ATTITUDE BUILDING
By
Dr. Seema Shah
Quora, FB, Linkedin; 4.seema@gmail.com
Slides courtesy: Internet
LEARNING ABOUT EACH OTHER
2
Who am I?
 This talk is based on
 Workshops and
sessions in STTPs,
college,
 Publication in
conferences and
journals
 discussions with
academicians
 some experimentation.
 Who are You?
 Background
 Qualification
 Experience
 Pre requisite
3
BEFORE WE BEGIN……..
4
Agenda
 Importance of Attitude
 Benefits of positive
attitude
 Consequences o
negative attitude
 Steps for building
positive attitude
You can at any time in
the session:
 Interrupt
 Comment
 Share
Your expectations from the program?
ATTITUDE BUILDINGATTITUDE IS
EVERYTHING.FLV
6
Attitude is Everything.
IT IMPACTS
EVERYTHING
YOU DO.
7
FOR ME, ATTITUDE CAN BE DEFINED AS ONE
WORD…LIFE.
• It makes an incredible difference in your LIFE.
• It can be a powerful tool for positive action.
• It can be a poison that cripples you.
• It dictates whether you’re living life or life’s living you.
• It determines whether you’re…
ON THE WAY or IN THE WAY.
WHAT IS ATTITUDE?
 Attitude is a state of mind
 Your attitude is your mind-set
 It is the way you look at things mentally
 Attitudes are evaluative statements
 It expresses individuals positive or negative feeling
about the same object.
 Can attitude be learnt?
 Is attitude contagious?
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 How do you recognize attitude?
 What are things in your control/ not in your control
which affect your attitude?
 Impact of negative attitude.
 Let us brainstorm and list some killer statements
which indicate negativity. How do you feel when
you are on the receiving end?
 Benefits of positive attitude.
 Who controls your attitude? 9
NEGATIVE ATTITUDE TRAITS
 ANGRY
 NEGATIVE BODY LANGUAGE,
 DEFENSIVE,
 CONFRONTING OTHERS, WORDS THEY USE,
 CAN’T ADMIT MISTAKES, WON’T FORGIVE,
 JEALOUSY,
 CRITICAL OF EVERYTHING & EVERYONE,
 ANTI EVERYTHING,
 MISTRUSTFUL,
 UNCOOPERATIVE,
 PROBLEM ORIENTED,
 HOSTILE TO HAPPINESS 10
IMPORTANT CHARACTERISTIC OF
ATTITUDE
 Attitudes affect behaviour
 Attitudes are invisible
 Attitudes are acquired
 Attitudes are pervasive
 Attitudes & Belief
 Attitudes & Values
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EGA
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BRAINSTORM ACTIVITY
 I feel I have a ……………… attitude because
…………….
 I like being with people who have a
……………………. Attitude because
…………………..
 One thing I like about my friend is
……………………………………………………
 If I could teach my friend one thing it would be
…………………………………..
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 “You can make yourself
happy or make yourself
miserable, the amount
of work is the same.” –
Don Juan
15
Your attitude reflects YOU.
Focus on the POSITIVE.
Your Setbacks can be Setups for
even greater opportunities.
Be committed to change!
16
 List some negative assumptions.
 Transform them into positive assumptions.
 Attitude buildingDale Carnegie - Top 10 Quotes.flv
17
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Your choices TODAY impact your
successes TOMORROW.
Happiness is Your’s to create.
Build your attitude from the INSIDE out.
Watch what you say to yourself.
19
“Ability is what you are
capable of doing.
Motivation determines what
you do.
Attitude determines how well
you do it.”
– Lou Holtz
20
The BAGGAGE you carry shapes your
attitude. “IF-only?”; “What-now?”;
“What-if?” The root causes of bad
attitude are-Low Self Esteem, Stress,
Fear, Resentment, Anger.
Toss the BAGGAGE and lighten the
load.
21
Change your attitude with a change in
PERSPECTIVE. Give yourself permission
to love and forgive.
See Failure as an Event.
Don’t Take it Personally.
WORD SEARCH GAME
In groups, having following attitude:
 All positive
 All negative
 More positive, few negative
 More negative, few positive
 Observers and participants will discuss the
reactions and responses.
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“FAILURES” WHO MADE IT BIG...
• Harrison Ford was told early in his career by a studio exec
that he’d never make it as a leading man...he didn’t have
“it.”
