The document provides an overview of relationship statistics and trends based on studies and surveys. It discusses topics like marriage rates, cohabitation, interracial relationships, and teen dating violence. It also summarizes discussions from an online conversation among women on relationships, intimacy, media influences, and other relationship issues. Key findings from studies on topics like marriage, independent partnerships among older adults, and interracial marriages are presented. Discussion questions from the online conversation among women cover a range of relationship topics.
The aim of this lecture is to introduce and discuss social-psychological aspects of interpersonal relationships and, in particular, attraction, exclusion, and close relationships.
The aim of this lecture is to introduce and discuss social-psychological aspects of interpersonal relationships and, in particular, attraction, exclusion, and close relationships.
21 Warning Signs of Unhealthy Intimate RelationshipMoshe Ratson
Here are 21 warning signs of unhealthy dynamics in intimate relationships that can’t be ignored. It is not easy to accept the difficulties in your relationship, but the sooner you face reality, the sooner you can move forward and build healthy fulfilling and lasting relationship.
Creating Positive Peer relationships: Why does peer relationship problems, like bullying, exist in middle schools?
SLOGAN: My School is like my family.
Why do we stay in an unhealthy relationship- Family EmpowermentBabu Appat
Family empowerment is to be done thoughtfully. Empowering the family is empowering the society. I have planned a narrative therapy for families with internal problems. The Story of Ruth Ellis, The Story of Ramu and Latha, and The Story of Divorce are delivered in three consecutive days and on the fourth day "Why do we stay in unhealthy relationship" is delivered. It will work out a therapeutic effect for sure. Try this when you conduct Family empowerment sessions, or else do call me to deliver it in its actual style.
This presentation introduces basic concepts of intimacy in a relationship. Although the points here can apply to romantic relationships, they also work for friendships as well. Intimacy is defined and explained and points are punctuated with clips from popular movies.
Intimacy means open sharing of feelings and wants between you and another person. It is expressing the natural child feeling of warmth, tenderness and closeness to others. Many people suffer from an inability to express such closeness.
This is a powerpoint that I made up for one of my courses...it outlines different topics that counselors can break up to create group meeting topics or even workshops. Excellent for dating violence awareness week too.
A newly designed webinar which will be delivered for the first time on February 1st, 2011.
It includes excellent strategies for influencing your peers and a strategic action planning exercise.
21 Warning Signs of Unhealthy Intimate RelationshipMoshe Ratson
Here are 21 warning signs of unhealthy dynamics in intimate relationships that can’t be ignored. It is not easy to accept the difficulties in your relationship, but the sooner you face reality, the sooner you can move forward and build healthy fulfilling and lasting relationship.
Creating Positive Peer relationships: Why does peer relationship problems, like bullying, exist in middle schools?
SLOGAN: My School is like my family.
Why do we stay in an unhealthy relationship- Family EmpowermentBabu Appat
Family empowerment is to be done thoughtfully. Empowering the family is empowering the society. I have planned a narrative therapy for families with internal problems. The Story of Ruth Ellis, The Story of Ramu and Latha, and The Story of Divorce are delivered in three consecutive days and on the fourth day "Why do we stay in unhealthy relationship" is delivered. It will work out a therapeutic effect for sure. Try this when you conduct Family empowerment sessions, or else do call me to deliver it in its actual style.
This presentation introduces basic concepts of intimacy in a relationship. Although the points here can apply to romantic relationships, they also work for friendships as well. Intimacy is defined and explained and points are punctuated with clips from popular movies.
Intimacy means open sharing of feelings and wants between you and another person. It is expressing the natural child feeling of warmth, tenderness and closeness to others. Many people suffer from an inability to express such closeness.
This is a powerpoint that I made up for one of my courses...it outlines different topics that counselors can break up to create group meeting topics or even workshops. Excellent for dating violence awareness week too.
A newly designed webinar which will be delivered for the first time on February 1st, 2011.
