy attachments.
Resilience & Adult Attachment in Cases of Child TraumaJane Gilgun
This document provides an overview of resilience and adult attachment in cases of child trauma. It discusses key topics like adverse childhood experiences, definitions of trauma and complex trauma, neurobiology of trauma, and general styles of adult attachment. The document also presents case examples to illustrate typical reactions of adults with different attachment styles (secure/resolved, preoccupied, dismissive, disorganized) to child sexual abuse disclosures.
Presented by Tami DeCoteau
I’ve entitled my presentation “Relationships Matter” because I am going to talk to you about the important bond between a child and his caregiver, and how that bond occurs and how it impacts the child at all level of development.
DeCoteau Trauma-informed Care - Relationships MatterAiki Digital
By Tami DeCoteau...
"I’ve entitled my presentation “Relationships Matter” because I am going to talk to you about the important bond between a child and his caregiver, and how that bond occurs and how it impacts the child at all levels of development."
HISTORICAL TRAUMA AMONG NATIVE AMERICANS
Presented by:
Dr. Tami De Coteau, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
DeCoteau Trauma-Informed Care & Practice, PLLC
www.decoteaupsychology.com
Present Day Trauma
Poverty, Violence, Suicide, Inadequate Education, Substance Abuse, Inadequate Health Care, etc.
Historical Trauma
Genocide
Indian Boarding Schools
Government Agencies
Centralized Authority, etc
Trauma by definition is unbearable. Intolerable. Overwhelming. Out of control.
In fact for many people, the memory of trauma is so upsetting that they will try to push it out of their minds, move on, act as if nothing happened.
Trauma affects not only those who are directly exposed to it, but also those around them. Wives of men who suffer from PTSD tend to become depressed, the children of depressed mothers struggle with anxiety and insecurity. Having been exposed to violence as a child makes if difficult to establish trusting relationships as an adult.
Not just and event that took place sometime in the past, it is an imprint. …a trauma imprint that leaves traces on our mind, body, and brain.
This imprint of trauma has ongoing consequences for how we manage to survive in the present.
The document discusses attachment disorders and secure attachment in children. Secure attachment is formed through attuned interactions between caregiver and infant, which helps the infant feel safe and regulate their emotions and behaviors. Insecure attachment and attachment disorders can be caused by neglect, abuse, frequent caregiver changes and other traumatic experiences, and can impact brain development and lead to difficulties forming relationships and controlling emotions. Treatment focuses on forming a corrective attachment through structure, attunement, empathy, maintaining a positive effect, and supporting the development of reciprocity between child and caregiver.
This document discusses attachment disorders in youth. It identifies four main attachment styles: secure, avoidant, anxious, and ambivalent/disorganized. Symptoms and challenges of each style are described. Experiences like abuse, neglect or loss of a parent can lead to attachment problems. Treatment focuses on developing trust and connection through a PACE attitude of playfulness, acceptance, curiosity and empathy. Creating a coherent narrative by connecting a youth's story to behaviors and trauma can help repair attachments. Educating caregivers is also important for therapeutic parenting.
Unresolved childhood attachment issues can lead to difficulties forming secure relationships as an adult. Patterns of attachment continue across generations, so adults with insecure attachments may struggle in relationships and in parenting. While attachment disorders in children are often treated successfully, adult attachment disorders are more complex and can be more difficult to treat. More recognition and treatment options are needed to help suffering adults form healthy attachments.
Resilience & Adult Attachment in Cases of Child TraumaJane Gilgun
This document provides an overview of resilience and adult attachment in cases of child trauma. It discusses key topics like adverse childhood experiences, definitions of trauma and complex trauma, neurobiology of trauma, and general styles of adult attachment. The document also presents case examples to illustrate typical reactions of adults with different attachment styles (secure/resolved, preoccupied, dismissive, disorganized) to child sexual abuse disclosures.
Attachment forms through attuned interactions between infants and their caregivers. Secure attachment provides children with safety and trust, forming the basis for future relationships, self-worth, resilience to stress, and emotional regulation. Trauma and neglect can disrupt attachment, affecting brain development and increasing risks for mental and physical health issues. Trauma-informed care aims to repair attachment injuries by focusing on safety, connections, and managing emotions through empathic, regulated interactions.
Session Two Presentation: Attachment TheoryAndriaCampbell
Attachment theory proposes that secure attachment to caregivers is essential to child development. John Bowlby's research found that infants develop internal working models of relationships based on interactions with primary caregivers. These models influence how children view themselves, relationships, and regulate emotions. Secure attachment arises from caregivers being consistently sensitive and responsive to children's needs and signals. This allows children to develop self-esteem, empathy, emotional regulation, and view caregivers as a secure base for exploration.
Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a condition where children fail to form normal attachments to caregivers. There are two subtypes - inhibited and disinhibited. It results from pathogenic or severely neglectful care before age 5. Diagnosis involves disturbed social relationships and lack of appropriate response to caregivers. Treatment aims to enhance security, stability and caregiver sensitivity through parenting skills training, play therapy, and establishing consistent routines and discipline. The goal is to help the child form a secure attachment to promote healthy development.
Attachment, trauma, emotional regulation in school to make sense of 'nonsensi...Helen Oakwater
Poor attachments, trauma, developmental delay can cause children act in apparently "nonsensical ways" which can make managing classrooms very tricky. Seeing childrens behaviour through the trauma lens throws new light on old issues and helps teachers manage challenging children with more empathy, compassion and effective strategies
Reactive attachment disorder (RAD) occurs when children are unable to form healthy attachments with caregivers. It results from a lack of response to a child's needs which prevents the development of trust. Symptoms include emotional withdrawal, lack of eye contact, and no interest in interaction. RAD is caused by neglect, frequent changes in caregivers, or abuse. Treatment involves counseling, parenting classes, and addressing any other conditions present. Forming secure attachments early in life through consistent care is important for healthy social and emotional development.