• In high school, Michael Jordan was cut from the basketball
team.
• Thomas Edison failed 6000 times before the light bulb.
• Charles Schwab was dyslexic and almost flunked out of
Stanford after failing English twice.
• Vanessa Williams was de-crowned Miss. America and has
become a an award-winning African-American actress.
Every failure, obstacle or hardship is an
opportunity in disguise. Success in many
cases is failure turned inside out.
Eliminate the negative attitude and believe
you can do anything. Replace 'if I can, I
hope, maybe' with 'I can, I will, I must.”
Mary Kay Ash
Founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics empire
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HOW DO YOU RESPOND TO FAILURE?
I’m such an IDIOT!
I’ll never try THAT
again!
What can I learn
from this
experience?
OR
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ACTIVITY
 Positive sharing
 How do you like some one praising/ appreciating
you?
 Could you also appreciate your friends?
 Attitude buildingMotivational video Change your
mind in just 2.50 mins .mp4
28
EIGHT ACTION STEPS TO BUILD
POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
VIII. Start your day with a positive attitude.
I. Change focus, look for the positive.
II. Make it a habit of doing it now.
III. Develop an attitude of gratitude.
IV. Get into a continuous education programme.
V. Build a positive self-esteem.
VI. Stay away from negative influences.
VII. Learn to like the needs that need to be done.
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•Your attitude is YOUR responsibility… Start managing your emotions.
•Change your perspective.
•YOU determine the value of YOUR life experiences.
Life is 10% what happens to YOU and
90% how YOU respond to it.
31
You must have VISIONS, GOALS and PLANS to turn attitude into
action.
Lack of VISION will make you lose.
Develop a complete GAME PLAN.
32
BE PREPARED to take action BEFORE a situation
occurs. Victory lies on the other side of each
challenge…
KEEP THE FAITH.
Attitude buildingPositive Attitude is Everything - Very Funny Attitude
Video - Inspirational.flv
33
Self-coach through AFFIRMATIONS.
I AM somebody. Yes, I CAN.
Visualize SUCCESS.
34
•Count your blessings daily.
•Get proper rest and exercise.
•Set aside personal time with family and close friends.
•Help someone less fortunate.
•Read and listen to motivational books and tapes.
•Motivation is not permanent.
•Reflect on your victories – things you’ve forgotten that
were special.
•Create an upbeat, positive greeting.
Motivation…
MIRROR ACTIVITY
1. Leaning forward in chair
2. Leaning back in chair, arms folded
3. Resting chin in both hands
4. Resting chin on your knuckles
5. Yawning
6. Smiling
7. Frowning
8. Smiling and nodding
9. Rubbing your temples
10. Glancing at watch
11. Looking around the room
12. Tapping fingers on the table
Discuss your reactions.
35
HANDOUT
 How powerful is nonverbal communication?
 Do we all interpret nonverbal messages in the
same way? Why or why not? What is the “correct”
interpretation?
 What are some things we can keep in mind
regarding the messages we send nonverbally?
 What are some nonverbal signals we may use in
times of conflict that adversely affect resolution?
 What are some nonverbal signals that would
indicate a willingness to work toward resolution and
collaboration?
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Hang Around Positive People
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Build Your OWN “A – Team”
Network with like-minded
individuals…shared values are the
foundation.
Use your Partnerships!
39
Our tools will help YOU create
REAL SYNERGIES
REAL PARTNERSHIPS
REAL
ATTITUDES!
ACTIVITY
 Write a positive happiness message for each of
your friend in a group
 What is your reaction when you get this happiness
message?
 Make a new friend.
 Attitude buildingMotivational - Rebirth of an
Eagle.mp4 40
41
Embrace change…it’s inevitable.
Develop a “Whatever-It-Takes” attitude.
Take your time…change doesn’t happen overnight.
Keep your long-term goals in mind.
Brainstorm: What is the one thing you can change in
yourself?
42
No matter what you do in life, if you have a
positive attitude,
you’ll always be100%
43
A = 1
T = 20
T = 20
I = 9
T = 20
U = 21
D = 4
E = 5
ATTITUDE = 100
ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!
44
Make a difference in the life of
someone else and be self-fulfilled.
We can all find the time to GIVE BACK.
