This document provides tips for succeeding at being yourself through self-esteem building. It recommends seeking to know yourself by focusing on strengths rather than negatives. It also suggests understanding how to make good choices, communicating effectively through listening and speaking positively, and changing negative thoughts to positive ones. Further tips include esteem building through daily affirmations and good habits, seeing responsibilities by not making excuses, and setting and reaching goals through hard work and learning from mistakes.

1. HOW TO
SUCCEED
AT BEING
YOURSELF
Created for I M CONFIDENT NIAGARA CANADA
By Brenda Silveira

2. HOW TO SUCCEED
Seek to know yourself
Understand how to choose well
Communicate effectively
Change negatives to positives
Esteem building
See your responsibilities
Set and reach your goals

3. SEEK TO KNOW YOURSELF
Discover your strengths and
abilities…..
• Do you focus on the negatives
or positives?
• Do you dwell on past issues or
future problems?
• Do you accept yourself?

4. UNDERSTAND HOW TO
CHOOSE WELL
• Take time to consider your
choices
• Choose to do the right thing
even if it is hard
• Never compromise

5. COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY
• Listen with empathy
• Think before you speak
• Use your words carefully
• Be aware of your body
language
• Say something positive
• Be encouraging and
supportive

6. CHANGE NEGATIVES TO
POSITIVES
• Do you listen to your words?
• Are your thoughts negative
or positive?
• Stop your negative thoughts
and think positive thoughts
• Be careful what you say

7. ESTEEM YOURSELF
• Be confident in your abilities
• Say daily affirmations
• Compliment yourself
• Create good habits and break
bad habits
• Accept yourself
• Don’t compare yourself to
others

8. SEE YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
• Stop making excuses
• Don’t blame others
• Take responsibility for your
actions
• Think about the
consequences
• Help others
• Be a good role model

9. SET AND REACH YOUR GOALS
• Make realistic goals
• Work hard to achieve your
goals
• Accept failure
• Learn from your mistakes
• Never give up

10. SUCCESS
To laugh often and much,
To win the respect of intelligent people and the
affection of children,
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and
endure the betrayal of false friends,
To appreciate beauty,
To find the best in others,
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy
child, a garden patch or a redeemed social
condition,
To know even one life has breathed easier because
you have lived.
This is to have succeeded. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

11. The Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-
Esteem Workbook will help you
get started on your journey to find
success.
Building esteem is the key to
becoming successful. Good
esteem empowers you to move
ahead in life and reach your goals.
The workbook contains 84 pages of
information and activities. Order
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information on ordering.