It includes excellent strategies for influencing your peers and a strategic action planning exercise.
SECRETS OF HAPPY RELATIONSHIP
Reveal of happy life lessons –forever
1.TRUST : The pillars of any successful relationship are communication, trust, respect, and love. To sustain any relationship, the four pillars need to be focused on. Communication in a relationship is important to share your feelings and build trust as well. Respect in any kind of relationship is a must. Good communication is a key part of any relationship. First love never dies. It lives inside of you forever and although you may go on, meet someone else, even marry someone else, you will never, ever love someone else the same. Because when you gave your first love your whole heart, you never really got all of it back.
Dr. Lisa Firestone, co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships, often says
that the best way to think of love is as a verb. Love is dynamic and requires action to
thrive. As Dr. Firestone wrote, “Often, we spend our time worrying about what our
partner feels toward us or how the relationship looks from the outside. Even though it
feels good to be loved by someone else, each one of us can only really feel our loving
feelings for another person and not that person’s feelings for us. In order to connect
with and sustain those loving feelings within us, we have to take actions that are
loving. Otherwise, we may be living in fantasy.”
Fanatical inclinations and solid requirement for control in different parts of life can overflow into relationships from china love dating application.
Report Back from SGO 2024: What’s the Latest in Cervical Cancer?bkling
Are you curious about what’s new in cervical cancer research or unsure what the findings mean? Join Dr. Emily Ko, a gynecologic oncologist at Penn Medicine, to learn about the latest updates from the Society of Gynecologic Oncology (SGO) 2024 Annual Meeting on Women’s Cancer. Dr. Ko will discuss what the research presented at the conference means for you and answer your questions about the new developments.
Acute scrotum is a general term referring to an emergency condition affecting the contents or the wall of the scrotum.
There are a number of conditions that present acutely, predominantly with pain and/or swelling
A careful and detailed history and examination, and in some cases, investigations allow differentiation between these diagnoses. A prompt diagnosis is essential as the patient may require urgent surgical intervention
Testicular torsion refers to twisting of the spermatic cord, causing ischaemia of the testicle.
Testicular torsion results from inadequate fixation of the testis to the tunica vaginalis producing ischemia from reduced arterial inflow and venous outflow obstruction.
The prevalence of testicular torsion in adult patients hospitalized with acute scrotal pain is approximately 25 to 50 percent
Prix Galien International 2024 Forum ProgramLevi Shapiro
June 20, 2024, Prix Galien International and Jerusalem Ethics Forum in ROME. Detailed agenda including panels:
- ADVANCES IN CARDIOLOGY: A NEW PARADIGM IS COMING
- WOMEN’S HEALTH: FERTILITY PRESERVATION
- WHAT’S NEW IN THE TREATMENT OF INFECTIOUS,
ONCOLOGICAL AND INFLAMMATORY SKIN DISEASES?
- ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE AND ETHICS
- GENE THERAPY
- BEYOND BORDERS: GLOBAL INITIATIVES FOR DEMOCRATIZING LIFE SCIENCE TECHNOLOGIES AND PROMOTING ACCESS TO HEALTHCARE
- ETHICAL CHALLENGES IN LIFE SCIENCES
- Prix Galien International Awards Ceremony
micro teaching on communication m.sc nursing.pdfAnurag Sharma
Microteaching is a unique model of practice teaching. It is a viable instrument for the. desired change in the teaching behavior or the behavior potential which, in specified types of real. classroom situations, tends to facilitate the achievement of specified types of objectives.
