This document discusses finding God within oneself through spiritual practices like reducing media consumption, living a moral life through confession and asceticism, having a profound Eucharistic life, encountering God as father through providing for one's family and keeping evil out of the home and heart, and living as the divine bridegroom through sacrificial love for one's spouse. It provides steps to build a spiritual plan of life focused on these practices and evaluates the reader's adherence to these teachings through 10 questions.

1. S E S S I O N 8
Find God in Yourself

2. We wish to “increase in wisdom and in stature and
in favor with God and man.”
(Luke 2:52)
We need to follow Christ in his journey to
Nazareth.

3. Nazareth and the Spiritual Life
1. Give away your body.
2. Give away your goods.
3. Give away your time.
4. Receiving illumination
from God.
5. Union with God in self.
6. Union with God through
others.
7. Ultimate union with God.
1. Honor your wedding vows.
2. Use money for others.
3. Give God some of your time.
4. Set your mind on the things
above.
5. Find God in yourself.
6. Find God in other people.
7. Make it easy to be good and
hard to be bad.
7 Steps of That Man is You! 3 Stages of the Spiritual Life
Purgative
Stage
Illuminative
Stage
Unitive
Stage

4. Developing the Spirit of Nazareth
1. 7 Steps: Find God in Yourself.
2. Character: John Pridmore.
3. Spiritual Issue: Human limitations and failings.
4. State of TMIY men: Taking first steps.
5. Spiritual Remedy: Eucharist.
6. Path to Success: Become “rich in mercy.”
7. Suggested Examine: 10 questions on moral life
and merciful disposition.

5. This week, we make another major transition in
the spiritual life.
We are called to enter into the unitive way.
We are fortunate that God is merciful.

6. Entry into the Unitive Way
“If a man loves me, he will keep
my word, and my Father will love
him, and we will come to him and
make our home with him.”
John 14:23

7. The Story of John Pridmore
• Born in 1964 in London.
• Age 11: After his parents divorce, made the
unconscious decision to no longer love.
• Age 14: Started stealing.
• Age 15: Placed in a youth detention center.
• Age 19: Placed in an adult prison.
• Age 20: Entered London’s underworld, working
as an enforcer in the mafia and dealing drugs.
• Age 27: Left a man for dead outside a pub.
• Age 44: Spoke to 400,000 youth at World Youth
Day in Sydney, Australia.Source: Pridmore, J., “Gangland to Promised Land – One
Man’s Journey from the Criminal Underworld to Christ,”
Lighthouse Catholic Media, Sycamore, IL, 2011.

8. The Descent of John Pridmore
• When his parents get a divorce, they ask John to
choose which one he wants to live with.
• He can’t choose. He loves them both.
• He unconsciously decides to never love again.
It’s too painful.
• By mid 20’s, he lives a life of rage.
• He’s going to collect a debt with instructions to
hurt someone very badly if he doesn’t pay.
• Meets a young boy on a lift: “Jesus loves you.”
• “I’m glad someone does.”Source: Pridmore, J., “Gangland to Promised Land – One
Man’s Journey from the Criminal Underworld to Christ,”
Lighthouse Catholic Media, Sycamore, IL, 2011.

9. The Conversion of John Pridmore
• Leaves a man for dead outside a London pub
and is hiding from police.
• Mother: “I’ve prayed for you every day of your
life. But two weeks ago … I prayed to Jesus to
take you. If it meant you dying, then to let you
die, but not to let you hurt yourself or anyone
else any more.”
• Hears a voice telling him every sin he has done.
• Feels as if he is sinking into hell.
• Cries out: “Give me one more chance.”
• Opens Bible and reads the story of the Prodigal
Son. Breaks down crying and is converted.
Source: Pridmore, J., “Gangland to Promised Land – One
Man’s Journey from the Criminal Underworld to Christ,”
Lighthouse Catholic Media, Sycamore, IL, 2011.

10. There’s good news!
You guys are in much better shape than the
average mafia enforcer!
If he attained reconciliation with God, so can you.

11. Two Competing Realities
• The four living creatures … day and night they
never cease to sing, ‘Holy, holy, holy, is the Lord
God Almighty, who was and is and is to come’”
(Revelation 4:8).
• “Nothing unclean shall enter it, nor any one who
practices abomination or falsehood” (Revelation
21:27).
• “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”
(Romans 3:23).

