Everyone tells you that you must have a clear vision of where you want to go and who you want to be. Not everyone tells you exactly how – and how not – to get to that vision.
Feeling depressed? All the happiness lessons not working for you. Maybe that is exactly where you should be. Important lessons on how to deal with depression
Discount matrix (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach to th...Manu Melwin Joy
Discounting results in unresolved problems. Thus, if we can devise a systematic way of identifying the nature and intensity of discounting, we will have a powerful tool for problem solving. Such a tool is called discount matrix.
How to discover yourself ! Give yourself some alone time, seek out a passion, and find a mentor. Change your perspective and let go of negative thoughts
Feeling depressed? All the happiness lessons not working for you. Maybe that is exactly where you should be. Important lessons on how to deal with depression
Discount matrix (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach to th...Manu Melwin Joy
Discounting results in unresolved problems. Thus, if we can devise a systematic way of identifying the nature and intensity of discounting, we will have a powerful tool for problem solving. Such a tool is called discount matrix.
How to discover yourself ! Give yourself some alone time, seek out a passion, and find a mentor. Change your perspective and let go of negative thoughts
When faced with the brunt of unexpected change or a life crisis, it is far too easy to fall into the trap of negative thinking; preventing you from moving forward and blinding you to potential opportunities for growth. Inspirational Words of Wisdom for Challenging Times contains hundreds of carefully selected motivational quotes and life lessons that lift the spirit and illustrates the power and value of emotional resilience.
Why read motivational sayings? For motivation! You might need a bit, if you can use last year’s list of goals this year because it’s as good as new. All of us can benefit from inspirational thoughts
Detecting discounts (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach t...Manu Melwin Joy
The discounting, not observable in itself, can be inferred by the person’s showing any of the four passive behavior. There are many other ways of detecting discounts.
Know your power visualization and affirmation exercisesradiantview
This is a personal collection of my favorite visualization techniques and affirmation exercises which I content curated from many amazing teachers such as Shakti Gawain, Wayne Dyer, Caroline Myss, Byron Katie, and some Eastern spiritual teachers.
I will be adding more worksheets for this content curation.
My goal is TO KNOW MYSELF.
Elevate Your Mind Tip# 10: Creative WritingCicely Majeed
Within each of us is a gift of creativity that some people never express for whatever reason (fear, laziness, distrust, lack of self-knowledge). If you ask God for help in unleashing your creative muse you will find a world of imagination and fantasy that you carry inside of you. Instead of self-destructing, committing crimes, starting addictions, or harming someone else, write, and write some more and see what comes out. Let me show you how that elevates your mind.
In this session, you will be learning about Judgements.
By judging ourselves we ignore the endless complexity of a situation. Judgments can be directed inwards to our own feelings and outwards to other people.
Judgement means we focus on only one half of the coin good or bad
How To Stop Being Lazy & Start Kicking Ass!lukaszlokiec
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What's going to happen to your computer when you pull the plug out of the socket? - It will stop working, right?
Most people who think of themselves as lazy are simply not plugged into the success factors that would turn them into an unstoppable machine.
Fortunately, you can always decide to plug in...
Here's how:
These are 15 surefire ways to make you happier at work and at home. These will also help you maintain healthy relationships with your family, friends and acquaintances.
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Using discounting matrix (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative appro...Manu Melwin Joy
Whenever a problem is not being solved, some information relevant to the solution of that problem is being ignored. The discount matrix gives us a systematic way to pinpointing what information is being missed. This in turn provides guidance to the specific actions we need to take to solve the problem.
What To Do When You Feel Hopeless: 5 Easy StepsMichael Lee
When faced with dark times, it’s good to remember that not everything is lost. The important thing is to make yourself feel better. Here's what to do when you feel hopeless.
In this session, you will be learning about Judgements.
By judging ourselves we ignore the endless complexity of a situation. Judgments can be directed inwards to our own feelings and outwards to other people.
Judgement means we focus on only one half of the coin good or bad
When faced with the brunt of unexpected change or a life crisis, it is far too easy to fall into the trap of negative thinking; preventing you from moving forward and blinding you to potential opportunities for growth. Inspirational Words of Wisdom for Challenging Times contains hundreds of carefully selected motivational quotes and life lessons that lift the spirit and illustrates the power and value of emotional resilience.