Lung Cancer: Artificial Intelligence, Synergetics, Complex System Analysis, S...Oleg Kshivets
RESULTS: Overall life span (LS) was 2252.1±1742.5 days and cumulative 5-year survival (5YS) reached 73.2%, 10 years – 64.8%, 20 years – 42.5%. 513 LCP lived more than 5 years (LS=3124.6±1525.6 days), 148 LCP – more than 10 years (LS=5054.4±1504.1 days).199 LCP died because of LC (LS=562.7±374.5 days). 5YS of LCP after bi/lobectomies was significantly superior in comparison with LCP after pneumonectomies (78.1% vs.63.7%, P=0.00001 by log-rank test). AT significantly improved 5YS (66.3% vs. 34.8%) (P=0.00000 by log-rank test) only for LCP with N1-2. Cox modeling displayed that 5YS of LCP significantly depended on: phase transition (PT) early-invasive LC in terms of synergetics, PT N0—N12, cell ratio factors (ratio between cancer cells- CC and blood cells subpopulations), G1-3, histology, glucose, AT, blood cell circuit, prothrombin index, heparin tolerance, recalcification time (P=0.000-0.038). Neural networks, genetic algorithm selection and bootstrap simulation revealed relationships between 5YS and PT early-invasive LC (rank=1), PT N0—N12 (rank=2), thrombocytes/CC (3), erythrocytes/CC (4), eosinophils/CC (5), healthy cells/CC (6), lymphocytes/CC (7), segmented neutrophils/CC (8), stick neutrophils/CC (9), monocytes/CC (10); leucocytes/CC (11). Correct prediction of 5YS was 100% by neural networks computing (area under ROC curve=1.0; error=0.0).
CONCLUSIONS: 5YS of LCP after radical procedures significantly depended on: 1) PT early-invasive cancer; 2) PT N0--N12; 3) cell ratio factors; 4) blood cell circuit; 5) biochemical factors; 6) hemostasis system; 7) AT; 8) LC characteristics; 9) LC cell dynamics; 10) surgery type: lobectomy/pneumonectomy; 11) anthropometric data. Optimal diagnosis and treatment strategies for LC are: 1) screening and early detection of LC; 2) availability of experienced thoracic surgeons because of complexity of radical procedures; 3) aggressive en block surgery and adequate lymph node dissection for completeness; 4) precise prediction; 5) adjuvant chemoimmunoradiotherapy for LCP with unfavorable prognosis.
These simplified slides by Dr. Sidra Arshad present an overview of the non-respiratory functions of the respiratory tract.
Learning objectives:
1. Enlist the non-respiratory functions of the respiratory tract
2. Briefly explain how these functions are carried out
3. Discuss the significance of dead space
4. Differentiate between minute ventilation and alveolar ventilation
5. Describe the cough and sneeze reflexes
Study Resources:
1. Chapter 39, Guyton and Hall Textbook of Medical Physiology, 14th edition
2. Chapter 34, Ganong’s Review of Medical Physiology, 26th edition
3. Chapter 17, Human Physiology by Lauralee Sherwood, 9th edition
4. Non-respiratory functions of the lungs https://academic.oup.com/bjaed/article/13/3/98/278874
ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE IN HEALTHCARE.pdfAnujkumaranit
Artificial intelligence (AI) refers to the simulation of human intelligence processes by machines, especially computer systems. It encompasses tasks such as learning, reasoning, problem-solving, perception, and language understanding. AI technologies are revolutionizing various fields, from healthcare to finance, by enabling machines to perform tasks that typically require human intelligence.
The prostate is an exocrine gland of the male mammalian reproductive system
It is a walnut-sized gland that forms part of the male reproductive system and is located in front of the rectum and just below the urinary bladder
Function is to store and secrete a clear, slightly alkaline fluid that constitutes 10-30% of the volume of the seminal fluid that along with the spermatozoa, constitutes semen
A healthy human prostate measures (4cm-vertical, by 3cm-horizontal, 2cm ant-post ).
