Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, Founder and Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex, presents a slideshow on Sexual Gridlock between partners.
Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, Founder and Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex, presents a slideshow on Erotic Intelligence, based on her book Erotic Intelligence: Having Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction
Alex Katehakis - Center for Healthy Sex - Erotic Intelligence for Recovering ...Center for Healthy Sex
Based on her book Erotic Intelligence: Igniting hot, healthy sex while in recovery from sex addiction, Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, walks women through a presentation to help them hone their inner Erotic Intelligence.
This presentation introduces basic concepts of intimacy in a relationship. Although the points here can apply to romantic relationships, they also work for friendships as well. Intimacy is defined and explained and points are punctuated with clips from popular movies.
This part explains how to maintain healthy intimate relationships based on the principles outlined in the book "The 7 Levels of Intimacy" by Matthew Kelly.
Journeying with Students into Healthy Relationships & SexualityMatthew Martin
WHO: youth pastors, youth workers, and campus leaders
WHAT: We'll will explore why and how teens and young adults are struggling with relationships and sexuality, and how as leaders we can journey with them towards greater wholeness and godliness.
TOPICS
• How and why teens struggle emotionally, relationally and sexually
• What's required for healthy relationships and sexuality?
• Addictive behaviour and relationships, strategies for pursuing health and freedom
• Understanding sexual identity and how to help same-sex attracted teens
• Making your youth group a safer place for hurting teens
• The River: components of a curriculum for Christ-centred healing and wholeness
Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, Founder and Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex, presents a slideshow on Erotic Intelligence, based on her book Erotic Intelligence: Having Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction
Alex Katehakis - Center for Healthy Sex - Erotic Intelligence for Recovering ...Center for Healthy Sex
Based on her book Erotic Intelligence: Igniting hot, healthy sex while in recovery from sex addiction, Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, walks women through a presentation to help them hone their inner Erotic Intelligence.
This presentation introduces basic concepts of intimacy in a relationship. Although the points here can apply to romantic relationships, they also work for friendships as well. Intimacy is defined and explained and points are punctuated with clips from popular movies.
This part explains how to maintain healthy intimate relationships based on the principles outlined in the book "The 7 Levels of Intimacy" by Matthew Kelly.
Journeying with Students into Healthy Relationships & SexualityMatthew Martin
WHO: youth pastors, youth workers, and campus leaders
WHAT: We'll will explore why and how teens and young adults are struggling with relationships and sexuality, and how as leaders we can journey with them towards greater wholeness and godliness.
TOPICS
• How and why teens struggle emotionally, relationally and sexually
• What's required for healthy relationships and sexuality?
• Addictive behaviour and relationships, strategies for pursuing health and freedom
• Understanding sexual identity and how to help same-sex attracted teens
• Making your youth group a safer place for hurting teens
• The River: components of a curriculum for Christ-centred healing and wholeness
People Who Cause You Harm: How to Explain Dramatic and Erratic Personality Di...Jeni Mawter
This presentation identifies a massive gap in trauma-informed care for young people, the long-term harm of having a parent or family member with a personality disorder, specifically the Cluster “B” Personality Disorders.
Society is going through a radical shift in how it views, treats and manages Anxiety, Depression, Suicide Prevention, and Substance Abuse and Addiction. Rapid technological advances are seeing a cross fertilization between the traditional medical sciences of neurology and psychiatry. The traditional approach was that damage to the nervous system resulted in neurological disorders whereas psychiatric disorders involved disturbed behavior and emotional states. Today we know that neurological changes underpin psychiatric disorders as well as mental health and mental illness.
Another huge breakthrough in the neuropsychiatric research findings is the link to Mental Health and Trauma. Childhood Trauma initially focused on physical abuse in the Domestic Violence setting. Gradually, emotional abuse was taken into consideration to address risk and harm. Children and young people were considered at risk in light of such factors as homelessness, refugee and asylum seekers, juvenile justice settings and for those in indigenous communities. The issue of personality disorder and family relationships and breakdown has been ignored.
