self esteem importance

1. SELF-ESTEEM
WINNING WELLBEING

2. Self-concept: Picture or perception of ourselves
Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves
Self-ideal: The way we would like to be
Definitions

3. How is self-concept build & destroyed
Building
• Find a good role model
• Praise & compliments
• Focus on the positive
• Keep criticism to a
minimum
• Set & achieve goals
Destroyed
• Comparing yourself to
others
• Putting yourself down
• Drug abuse

4. How do values and morals fit into feeling
good about yourself?
• Knowing yourself is a prerequisite to a good
self esteem
• Discover your values – a value is something
you strongly believe in
• Live by what you value – the closer your
values come to your actions the happier you
will be.

5. Self-Concept Circle
1. The person I
think I am.
2. The person others
think I am.
3. The person others think
I think I am.
My
Actions
As Others
See Me
Other’s
Reactions
to Me
As I See
Myself

6. Self-Esteem
Self-esteem begins to form in early childhood. Factors that can influence
self-esteem include:
• Your thoughts and perceptions
• How other people react to you
• Experiences at home, at school and in the community
• Illness, disability or injury
• Age
• Media messages
• Relationships with those close to you — parents, siblings, peers, teachers
and other important contacts — are important to your self-esteem.

7. Self-esteem tends to fluctuate, depending on your circumstances.
It's normal to go through stages when you feel down about
yourself and times when you feel good about yourself.
Generally, however, self-esteem stays in a range that reflects how
you feel about yourself overall and increases slightly with age.

8. Low Self-Esteem
When you have low self-esteem, you tend to put very little value on your ideas
and opinions. You focus on your perceived faults and weaknesses. You give
yourself very little credit for your skills and assets. You can tend to think that
others are more successful or capable than you.
Accepting positive feedback can be difficult. You might also fear failure,
which can hold you back from succeeding in school.
“Self-respect
IS
the best respect”

9. Some of the many causes of low self-esteem may include:
•Unhappy childhood where parents (or other significant people such as teachers) were
extremely critical
•Poor academic performance in school resulting in a lack of confidence
•Ongoing stressful life event such as relationship breakdown or financial trouble
•Poor treatment from a partner, parent or carer, for example, being in an abusive
relationship
•Ongoing medical problem such as chronic pain, serious illness or physical disability
•Mental illness such as an anxiety disorder or depression.
Causes of low self-esteem

10. Low self-esteem and quality of life
• A low self-esteem can reduce the quality of a person’s life in many different
ways, including:
• Negative feelings – the constant self-criticism can lead to persistent feelings
of sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, shame or guilt.
• Relationship problems – for example they may tolerate all sorts of
unreasonable behavior from partners because they believe they must earn
love and friendship, cannot be loved or are not loveable. Alternatively, a
person with low self-esteem may feel angry and bully other people.
• Fear of trying – the person may doubt their abilities or worth and avoid
challenges.

11. •Perfectionism – a person may push themselves and become an over-
achiever to ‘atone’ for what they see as their inferiority.
•Fear of judgement – they may avoid activities that involve other people,
like sports or social events, because they are afraid they will be
negatively judged. The person feels self-conscious and stressed around
others and constantly looks for ‘signs’ that people don’t like them.
Low self-esteem and quality of life

12. •Low resilience – a person with low self-esteem finds it hard to cope
with a challenging life event because they already believe themselves
to be ‘hopeless’.
•Lack of self-care – the person may care so little that they neglect or
abuse themselves, for example, drink too much alcohol.
•Self-harming behaviors – low self-esteem puts the person at
increased risk of self-harm, for example, eating disorder, drug abuse or
suicide.
Low self-esteem and quality of life

13. Tips for building Self Esteem
• Identify with people, books, videos, television shows, etc., that build
your self-esteem
• Build others – give sincere compliments often
• Think positively
• Set and achieve goals
• Do something challenging each day
• Look your best
• Eat correctly
• Do something for someone else

14. • Learn a new skill
• “Act as if” you possess traits you would like to have
• Observe self-concept people
• Handle things one at a time
• Use criticism constructively
• Ask for help – take advantage of learning opportunities
• Improve your personal living space
• Allow personal growth time each day
• Post self-improvement reminders in obvious places
• Do not say negative things about yourself
• Reward yourself often
• List your accomplishments each evening
• Volunteer to share your skills with others

15. Healthy Self-Esteem
When you have healthy self-esteem,
it means you have a balanced and
positive view of yourself.
For example, you have a good
opinion of your abilities, but you
also recognise that you have flaws
just like everyone else.

16. Interesting Fact: Feeling superior to others and being
boastful are usually not a sign of too much self-esteem.
In fact, psychologists believe that it is more likely a sign
of insecurity and low self-esteem.

17. Benefits of Healthy Self-Esteem
When you value yourself and have healthy self-esteem, you feel worthwhile
and secure. Your relationships with others are generally positive and you feel
confident about your abilities. You’re also open to feedback and learning,
which can help you obtain and master new skills.

18. With healthy self-esteem, you are:
• Able to express your needs and opinions in an assertive way
• Confident in your ability to make decisions
• Able to form secure relationships and generally less likely to stay in unhealthy
ones
• Realistic in your expectations
• Not as overcritical of yourself and others
• More resilient
• Able to handle stress and setbacks in a better way

19. Benefits of Improving Self-Esteem
• Overall happiness
• Believing that you are more deserving of good things in life
• Less chance of self-sabotage
• You do not constantly need to seek validation from others.
• You start truly believing that you are enough just as you are – flaws and all.

20. How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
2. Accept yourself: Stop worrying about
the things you can’t change. Be more
accepting of others and the things they
can’t change.

21. How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
7. Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may
compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge
yourself in terms of your own growth

22. 8. Have Realistic Expectations – We expect to much from
ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering our-self should
be a lifetime goal. We grow with models who appear to be
perfect at everything. Hero’s are good to look at but they have
their problems too
How to Improve Your Self-Esteem

23. How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
9. Emphasize your strengths.
10. Change what can be changed. Some things
fast, others gradual, and others never. There are
things we inherit but we can change our attitude
about it.Try new experiences.

24. Self-esteem affects virtually every area of your life. Having a
healthy, realistic view of yourself is not about boasting and
thinking you are superior. It’s about learning to like and
respect yourself — faults and all.

25. Confidence mind-mapping
Instructions: