PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP:
Attraction, Love &
Commitment
Personal Development
LEARNING COMPETENCIES:
oExpress his/her ways of showing
attraction, love, and commitment
(EsP-PD11/12PR-2a-9.2)
SPECIFIC LEARNING OBJECTIVES:
o Determine and explain ways of showing attraction,
love, and commitment; and
o Determine the importance of expressing attraction,
love and commitment; and
o Demonstrate acceptable expression of attraction
towards your relationship circles.
TRUE or FALSE…Y?
Directions: Write T if the
statement is TRUE, if it is FALSE,
write F.
TRUE or FALSE…Y?
1. It is important to work on
communicating our feelings in
relationships.
TRUE or FALSE…Y?
2. To love someone, we
must love our self-first.
TRUE or FALSE…Y?
3. Trying to understand where other
people are coming from rather
than judging them helps us build
and maintain relationships.
TRUE or FALSE…Y?
4. Having a good relationship
does not contribute
anything to us.
TRUE or FALSE…Y?
5. When people listen deeply and let us
know that they recognize the feeling
behind our words, more likely than
not, our relationship is doing good.
WHO DO YOU THINK?
Directions: Below are different expressions of yours
toward other people. Now, think of a particular
person that first comes in your mind when you feel
such expression. Put their name under each face or
just write how you are related to them (example:
“Jose” or if you want, just “best friend”).
WHO DO YOU THINK?
PROCESSING QUESTIONS:
1.What do you feel while doing the activity?
2.How do you express your ways of showing
attraction, love, and commitment to other
people? Do you find it easy or difficult? To whom
do you find easy/difficult in expressing your
feelings?
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP:
Attraction, Love &
Commitment
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ATTRACTION
the action or power of evoking interest,
pleasure, or liking for someone or
something; and
a quality or feature that evokes interest,
liking, or desire.
INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION
When you have a positive attitude or
evaluation regarding a particular
person in relation to different
components
KEY COMPONENTS OF ATTRACTION
1. Physical Attractiveness
2. Similarity
3. Proximity
4. Reciprocity
LOVE
(a) strong affection for another arising out of kinship or
personal ties;
(b) attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness
felt by lovers;
(c) affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common
interests.
(d) an assurance of affection
COMMITMENT
Dr. Rajiv Jhangiani and Dr. Hammond Tarry
reiterated the Slotter et al., 2011 that
“commitment refers to the feelings and action
that keep partners working together to
maintain the relationship”.
Below are some collected ideas on how to exercise expressing
affections and developed into a commitment for any kinds of
relationship.
Stay happy. Happiness gives you the feeling of
satisfaction for both abstract and concrete things.
Be empathic. Empathizing with another is acting with
greater cooperation and overall altruism—the desire to
help, even at a potential cost to the self.
Below are some collected ideas on how to exercise
expressing affections and developed into a commitment
for any kinds of relationship.
Keep open communication. It provides an opportunity to
size up the trustworthiness of a person by verbally
committing to cooperate with another.
Always trust. Working with others toward a common
goal requires a level of faith that others will repay our
hard work and generosity. Supporting their interests is
also showing your trust.
Below are some collected ideas on how to exercise
expressing affections and developed into a commitment
for any kinds of relationship.
Show respect. People are likely to give respect to
others by being polite, honest, and by showing
kindness all the time.
Be a helping hand. In times of trouble (e.g.
mentally/ emotionally), make him/her feel that
he/she always has you on his/her side.
LETTER FROM MOM
Pages 64-66
LETTER FROM MOM
What kind of relationship does the letter describe?
Who are involved in the relationship? Describe each
character.
What roles does each character play in the
relationship?
Are you satisfied with this type of relationship? Explain
your answer.
LETTER FROM MOM
Do you agree that this type of relationship
can be improved? Explain your answer.
In what ways can the characters show they
are responsible to maintain a good
relationship?
RESPONSE TO MOM’S LETTER
Directions: Put yourself in the shoes of Shane
and write a letter in response to Mom.
Explain your thoughts, feelings, and actions as a
child who is now almost an adult. Bring your
letter during the next class session.
AS APPRECIATION
Directions: Giving something to a person dear to
you is a sign of appreciation. This is also counted
as expressing affections towards others. The value
of an object or thing is measured by its
appreciation than its monetary amount.
AS APPRECIATION
a) Now, let us show appreciation to others by giving them
something that is precious to you.
b) Think at least four (4) objects or things that are very much
important to you. Write the name of each object in a 1/8
sheet together with its recipient.
c) After the given time, the students will share their reasons
with their selected classmate or if applicable, with the
members of your family.
COMPLETE ME…
I know that. . .
I learned. . .
I realized. . .
My plan. . .
ASSESSMENT
Directions: Choose the letter of the
best answer. Write the chosen letter
on a separate sheet of paper.
ASSESSMENT
1. Personal Relationship is the ______________.
A. choice of a person to
be engaged in a certain kind of relationship.