Attitude buildingHarsha Bhogle_ Attitude is more important than
talent.flv
UNLESS YOU ARE ON CONSTANT GUARD NEGATIVES
CAN SLIP IN TO YOUR MIND WHICH MAKE YOUR MIND
TIME SPEND ON DIFFICULTIES RATHER THAN ON
OPPORTUNITIES
45
IF NEGATIVE FACTORS STAY AROUND FOR A LONG
TIME THEY WILL BE REFLECTED IN YOUR DISPOSITION
THE POSITIVE MAY BE STILL THERE BUT MAY BE
OVERSHADOWED BY THE NEGATIVE
46
HAVING A (+) IMPACT ON (-) PEOPLE
47
 BE A POSITIVE
EXAMPLE
 LISTEN BUT SET
LIMITS
 HELP THEM DIAGNOSE
IT
 FOCUS ON BEHAVIOR
 APPROPRIATE USE OF
PRAISE
 ENCOURAGE THEM
 HELP THEM SET
GOALS
 DEPERSONALIZE
MISTAKES
 HELP THEM BE
SUCCESSFUL
 COACH OR MENTOR
THEM
 DIRECT TO PROBLEM
SOLVING
 USE “I” STATEMENTS
 APPEAL TO THEIR
PRIDE
 GIVE THEM MORE
RESPONSIBILITY
AIDS TO COMMUNICATION
 Listen Actively
 Relax
 Observe body
language
 Develop interest in
others interests
 Ask for clarification
 Plan what you are
going to say
 Tailor words to
person
 Determine the best
timing
 Determine the best
place
 Why is the
conversation
necessary
48
 Which is the one single quote you can think of to
convince your friend to become positive?
 How do I create a positive environment around me?
In what ways can I make my friends feel positive?
 What is the best gift I can give my parents after
completing my education?
 What quotes can keep you going on the path to
success by ensuring that you continue to be
motivated and positive to achieve your goals?
 What is the first step to achieve success? 49
SUMMARY AND ACTION PLAN
 What is the five important things that I have learnt
today?
 What are the two things I am going to do to change
my attitude?
 In what two ways can I help my friend to keep up a
positive attitude?
50
THANK YOU
For your time
For participation in the session
For being a learner
For the work you do everyday!!!!!!!
Contact:
Quora, FB, Linkedin
4.seema@gmail.com

Attitude building

  • 1.
    ATTITUDE BUILDING By Dr. SeemaShah Quora, FB, Linkedin; 4.seema@gmail.com Slides courtesy: Internet
  • 2.
    LEARNING ABOUT EACHOTHER 2 Who am I?  This talk is based on  Workshops and sessions in STTPs, college,  Publication in conferences and journals  discussions with academicians  some experimentation.  Who are You?  Background  Qualification  Experience  Pre requisite
  • 3.
  • 4.
    BEFORE WE BEGIN…….. 4 Agenda Importance of Attitude  Benefits of positive attitude  Consequences o negative attitude  Steps for building positive attitude You can at any time in the session:  Interrupt  Comment  Share Your expectations from the program?
  • 5.
  • 6.
    6 Attitude is Everything. ITIMPACTS EVERYTHING YOU DO.
  • 7.
    7 FOR ME, ATTITUDECAN BE DEFINED AS ONE WORD…LIFE. • It makes an incredible difference in your LIFE. • It can be a powerful tool for positive action. • It can be a poison that cripples you. • It dictates whether you’re living life or life’s living you. • It determines whether you’re… ON THE WAY or IN THE WAY.
  • 8.
    WHAT IS ATTITUDE? Attitude is a state of mind  Your attitude is your mind-set  It is the way you look at things mentally  Attitudes are evaluative statements  It expresses individuals positive or negative feeling about the same object.  Can attitude be learnt?  Is attitude contagious? 8
  • 9.
     How doyou recognize attitude?  What are things in your control/ not in your control which affect your attitude?  Impact of negative attitude.  Let us brainstorm and list some killer statements which indicate negativity. How do you feel when you are on the receiving end?  Benefits of positive attitude.  Who controls your attitude? 9
  • 10.
    NEGATIVE ATTITUDE TRAITS ANGRY  NEGATIVE BODY LANGUAGE,  DEFENSIVE,  CONFRONTING OTHERS, WORDS THEY USE,  CAN’T ADMIT MISTAKES, WON’T FORGIVE,  JEALOUSY,  CRITICAL OF EVERYTHING & EVERYONE,  ANTI EVERYTHING,  MISTRUSTFUL,  UNCOOPERATIVE,  PROBLEM ORIENTED,  HOSTILE TO HAPPINESS 10
  • 11.