12. TMIY Men and the Moral Life
• Sex: Approximately 70 percent of
TMIY men view pornography; 30
percent have cheated on their spouse.
• Anger: Over 60 percent of TMIY men
have raised their voice in anger at
their wife and children.
• Theft: One-third of TMIY men have
stolen something.
• Drugs: Just under one-fifth of TMIY
men have used illicit drugs or abused
prescription drugs.
Percentage
Source: TMIY Internal Data.
Porn Anger
Family
0
20
40
60
Theft Drugs
80
61.4
69.7
17.9
31.2

13. Even in our fallen state, we can all hope for union
with God. Indeed, he gave us the perfect means.
“He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides
in me, and I in him.”
(John 6:56)

14. The Eucharistic Miracle of Lanciano
• 8th Century Lanciano, Italy
• Priest – doubting the Real Presence – had just said
the words of consecration.
• Host turned into Flesh and Wine turned into Blood.
• Sacred Species maintained ever since.
• Scientific experiments in 1971 and 1981.
• Flesh is human flesh from the heart.
• Blood is human blood. Proteins in blood are from
“fresh” human blood.
• Blood type for both is AB.
• Blood type matches that of the Shroud of Turin.
Source: Real Presence Eucharistic Education and
Adoration Association, Inc., “The Eucharistic Miracles
of the World,” Eternal Life, KY, 2009, pp. 122-125.
Cruz, J., “Eucharistic Miracles,” Tan Books and
Publishers, IL, 1987, pp. 3-18.

15. “I cannot express to you what is taking place in me
at present … I devote myself exclusively to
remaining always in his holy presence. I keep
myself in his presence by simple attentiveness and
a general loving awareness of God that I call ‘actual
presence of God’ or better, a quiet and secret
conversation of the soul with God that is lasting.”
Brother Lawrence
The Practice of the Presence of God

16. God dwells within you! He wants to live his divine
life in and through you.
It is the life of Father.
It is the life of the Divine Bridegroom.

17. The Life of Father
1. Source of Life
• “As the Father has life in himself, so he has granted the
Son also to have life in himself” (John 5:25).
2. Holiness – evil remains on outside the home:
• “Nothing unclean shall enter it, nor any one who practices
abomination or falsehood” (Revelation 21:27).
3. Superabundant Joy:
• “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes … neither
shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain any more”
(Revelation 21:4).
“Men relive and reveal on earth the very fatherhood of
God” (Cf. St. John Paul II, Familiaris Consortio, #25).

18. The Life of the Divine Bridegroom
• Jesus is the divine bridegroom.
• “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the
Church and gave himself up for her, that he
might sanctify her … that he might present the
church to himself in splendor, without spot or
wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy
and without blemish” (Ephesians 5:25-27).
• We are called to offer ourselves in sacrifice for
the purity of our spouses in small ways
throughout the day.
• We are called to make sacrifice when she is
“least worthy.”

19. We are called to find God dwelling within
ourselves.
It will relate to the life we live.
There are five major steps.

20. Building a Spiritual Plan of Life
1. Substantially reduce media consumption.
• Avoid all content contrary to the faith or
morals of the Church.
• Reduce morally neutral content since it takes
time from spiritual pursuits.
2. Live the moral life more profoundly.
• Embrace ascetical practices as necessary.
• Avoid all serious sin.
• Go to confession once per month.
3. Live a more profound Eucharistic life.
• Receive the Eucharist as frequently as
possible.
• Practice the Presence of God.

21. Building a Spiritual Plan of Life
4. Encounter God the Father in your fatherhood
• Be a source of life for your family, which
includes providing for them.
• Battle evil – keep it out of your heart and home.
• Fill your home with joy – have fun!
• Be “rich in mercy” (Cf. Ephesians 2:4).
5. Live the life of the Divine Bridegroom
• Love your wife enough to lay down your life for
her.
• Live a sacrificial life in small things every day.
• Be willing to make a sacrifice for her whenever
she is “least worthy.”

22. Developing the Spirit of Nazareth
1. The Way of Love
• Develop a preferential desire to be with your family.
• Make sure professional/social activities are in harmony
with your desire to be present to your family.
• Have a sacrificial disposition in small things every day.
2. Battling Evil
• Work to keep all evil outside your heart and home.
• When there is tension be the first to seek reconciliation.
3. Finding Superabundant Joy
• Have fun with your family as your preferred entertainment.
• “Let your children run, jump and make as much noise as
they like, so long as they don’t sin” (St. John Bosco).

23. Evaluation on Finding God in Self
1. Do I consume media with content contrary to the faith and morals of the Church?
2. Do I use illicit drugs or misuse prescription drugs?
3. Do I drink alcohol in a way that causes problems for me or my family?
4. Do I respect the body by getting sufficient sleep, eating a healthy diet and regular
exercise?
5. Have I had a vasectomy or my wife a tubal ligation?
6. Do I actively seek to keep evil outside my home – beginning with my own
electronic equipment?
7. Do I receive the Eucharist more frequently than Sunday?
8. Do I sacrifice my own pursuits to spend more time with my wife and children?
9. Do I make a sacrifice for the purity of my wife at least weekly?
10.Do I explicitly help my wife and children live a more devout Christian life?

24. Next Week
Find God in Other People
Small Group Discussion
Starter Questions
1. Where do you need to remove evil from your
heart and from your home?
2. What sacrifice do you need to make to be a
better husband and father?