Fostering connections: Responding to Reactive Attachment DisorderCynthia Langtiw
Presentation to Early Trauma Care, A volunteer group of parents, therapists, educators and other caregivers who have experienced the chaos and challenges associated with caring for individuals with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)and Early Trauma and seek to share stories and helpful resources.
http://www.earlytraumacare.com/
Attachment And Children In Care 45 Slide HandoutBill Reid
Attachment theory proposes that secure attachment to caregivers in early childhood is essential for healthy social and emotional development. Insecure or disrupted attachment can result from factors like parental mental illness, abuse/neglect, and multiple caregiving changes. Children with insecure attachment are at higher risk for problems like difficulty regulating emotions and forming relationships. Providing stable, nurturing caregiving environments and supporting the development of secure attachments can help mitigate these risks.
Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a severe attachment disorder that affects young children and is characterized by a failure to form normal attachments to primary caregivers. Children with RAD do not bond with their parents or caregivers and may indiscriminately seek attention from any available adult. RAD is caused by neglect, abuse, or lack of consistent care early in life. It is diagnosed when inappropriate social behaviors emerge before age 5 and are accompanied by a history of disturbed care. Treatment aims to improve the responsiveness of caregivers and the child's ability to form attachments through parenting skills training and therapies.
Disinhibited social engagement disorder DFS Trainingvijay88888
This document contains questions and answers about topics related to child development, attachment, and trauma. It discusses imprinting in humans and the importance of early love and caregiving. Reactive attachment disorder and disinhibited social engagement disorder are described. Treatment for these disorders focuses on providing security, stability and sensitivity to help form new attachments. Brief, positive interactions can help change stress responses and brain development in neglected children. Consultation with specialists may be needed to address related issues like feeding disorders.
Reactive attachment disorder (RAD) is characterized by inhibited or emotionally withdrawn behavior toward caregivers manifested as rarely seeking or responding to comfort when distressed. It results from extreme neglect such as lack of emotional nurturing or repeated changes in caregivers. Children with RAD show minimal social/emotional responsiveness, limited positive affect, and irritability. Treatment focuses on forming secure attachments through individual, family, and play therapy. RAD significantly impairs social relationships and is associated with developmental delays. It is differentiated from autism by histories of neglect rather than social communication deficits.
The document discusses attachment development in children and the implications of insecure attachment, such as when children are separated from their primary caregivers before certain developmental phases. Insecure attachment can lead to problems with emotional regulation, relationships, self-worth, and accepting care or control from others according to the child's internal working model developed from their early experiences. Intervention approaches should focus on providing structure, engagement, nurturing experiences, and challenges to help change insecure internal working models over time.
Why do adopted children need a different kind of parenting? With the majority of children adopted from the care system coming from an abusive or neglectful background, it is unsurprising that many struggle to overcome the consequences of this difficult start to life. The Wall illustrates how unmet physical and emotional needs early in life affect children’s later development, requiring different parenting techniques and support for adoptive parents.
‘I have found it
really useful to help
children to understand
their emotions and how to
deal with them in a
positive way’.
‘It has helped me to
understand the child’s
perspective better and
respond in a more
constructive way’.
‘I have noticed a
reduction in
challenging
behaviour and
improvements in
relationships’.
‘It has helped me to
reflect on my own
reactions and responses
to children’s emotions’.
‘It has helped me to
understand the child
better and build a
stronger relationship’.
‘I feel more confident
in my ability to handle
emotional situations
constructively’.
April 3, 2014-Trauma in Young Children Under 4-Years of Age: Attachment, Neur...MFLNFamilyDevelopmnt
The PowerPoint presentation for a 2 hour webinar exploring how young children are particularly vulnerable to the effects of trauma, especially when their relationships with their caregivers are affected. (Find the live recording of this webinar @ https://learn.extension.org/events/1416) This presentation examines the characteristics of trauma in young children who are 4-years of age and younger, formal diagnostic criteria as well as other signs and symptoms of trauma, the neurobiological underpinnings of traumatic experiences for children, and evidence-based interventions that may be useful for remediating the effects of trauma for young children and their families.
This document discusses the important role that parents play in their children's social and emotional learning. It outlines how children learn emotional skills from observing their parents' relationships and interactions. When parents are emotionally competent and can help children work through feelings, children develop healthier emotional regulation. The document also discusses how schools and parents can collaborate to support children's social, emotional, and academic development through activities like parenting workshops, interactive homework, and family-school teams. Strong school-family partnerships benefit students' learning and well-being.
Attachment theory proposes that infants are born in an immature state requiring care and protection from a caregiver. Disruption to this attachment through events like abuse, neglect, or caregiver changes can result in reactive attachment disorder (RAD) characterized by inhibited or emotionally withdrawn behavior from caregivers. The DSM-V criteria for RAD include inconsistent seeking of comfort from caregivers when distressed and disturbances in social/emotional responsiveness. While effects are most common in neglected/abused children, RAD presentation and prevalence are not fully understood and treatments remain controversial with no single agreed-upon approach.
Intergrated-Therapy "Circle of Security"Karen Cowling
Do you want to bring up children who you have been able to parent from the inside out, to raise children who feel attached and loved, to assist them in being able to manage their own and others strong emotions. www.Intergrated-Therapy.com
0408618165
Karen.
As a Parent
- Frustrated from kids not listening?
- Tired from yelling at the people you love the most?