A personality disorder is a mental health disorder that affects how a person thinks, behaves and relates to others. The Cluster “B” parent has erratic and dramatic emotions and behaviors. Regulating emotions and maintaining healthy relationships is impossible. They are impulsive, low in empathy and low in conscience. They have a need to manipulate, control and disempower others. For family members, specifically their children, this culminates in significant distress and trauma. There is considerable harm to social, emotional, cognitive, spiritual and educational development.
Currently, there are almost no resources for children and young adults who have a Cluster “B” parent. The first step to healing is education to understand what, how and why this has happened to them. This SlideShare presentation aims to shed light on such questions as: What happened to me? Am I crazy? Are they the psycho or am I? Why do I feel so depressed/anxious/worthless? Most importantly, the goal is to help towards hope and healing, good mental health, resilience and peace.
Call to Action: Cluster “B” pathology is insidious, pernicious, deliberate and dangerous. These parents have tremendous destructive potential. Harm is hidden behind charm. They impact homes, families, workplaces, relationships and societies. Education is critical for every person in every system caught in the aftermath of dealing with their destruction: mental health, general health, family law, police departments, criminal justice, domestic violence and social service. Thank you.
This ppt is focusing on conscience as part of the topic " Ang Paghubog ng Konsiyensiay batay sa Likas na Batas Moral" in k to 12 curriculum of DepEd Philippines.
Want to have more passion in your relationship? Learn tried and true ways to create passion and then keep it.
It is about neuroscience, spirituality, emotional connection and attachment, not just sexual techniques.
Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, Founder and Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex presents a slideshow for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals on getting the most out of supervision and addressing counter-transference.
People Who Cause You Harm: How to Explain Dramatic and Erratic Personality Di...Jeni Mawter
This presentation identifies a massive gap in trauma-informed care for young people, the long-term harm of having a parent or family member with a personality disorder, specifically the Cluster “B” Personality Disorders.
Society is going through a radical shift in how it views, treats and manages Anxiety, Depression, Suicide Prevention, and Substance Abuse and Addiction. Rapid technological advances are seeing a cross fertilization between the traditional medical sciences of neurology and psychiatry. The traditional approach was that damage to the nervous system resulted in neurological disorders whereas psychiatric disorders involved disturbed behavior and emotional states. Today we know that neurological changes underpin psychiatric disorders as well as mental health and mental illness.
Another huge breakthrough in the neuropsychiatric research findings is the link to Mental Health and Trauma. Childhood Trauma initially focused on physical abuse in the Domestic Violence setting. Gradually, emotional abuse was taken into consideration to address risk and harm. Children and young people were considered at risk in light of such factors as homelessness, refugee and asylum seekers, juvenile justice settings and for those in indigenous communities. The issue of personality disorder and family relationships and breakdown has been ignored.
A personality disorder is a mental health disorder that affects how a person thinks, behaves and relates to others. The Cluster “B” parent has erratic and dramatic emotions and behaviors. Regulating emotions and maintaining healthy relationships is impossible. They are impulsive, low in empathy and low in conscience. They have a need to manipulate, control and disempower others. For family members, specifically their children, this culminates in significant distress and trauma. There is considerable harm to social, emotional, cognitive, spiritual and educational development.
Currently, there are almost no resources for children and young adults who have a Cluster “B” parent. The first step to healing is education to understand what, how and why this has happened to them. This SlideShare presentation aims to shed light on such questions as: What happened to me? Am I crazy? Are they the psycho or am I? Why do I feel so depressed/anxious/worthless? Most importantly, the goal is to help towards hope and healing, good mental health, resilience and peace.
Call to Action: Cluster “B” pathology is insidious, pernicious, deliberate and dangerous. These parents have tremendous destructive potential. Harm is hidden behind charm. They impact homes, families, workplaces, relationships and societies. Education is critical for every person in every system caught in the aftermath of dealing with their destruction: mental health, general health, family law, police departments, criminal justice, domestic violence and social service. Thank you.
This ppt is focusing on conscience as part of the topic " Ang Paghubog ng Konsiyensiay batay sa Likas na Batas Moral" in k to 12 curriculum of DepEd Philippines.
Want to have more passion in your relationship? Learn tried and true ways to create passion and then keep it.
It is about neuroscience, spirituality, emotional connection and attachment, not just sexual techniques.
Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, Founder and Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex presents a slideshow for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals on getting the most out of supervision and addressing counter-transference.
"Treatment Concepts and Techniques in Sexual Therapy" by Clinical Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching for "Symposium - Sex and the Spine: All You Ever Wanted to Know about Sex and the Spine but Were Afraid to Ask" by NSpine as part of SpineWeek, at Marina Bay Sands Expo & Convention Centre on Mon 16 May 2016.
Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching since 2009. She is a certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists), as well as a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists). Martha holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality as well as Certificates in Sex Therapy, Practical Counselling and Life Coaching. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40′ by Her World Singapore in July 2010 and ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women by CozyCot Singapore in March 2011. Website: http://www.eroscoaching.com.
Full day presentation on the development of personal erotic capital through social skills, etiquette, body language and communication. Making a lasting impression.
Role of Women in Overcoming Erectile Dsyfunction was presented by Clinical Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching at a public forum organised by a group of NTU students at Singapore Conference Hall on Sat 21 Feb 2016.
Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching since 2009. She is a certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists), as well as a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists). Martha holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality as well as Certificates in Sex Therapy, Practical Counselling and Life Coaching. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40′ by Her World Singapore in July 2010 and ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women by CozyCot Singapore in March 2011. Website: http://www.eroscoaching.com.
Y'all Means All: Discussing Gender and Sexual OrientationBonner Foundation
This presentation was developed in conjunction with the Y'all Means All training, which serves as an introduction to discussing gender and sexual orientation. This workshop is a part of the Dialogue Across Diversity and Inclusion 4x4 model, Stage 3: Application & Discussion.
Want to learn how to reclaim sexual intimacy in the wake of a chronic illness? This informative SlideShare will guide you through ways to re-connect with your partner in ways that will enrich your sex life. Learn how medications and illnesses can impact your sex life and what you can do to move forward and reclaim the intimacy that may have been lost to chronic illness.
Human sexuality is the way people experience & express themselves sexuality. This involves biological, erotic, physical, emotional, social, or spiritual feelings and behaviors. Physical and emotional aspects of sexuality include bonds between individuals that are expressed through profound feelings or physical manifestations of love, trust, and care. Social aspects deal with the effects of human society on one's sexuality, while spirituality concerns an individual's spiritual connection with others. Sexuality also affects and is affected by cultural, political, legal, philosophical, moral, ethical, and religious aspects of life
These lecture slides, by Dr Sidra Arshad, offer a quick overview of physiological basis of a normal electrocardiogram.
Learning objectives:
1. Define an electrocardiogram (ECG) and electrocardiography
2. Describe how dipoles generated by the heart produce the waveforms of the ECG
3. Describe the components of a normal electrocardiogram of a typical bipolar leads (limb II)
4. Differentiate between intervals and segments
5. Enlist some common indications for obtaining an ECG
Study Resources:
1. Chapter 11, Guyton and Hall Textbook of Medical Physiology, 14th edition
2. Chapter 9, Human Physiology - From Cells to Systems, Lauralee Sherwood, 9th edition
3. Chapter 29, Ganong’s Review of Medical Physiology, 26th edition
4. Electrocardiogram, StatPearls - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK549803/
5. ECG in Medical Practice by ABM Abdullah, 4th edition
6. ECG Basics, http://www.nataliescasebook.com/tag/e-c-g-basics
These simplified slides by Dr. Sidra Arshad present an overview of the non-respiratory functions of the respiratory tract.
Learning objectives:
1. Enlist the non-respiratory functions of the respiratory tract
2. Briefly explain how these functions are carried out
3. Discuss the significance of dead space
4. Differentiate between minute ventilation and alveolar ventilation
5. Describe the cough and sneeze reflexes
Study Resources:
1. Chapter 39, Guyton and Hall Textbook of Medical Physiology, 14th edition
2. Chapter 34, Ganong’s Review of Medical Physiology, 26th edition
3. Chapter 17, Human Physiology by Lauralee Sherwood, 9th edition
4. Non-respiratory functions of the lungs https://academic.oup.com/bjaed/article/13/3/98/278874
Acute scrotum is a general term referring to an emergency condition affecting the contents or the wall of the scrotum.
There are a number of conditions that present acutely, predominantly with pain and/or swelling
A careful and detailed history and examination, and in some cases, investigations allow differentiation between these diagnoses. A prompt diagnosis is essential as the patient may require urgent surgical intervention
Testicular torsion refers to twisting of the spermatic cord, causing ischaemia of the testicle.
Testicular torsion results from inadequate fixation of the testis to the tunica vaginalis producing ischemia from reduced arterial inflow and venous outflow obstruction.
The prevalence of testicular torsion in adult patients hospitalized with acute scrotal pain is approximately 25 to 50 percent
ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE IN HEALTHCARE.pdfAnujkumaranit
Artificial intelligence (AI) refers to the simulation of human intelligence processes by machines, especially computer systems. It encompasses tasks such as learning, reasoning, problem-solving, perception, and language understanding. AI technologies are revolutionizing various fields, from healthcare to finance, by enabling machines to perform tasks that typically require human intelligence.
micro teaching on communication m.sc nursing.pdfAnurag Sharma
Microteaching is a unique model of practice teaching. It is a viable instrument for the. desired change in the teaching behavior or the behavior potential which, in specified types of real. classroom situations, tends to facilitate the achievement of specified types of objectives.
Tom Selleck Health: A Comprehensive Look at the Iconic Actor’s Wellness Journeygreendigital
Tom Selleck, an enduring figure in Hollywood. has captivated audiences for decades with his rugged charm, iconic moustache. and memorable roles in television and film. From his breakout role as Thomas Magnum in Magnum P.I. to his current portrayal of Frank Reagan in Blue Bloods. Selleck's career has spanned over 50 years. But beyond his professional achievements. fans have often been curious about Tom Selleck Health. especially as he has aged in the public eye.
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Introduction
Many have been interested in Tom Selleck health. not only because of his enduring presence on screen but also because of the challenges. and lifestyle choices he has faced and made over the years. This article delves into the various aspects of Tom Selleck health. exploring his fitness regimen, diet, mental health. and the challenges he has encountered as he ages. We'll look at how he maintains his well-being. the health issues he has faced, and his approach to ageing .
Early Life and Career
Childhood and Athletic Beginnings
Tom Selleck was born on January 29, 1945, in Detroit, Michigan, and grew up in Sherman Oaks, California. From an early age, he was involved in sports, particularly basketball. which played a significant role in his physical development. His athletic pursuits continued into college. where he attended the University of Southern California (USC) on a basketball scholarship. This early involvement in sports laid a strong foundation for his physical health and disciplined lifestyle.
Transition to Acting
Selleck's transition from an athlete to an actor came with its physical demands. His first significant role in "Magnum P.I." required him to perform various stunts and maintain a fit appearance. This role, which he played from 1980 to 1988. necessitated a rigorous fitness routine to meet the show's demands. setting the stage for his long-term commitment to health and wellness.