It surrounds the urethra just below the urinary bladder. It has anterior, median, posterior and two lateral lobes
It’s work is regulated by androgens which are responsible for male sex characteristics
Generalised disease of the prostate due to hormonal derangement which leads to non malignant enlargement of the gland (increase in the number of epithelial cells and stromal tissue)to cause compression of the urethra leading to symptoms (LUTS
Tom Selleck Health: A Comprehensive Look at the Iconic Actor’s Wellness Journeygreendigital
Tom Selleck, an enduring figure in Hollywood. has captivated audiences for decades with his rugged charm, iconic moustache. and memorable roles in television and film. From his breakout role as Thomas Magnum in Magnum P.I. to his current portrayal of Frank Reagan in Blue Bloods. Selleck's career has spanned over 50 years. But beyond his professional achievements. fans have often been curious about Tom Selleck Health. especially as he has aged in the public eye.
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Introduction
Many have been interested in Tom Selleck health. not only because of his enduring presence on screen but also because of the challenges. and lifestyle choices he has faced and made over the years. This article delves into the various aspects of Tom Selleck health. exploring his fitness regimen, diet, mental health. and the challenges he has encountered as he ages. We'll look at how he maintains his well-being. the health issues he has faced, and his approach to ageing .
Early Life and Career
Childhood and Athletic Beginnings
Tom Selleck was born on January 29, 1945, in Detroit, Michigan, and grew up in Sherman Oaks, California. From an early age, he was involved in sports, particularly basketball. which played a significant role in his physical development. His athletic pursuits continued into college. where he attended the University of Southern California (USC) on a basketball scholarship. This early involvement in sports laid a strong foundation for his physical health and disciplined lifestyle.
Transition to Acting
Selleck's transition from an athlete to an actor came with its physical demands. His first significant role in "Magnum P.I." required him to perform various stunts and maintain a fit appearance. This role, which he played from 1980 to 1988. necessitated a rigorous fitness routine to meet the show's demands. setting the stage for his long-term commitment to health and wellness.
Fitness Regimen
Workout Routine
Tom Selleck health and fitness regimen has evolved. adapting to his changing roles and age. During his "Magnum, P.I." days. Selleck's workouts were intense and focused on building and maintaining muscle mass. His routine included weightlifting, cardiovascular exercises. and specific training for the stunts he performed on the show.
Selleck adjusted his fitness routine as he aged to suit his body's needs. Today, his workouts focus on maintaining flexibility, strength, and cardiovascular health. He incorporates low-impact exercises such as swimming, walking, and light weightlifting. This balanced approach helps him stay fit without putting undue strain on his joints and muscles.
Importance of Flexibility and Mobility
In recent years, Selleck has emphasized the importance of flexibility and mobility in his fitness regimen. Understanding the natural decline in muscle mass and joint flexibility with age. he includes stretching and yoga in his routine. These practices help prevent injuries, improve posture, and maintain mobilit
2. RELATIONSHIPS: TABLE OF CONTENTS
Relationship Statistics
Match.com Study
Marriage, maybe?
Independent Partnerships
Older and Happier
Changing attitudes about marriage
Interracial Marriages
Teen Dating Violence
Discussion Questions
Introduction : Women learning from other Women
Participant responses & Personal feedback
Facebook Discussion Question
3. MARRIAGE, MAYBE?
Ages 21-34
want to
marry
do not
want to
marry
unsure
Ages 35-44
want to
marry
do not
want to
marry
unsure
A 2011 match.com study of single men and women
4. INDEPENDENT PARTNERSHIPS
Statistics show that women, in all age groups, now want more
personal space in committed relationships
More nights out
with girlfriends!
Keeping a
separate bank
account
Increase in solo
getaway trips
5. OLDER AND HAPPIER: SINGLES OVER 65
Report the highest level of
happiness over the past 12
months
Lead less stressful lives
Sex is still important
6. INTERRACIAL MARRIAGE
Adult Interracial
Marriages in 2008
White
Black
Hispanic
Aisian
* 3.8 million Americans
Gender Patterns
22% black males v.