- Exhausted from feeling everything being a battle?
Being a parent is one of the most challenging roles we will ever have in our lives and unfortunately our contemporary society gives absolutely no training on how to be a good parent. We all love our kids but from my experience the ABC’s of parenting which are the love, common sense and natural instinct were not enough for me to help me raise my kids in a way that was serving them.
Learning the EFG’s of Parenting helped me transform my life and the lives of parents who learn them.
Children who witness domestic violence suffer emotional and behavioral effects, according to this document. They may experience issues like low self-esteem, social withdrawal, depression, anxiety, anger, and confusion. Witnessing violence can disrupt children's eating, sleeping, and emotional/social behaviors. The impacts are greater with longer exposure to violence. Young children may show excessive irritability or regression. Teenagers risk isolation, relationship issues, and involvement in violent relationships. The document provides tips for caregivers to help children cope, like teaching conflict resolution, safety skills, and positive expression of emotions.
The document discusses building self-esteem. It defines self-esteem as one's judgment of their own worth and capabilities. Self-esteem is learned from experiences and can change over time. Low self-esteem results from feeling incompetent in important areas of life and is characterized by behaviors like excessive bragging or blaming others. The foundation for happiness and success is having a positive self-view, which develops from unconditional love and acceptance as a child. Five feelings that build high self-esteem are security, self-knowledge, belonging, purpose, and competence. The document provides ideas to enhance these feelings in children.
This document provides an overview of understanding and responding to bullying. It discusses what bullying is, myths about bullying, risk and protective factors, and tools for strong families. The document outlines steps for successful family meetings, using emotional intelligence and coaching, and maintaining a positive relationship with children. It concludes by advertising an upcoming part 2 that will discuss understanding and helping bullies and targets, and the role of parents and schools.
Attachment forms through attuned interactions between infants and their caregivers. Secure attachment provides children with safety and trust, forming the basis for future relationships, self-worth, resilience to stress, and emotional regulation. Trauma and neglect can disrupt attachment, affecting brain development and increasing risks for mental and physical health issues. Trauma-informed care aims to repair attachment injuries by focusing on safety, connections, and managing emotions through empathic, regulated interactions.
Session Two Presentation: Attachment TheoryAndriaCampbell
Attachment theory proposes that secure attachment to caregivers is essential to child development. John Bowlby's research found that infants develop internal working models of relationships based on interactions with primary caregivers. These models influence how children view themselves, relationships, and regulate emotions. Secure attachment arises from caregivers being consistently sensitive and responsive to children's needs and signals. This allows children to develop self-esteem, empathy, emotional regulation, and view caregivers as a secure base for exploration.
Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a condition where children fail to form normal attachments to caregivers. There are two subtypes - inhibited and disinhibited. It results from pathogenic or severely neglectful care before age 5. Diagnosis involves disturbed social relationships and lack of appropriate response to caregivers. Treatment aims to enhance security, stability and caregiver sensitivity through parenting skills training, play therapy, and establishing consistent routines and discipline. The goal is to help the child form a secure attachment to promote healthy development.
Attachment, trauma, emotional regulation in school to make sense of 'nonsensi...Helen Oakwater
Poor attachments, trauma, developmental delay can cause children act in apparently "nonsensical ways" which can make managing classrooms very tricky. Seeing childrens behaviour through the trauma lens throws new light on old issues and helps teachers manage challenging children with more empathy, compassion and effective strategies
Reactive attachment disorder (RAD) occurs when children are unable to form healthy attachments with caregivers. It results from a lack of response to a child's needs which prevents the development of trust. Symptoms include emotional withdrawal, lack of eye contact, and no interest in interaction. RAD is caused by neglect, frequent changes in caregivers, or abuse. Treatment involves counseling, parenting classes, and addressing any other conditions present. Forming secure attachments early in life through consistent care is important for healthy social and emotional development.
Fostering connections: Responding to Reactive Attachment DisorderCynthia Langtiw
Presentation to Early Trauma Care, A volunteer group of parents, therapists, educators and other caregivers who have experienced the chaos and challenges associated with caring for individuals with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)and Early Trauma and seek to share stories and helpful resources.
http://www.earlytraumacare.com/
Attachment And Children In Care 45 Slide HandoutBill Reid
Attachment theory proposes that secure attachment to caregivers in early childhood is essential for healthy social and emotional development. Insecure or disrupted attachment can result from factors like parental mental illness, abuse/neglect, and multiple caregiving changes. Children with insecure attachment are at higher risk for problems like difficulty regulating emotions and forming relationships. Providing stable, nurturing caregiving environments and supporting the development of secure attachments can help mitigate these risks.
Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a severe attachment disorder that affects young children and is characterized by a failure to form normal attachments to primary caregivers. Children with RAD do not bond with their parents or caregivers and may indiscriminately seek attention from any available adult. RAD is caused by neglect, abuse, or lack of consistent care early in life. It is diagnosed when inappropriate social behaviors emerge before age 5 and are accompanied by a history of disturbed care. Treatment aims to improve the responsiveness of caregivers and the child's ability to form attachments through parenting skills training and therapies.
Disinhibited social engagement disorder DFS Trainingvijay88888
This document contains questions and answers about topics related to child development, attachment, and trauma. It discusses imprinting in humans and the importance of early love and caregiving. Reactive attachment disorder and disinhibited social engagement disorder are described. Treatment for these disorders focuses on providing security, stability and sensitivity to help form new attachments. Brief, positive interactions can help change stress responses and brain development in neglected children. Consultation with specialists may be needed to address related issues like feeding disorders.
Reactive attachment disorder (RAD) is characterized by inhibited or emotionally withdrawn behavior toward caregivers manifested as rarely seeking or responding to comfort when distressed. It results from extreme neglect such as lack of emotional nurturing or repeated changes in caregivers. Children with RAD show minimal social/emotional responsiveness, limited positive affect, and irritability. Treatment focuses on forming secure attachments through individual, family, and play therapy. RAD significantly impairs social relationships and is associated with developmental delays. It is differentiated from autism by histories of neglect rather than social communication deficits.
The document discusses attachment development in children and the implications of insecure attachment, such as when children are separated from their primary caregivers before certain developmental phases. Insecure attachment can lead to problems with emotional regulation, relationships, self-worth, and accepting care or control from others according to the child's internal working model developed from their early experiences. Intervention approaches should focus on providing structure, engagement, nurturing experiences, and challenges to help change insecure internal working models over time.
Why do adopted children need a different kind of parenting? With the majority of children adopted from the care system coming from an abusive or neglectful background, it is unsurprising that many struggle to overcome the consequences of this difficult start to life. The Wall illustrates how unmet physical and emotional needs early in life affect children’s later development, requiring different parenting techniques and support for adoptive parents.
‘I have found it
really useful to help
children to understand
their emotions and how to
deal with them in a
positive way’.
‘It has helped me to
understand the child’s
perspective better and
respond in a more
constructive way’.
‘I have noticed a
reduction in
challenging
behaviour and
improvements in
relationships’.
‘It has helped me to
reflect on my own
reactions and responses
to children’s emotions’.
‘It has helped me to
understand the child
better and build a
stronger relationship’.
‘I feel more confident
in my ability to handle
emotional situations
constructively’.
April 3, 2014-Trauma in Young Children Under 4-Years of Age: Attachment, Neur...MFLNFamilyDevelopmnt
The PowerPoint presentation for a 2 hour webinar exploring how young children are particularly vulnerable to the effects of trauma, especially when their relationships with their caregivers are affected. (Find the live recording of this webinar @ https://learn.extension.org/events/1416) This presentation examines the characteristics of trauma in young children who are 4-years of age and younger, formal diagnostic criteria as well as other signs and symptoms of trauma, the neurobiological underpinnings of traumatic experiences for children, and evidence-based interventions that may be useful for remediating the effects of trauma for young children and their families.
This document discusses the important role that parents play in their children's social and emotional learning. It outlines how children learn emotional skills from observing their parents' relationships and interactions. When parents are emotionally competent and can help children work through feelings, children develop healthier emotional regulation. The document also discusses how schools and parents can collaborate to support children's social, emotional, and academic development through activities like parenting workshops, interactive homework, and family-school teams. Strong school-family partnerships benefit students' learning and well-being.
Attachment theory proposes that infants are born in an immature state requiring care and protection from a caregiver. Disruption to this attachment through events like abuse, neglect, or caregiver changes can result in reactive attachment disorder (RAD) characterized by inhibited or emotionally withdrawn behavior from caregivers. The DSM-V criteria for RAD include inconsistent seeking of comfort from caregivers when distressed and disturbances in social/emotional responsiveness. While effects are most common in neglected/abused children, RAD presentation and prevalence are not fully understood and treatments remain controversial with no single agreed-upon approach.
Intergrated-Therapy "Circle of Security"Karen Cowling
Do you want to bring up children who you have been able to parent from the inside out, to raise children who feel attached and loved, to assist them in being able to manage their own and others strong emotions. www.Intergrated-Therapy.com
0408618165
Karen.
As a Parent
- Frustrated from kids not listening?
- Tired from yelling at the people you love the most?
- Exhausted from feeling everything being a battle?
Being a parent is one of the most challenging roles we will ever have in our lives and unfortunately our contemporary society gives absolutely no training on how to be a good parent. We all love our kids but from my experience the ABC’s of parenting which are the love, common sense and natural instinct were not enough for me to help me raise my kids in a way that was serving them.
Learning the EFG’s of Parenting helped me transform my life and the lives of parents who learn them.
Children who witness domestic violence suffer emotional and behavioral effects, according to this document. They may experience issues like low self-esteem, social withdrawal, depression, anxiety, anger, and confusion. Witnessing violence can disrupt children's eating, sleeping, and emotional/social behaviors. The impacts are greater with longer exposure to violence. Young children may show excessive irritability or regression. Teenagers risk isolation, relationship issues, and involvement in violent relationships. The document provides tips for caregivers to help children cope, like teaching conflict resolution, safety skills, and positive expression of emotions.
The document discusses building self-esteem. It defines self-esteem as one's judgment of their own worth and capabilities. Self-esteem is learned from experiences and can change over time. Low self-esteem results from feeling incompetent in important areas of life and is characterized by behaviors like excessive bragging or blaming others. The foundation for happiness and success is having a positive self-view, which develops from unconditional love and acceptance as a child. Five feelings that build high self-esteem are security, self-knowledge, belonging, purpose, and competence. The document provides ideas to enhance these feelings in children.
This document provides an overview of understanding and responding to bullying. It discusses what bullying is, myths about bullying, risk and protective factors, and tools for strong families. The document outlines steps for successful family meetings, using emotional intelligence and coaching, and maintaining a positive relationship with children. It concludes by advertising an upcoming part 2 that will discuss understanding and helping bullies and targets, and the role of parents and schools.