Fitness Regimen
Workout Routine
Tom Selleck health and fitness regimen has evolved. adapting to his changing roles and age. During his "Magnum, P.I." days. Selleck's workouts were intense and focused on building and maintaining muscle mass. His routine included weightlifting, cardiovascular exercises. and specific training for the stunts he performed on the show.
Selleck adjusted his fitness routine as he aged to suit his body's needs. Today, his workouts focus on maintaining flexibility, strength, and cardiovascular health. He incorporates low-impact exercises such as swimming, walking, and light weightlifting. This balanced approach helps him stay fit without putting undue strain on his joints and muscles.
Importance of Flexibility and Mobility
In recent years, Selleck has emphasized the importance of flexibility and mobility in his fitness regimen. Understanding the natural decline in muscle mass and joint flexibility with age. he includes stretching and yoga in his routine. These practices help prevent injuries, improve posture, and maintain mobilit
Ozempic: Preoperative Management of Patients on GLP-1 Receptor Agonists Saeid Safari
Preoperative Management of Patients on GLP-1 Receptor Agonists like Ozempic and Semiglutide
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Pulmonary Thromboembolism - etilogy, types, medical- Surgical and nursing man...VarunMahajani
Disruption of blood supply to lung alveoli due to blockage of one or more pulmonary blood vessels is called as Pulmonary thromboembolism. In this presentation we will discuss its causes, types and its management in depth.
The prostate is an exocrine gland of the male mammalian reproductive system
It is a walnut-sized gland that forms part of the male reproductive system and is located in front of the rectum and just below the urinary bladder
Function is to store and secrete a clear, slightly alkaline fluid that constitutes 10-30% of the volume of the seminal fluid that along with the spermatozoa, constitutes semen
A healthy human prostate measures (4cm-vertical, by 3cm-horizontal, 2cm ant-post ).
It surrounds the urethra just below the urinary bladder. It has anterior, median, posterior and two lateral lobes
It’s work is regulated by androgens which are responsible for male sex characteristics
Generalised disease of the prostate due to hormonal derangement which leads to non malignant enlargement of the gland (increase in the number of epithelial cells and stromal tissue)to cause compression of the urethra leading to symptoms (LUTS
TEST BANK for Operations Management, 14th Edition by William J. Stevenson, Ve...kevinkariuki227
TEST BANK for Operations Management, 14th Edition by William J. Stevenson, Verified Chapters 1 - 19, Complete Newest Version.pdf
TEST BANK for Operations Management, 14th Edition by William J. Stevenson, Verified Chapters 1 - 19, Complete Newest Version.pdf
Report Back from SGO 2024: What’s the Latest in Cervical Cancer?bkling
Are you curious about what’s new in cervical cancer research or unsure what the findings mean? Join Dr. Emily Ko, a gynecologic oncologist at Penn Medicine, to learn about the latest updates from the Society of Gynecologic Oncology (SGO) 2024 Annual Meeting on Women’s Cancer. Dr. Ko will discuss what the research presented at the conference means for you and answer your questions about the new developments.
Flu Vaccine Alert in Bangalore Karnatakaaddon Scans
As flu season approaches, health officials in Bangalore, Karnataka, are urging residents to get their flu vaccinations. The seasonal flu, while common, can lead to severe health complications, particularly for vulnerable populations such as young children, the elderly, and those with underlying health conditions.
Dr. Vidisha Kumari, a leading epidemiologist in Bangalore, emphasizes the importance of getting vaccinated. "The flu vaccine is our best defense against the influenza virus. It not only protects individuals but also helps prevent the spread of the virus in our communities," he says.
This year, the flu season is expected to coincide with a potential increase in other respiratory illnesses. The Karnataka Health Department has launched an awareness campaign highlighting the significance of flu vaccinations. They have set up multiple vaccination centers across Bangalore, making it convenient for residents to receive their shots.
