Self management becoming-more_assertive

Causes of Unassertiveness

Fear of rejection, humiliation,
criticism or anger.


Feared consequences are projections
arising from unrealistic anxieties.


When we don’t feel good about
ourselves, we tend to devalue our
abilities, thoughts and feelings.


Low self-esteem leads to
lack of assertion.


Lack of skills needed on the job
or in other situations
contributes to unassertiveness.


We’re afraid of embarrassing
ourselves, of looking stupid, being
too aggressive or too emotional.


As we grow, we are rewarded
for certain types of behaviors
and punished for others.


If you don’t know yourself, you may not
attain and progress in your ideal job.


If you have clear goals, you’ll have
higher self-esteem and be more
likely to assert yourself.


Many people fear self-assertion
will displease others.


People often fear looking foolish or
hurting others’ feelings.


We develop habits and continue to
be unassertive because it’s familiar
and easy.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Recognize your need to change.


Take care of yourself - physical,
intellectual, social and emotional needs.


Enhance your confidence - know what
you can do and what you want.


Practice being assertive.


Clarify and pursue your mission.


Have a positive outlook. See the glass
as half full, rather than half empty.


Put faith in your ability to make
good things happen.


Challenge your irrational beliefs.


Convey the impression that you are
in charge and entitled to lead.


Learn to confront and say “no.”


Be political. Know when to open your
mouth and when to keep it shut.


Maintain perspective. Don’t let what
happened yesterday affect what will
happen tomorrow.


Watch your body language.


Present yourself positively. Claim the
recognition that is rightfully yours.


Ask for what you want.


Participate in meetings and
other group activities.


Learn from colleagues and
friends you feel are assertive.


Associate with positive,
supportive people.

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