9% black females
Would marry interracially
40% Asian females v. 20%
Asian Males
There were no found gender
differences among white and
Hispanic Americans
7. CHANGING ATTITUDES ABOUT MARRIAGE
OVER TIME
1960 68% people in their twenties were
married
2005 Unmarried households became
the majority of all U.S.
households
2007 more than a million unmarried
partners were living together
8. TEEN DATING VIOLENCE
1 in 3 teenagers report
knowing a friend that
has been physically hurt
by a partner
1 in 4 teenage girls in
relationships reported
being pressured to have
intercourse (including
oral)
26% teenage girls
reported enduring
repeated verbal abuse
73% teens would turn to
a friend for help if ever
in an abusive
relationship; only 33%
of those who were
actually told someone
9. SINGLISM
Society and our families often pressure us to believe that we
need to be involved in a long time relationship that will
one day lead to marriage. This common assumption leaves
many people to become targets of Singlism
Singlism is…
Prejudice
Stereotyping
Interpersonal exclusion
Discrimination
Targeting all those who
are single
Stereotypes:
Singles are miserable and lonely;
They are only interested in finding a partner;
Often excluded from social events which are usually
organized around couples
10. WOMEN LEARNING FROM OTHER WOMEN
Chapter 5 of Our Bodies, Ourselves follows a group of women discussing
their lives with one another through an online conversation. These
women represent different identities, sexual experiences , and age
groups. The women discuss what they enjoy most about their sexuality
and their experience in relationships. In addition, the group reflects
upon the media, it’s images and representations of popular culture, and
how it has influenced their views on relationships.
11. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
What are you looking for in a relationship?
How do you define and express intimacy?
What do you enjoy about being sexual?
What role has love played, or not played, in your relationships?
What is it like to be in a relationship when you don’t like some or all of your body?
How do media images and portrayals of relationships affect your idea of an “ideal"
relationship?
How does it affect your relationships when you are with someone whom the world
gives more or less power than you have, because of race, income, gender, or
disability?
What are your experiences in relationships that span racial differences?
Have you or your partner discussed having children? If you had differing opinions,
how did it affect your relationship?
What effect do children have on dating or staying in a relationship?
When did you realize that a relationship you intended to stay in was going to be
work, and what are some obstacles that can get in the way of relationships?
How has sexual abuse and/or physical violence affected your relationships?
What has helped the process of healing from sexual or other abuse?
How has growing older affected your relationships or what you look for in a
relationship?
Do you feel affected by relationship time lines?
12. “love
Courageo
usly”
Mutual respect
Trust; loyalty
Sexual compatibility
Confidence
“Love courageously,” having the courage to love
someone and be loved in return
Equal responsibility
Ambition
Fun and funny
Patience: “relationships are one of the hardest things
we do”
Unconditional love
Being with a partner that it supportive, and brings
out your best
Independence: maintaining other relationships
Co-conspirator; partner in crime; work together
toward common goals
What Are You Looking for in a
Relationship?
(A Women’s Common Response)
13. “love
courageously”:
Personal Response
Just like one of the women in this discussion, I also
believe that you must “love courageously;” it is the
key to having a relationship. To be able to have a
relationship consisting of mutual respect and
responsibility where you share secrets, goals, and
inside jokes you first have to overcome the fear of
loving someone and being loved in return.
14. HOW DO YOU DEFINE INTIMACY?
A WOMEN'S COMMON RESPONSE
“Laughter, li
ke any
emotional
expression, r
equires the
safety to
express that
joy”
Knowing what the other one is about to say and
how they are feeling just by looking at them
Having the feeling of safety; being able to sleep
soundly next to the other every night
Close physically and emotionally; emotional
honesty
Sharing secrets
Vulnerability and trust: “knowledge of each
other grounded in spirit”
Sharing true laughter with someone:
“laughter, like an emotional expression, requires
the safety to express that joy”
No boundaries
15. “laughter,
like any
emotional
expression,
requires the
safety to
express that
joy”:
personal Response
“Laughter ,like any emotional expression, requires the
safety to express that joy” This quote, taken from the
discussion, made a lot of sense to me. To truly be able to
laugh with someone, no matter what its about, is a way
of expressing comfort with that person. You shouldn’t
have to worry about judgment and feeling insecure
around the one you are intimate with. Its about being
yourself, as well being comfortable with yourself. You
should feel safe to emotionally express yourself to your
partner, especially to truly laugh with them.
16. WHAT DO YOU ENJOY MOST ABOUT BEING
SEXUAL?
(A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE)
Sexual intimacy preserves
nonverbal expression
It’s a way to explore each other
physically
Appreciating the time and effort
involved
It’s a way to develop a positive
relationship with your own body;
You discover that sex is better
when you feel better about yourself
Brings “clearheaded focus” and
calmness
Even with no partner
(masturbation) it is a way to
nurture yourself, it relieves
tension
17. WHAT ROLE HAS LOVE PLAYED OR NOT PLAYED IN
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?
A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE
“i don’t want to
think of love as
a solid, assumed
foundation, but
rather as a
praxis, as the
place where
ideas, emotions
verbalizations
meet practice
and action.”
Love doesn’t need to play a role in sex, it is
about being in the moment;
Different experiences allows you to learn
more about your sexuality, with out having
to be in love
When it come to "making love,” you usually
make love with someone you had some
form of love for
Love enhances the sex
“Love as action”
18. WHAT IS IT LIKE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WHEN
YOU DON’T LIKE SOME OR ALL YOUR OWN BODY?
A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE
You Need to
reject the
shame and
guilt you
internalize
and begin to
feel more
comfortable
with your own
sexuality and
sexual desire
Not liking your own body affects the intimacy in the
relationship as well as other aspects of life
Media images decide on what body type is acceptable
and attractive
Reassurance from partner helps you find enjoyment in
your own body; telling you, you are beautiful,
attractive, sexy, and desirable
You need to start unlearning cultural stereotypes and
socialized messages
Double standard: women’s bodies are more scrutinized
than men’s; When you are jealous of your partner’s
body it hard to feel comfortable naked with them
Fear of rejection
Sex is about appreciating one another’s bodies and
feeling truly comfortable in your own
When your partner takes some active role in helping
you overcome things that make you feel insecure it
helps you gain more confidence in yourself
19. You Need to
reject the
shame and
guilt you
internalize
and begin to
feel more
comfortable
with your own
sexuality and
sexual desire:
Personal
Response
For me, being in a relationship has helped me become
more comfortable with myself. You do need to reject
the shame you feel towards who you are and ignore
the images of “beauty” that appear in the media.
Being in the relationship I am in now helps me
overcome my insecurities because he is constantly
reminding me of the qualities that he loves about
me, which in turn helps me build my self esteem.
20. HOW DO MEDIA IMAGES AND PORTRAYALS OF
RELATIONSHIPS AFFECT YOUR IDEA OF AN “IDEAL”
RELATIONSHIP?
A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE
The
“beautiful”
women of the
media are
mostly
thinner and
prettier
than
ourselves
Sitcom couples (good looking woman, corky husband); doesn’t
display a positive, lasting relationship
The media doesn’t represent non-monogamy, non- binary
trans people, single mothers, asexual, the disabled, or
“bigger” girls; makes those who are feel “erased” from society
Internet and books offer more options: feminist blogs where
they often talk about relationships; only place, in media, that
you see the variety of different kinds of relationships
Ideal relationships are shaped by individual beliefs
Television and Disney movies influence you towards a
heteronormative ideal of relationships, it depicts the “typical
middle-class white-picket-fence life
TV emphasizes sexuality and “hookup culture” making
asexuality abnormal
Double standard between men and women
Lack of interracial relationships in the media may deters
people from accepting it
Media often depicts trans women as a sexual fetish or
deviancy; creates stereotypes, seen as something
threatening, immoral, dangerous to both themselves and
others
Music sometimes depicts women in a bad way; lyrics are
21. Media &
Relationships:
Personal Response
Media has a huge roll in how women view
relationships. We are constantly judging and
being judge based on how similar, or
dissimilar, we are to the relationships we see on
TV. I think that the media needs to be open to
all forms of relationships that span all the
differences that exist in our society. If people
had a better understanding of the different
relationships that exist maybe there would be
less judgment towards them; people will no
longer consider their relations as straying from
the norm.