To encourage widespread vaccination, the government is also collaborating with local schools, workplaces, and community centers to facilitate vaccination drives. Special attention is being given to ensuring that the vaccine is accessible to all, including marginalized communities who may have limited access to healthcare.
Residents are reminded that the flu vaccine is safe and effective. Common side effects are mild and may include soreness at the injection site, mild fever, or muscle aches. These side effects are generally short-lived and far less severe than the flu itself.
Healthcare providers are also stressing the importance of continuing COVID-19 precautions. Wearing masks, practicing good hand hygiene, and maintaining social distancing are still crucial, especially in crowded places.
Protect yourself and your loved ones by getting vaccinated. Together, we can help keep Bangalore healthy and safe this flu season. For more information on vaccination centers and schedules, residents can visit the Karnataka Health Department’s official website or follow their social media pages.
Stay informed, stay safe, and get your flu shot today!
Alex Katehakis - Center for Healthy Sex - Sexual Gridlock
1. It’s not the orgasm, it’s the connection!
Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST
February 4, 2011
2. Common sexual complaints
• Low desire • They cause:
• no desire • Marital dissatisfaction,
emotional alienation,
• mismatched limited intimacy
desire • Extramarital affairs,
divorce, & family
instability
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
3. Sexual/Relationship Satisfaction is a
systemic issue!
• Decision making
• Handling arguments
• Friends and social life
• Parenting
• Dealing with family and in-laws
• Emotional support
• Areas of agreement & disagreement
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
4. How’s your sex life?
Sample size 14,387 people
• 15% sex is dead
• 34% sex is comatose & in danger of dying
• 28% sex is asleep & needs a wakeup call
• 15% sex is alive & well
• 8% sex is robust, erotic & passionate
• 77% of people say their sex life stinks
making them NORMAL
www.Crucible4points.com
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
5. How’s often do you kiss?
Sample size 14,387 people
• 35% kiss multiple times in every encounter
• 16% once in ¾ of encounters
• 15% once in ½ of encounters
• 24% rarely kiss during sex
• 10% never have sex
• 55% rarely kiss during their sexual
encounters
www.Crucible4points.com
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
6. Sexual arousal threshold is
composed of:
• What you are thinking about during sex?
(intrapsychic)
• What’s happening between you and your
partner? (interpersonal)
• What you are feeling in your body?
(sensate focus)
• Are you making eye contact?
• If so, what are you seeing?
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
7. Cornerstone #1 – Self-Knowledge
• Acceptance of yourself without
judgment.
• Know yourself: what you like and
dislike sexually, when you become
scared, when you take risks, where
your growth edges are.
• You know who you are and take a
stand for what’s true for you in
order to create change, even when
it’s uncomfortable.
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
8. Cornerstone #2 – Comfort & Connection
• Building connections to yourself and others, you
can develop the capacity to comfort your anxieties
and connect to your partner without reacting to his
or her feelings.
• Allows for a deeper relationship with family and
friends
• Requires diligence and discipline
• Connection creates novelty in the brain
• If the connection is sustained, a stable relationship
can form
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
9. Cornerstone #3 – Responsibility with
Discernment
• Responsibility within intimacy is about
accountability
• Be accountable for your own feelings
• Be assertive, speak up for yourself, take
responsibility for your actions, and tell the truth
• Tell the truth even though it may be difficult to
say and for the other to hear
• Being truthful about preferences does NOT
mean being mean and hurtful
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
10. Cornerstone #4 – Empathy with Emotion
• Empathy is your ability to recognize, feel, or
experience another person’s thoughts and moods
• Being empathic in relationships helps you to be
comfortable with another
• Can you empathize with how your partner feels?
• Can you understand and validate how those
feelings affect them?
• Can you do this without making their feelings about
you? (shame)
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
11. Definition of sexuality according to the
World Association of Sexual Health
• Sexuality is a central aspect of being human throughout life. It
encompasses sex, gender identities and roles, sexual
orientation, eroticism, pleasure, intimacy, and reproduction.