Do you find yourself avoiding certain people? Or celebrating when that certain person calls in sick? This session will teach you some strategies on how to deal with difficult people instead of avoiding them. Presenter: DeAnne Heersche
Steve Vitto Challeng of the Children Breaking Down the WallsSteve Vitto
Steve Vitto's presentation at the 2011 Challenge of the Children Conference at Hope College in Holland Michigan
Strategies for Defiant Students
svitto@muskegonisd.org
This document provides guidance on conflict resolution. It discusses that conflict is a normal part of relationships but can harm relationships if mismanaged. The fundamentals of conflict resolution include recognizing differing needs and examining them with compassion to find creative solutions. Successful conflict resolution relies on managing stress, emotions, paying attention to others' feelings, and respecting differences. It offers tools for conflict resolution like using a win-win approach, empathy, assertiveness, and broadening perspectives. Healthy responses to conflict include compromise while unhealthy ones include anger and withdrawal. The keys to resolution are stress relief, emotion management, communication skills, and humor.
This document provides guidance on conflict resolution in the workplace. It discusses that conflict is a normal part of relationships but can be harmful if mismanaged. The fundamentals of conflict resolution involve recognizing differences in values and needs, examining them with compassion, and finding creative solutions. Successful conflict resolution requires managing stress, emotions, paying attention to others' feelings, and respecting differences. It provides tools for resolving conflict through win-win approaches, empathy, assertiveness, managing emotions, negotiation, mediation, and broadening perspectives.
This document discusses open-ended and closed questions in counseling sessions. It notes that open-ended questions are more helpful as they allow for deeper discussion, while closed questions only elicit short answers. The document provides examples of open-ended and closed questions. It also discusses paraphrasing as a tool to ensure understanding and encourage elaboration from clients. Finally, it outlines 12 common irrational beliefs from Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy and how challenging these beliefs can help clients develop more rational perspectives.
Knowing your strengths & learning how to use them as you parent is just smart. Being able to recognize and call out your kid's strengths is even better!
April 2014 talk to child care providers at MA's Park St. office of the Department Of Children and Families. Starting with the feelings someone has, we look at what behaviors can mean, and finally ways of creating the MOST effective discipline strategies.
Remy Allen completed a CliftonStrengths assessment on January 21, 2016. The report outlines Remy's top 5 themes: Restorative, Developer, Harmony, Intellection, and Responsibility. For each theme, the report provides a shared theme description and personalized insights into what makes Remy's strengths in that theme stand out. The report is intended to help Remy understand their natural talents and how to apply them.
Raising a child in today's world is challenging for parents. The document provides guidance on positive parenting techniques to help children grow up healthy. It emphasizes becoming an expert in child development, providing unconditional love while also setting clear boundaries and rules, and empowering children by listening to their views and guiding them through tough decisions. The tips encourage focusing on developing a strong relationship with open communication, understanding a child's friends and influences, and seeking help from professionals when needed to best support a child's healthy development.
Dr. Louise Stanger of All About Interventions describes SFT, motivational interviewing and parallel processes to help addiction professionals integrate these transformational processes into practice.
Creating A Positive Parenting EnvironmentJoan Young
This presentation was for foster parents at a recent training. It has valuable information for any parent looking to re-frame the challenges of parenting in order to feel more effective.
The document discusses how understanding communication styles and behavioral patterns can help build credibility in the workplace. It notes that labeling someone as difficult may be inaccurate, as people simply differ in their styles. It suggests adjusting one's style to be more effective when interacting with others whose styles differ. Flexing one's style involves recognizing and planning to accommodate the other person's style through adjustments in content and delivery.
Playing Nice In The Sandbox (Project Phoenix)Dan Wiseman
The document discusses strategies for managing conflict constructively. It provides goals for conflict engagement including understanding interests, producing sustainable solutions, and increasing acceptance of differences. It advocates for engagement over aggression, apathy, or avoidance when facing change or conflict. Effective communication techniques are outlined such as focusing on interests, not positions, and generating proposals to find common ground.
Steve Vitto Positive Approaches For All ChildrenSteve Vitto
A review of traditional views of discipline and why they are often problematic, and inneffective; and then a presentation of research based approaches for treating challenging behaviors
Our beliefs drive our behavior and eventually our identity. If you want to change how you parent, you must be willing to look at what you really believe & be willing to change those beliefs. So what do you believe about relating to others?
Aware about conflict and learn to get away from it.
Thanks & Regards,
Yaswanth Kumar Ravella
Aware about conflict
and learn to get away from it.
Thanks & Regards,
Yaswanth Kumar Ravella
Davidson Alumni Webinar - Tough ConversationsMark S. Young
The PPT slide-deck from our Dec 1, 2015 alumni webinar facilitated by Lory Fischler, an expert on navigating critical conversations in the workplace and in our lives.
Similar to Turn-conflict-into-cooperation-icwa2015 (20)
Rasamanikya is a excellent preparation in the field of Rasashastra, it is used in various Kushtha Roga, Shwasa, Vicharchika, Bhagandara, Vatarakta, and Phiranga Roga. In this article Preparation& Comparative analytical profile for both Formulationon i.e Rasamanikya prepared by Kushmanda swarasa & Churnodhaka Shodita Haratala. The study aims to provide insights into the comparative efficacy and analytical aspects of these formulations for enhanced therapeutic outcomes.
8 Surprising Reasons To Meditate 40 Minutes A Day That Can Change Your Life.pptxHolistified Wellness
We’re talking about Vedic Meditation, a form of meditation that has been around for at least 5,000 years. Back then, the people who lived in the Indus Valley, now known as India and Pakistan, practised meditation as a fundamental part of daily life. This knowledge that has given us yoga and Ayurveda, was known as Veda, hence the name Vedic. And though there are some written records, the practice has been passed down verbally from generation to generation.
Osteoporosis - Definition , Evaluation and Management .pdfJim Jacob Roy
Osteoporosis is an increasing cause of morbidity among the elderly.