Why read motivational sayings? For motivation! You might need a bit, if you can use last year’s list of goals this year because it’s as good as new. All of us can benefit from inspirational thoughts
Detecting discounts (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach t...Manu Melwin Joy
The discounting, not observable in itself, can be inferred by the person’s showing any of the four passive behavior. There are many other ways of detecting discounts.
Know your power visualization and affirmation exercisesradiantview
This is a personal collection of my favorite visualization techniques and affirmation exercises which I content curated from many amazing teachers such as Shakti Gawain, Wayne Dyer, Caroline Myss, Byron Katie, and some Eastern spiritual teachers.
I will be adding more worksheets for this content curation.
My goal is TO KNOW MYSELF.
Elevate Your Mind Tip# 10: Creative WritingCicely Majeed
Within each of us is a gift of creativity that some people never express for whatever reason (fear, laziness, distrust, lack of self-knowledge). If you ask God for help in unleashing your creative muse you will find a world of imagination and fantasy that you carry inside of you. Instead of self-destructing, committing crimes, starting addictions, or harming someone else, write, and write some more and see what comes out. Let me show you how that elevates your mind.
In this session, you will be learning about Judgements.
By judging ourselves we ignore the endless complexity of a situation. Judgments can be directed inwards to our own feelings and outwards to other people.
Judgement means we focus on only one half of the coin good or bad
How To Stop Being Lazy & Start Kicking Ass!lukaszlokiec
http://buildingabrandonline.com/livethedream/
What's going to happen to your computer when you pull the plug out of the socket? - It will stop working, right?
Most people who think of themselves as lazy are simply not plugged into the success factors that would turn them into an unstoppable machine.
Fortunately, you can always decide to plug in...
Here's how:
These are 15 surefire ways to make you happier at work and at home. These will also help you maintain healthy relationships with your family, friends and acquaintances.
Know more about QNET by visiting these sites:
http://www.qnet.net
http://www.qnetlife.net
https://twitter.com/QNetOfficial
https://www.youtube.com/user/QNETofficial
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.qnet.estore.android&hl=en
https://www.facebook.com/QNETIndiaOfficial
Using discounting matrix (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative appro...Manu Melwin Joy
Whenever a problem is not being solved, some information relevant to the solution of that problem is being ignored. The discount matrix gives us a systematic way to pinpointing what information is being missed. This in turn provides guidance to the specific actions we need to take to solve the problem.
What To Do When You Feel Hopeless: 5 Easy StepsMichael Lee
When faced with dark times, it’s good to remember that not everything is lost. The important thing is to make yourself feel better. Here's what to do when you feel hopeless.
In this session, you will be learning about Judgements.
By judging ourselves we ignore the endless complexity of a situation. Judgments can be directed inwards to our own feelings and outwards to other people.
Judgement means we focus on only one half of the coin good or bad
“Good Judgment = Experience = Success = Bad Judgment”
I wanted to always write about something which every commoner wants. The above statement is a true reflection what one thinks. This idea of mine is an offshoot of what I have done to reach the goal and what steps I had followed to reach my GOAL.
In this book I have given out ideas which had worked out for me, you can read this book as ―Good Experience‖. Like the movie 3 idiots where we pray to God to show the mercy of our situation, it’s we who should take the upper hand and come out successfully.
How to move on after your break up- The right way! Gaurav Tiwari
Reverend Gaurav Tiwari's short write-up on How to move on after a toxic relationship break up and rejuvenate yourself the right way. Please Share if it helped you.
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Never a failure, always a lesson is an approach that shows you that it never is the end of the road. Everyone fails in life. At one point or another in your existence, you are going to fail. It is inevitable! And although it hurts each time you do, it helps build you up into the person you are today.
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Have you ever been caught in a race that never ends: one in which the big prize at the end is as far out of reach as it is when you started, and the small rewards along the way that might sustain you have gotten to be scarcer and scarcer? Perhaps the big prize no longer seems enticing, or even appropriate, but you’ve been so busy you haven’t even noticed its allure fading.
The topic of introversion has now entered the mainstream. How can I tell? This topic, which I have championed for so many years (full disclosure: I am an introvert), has now appeared in one of my favorite comic strips, and I honestly don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
I hear it over and over again: “I can’t network. I’m an introvert.” “I don’t know what to say.” “I don’t want to brag.” A lot of people don’t like networking, but the bulk of them seem to be introverts.