• Sexuality is experienced and expressed in thoughts,
fantasies, desires, beliefs, attitudes, values, behaviors,
practices, roles, and relationships.
• Sexuality can include all of these dimensions, not all of them
are always experienced or expressed.
• Sexuality is influenced by the interaction of biological,
psychological, social, economic, political, cultural, ethical,
legal, historical,religious, and spiritual factors.
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
12. Definition of sexual health according to
the WASH
• Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental,
and social well-being related to sexuality; it is not
merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or
infirmity.
• Sexual health requires a positive and respectful
approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well
as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe
sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination
and violence.
• For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the
sexual rights of all persons must be respected,
protected and fulfilled
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
13. Some components of
sexual health are…
• Ability to talk about sexuality
• Identify cultural concerns
• Address sexual identity issues
• Sexual anatomy functioning
• Sexual health care
• Awareness of behaviors
• Self acceptance
• Masturbation and fantasy
• Positive sexuality
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
14. What comprises optimal Sexuality?
Kleinplatz, et al. 2009 (64 informants)
• Being present, focused and embodied
• Connection, alignment, merger, being in synch
• Deep sexual and erotic intimacy
• Extraordinary communication, heightened empathy
• Authenticity, being genuine, uninhibited, transparency
• Transcendence, bliss, peace, transformation, healing
• Exploration, interpersonal risk-taking, fun
• Vulnerability and surrender
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
15. How do we get to optimal
sexuality?
• Healthy Sex +
• Intimate Sex +
• Erotic Sex +
• Spiritual Sex =
• Erotic
Intelligence!
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
16. Healthy Sex…
Being present, focused and embodied means:
Focus on the here and now
Slow down
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
17. Healthy Sex…
• Adds to your well being
• Is free from behaviors that create
destruction to your psyche, feelings
and physical body
• Healthy sex can have a tone of
innocence and simplicity that feels
beneficial, healthful and sound
• May restore your character as a
result of the sexual act because it
feels good in the moment and leaves
you feeling good afterwards
• Healthy sex is free from shame and
pain and does not create disorder or
drama
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
18. Deconstructing your sexuality…
• What were the
messages you received
from your family about
sex and sexuality?
• What kind of messages
did you get about sex
from your community?
• What do you consider to
be “normal” sexuality?
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
19. Deconstructing your sexuality…
• Where do you limit
yourself sexually?
• What scares you?
• How does the culture at
large inform you about
sex and sexuality?
• What impact does this
have on your sexuality?
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
20. Intimate Sex…
Strong connection to one’s partner
Good, clear boundaries
Self-knowledge
Self-acceptance
Sense of humor and laughter
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
21. Intimate Sex
• Know who you are and use good
communication. This creates an
interdependent, cohesive relationship as
opposed to an unhealthy dependent,
enmeshed relationship.
• Have honest, crucial conversations. This
requires discipline, entering a
nonjudgmental state, and talking
consciously while managing your
anxiety.
• Each person makes an active choice to
be the kind of partner they want to be
• A realistic view of intimate sex is that your
sexual desire and that of your partner
consistently changes, requiring
adaptation throughout the lifespan
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
22. Play!
• Play with each other
in loving, adoring,
respectful, raunchy
ways
• Raunchy meaning
earthy, sexual, and
explicit.
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
23. Conscious query of your sexual self
• How do you define sexual desire?
• How does it feel?
• How does it look?
• How do you express sexual desire?
• Do you experience more sexual desire by yourself
or with any partner?
• Do you experience more sexual desire by yourself
or with your monogamous partner?
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
24. Erotic Sex…
Deep, penetrating sense of trust
Mutual respect, deep caring, genuine acceptance
Desire, chemistry, attraction
Love
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
25. Your positive sexuality…
• How do you feel about your
body?
• What are your thoughts
about yourself if you aren’t
turned on in a moment’s
notice?