In this document , a brief outline of osteoporosis is given , including the risk factors of osteoporosis fractures , the indications for testing bone mineral density and the management of osteoporosis
These lecture slides, by Dr Sidra Arshad, offer a quick overview of the physiological basis of a normal electrocardiogram.
Learning objectives:
1. Define an electrocardiogram (ECG) and electrocardiography
2. Describe how dipoles generated by the heart produce the waveforms of the ECG
3. Describe the components of a normal electrocardiogram of a typical bipolar lead (limb II)
4. Differentiate between intervals and segments
5. Enlist some common indications for obtaining an ECG
6. Describe the flow of current around the heart during the cardiac cycle
7. Discuss the placement and polarity of the leads of electrocardiograph
8. Describe the normal electrocardiograms recorded from the limb leads and explain the physiological basis of the different records that are obtained
9. Define mean electrical vector (axis) of the heart and give the normal range
10. Define the mean QRS vector
11. Describe the axes of leads (hexagonal reference system)
12. Comprehend the vectorial analysis of the normal ECG
13. Determine the mean electrical axis of the ventricular QRS and appreciate the mean axis deviation
14. Explain the concepts of current of injury, J point, and their significance
Study Resources:
1. Chapter 11, Guyton and Hall Textbook of Medical Physiology, 14th edition
2. Chapter 9, Human Physiology - From Cells to Systems, Lauralee Sherwood, 9th edition
3. Chapter 29, Ganong’s Review of Medical Physiology, 26th edition
4. Electrocardiogram, StatPearls - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK549803/
5. ECG in Medical Practice by ABM Abdullah, 4th edition
6. Chapter 3, Cardiology Explained, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK2214/
7. ECG Basics, http://www.nataliescasebook.com/tag/e-c-g-basics
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Overall life span (LS) was 1671.7±1721.6 days and cumulative 5YS reached 62.4%, 10 years – 50.4%, 20 years – 44.6%. 94 LCP lived more than 5 years without cancer (LS=2958.6±1723.6 days), 22 – more than 10 years (LS=5571±1841.8 days). 67 LCP died because of LC (LS=471.9±344 days). AT significantly improved 5YS (68% vs. 53.7%) (P=0.028 by log-rank test). Cox modeling displayed that 5YS of LCP significantly depended on: N0-N12, T3-4, blood cell circuit, cell ratio factors (ratio between cancer cells-CC and blood cells subpopulations), LC cell dynamics, recalcification time, heparin tolerance, prothrombin index, protein, AT, procedure type (P=0.000-0.031). Neural networks, genetic algorithm selection and bootstrap simulation revealed relationships between 5YS and N0-12 (rank=1), thrombocytes/CC (rank=2), segmented neutrophils/CC (3), eosinophils/CC (4), erythrocytes/CC (5), healthy cells/CC (6), lymphocytes/CC (7), stick neutrophils/CC (8), leucocytes/CC (9), monocytes/CC (10). Correct prediction of 5YS was 100% by neural networks computing (error=0.000; area under ROC curve=1.0).
2. What is a Strong-Willed Child?
Hold firm convictions
Spirited
Adventurous
Passionate
Self-motivated
Inner-directed
Innovative followers of the spirit of the law
3. 1. Almost never accepts words like “impossible” or phrases like “it can’t be done.”
2. Can move with lightning speed from being a warm, loving presence to being a
cold, immovable force.
3. May argue the point into the ground, sometimes just to see how far into the
ground the point will go.
4. If bored, has been accused of actually creating a crisis rather than have a day go
by without incident.
5. Consider rules to be more like guidelines.
6. Shows great creativity and resourcefulness – always able to find a way to
accomplish a goal.
7. Can turn what seems to be the smallest issue into a grand crusade or controversy.
8. Shows great creativity and resourcefulness – always able to find a way to
accomplish a goal.
9. Can turn what seems to be the smallest issue into a grand crusade or controversy.
10. Doesn’t usually do things just because “supposed to”.
11. Often refuses to obey unconditionally – usually wants to negotiate a few terms
before complying.
12. Is not afraid to try the unknown (but chooses his own risks).
13. Can take what was meant to be the simplest request and interpret it as an
offensive ultimatum.
14. May not actually say the exact words to apologize – but will usually make it right
anyhow. Adapted from C. Tobias
2002
4. Defiant Vs. Strong-Willed
Defiant Strong-Willed
Argumentative
Annoying
Refuses to follow rules
Blames others
Irritable
Angry/Resentful
Spiteful/Vindictive
Angry outbursts
Wants to learn things for
themselves
Needs to have some control
over themselves
Needs to understand the
purpose
Stubborn
Repeatedly tests limits
Prone to power struggles
5. Strong-willed children have great
potential!
Hold up under adversity
Persist against the odds
Believe anything is possible
Potential for great things!
7. Understanding your strong-willed child
Strong-willed kids aren't just being difficult
They feel their integrity is compromised if they're
forced to submit to another person's will
If they're allowed to choose, they love to cooperate
They are motivated by meaning, purpose and
relationship
8. How important is obedience really?
“Morality is doing what's right, no matter what
you're told. Obedience is doing what you're told,
no matter what's right.”
H.L. Mencken
9. Relationships matter!
The quality of your relationship with your child is directly
related to your ability to influence them
Quality relationships = valuable leverage = most powerful
tool for influencing change in your child!
The foundation of the relationship must be mutual love,
respect and safety
Love and acceptance must be unconditional
Relationships matter MORE than rules
10. Communication
Strong-willed children (SWC) don’t have a problem with
authority; they have a problem with how authority is
communicated
Successful communication with a SWC involves:
Calm
Firm
Respectful
Example: “Get your coat and shoes on and get in the car
right now!” vs. “Car leaves in 2 minutes – let’s go.”