    IMPORTANT CHARACTERISTIC OF ATTITUDE Attitudes affect behaviour  Attitudes are invisible  Attitudes are acquired  Attitudes are pervasive  Attitudes & Belief  Attitudes & Values 11
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    BRAINSTORM ACTIVITY  Ifeel I have a ……………… attitude because …………….  I like being with people who have a ……………………. Attitude because …………………..  One thing I like about my friend is ……………………………………………………  If I could teach my friend one thing it would be ………………………………….. 13
  • 14.
    14  “You canmake yourself happy or make yourself miserable, the amount of work is the same.” – Don Juan
  • 15.
    15 Your attitude reflectsYOU. Focus on the POSITIVE. Your Setbacks can be Setups for even greater opportunities. Be committed to change!
  • 16.
  • 17.
     List somenegative assumptions.  Transform them into positive assumptions.  Attitude buildingDale Carnegie - Top 10 Quotes.flv 17
  • 18.
    18 Your choices TODAYimpact your successes TOMORROW. Happiness is Your’s to create. Build your attitude from the INSIDE out. Watch what you say to yourself.
  • 19.
    19 “Ability is whatyou are capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” – Lou Holtz
  • 20.
    20 The BAGGAGE youcarry shapes your attitude. “IF-only?”; “What-now?”; “What-if?” The root causes of bad attitude are-Low Self Esteem, Stress, Fear, Resentment, Anger. Toss the BAGGAGE and lighten the load.
  • 21.
    21 Change your attitudewith a change in PERSPECTIVE. Give yourself permission to love and forgive. See Failure as an Event. Don’t Take it Personally.
  • 22.
    WORD SEARCH GAME Ingroups, having following attitude:  All positive  All negative  More positive, few negative  More negative, few positive  Observers and participants will discuss the reactions and responses. 22
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    24 “FAILURES” WHO MADEIT BIG... • Harrison Ford was told early in his career by a studio exec that he’d never make it as a leading man...he didn’t have “it.” • In high school, Michael Jordan was cut from the basketball team. • Thomas Edison failed 6000 times before the light bulb. • Charles Schwab was dyslexic and almost flunked out of Stanford after failing English twice. • Vanessa Williams was de-crowned Miss. America and has become a an award-winning African-American actress.
  • 25.
    Every failure, obstacleor hardship is an opportunity in disguise. Success in many cases is failure turned inside out. Eliminate the negative attitude and believe you can do anything. Replace 'if I can, I hope, maybe' with 'I can, I will, I must.” Mary Kay Ash Founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics empire 25
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  • 27.
    HOW DO YOURESPOND TO FAILURE? I’m such an IDIOT! I’ll never try THAT again! What can I learn from this experience? OR 27
  • 28.
    ACTIVITY  Positive sharing How do you like some one praising/ appreciating you?  Could you also appreciate your friends?  Attitude buildingMotivational video Change your mind in just 2.50 mins .mp4 28
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    EIGHT ACTION STEPSTO BUILD POSITIVE ATTITUDE. VIII. Start your day with a positive attitude. I. Change focus, look for the positive. II. Make it a habit of doing it now. III. Develop an attitude of gratitude. IV. Get into a continuous education programme. V. Build a positive self-esteem. VI. Stay away from negative influences. VII. Learn to like the needs that need to be done. 29
  • 30.
    30 •Your attitude isYOUR responsibility… Start managing your emotions. •Change your perspective. •YOU determine the value of YOUR life experiences. Life is 10% what happens to YOU and 90% how YOU respond to it.
  • 31.
    31 You must haveVISIONS, GOALS and PLANS to turn attitude into action. Lack of VISION will make you lose. Develop a complete GAME PLAN.
  • 32.
    32 BE PREPARED totake action BEFORE a situation occurs. Victory lies on the other side of each challenge… KEEP THE FAITH. Attitude buildingPositive Attitude is Everything - Very Funny Attitude Video - Inspirational.flv
  • 33.
    33 Self-coach through AFFIRMATIONS. IAM somebody. Yes, I CAN. Visualize SUCCESS.
  • 34.
    34 •Count your blessingsdaily. •Get proper rest and exercise. •Set aside personal time with family and close friends. •Help someone less fortunate. •Read and listen to motivational books and tapes. •Motivation is not permanent. •Reflect on your victories – things you’ve forgotten that were special. •Create an upbeat, positive greeting. Motivation…
  • 35.
    MIRROR ACTIVITY 1. Leaningforward in chair 2. Leaning back in chair, arms folded 3. Resting chin in both hands 4. Resting chin on your knuckles 5. Yawning 6. Smiling 7. Frowning 8. Smiling and nodding 9. Rubbing your temples 10. Glancing at watch 11. Looking around the room 12. Tapping fingers on the table Discuss your reactions. 35
  • 36.
    HANDOUT  How powerfulis nonverbal communication?  Do we all interpret nonverbal messages in the same way? Why or why not? What is the “correct” interpretation?  What are some things we can keep in mind regarding the messages we send nonverbally?  What are some nonverbal signals we may use in times of conflict that adversely affect resolution?  What are some nonverbal signals that would indicate a willingness to work toward resolution and collaboration? 36
  • 37.
  • 38.
    38 Build Your OWN“A – Team” Network with like-minded individuals…shared values are the foundation. Use your Partnerships!
  • 39.
    39 Our tools willhelp YOU create REAL SYNERGIES REAL PARTNERSHIPS REAL ATTITUDES!
  • 40.
    ACTIVITY  Write apositive happiness message for each of your friend in a group  What is your reaction when you get this happiness message?  Make a new friend.  Attitude buildingMotivational - Rebirth of an Eagle.mp4 40
  • 41.
    41 Embrace change…it’s inevitable. Developa “Whatever-It-Takes” attitude. Take your time…change doesn’t happen overnight. Keep your long-term goals in mind. Brainstorm: What is the one thing you can change in yourself?
  • 42.
    42 No matter whatyou do in life, if you have a positive attitude, you’ll always be100%
  • 43.
    43 A = 1 T= 20 T = 20 I = 9 T = 20 U = 21 D = 4 E = 5 ATTITUDE = 100 ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!
  • 44.
    44 Make a differencein the life of someone else and be self-fulfilled. We can all find the time to GIVE BACK. Attitude buildingHarsha Bhogle_ Attitude is more important than talent.flv
  • 45.
    UNLESS YOU AREON CONSTANT GUARD NEGATIVES CAN SLIP IN TO YOUR MIND WHICH MAKE YOUR MIND TIME SPEND ON DIFFICULTIES RATHER THAN ON OPPORTUNITIES 45
  • 46.
    IF NEGATIVE FACTORSSTAY AROUND FOR A LONG TIME THEY WILL BE REFLECTED IN YOUR DISPOSITION THE POSITIVE MAY BE STILL THERE BUT MAY BE OVERSHADOWED BY THE NEGATIVE 46
  • 47.
    HAVING A (+)IMPACT ON (-) PEOPLE 47  BE A POSITIVE EXAMPLE  LISTEN BUT SET LIMITS  HELP THEM DIAGNOSE IT  FOCUS ON BEHAVIOR  APPROPRIATE USE OF PRAISE  ENCOURAGE THEM  HELP THEM SET GOALS  DEPERSONALIZE MISTAKES  HELP THEM BE SUCCESSFUL  COACH OR MENTOR THEM  DIRECT TO PROBLEM SOLVING  USE “I” STATEMENTS  APPEAL TO THEIR PRIDE  GIVE THEM MORE RESPONSIBILITY
  • 48.
    AIDS TO COMMUNICATION Listen Actively  Relax  Observe body language  Develop interest in others interests  Ask for clarification  Plan what you are going to say  Tailor words to person  Determine the best timing  Determine the best place  Why is the conversation necessary 48
  • 49.
     Which isthe one single quote you can think of to convince your friend to become positive?  How do I create a positive environment around me? In what ways can I make my friends feel positive?  What is the best gift I can give my parents after completing my education?  What quotes can keep you going on the path to success by ensuring that you continue to be motivated and positive to achieve your goals?  What is the first step to achieve success? 49
  • 50.
    SUMMARY AND ACTIONPLAN  What is the five important things that I have learnt today?  What are the two things I am going to do to change my attitude?  In what two ways can I help my friend to keep up a positive attitude? 50
  • 51.
    THANK YOU For yourtime For participation in the session For being a learner For the work you do everyday!!!!!!! Contact: Quora, FB, Linkedin 4.seema@gmail.com