• What are your thoughts
about yourself/your partner
if you/they don’t orgasm?
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
26. Your positive sexuality, cont…
• What are the real reasons
you are “shy” to talk about
what you like sexually?
• What stops you from
making preparations for
sex and/or planning?
• What arouses sexual
desire in you?
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
27. Sexual Fantasy
• In adult sexuality, you pay attention to
your current fantasies and discuss
them with your partner and listen to
his or hers without reaction or
judgment.
• In a healthy relationship, sexual
fantasies keep desire alive.
• Both partner-replacement fantasies
and mental wanderings are an escape
from emotional connection with your
partner.
• Fantasies that include your partner
and that you invent together increase
your erotic styles.
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com
28. Masturbation…
• What’s the purpose of masturbation?
• What do you think about when you
masturbate?
• Do you tell your partner that you masturbate
and what your sexual fantasies are?
• Do your fantasies include your partner?
www.TheCenterForHealthySex.com www.thecenterforhealthysex.
com
29. Sexual Fantasy
• “Sexual fantasies may call
forth new life in the guise of
new sexual experiences,
and so the motive for
repressing these fantasies
may not be as much moral
sensitivity as fear of life’s
irrepressible abundance.”
• Thomas Moore
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30. Your positive sexuality, cont…
• How do you arouse
sexual desire in
yourself?
• How do you arouse
sexual desire in your
partner?
• What do you need to
work on?
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31. Essence of Eroticism
• Sex is about inviting a kind of nervous
excitement where there’s no rush to cover it
up or push it away. You accept that part of
your adult sexuality, and you recognize it as
the engine that arouses you and your
partner.
• Speak your love, your carnal desire, what
you are seeing, would like to see or do with
your partner, whether it be lovely, lustful, or
lascivious. This kind of connection flames
your partner’s physical arousal.
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32. Spiritual Sex…
Emotional nakedness: vulnerability and surrender
Loss of constricting beliefs
Sense of bliss, peace, and healing
Sense of “high” akin to meditation
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33. Spiritualizing Sex
• Spiritual sex combines how you express
your love with your intentions or the
blessings you bring to your partnering.
• Spiritualizing sex is willingness…we
create a spiritual bond through a
commitment to completely know
ourselves with our partner.
• To be true to the nature of your gender,
the feminine opens to energy and invites
the masculine in. The masculine directs
the energy to empower the feminine to
feel it, be warmed by it, to glow in it.
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34. Spiritualizing Sex - Breathing
• During sex, stop, relax and notice the sexual
excitement in your bodies. Breathe together and feel
the warmth as it radiates throughout. Notice what
you feel in this engagement.
• Breathing is not a one-breath event, but a conscious,
circular experience. You relax and focus on the
breathing, you’ll flow in and out; sensations heighten,
and tensions release. You are fully present with your
partner.
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35. Spiritualizing Sex - Ritual
• Rituals prepare each of you to meet the sacred in
each other. Breathing, prayer or meditation sets the
stage for inviting your highest selves to a sexual
feast.
• Rituals start as simple acts of preparation or
kindness. Repeated rituals are a means to train your
body and your mind to focus fully on the event and
engage the person with heart and respect. Rituals
create the time, space and energy to connect with
each other.
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36. Spiritualizing Sex
• Spiritual sex is about the
attitude of respect and actions
of kindness. It can also be fun
and reverential, giving you the
freedom to try things your way,
not in the prescribed ways we
learned or how our culture
determines it.
• Spiritual sex suggests that you
move beyond orgasm into the
connection with yourself, your
partne,r and the divine,
recognizing them all as one.
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37. It’s not the Orgasm, It’s the
Connection!
• Sexual desire and
sexual health
change over the
lifespan.
• Connection can
mean more than
orgasm!
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• Igniting Hot
Healthy Sex
While in
Recovery From
Sex Addiction
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