Social Confidence and “Extrovert Skills”Lynette Crane
“I used my extrovert skills.” “I had to learn some extrovert skills.” “Oh, well, I don’t have extrovert skills.” I hear these phrases all the time – and they drive me crazy.
Holding on to your identity during a transitionLynette Crane
Transitions – in life or in career – are tough. One of the hardest parts is the seeming attack on your identity when you no longer fill a given role, a role you may have played for years, even decades. People who have had to change careers for physical or health reasons, retirees from work to which they have dedicated years of their lives, mothers whose children have grown up and fled the nest, all struggle with this identity crisis.
Time and energy bandits are habits and thought processes that can suck you dry, leaving you exhausted and harried. One of these bandits, which particularly rears its head at the holiday season, is perfectionism.
A friend and I took a lovely paddleboat ride on the Mississippi River one day, past old crumbling brick walls backed by sparkling new skyscrapers, learning a lot of history that we had never heard. The good time almost didn’t happen, due to a careless mistake on my part. That mistake did trigger some thoughts about small stresses in life, which in turn triggered this article.
Can an introvert have an exciting life and surviveLynette Crane
Performers are, surprisingly often, introverts, because performing provides a perfect platform for an introvert. A performance usually involves a structured situation with behavior that is well-rehearsed; furthermore, we can usually perform without those interruptions that force us to freeze or think too quickly, that we encounter in social situations. Many of us even learned that we could pour out our feelings and enthusiasm with a feeling of safety we never found daily life.
The Yin, Yang and Dopamine in RelationshipsLynette Crane
Some people like to linger until the very end of a party; others like to leave early.
Unfortunately, they frequently marry each other.
They may very well have met and been attracted to each other because of these opposite qualities: one represents tranquility, stability, and caution, the other one represents excitement, change, and risk-taking.
January is the time of fresh starts, fresh ideas, and an urge to create a new, better life.Often, we start out with high hopes, only to sink by February 1 as if the balloon carrying our hopes had been punctured.
Hans Selye, known as the “Father of Stress,” coined the term “eustress” in 1926. It means, literally, “good stress.” Is there such a thing? You bet there is.
Is tech stress driving you screaming madLynette Crane
It’s official (in case you hadn’t already noticed): technology is raising our stress level precipitously.
In fact, Mike Kushner, co-owner of a computer solutions company in Palo Alto, California, has paramedics ready to respond to calls from what he calls the “digitally desperate.”
What is life was a multiple choice test?Lynette Crane
If life was a multiple choice test, would you always pick the same answer? “Let’s see, it’s choice B. Guess I’ll go with that all the way.”
At least in a real multiple choice test, you can see all choices – usually four – laid out and you may even ponder them before you mark your choice.
In my last article, “Watch who you share your pain with,” I described several kinds of people who only make your pain worse by saying the wrong things. I call them, collectively, Dementors, familiar to Harry Potter fans as creatures who suck all hope out of you. They may magnify your tiny symptom into sure death, or seemingly provide incontrovertible evidence that your dreams can never succeed.
Are you carrying some introvert baggage?Lynette Crane
The basic definition of an introvert is of someone who is very sensitive to external stimulation and needs to withdraw periodically because our energy is depleted by too much stimulation, whereas an extrovert is someone who goes out and seeks stimulation, often social stimulation, in order to be energized.
Can you go back and change the past, or are you stuck with what you remember? That’s the key: what you remember. The fact is, our brains are stuffed with memories, only some of which we retrieve, convincing ourselves we have a true and complete picture of the past when in fact we have a partial, often negative, picture of our history.
I meet people all the time who don’t really understand virtual learning, and are therefore wary of signing up for anything that is presented in this way.
Do you feel as if you have invisible gnats buzzing around inside and outside of your head? Are you so overwhelmed by possibilities that you start to work on one task, then set it down and switch your attention to another, and then another?
Welcome to the Program Your Destiny course. In this course, we will be learning the technology of personal transformation, neuroassociative conditioning (NAC) as pioneered by Tony Robbins. NAC is used to deprogram negative neuroassociations that are causing approach avoidance and instead reprogram yourself with positive neuroassociations that lead to being approach automatic. In doing so, you change your destiny, moving towards unlocking the hypersocial self within, the true self free from fear and operating from a place of personal power and love.