22. HOW DOES IT AFFECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WHEN YOU ARE WITH
SOMEONE WHOM THE WORLD GIVES MORE OR LESS POWER THAN YOU
HAVE, BECAUSE OF RACE, INCOME, GENDER, OR DISABILITY?
A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE
Stay at home dads may lead to power struggles as they take on the opposite
parental role ( the doctor usually talks directly to the mother; the child is
naturally more attached to mother because of breast feeding)
Many books of advice are geared toward the mother and baby which may
cause the father to feel left out and mother to feel like she’s not being a
good parent
Women tend to have more doubts about their capabilities because of being
a woman especially when it comes to applying for jobs, don’t feel as
confident
Relationship are harder when you and your partner have different financial
incomes or different levels of education
Open communication makes it easier to deal with differences
Support from partner is important
23. WHAT ARE YOUR EXPERIENCES IN RELATIONSHIPS
THAT SPAN RACIAL DIFFERENCES?
A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE
“when you
have two
cultures
that do not
understand
each other, it
is definitely
an uphill
battle
Having to overcome stereotypes ,especially
those that are believed by partner’s parents or
family
Makes you feel like you should be defensive -
while in public you feel you have to try not to
appear attractive to one another to avoid being
judged by others
Have to adjust because of different cultures also
means different dating cultures;
24. HAVE YOU OR YOUR PARTNER DUSCUSSED HAVING CHILDREN?
IF YOU HAD DIFFEREING OPINONS, HOW DID IT AFFECT YOUR
RELATIONSHIPS?
(A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE)
Choosing not to have a child because the other
partner doesn’t want one may cause regret
Often feel pressure from your culture or family to
have children
The decision to have children is easier when you
feel open with a lack of pressure from your partner
Discussion about children is a “tool for
fantasizing” and testing the future
Stability in income and living situations impacts
the decision of having a child
Age between partnerships can play a role in the
decision to have a child or not
25. WHAT EFFECT DO CHILDREN HAVE ON DATING OR
STAYING IN A RELATIONSHIP?
(A WOMEN’S RESPONSE)
Date men
that have
children
and is an
active
parent
because
they are
more
understan
ding about
balancing
dating
with
parenting
Women often feel they need to protect their children
especially from having people in and out of their lives
Single mothers may feel lonely without another adult
around, no one to vent too
Children can make it hard to fit anyone else in your
life
Dating and relationships are more of a challenge
when you are younger because others your age aren’t
at that point in their lives to have children
Having children with someone might cause you to try
to make a relationship work even if its not going well
Mothers often want to model proper dating behaviors
for children: “I wont date a person I wouldn’t want my
children to date someday”
Not being able to afford a babysitter makes it difficult
to have a life outside the home and to meet new people
Partners have to work together on dealing with
conflicts so children learn from it and not impact
their views on relationships negatively
Divorce may cause your child to think its okay to “cut
and run”
26. Children
& Dating:
Personal Response
This discussion question caught my attention because I
have a friend who has a four year old son. Due to the
fact that she is still young, she still wants to go out and
meet new people but now she has a new responsibility. I
see her struggle with being a single mother, although she
is a great one! She wants to protect her child from
having people coming in and out of her life and its hard
to find someone in their twenties ready to help her be a
parent.
27. WHEN DID YOU REALIZE THAT A RELATIONSHIP YOU INTENDED TO
STAY IN WAS GOING TO BE WORK? WHAT ARE SOME OBSTACLES THAT
CAN GET IN THE WAY OF RELATIONSHIPS?