11. The issue of control
Each individual is has control over what they think,
feel, and do
We have ultimate control over ourselves. We may
have the ability to influence others but we cannot
control them
Each person always has a choice – to obey or accept
the consequences
12. Pitfalls
Don’t use words that imply you are trying to take
control away from your strong-willed child
Examples. “You are going to…You will…Because I said…”
Don’t make your strong–willed child feel as if they
have no choice.
16. Accountability
Don’t ignore bad behavior – hold them accountable
Focus on responsibility for actions and outcomes –
not on their mistakes
Involve your strong-willed child in the problem
solving process
18. Keep your sense of humor
Taking things too seriously can lead to constant
power struggles
Using humor in tense moments helps you avoid
pitfalls and gives your strong-willed child a “do-over”
19. Ask more questions
Questions that increase
conflict
Questions that reduce
conflict
Why did you do that?
When are you going to learn?
Why can’t you just do what
you’re told?
What were you thinking?
Don’t you ever listen?
Why won’t you listen?
What’s the matter with you?
Do you want help with that?
Are you doing that on
purpose?
Are you trying to get into
trouble?
Do you remember what we
previously agreed to?
Is that what you meant to
do?
Do you know why I asked
you to do that?
I that what you wanted?
20. A few pointers
You are not the final authority for determining
whether or not your strong-willed child will comply—
they are
Your strong-willed child can be inspired, motivated,
held accountable – but they will not be forced
There is no ONE punishment that will make your
child do what you want
Adapt to your child’s changing needs
Every strong-willed child is unique
21. Get help when…
Your strong-willed child’s behavior has:
Threatened their own or someone else’s safety
Violated major morals or values
Damaged property
Involved deliberate hiding of the truth
22. Citations
Tobias, Cynthia (2012-09-18). You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be
Persuaded), Revised and Updated Edition: Strategies for Bringing Out
the Best in Your Strong-Willed Child (Kindle Locations 642-644). The
Doubleday Religious Publishing Group. 48.
Yerkovich, M. and Yerkovich, K. (2011). How We Love Our Kids: The
Five Love Styles of Parenting. WaterBrook Press. Colorado Springs,
Colorado.
Editor's Notes
For those who believe it’s important not to rock the boat, or who accept what traditionally works, the actions of the SWC can look suspiciously like disobedience and rebellion. To most SWCs, rules are basically guidelines. It’s not arrogance on our part—we just believe we’re capable of figuring out what the point of a rule is, and sometimes we use another method of accomplish
It’s not arrogance on our part—we just believe we’re capable of figuring out what the point of a rule is, and sometimes we use another method of accomplishing that goal.
ing that goal.
0-3 You may have it but you don’t use it much
4-7 You use it when you need it, but not on a daily basis
8-10 You’ve got a very healthy does of it, but you can back off when you want to
11-12 – You don’t leave home without it, and it’s almost impossible not to use it
They can be a challenge to raise!
But - If they are parented in a manner that is sensitive to their nature; and with patience and creative strategies they are a joy to raise
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Sitting Bull was a Hunkpapa Lakota holy man who led his people during years of resistance to US government policies
Martin Luther King, Jr., was an activist, humanitarian, and leader in the African-American Civil Rights Movement.
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Malala Yousafzai is a Pakistani activist for female education and the youngest-ever Nobel Prize winner
To understand how to parent your strong-willed child you must understand how your swcs mind works.
They are motivated by meaning, purpose and relationship – not by fear of punishments
If this bothers you because you think obedience is an important quality, I'd ask you to reconsider. Obedience is simply doing what you are told – no matter what is right.
. As H.L. Mencken famously observed, morality is doing what's right, no matter what you're told. Obedience is doing what you're told, no matter what's right.
If your SWC really enjoys spending time with you – they will want to preserve the relationship.
SWCs need to know that you will always be there for them. Love must sometimes be tough – not always just bail us out when we get into trouble – but no matter what SWCs need to know that you will always love them
Focus your attention on how their behavior affects your relationship (not how it affects you).
If your SWC has a good relationship with you they will follow your rules even if they don’t agree with them – because they love and respect you.
But if the relationship is strained – if your always yelling and angry anyway – then what does your child have to loose by disobeying?
If you use authority in a manner that conveys your SWC doesn’t have a choice – there is going to be trouble. We always have a choice whether to obey or accept consequences.
SWC don’t respond when you simply issue orders. They respond when you voice is calm and firm and conveys respect.
Some parents think it will signal weakness if they speak politely to a child instead of bluntly “laying down the law.” The fact is, you may be amazed at how much easier it is to get strong-willed children to cooperate when , instead of angrily shouting,
If you shout or use anger the SWC will tune you out – or argue about everything
SWCs don’t need to control you; they just can’t let you take control away from them. They need to keep at least some control over their lives
You can and should enforce the rules, but the reality is that you cannot force SWCs to comply with the rules. Be careful about backing yourself into a corner by telling SWCs what they will and will not do. What if they decide to prove you wrong?
If they feel they have no choice – as if you have cornered them – they may choose to react in unpleasant and harmful ways
Figure out how you can give your child some control – even in very small ways.
Save the conflict for the very important battles you will need to fight later.
Allow flexibility in the METHOD, not the outcome.
If a SWC wants to know something, they’ll keep up a dogged pursuit of questions until they practically drive you crazy. How will you cope?