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In addition to their physical benefits, reborn dolls can also offer emotional support. For many people, having something to care for and nurture can bring a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Reborn dolls can also serve as a reminder of happy memories or loved ones who have passed away.
1. Transforming your year
Everyone tells you that you must have a clear vision of where you want to go and who you want to
be. Not everyone tells you exactly how – and how not – to get to that vision.
For example, suppose you want a life in which you are
well paid and appreciated for your work. You want
warm relationships and the time to pursue them.
But suppose your nagging belief is that it’s simply not
possible. After all, you’ve spent years piling up
evidence to tell you that.
So you sit down, meditate, and envision in exact detail
what you want. You then open your eyes and everything is still the same.
Vision isn’t enough
A fellow coach tells the story of a woman to whom he was talking. She had a serious weight
problem, and he asked her what she was doing to challenge it. She replied that she sat on her sofa
every day for thirty minutes and visualized herself losing weight.
That, of course, was the problem. Vision should be the carrot that draws you forward, taking the
steps necessary to reach that dream. It should not be a dream in which you submerge yourself in
fantasy, waiting for things to happen.
It’s not enough to dream; you must walk the walk.
So you say, “OK, I’ve tried that, and I’m exhausted. I mapped out all the steps, followed them
carefully, and it still didn’t work.” Maybe that was the problem.
Throw away the list
One of the reasons we fall into despair over the seeming impossibility of meeting our vision is that
we believe we have walked the path leading to that vision – perhaps many times – yet we’ve never
reached that Promised Land.
What probably happened was this: you made a list of the logical (to you) steps you needed to take
to get there.
You started to follow those steps. You brushed aside distractions.
At some point, you were blocked, or exhausted, or rejected, or disheartened. You lost your dream.
It’s a little like taking a path that’s edged with a tall, thorny hedge. That hedge gets in the way, and
you can’t even see the fields on either side of the path, fields filled with blooming flowers and
sparkling brooks. All you can see is the rocky path ahead and the thorny hedge walling you in.
Maybe some of those distractions were not actually wrong paths at all, but alternate, pleasanter, and
faster ways to get to where you want to be.
So don’t make that rigid plan. An inspiring vision opens you up to all the possibilities in your
environment that you haven’t seen before.
2. Try this exercise that I like to do with clients: what do you see here?
OPPORTUNITYISNOWHERE
The way in which you break this phrase up into separate words is a strong indication of your current
mindset. What do you see?*
Truly creative people don’t use lists: they pay a lot of attention to their vision and notice everything
in the present that confirms its reality.
Pay attention to your emotions: honor them, and recognize they are just temporary, like sudden
summer storms that appear, rage, and then disappear, leaving a clear sky and sun.
Despair happens to everyone, every now and then. The problem is, when it hits, we picture
ourselves sunk in a never-ending sea of despair. It’s such a heavy feeling that it forces us to sit
down and stop working in order to support it.
Pay attention to when despair hits: for me, it’s about 4 p.m. and I have learned that my energy level
is simply low at that hour, so I turn temporarily away from doing anything productive to reach my
dream.
Here are two despair-chasing phrases I use all the time:
There is a solution. I just can’t see it right now.
and
I can’t handle this right now. I’ll worry about it tomorrow.
Angry at feeling rejected or blocked? Use your anger as energy; turn it into determination to
succeed, then look around you for another path that isn’t blocked.
Unload the baggage, those memories of past setbacks, and load your mind with warm, successful
memories. Collect every scrap of evidence you can that records your progress through life – skills
mastered, certificates gained, warm notes telling you how important you are to others, and go over
them every night just before bedtime.
It’s really all about getting out of your own way.
I hope you love these quotes from Tut, The Universe, as much as I do:
“Rarely are the first steps in a journey anything like the final ones, either in direction, pace, or
grace.“
“Simply stand aside, let spirit emerge, have no doubt, and your wings will appear.”
* “Opportunity is nowhere” or “Opportunity is now here”
Lynette Crane is a Minneapolis-based speaker, writer, and coach. She has more than 30 years'
experience in the field of stress and time management and personal growth. Her latest book is The
Confident Introvert, written to help introverts overcome the stress of living in a culture that
idealizes extroversion, so that they can thrive, and not just survive.Visit her website at
http://www.creativelifechanges.com/ to see more in-depth articles and to view her programs.