B. kind of interaction one makes when dealing in an intimate group of people.
C. close connection between the people formed by emotional
bonds and interaction.
D. type of person’s involvement in the community where he/she grows to be a good
individual.
ASSESSMENT
2. Romantic Relationship is characterized by ______________.
A. happy experiences shared by individuals
B. mutual love and respect shared by the couples
C. sympathy rendered by individuals towards one another
D. sense of belongingness felt by individuals with each other
ASSESSMENT
3.What do you call the feelings and action that keep
partners working together to maintain a relationship?
A. Affection
B. Attraction
C. Commitment
D. Love
ASSESSMENT
4.Infatuation comprises ________________.
A. Intimacy and Commitment
B. Commitment and passion
C. Passion only
D. Intimacy only
ASSESSMENT
4.Infatuation comprises ________________.
A. Intimacy and Commitment
B. Commitment and passion
C. Passion only
D. Intimacy only

PerDev Personal Relationship-Attraction, Love & Commitment.pptx

  • 1.
    PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP: Attraction, Love& Commitment Personal Development
  • 2.
    LEARNING COMPETENCIES: oExpress his/herways of showing attraction, love, and commitment (EsP-PD11/12PR-2a-9.2)
  • 3.
    SPECIFIC LEARNING OBJECTIVES: oDetermine and explain ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; and o Determine the importance of expressing attraction, love and commitment; and o Demonstrate acceptable expression of attraction towards your relationship circles.
  • 4.
    TRUE or FALSE…Y? Directions:Write T if the statement is TRUE, if it is FALSE, write F.
  • 5.
    TRUE or FALSE…Y? 1.It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
  • 6.
    TRUE or FALSE…Y? 2.To love someone, we must love our self-first.
  • 7.
    TRUE or FALSE…Y? 3.Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than judging them helps us build and maintain relationships.
  • 8.
    TRUE or FALSE…Y? 4.Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us.
  • 9.
    TRUE or FALSE…Y? 5.When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the feeling behind our words, more likely than not, our relationship is doing good.
  • 10.
    WHO DO YOUTHINK? Directions: Below are different expressions of yours toward other people. Now, think of a particular person that first comes in your mind when you feel such expression. Put their name under each face or just write how you are related to them (example: “Jose” or if you want, just “best friend”).
  • 11.
    WHO DO YOUTHINK?
  • 12.
    PROCESSING QUESTIONS: 1.What doyou feel while doing the activity? 2.How do you express your ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment to other people? Do you find it easy or difficult? To whom do you find easy/difficult in expressing your feelings?
  • 13.
  • 14.
  • 15.
    ATTRACTION the action orpower of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something; and a quality or feature that evokes interest, liking, or desire.
  • 16.
    INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION When youhave a positive attitude or evaluation regarding a particular person in relation to different components
  • 17.
    KEY COMPONENTS OFATTRACTION 1. Physical Attractiveness 2. Similarity 3. Proximity 4. Reciprocity
  • 18.
    LOVE (a) strong affectionfor another arising out of kinship or personal ties; (b) attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers; (c) affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests. (d) an assurance of affection
  • 20.
    COMMITMENT Dr. Rajiv Jhangianiand Dr. Hammond Tarry reiterated the Slotter et al., 2011 that “commitment refers to the feelings and action that keep partners working together to maintain the relationship”.
  • 21.
    Below are somecollected ideas on how to exercise expressing affections and developed into a commitment for any kinds of relationship. Stay happy. Happiness gives you the feeling of satisfaction for both abstract and concrete things. Be empathic. Empathizing with another is acting with greater cooperation and overall altruism—the desire to help, even at a potential cost to the self.
  • 22.
    Below are somecollected ideas on how to exercise expressing affections and developed into a commitment for any kinds of relationship. Keep open communication. It provides an opportunity to size up the trustworthiness of a person by verbally committing to cooperate with another. Always trust. Working with others toward a common goal requires a level of faith that others will repay our hard work and generosity. Supporting their interests is also showing your trust.
  • 23.
    Below are somecollected ideas on how to exercise expressing affections and developed into a commitment for any kinds of relationship. Show respect. People are likely to give respect to others by being polite, honest, and by showing kindness all the time. Be a helping hand. In times of trouble (e.g. mentally/ emotionally), make him/her feel that he/she always has you on his/her side.
  • 24.
  • 25.
    LETTER FROM MOM Whatkind of relationship does the letter describe? Who are involved in the relationship? Describe each character. What roles does each character play in the relationship? Are you satisfied with this type of relationship? Explain your answer.
  • 26.
    LETTER FROM MOM Doyou agree that this type of relationship can be improved? Explain your answer. In what ways can the characters show they are responsible to maintain a good relationship?
  • 27.
