LOVE VS. INFATUATION
Love                        Infatuation
 Giving                       Taking
 Slow building                Immediate, quick
 Lasts a long time            Burns out quickly
 Shows concern for other      Selfish, looking after own
                                interests
  person
                               May be dishonest
 Honest
                               Based on physical
 Base don many issues          attraction
 Deep and caring              Surface Relationship
 Secure                       Insecure
 Trusting                     Jealousy
                               Mistrust
SITUATION #1

 I’m looking for someone to look out for me. Someone who
  understands me and is wiling to listen. I want someone to
  share my self with, someone who has a lot in common with
  me, someone who supports me in everything I try to do. I will
  also support them in all they work to accomplish.


LOVE or INFATUATION
SITUATION #2

 The guy/girl I go out with MUST have a decent car! I like to
  have fun, I LOVE presents, and I like for guys/girls to bring me
  presents a lot, even if it’s something little.


LOVE or INFATUATION
SITUATION #3

 When I fist started going out with Mark, I really liked him a
  lot. But after three or four months, I knew him so well that it
  began to feel like he was a part of me. I knew that If he
  wasn’t in my life, part of me would be gone.


LOVE or INFATUATION
SITUATION #4

 I love her hair, her body, and the way she walks. I don’t know
  if we have anything in common or not, I’ve never really talked
  to her. But she is smokin hot! I know I love her.


LOVE or INFATUATION
SITUATION #5

 I’m a better person when I’m with Charlotte. I can be
  myself, share, and tell my future plans without being
  embarresed. She gets me and understands me.


LOVE or INFATUATION
SITUATION #6

 I love Matt and I know he’s not perfect, but when we get
  married I can help him change.


LOVE or INFATUATION
SITUATION #7

 Channing Tatum is so handsome, I’m going to find someone
  who looks JUST like him!


LOVE or INFATUATION
SITUATION #8

 I love Chelsea, but my parents don’t. They just don’t know her.
  If they knew her better they’d like her. So now they are trying
  to ruin our relationship.


LOVE or INFATUATION
SITUATION #9

 Our relationships started out just being friends and then grew
  into a romantic relationship. We’re still good friends, too.


LOVE or INFATUATION
BUILDING BLOCKS OF LOVE

1. Being attracted to him/her
2. Begin excited to see and be with him/her
3. Feeling at ease with each other
4. Being friends first
5. Sharing happy experiences
6. Respecting their values
7. Understand and respect their feelings
8. Recognize and appreciate things they do for you
9. Take pride in their accomplishments
10.Be concerned for their happiness
BUILDING BLOCKS OF LOVE

11.Be concerned for their safety
12.Show admiration for their talents/personality
13.Desire to make them happy
14.Hoping for a future together
15.LOVE
3 COMPONENTS OF RELATIONSHIPS


Intimacy         Commitment




           Passion
3 COMPONENTS OF RELATIONSHIPS

Intamacy- being close to someone & sharing
 personal things
 (Feelings, ideas, hopes, desires, etc)
Passion- strong emotional feelings that move
 you to express things verbally & physically
Commitment- pledging yourself to another
 person; promising to be true & faithful.
DATING LEADS TO MARRIAGE

Love vs. infatuation

  • 1.
  • 2.
    Love Infatuation  Giving  Taking  Slow building  Immediate, quick  Lasts a long time  Burns out quickly  Shows concern for other  Selfish, looking after own interests person  May be dishonest  Honest  Based on physical  Base don many issues attraction  Deep and caring  Surface Relationship  Secure  Insecure  Trusting  Jealousy  Mistrust
  • 3.
    SITUATION #1  I’mlooking for someone to look out for me. Someone who understands me and is wiling to listen. I want someone to share my self with, someone who has a lot in common with me, someone who supports me in everything I try to do. I will also support them in all they work to accomplish. LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 4.
    SITUATION #2  Theguy/girl I go out with MUST have a decent car! I like to have fun, I LOVE presents, and I like for guys/girls to bring me presents a lot, even if it’s something little. LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 5.
    SITUATION #3  WhenI fist started going out with Mark, I really liked him a lot. But after three or four months, I knew him so well that it began to feel like he was a part of me. I knew that If he wasn’t in my life, part of me would be gone. LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 6.
    SITUATION #4  Ilove her hair, her body, and the way she walks. I don’t know if we have anything in common or not, I’ve never really talked to her. But she is smokin hot! I know I love her. LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 7.
    SITUATION #5  I’ma better person when I’m with Charlotte. I can be myself, share, and tell my future plans without being embarresed. She gets me and understands me. LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 8.
    SITUATION #6  Ilove Matt and I know he’s not perfect, but when we get married I can help him change. LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 9.
    SITUATION #7  ChanningTatum is so handsome, I’m going to find someone who looks JUST like him! LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 10.
    SITUATION #8  Ilove Chelsea, but my parents don’t. They just don’t know her. If they knew her better they’d like her. So now they are trying to ruin our relationship. LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 11.
    SITUATION #9  Ourrelationships started out just being friends and then grew into a romantic relationship. We’re still good friends, too. LOVE or INFATUATION
  • 12.
    BUILDING BLOCKS OFLOVE 1. Being attracted to him/her 2. Begin excited to see and be with him/her 3. Feeling at ease with each other 4. Being friends first 5. Sharing happy experiences 6. Respecting their values 7. Understand and respect their feelings 8. Recognize and appreciate things they do for you 9. Take pride in their accomplishments 10.Be concerned for their happiness
  • 13.
    BUILDING BLOCKS OFLOVE 11.Be concerned for their safety 12.Show admiration for their talents/personality 13.Desire to make them happy 14.Hoping for a future together 15.LOVE
  • 14.
    3 COMPONENTS OFRELATIONSHIPS Intimacy Commitment Passion
  • 15.
    3 COMPONENTS OFRELATIONSHIPS Intamacy- being close to someone & sharing personal things (Feelings, ideas, hopes, desires, etc) Passion- strong emotional feelings that move you to express things verbally & physically Commitment- pledging yourself to another person; promising to be true & faithful.
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