Personal
Relationships
Now, I know what you’re thinking…
And you’re kind of right!! But more on that later…
Activity 1. Individual Activity
Anticipation Reaction Guide (ARG)
Directions: Write A if you agree with the
statement and D if you disagree. Write your
response in the Before Lesson only.
Before Lesson Statements After Lesson
1. Survival was the primary reason why human
beings have the fundamental need to belong.
2. Belonging to a group generates many
benefits to like having a support system when
you need some shoulder to cry on or draw
some strength from.
3. Personal relationships don’t involves a degree
of commitment to another person or persons.
4. The very first meaningful relationship every
human being encounter is with one’s mother.
5. Attraction also involves our unconscious
assessment of another person’s genes through
their physical appearance.
Personal Relationship:
What Drives Attraction?
Prepared By:
Milorenze Joting
Applicant
Self explanatory, right?
Well, yes,
actually I
suppose it is...
But there’s still a lot of
interesting research on it!
Partly because it’s so
broad…
Personal Relationship
It is a relationship which is closely
associated with a person and
which can only have meaning to
this person.
Personal Relationship
In discussing personal relationship,
the elements that go with it that will
also be discussed are attachment,
attraction, love and intimacy, and
commitment.
Attraction - is described
as the lovestruck phase,
which involves
neurotransmitters in the
brain such as dopamine,
neropinephrine, and
serotonin.
Have you ever heard the phrase
“birds of a feather flock together ”?
Let’s talk definitions.
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1. Homophily: if we believe
people are similar to us, we are
more attracted to them.
This is important in judging
people we want to have
relationships with.
Aww. How cute.
But not just romantic relationships.
Any type. From a stranger on the
street to potential employers.
Let’s talk definitions.
2. Transference Effect: there
are times we meet people who
we immediately like or dislike.
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Let’s talk definitions.
3. Propinquity Effect: We
often develop a sense of
familiarity with people who live
close to us, work with us, or go
to school with us, which lead us
to liking them more.
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“I knew we had a lot in common, I’m crazy too!”
For a while, researchers mainly
studied attraction due to similarity
between strangers.
(Dr. Donn Byrne, starting in 1961)
This means that dissimilar
(dominant and submissive)
people go better together in
relationships, and have more
minor similarities (like
interests and warmth).
Let’s talk definitions.
4. Reciprocity: We like people
who like us back.
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I’d argue that some degree of
similarity is an essential factor in
maintaining all types of
associations…
…but there should be certain
complementary characteristics
for a truly successful relationship.
People get more similar over time
• Zajonc et al. (1987)
• Dissimilar looking couples at marriage look
more similar 25 years later.
• Happier couple look more similar
• Decades of shared emotions?
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Similarity to Pets
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Let’s talk definitions.
5. Physical Attractiveness:
Several research studies were
conducted to confirm that
physical attractiveness is a
major factor in liking someone
1 2 3 4 5 6
Let’s talk definitions.
6. Personality Characteristics
and Traits: People get attracted
to two characteristics that lead to
liking the other person namely
emphatic persons and socially
competent.
1 2 3 4 5 6
So, that means if you’re
passing someone on the
street or briefly meeting them,
you’re more attracted to
similarity.
However, some say you can’t
prove causation between
similarity and attraction.
Sunnafrank, 1985 and 1992
Activity 2. Group Activity
(Mini Drama Presentation)
Group 1: Transference Effect
Group 2: Propinquity Effect
Group 3: Similarity
Group 4: Reciprocity
Group 5: Physical Attractiveness
So there you go. That’s a (short)
explanation of the Personal
Relationship.
You’re welcome.

Personal Relationships

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  • 2.
    Now, I knowwhat you’re thinking… And you’re kind of right!! But more on that later…
  • 10.
    Activity 1. IndividualActivity Anticipation Reaction Guide (ARG) Directions: Write A if you agree with the statement and D if you disagree. Write your response in the Before Lesson only.
  • 11.
    Before Lesson StatementsAfter Lesson 1. Survival was the primary reason why human beings have the fundamental need to belong. 2. Belonging to a group generates many benefits to like having a support system when you need some shoulder to cry on or draw some strength from. 3. Personal relationships don’t involves a degree of commitment to another person or persons. 4. The very first meaningful relationship every human being encounter is with one’s mother. 5. Attraction also involves our unconscious assessment of another person’s genes through their physical appearance.
  • 12.
    Personal Relationship: What DrivesAttraction? Prepared By: Milorenze Joting Applicant
  • 13.
  • 14.
  • 15.
    But there’s stilla lot of interesting research on it! Partly because it’s so broad…
  • 16.
    Personal Relationship It isa relationship which is closely associated with a person and which can only have meaning to this person.
  • 17.
    Personal Relationship In discussingpersonal relationship, the elements that go with it that will also be discussed are attachment, attraction, love and intimacy, and commitment.
  • 18.
    Attraction - isdescribed as the lovestruck phase, which involves neurotransmitters in the brain such as dopamine, neropinephrine, and serotonin.
  • 19.
    Have you everheard the phrase “birds of a feather flock together ”?
  • 20.
    Let’s talk definitions. 12 3 4 5 6 1. Homophily: if we believe people are similar to us, we are more attracted to them.
  • 21.
    This is importantin judging people we want to have relationships with. Aww. How cute.
  • 22.
    But not justromantic relationships. Any type. From a stranger on the street to potential employers.
  • 23.
    Let’s talk definitions. 2.Transference Effect: there are times we meet people who we immediately like or dislike. 1 2 3 4 5 6
  • 25.
    Let’s talk definitions. 3.Propinquity Effect: We often develop a sense of familiarity with people who live close to us, work with us, or go to school with us, which lead us to liking them more. 1 2 3 4 5 6
  • 26.
    “I knew wehad a lot in common, I’m crazy too!”
  • 27.
    For a while,researchers mainly studied attraction due to similarity between strangers. (Dr. Donn Byrne, starting in 1961)
  • 28.
    This means thatdissimilar (dominant and submissive) people go better together in relationships, and have more minor similarities (like interests and warmth).
  • 29.
    Let’s talk definitions. 4.Reciprocity: We like people who like us back. 1 2 3 4 5 6
  • 30.
    I’d argue thatsome degree of similarity is an essential factor in maintaining all types of associations…
  • 31.
    …but there shouldbe certain complementary characteristics for a truly successful relationship.
  • 32.
    People get moresimilar over time • Zajonc et al. (1987) • Dissimilar looking couples at marriage look more similar 25 years later. • Happier couple look more similar • Decades of shared emotions? 32
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  • 34.
    Let’s talk definitions. 5.Physical Attractiveness: Several research studies were conducted to confirm that physical attractiveness is a major factor in liking someone 1 2 3 4 5 6
  • 36.
    Let’s talk definitions. 6.Personality Characteristics and Traits: People get attracted to two characteristics that lead to liking the other person namely emphatic persons and socially competent. 1 2 3 4 5 6
  • 38.
    So, that meansif you’re passing someone on the street or briefly meeting them, you’re more attracted to similarity.
  • 39.
    However, some sayyou can’t prove causation between similarity and attraction. Sunnafrank, 1985 and 1992
  • 40.
    Activity 2. GroupActivity (Mini Drama Presentation) Group 1: Transference Effect Group 2: Propinquity Effect Group 3: Similarity Group 4: Reciprocity Group 5: Physical Attractiveness
  • 42.
    So there yougo. That’s a (short) explanation of the Personal Relationship. You’re welcome.