Instead of going into endless detail, just cut to the chase— give your child the bottom line.
you want bottom -line accountability , and that means your SWC doesn’t call the shots on the end result; the compromise can come by allowing some flexibility in the method – not the outcome.
“Look, here’s the deal. The bottom line is that your homework has to be done by eight tomorrow morning. If you want to wake up an hour early to do it, that’s fine. If you want to do it in ten minute spurts, that’s fine, too— as long as when we leave for school at eight in the morning, we take the finished homework with us.”
Don’t engage in arguments over methods— focus on the outcomes.
My point here is don’t dictate.
Use a teamwork approach to decide with your child
Every teenager needs to know how to motivate himself before he leaves home. Instead of telling your teenager what to do and how to do it, try deciding together what needs to be accomplished and ask your SWC what it will take to motivate him.
He needs to be thinking about what it will take to get himself to do something he doesn’t want to do instead of having a parent automatically step in and give unsolicited advice and suggestions.
SWCs want to know what the purpose of a goal or task is, mostly so they can decide whether it’s worth the effort to achieve it. After all, who established the goal in the first place? Why? Once they understand what the end result is supposed to be, what if they can find a better way to get there ? SWCs are not usually trying to irritate you by posing these questions. Instead, we’re genuinely attempting to figure out what to think and how to stay in control of our world.
Instead of just handing down the to-do lists and issuing the rules and regulations, try soliciting input from a very creative and often untapped source—your strong-willed teenager. Put forth the compelling problem you need to have solved, and be sincere and open-minded when you ask for input.
Don’t let them get away with bad behavior.
You should hold them accountable for outcomes and continually shift responsibility to them for their actions and results.
Decide which issues are actually worth going to the wall for— and go to the wall for them. Issues of moral and spiritual values and those of physical safety are certainly big deals.
Ride without seatbelts, steal, cheat,
But if you can relinquish some control over smaller issues like precisely what they wear or their method of cleaning their room you’ll find your SWC cooperating with you much better than if she has to do every little thing exactly your way.
Focus on outcomes, not methods
“You said don’t jump off that chair.”
Masters of finding and using the loopholes, SWCs take great satisfaction in proving that you obviously did not think of everything. We’ll push your buttons and reduce you to rage in a matter of seconds.
They push, your react, they push, you react again. They have all the power - they are in control of your emotions – you’re the problem!
But one thing has the potential to turn conflict into cooperation more often than you ever thought possible: a sense of humor. Lighten up, but don’t let up. You should not let an SWC get by with bad behavior; however, humor will often catch your SWC off guard and may disarm him before he even realizes what’s happening.
Best of all, it can offer what I call a “fire escape”— an opportunity to pull back gracefully and cooperate.
The next time your SWC says or does something that really ticks you off, instead of jumping down his throat , simply say, “Nice try. I thought you were serious for a minute.” Then smile and stop talking.
either your SWC will back down or he’ll dig in his heels and refuse to change. But you just gave him the opportunity to decide, and to save face. Instead of going on the attack, which serves only to reinforce his resistance,
It doesn’t always work— but wouldn’t it be worth trying even if it only worked once in a while? If you practice this, you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the number of times humor is effective in disarming a conflict.
Remember that anything that increases conflict reduces the relationship and vice-versa
Ask more questions and issue fewer orders. Instead of “take out the trash”, say “did you remember to take out the trash?” This approach creates a much more positive and cooperative atmosphere than issuing orders:
some specific types of questions that can actually lower the level of conflict, along with some questions you’ll want to avoid using as much as possible.
trigger the defenses of an SWC and can destroy relationships:
Short-cut – never use the word why and you in the same sentence
By doing this, I signaled respect for him— and an understanding that he still had control over himself and what he did . By asking before I helped, I was also getting his cooperation right up front, and now whatever we did together would also be his idea.
Is that what you meant to do? -- You’re giving the SWC a chance to explain himself, and you’re expecting the best of him. You’re also shifting ownership and responsibility for actions back to the SWC.
Do you know why I asked for that? --We’re automatically suspicious when you don’t want to give us any information. Why do you need unquestioned obedience? How do we know we aren’t being asked to do something that goes against our own convictions of what’s right or wrong? We usually don’t need you to go into any deep explanations of process or a discussion of philosophy or logic. We just want to know one thing: What’s the big deal? When you say, “Do you know why I asked for that?” you create a dialogue in which mutual respect can flourish.
Is that what you wanted? -- shifts the responsibility to the SWC and, even more importantly, it gives you as a parent a lot of leverage.
“An F in math. Did you want an F in math?”
“No.”“What grade did you want?” “I don’t know— at least a C, I guess.” “What do you think it will take to get it?” “A miracle.” “Do you want any help with that miracle?” See what you’re doing? You’re getting the SWC to commit herself to doing better without you demanding she do so. You can tell her all day long how she should change her ways, but until you get her to actually say, “I want a better grade,” or, “I don’t like living my life this way,” you don’t have any leverage. It’s just the same old thing— everyone telling her what to do. She has to want it for herself before she’ll be motivated to make a change.
Okay? --helps a parent maintain authority while still sharing at least a portion of control. Put on your blue shoes. No. Why not. They are too tight. Well put on the blue ones and then let’s go, okay?
Okay doesn’t mean “You don’t have to do it.” It means “You can choose the consequences if you want to,” which leaves just enough control in the SWC’s hands. You’ll want to remember a couple of very important points here:
• Keep your voice firm and in control. If you seem weak or tentative, the SWC has to fight the urge to destroy you. • You’re not asking your SWC for permission. You’re simply acknowledging he always has a choice—either to obey or to face the consequences.
Every SWC is unique. You need to know your child, and it will take time and effort to figure out what works.