(A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE)
“it only makes
sense that its
twice as difficult
when two or more
people decide to
combine their
experiences, fina
nces, living
space, food
choices, and
whatever else to
coexist without
undoing
everything
they’ve done to
become distinct
individuals who
are trying to
establish some
identity away
from their
families and
particular
upbringing.
Compromise, uncon
ditional love, and
acceptance are
the hardest
things to realize
and exercise in
relationships.”
It is important to have good communication: explaining what
is being said between each other and what it means to the
both of you
Major obstacle can be issues over money (especially if you
have differences in income)
Issues on maintaining the task of housekeeping; how you
were socialized in understanding gender roles
Work often takes up most of your time and energy; not
enough time together
Its sometimes hard to remember that you are partners not
just roommates
Sometimes partners have a different view or understanding
on important social issues
28. Personal
Response
Relationships are one of the harder things in
life, and at time can be a lot of work. From
my experience, the key to overcoming these
obstacles is communication. Being able to
talk with my partner and hearing each
other out completely helps the both us to
compromise and talk through what is
burdening us.
29. HOW HAS SEXUAL ABUSE AND/OR PHYISICAL
VIOLENCE AFFECTED YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?
(A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE)
It can make you feel like you need to hide part of yourself in your
relationship therefore, you can’t really invest on an emotional level
No one to talk with without feeling judged or asked a bunch of questions
You’re constantly trying to forget
Seeking help from a therapist can help you recover
Time can heal; with age you become less vulnerable and more able to
enjoy you relationships and sex again
Makes you constantly scared and nervous; always afraid that they will
come back to hurt you again
People make you feel like it was you fault; asked questions concerned
with what they were wearing that night or why they were walking alone.
Causes you to have trouble trusting people
You feel disgusting and violated afterward
Trouble being intimate with partners
30. WHAT HAS HELPED THE PROCESS OF HEALING FROM
SEXUAL OR OTHER ABUSE?
A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE
Learning to love yourself and who you are
Reading or listening to other people who
experienced similar problems and how they
have coped
Listening to positive music
Therapy; helps hearing an outside perspective
Having positive relationships
Self-defense classes, boosts self confidence
Easier to confide in the internet (feminist
sites), anonymity makes it easier; don’t feel so
alone
Time
Being open with people that you are close with
31. HOW HAS GROWING OLDER AFFECTED YOUR
RELATIONSHIPS OR WHAT YOU LOOK FOR IN A
RELATIONSHIP?
A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE
Age brought with it a better job of valuing oneself
You begin to not feel so bad when you have to say
no; “it is better to be single and look carefully for a
good partner than to just have any partner at all.”
More interested in making intimate connections
that have nothing to do with sex
Start to care less about what people think, and
won’t make compromises for anyone
More choosy about partnerships
You grow into yourself more the older you get. You
feel more comfortable with being alone, it’s better
than not being happy
With age you are not so afraid to explore outside
the norm when it comes to relationships
As you grow old with your partner you rediscover
each other in different ways
32. DO YOU FEEL AFFECTED BY
RELATIONSHIP TIME LINES?
(A WOMEN’S COMMON RESPONSE)
Its all up to the individual to determine
what their time line is; when to marry or
when to have children not culture or family
pressure
Recently there has been a change from
traditional dating, now it more like
“hanging out ”
Sexual time line is usually in you teens and
relationship time lines fall in you twenties
33. Relation-
ship Time
Lines:
Personal
response
Like another women stated in this chapter’s discussion, it is
up to the individual to choose their relationship time
line. I find that the hard part, however, is not listening
and accepting what other people want or think you
should do. You shouldn’t always have to feel like you
need to do what everyone else is doing, its our own
relationships and therefore we should determine our
time line: whether its sex, dating, marriage, or children.
34. FACEBOOK DISCUSSION QUESTION:
Discuss some of the opinions that you shared with
the women of this chapter and how it has
impacted your views on relationships.