It all begins with self-love. The first place to perform self-love is choosing the voice we have in our heads; is it a loving and empowering voice or a negative one. By choosing incantations and affirmations for the beliefs we want to have, we choose that loving voice. For example, Susan Jeffers PhD affirmation: "I am powerful and I am loving, I am powerful and I am loved, I am powerful and I love it" This is how you engage in what is referred to as positive self talk. Positive self talk aids in integrating the mind and body to enjoy a neuro-physiological integration. This neuro-physiological integration creates a resourceful state which allows the person to take proactive resourceful actions to deal with challenges and opportunities.