    RESPONSE TO MOM’SLETTER Directions: Put yourself in the shoes of Shane and write a letter in response to Mom. Explain your thoughts, feelings, and actions as a child who is now almost an adult. Bring your letter during the next class session.
  • 28.
    AS APPRECIATION Directions: Givingsomething to a person dear to you is a sign of appreciation. This is also counted as expressing affections towards others. The value of an object or thing is measured by its appreciation than its monetary amount.
  • 29.
    AS APPRECIATION a) Now,let us show appreciation to others by giving them something that is precious to you. b) Think at least four (4) objects or things that are very much important to you. Write the name of each object in a 1/8 sheet together with its recipient. c) After the given time, the students will share their reasons with their selected classmate or if applicable, with the members of your family.
  • 30.
    COMPLETE ME… I knowthat. . . I learned. . . I realized. . . My plan. . .
  • 31.
    ASSESSMENT Directions: Choose theletter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet of paper.
  • 32.
    ASSESSMENT 1. Personal Relationshipis the ______________. A. choice of a person to be engaged in a certain kind of relationship. B. kind of interaction one makes when dealing in an intimate group of people. C. close connection between the people formed by emotional bonds and interaction. D. type of person’s involvement in the community where he/she grows to be a good individual.
  • 33.
    ASSESSMENT 2. Romantic Relationshipis characterized by ______________. A. happy experiences shared by individuals B. mutual love and respect shared by the couples C. sympathy rendered by individuals towards one another D. sense of belongingness felt by individuals with each other
  • 34.
    ASSESSMENT 3.What do youcall the feelings and action that keep partners working together to maintain a relationship? A. Affection B. Attraction C. Commitment D. Love
  • 35.
    ASSESSMENT 4.Infatuation comprises ________________. A.Intimacy and Commitment B. Commitment and passion C. Passion only D. Intimacy only
  • 36.
    ASSESSMENT 4.Infatuation comprises ________________. A.Intimacy and Commitment B. Commitment and passion C. Passion only D. Intimacy only

Editor's Notes

  • #5 LET US RECALL WHAT YOU’VE LEARNED TO OUR LESSON YESTERDAY BY DOING THE FIRST ACTIVITY.
  • #6 ANSWER: TRUE
  • #7 ANSWER: TRUE
  • #8 ANSWER: TRUE
  • #9 ANSWER: FALSE
  • #10 ANSWER: TRUE
  • #15 Having and building relationship with others is natural, yet sometimes, it could be challenging and confusing. there are elements hidden behind the idea of being in a relationship with others, how it starts, and how it grows. By discussing and defining some important concepts, you will be able to gain ideas on important these factors are to personal relationship.
  • #16 The Merriam-Webster dictionary, collegiately defined attraction as:
  • #17 For many, interpersonal attraction relates only between two people having an intimate and romantic relationship. However, it is not only limited to such since it may also transpire between friends, colleagues, family members, and others.
  • #18 3. Proximity pertains to physical distance with other people and it is related to functional distance (how often people interact or communicate with each other). The more you encounter or interact with the person, the more you allow yourself to get to know him/her better which leads to a better relationship like friendship or intimate relationship. Most likely, the people always near you just like your classmate or neighbor has a big tendency to become your friend. 4. We tend to get along with people or with someone whom we have the same feelings toward. It is called reciprocity. It is when feelings with someone are being reciprocated or returned in the same way as you do.
  • #21 more complex relationship that resulted to increasingly turn to each other not only for social support but also for help in coordinating activities, remembering dates and appointments, and accomplishing tasks (Wegner, Erber, & Raymond, 1991). Many people say that for you to be able to have a successful relationship, you should know your similarities and differences; understand your partner’s needs and desires; and invest time and effort to work things out and last for a lifetime. Any relationship will last through the cooperation of both parties, without this, the relationship will not last and ends with breaking up. Commitment is a choice, a long and not an easy process that needs to be participated by you and your partner.
  • #22 Expressing our attraction, love, and commitment to a specific person is definitely different on how we express it with a different set of people.
  • #24 After the discussion let the student read the letter from Mom (refer to pp. 64-66 of the Learner’s Material)
  • #26 Because of the following reasons, the mother-daughter connection is extremely essential. 1. It ties them together. 2. To help her daughter grow into an adult 3. Because they helped each other, the family can easily solve problems. To avoid communication gaps and difficulties, it is critical to communicate. 14. Refer to paragraph 12, do you agree with the Mom when she wrote "When I stand my ground and open myself up to your vitriol and disregard and general railroading, that, my dear, is love."? Explain your answer. Yes, I agree with the mother because she is implying that when you love someone, you must occasionally put up with their harsh actions and furious words. 15. Give instances that would make the Mom write "...it is the great irony of life that the person I love most, I get treated the worst by." In paragraph 3 when mom asked to clean – when asked to do anything really – Sane rolls her eyes because she have a thousand more important things to do like watch Pangako Sa ‘Yo or check her phone. 16. Refer to paragraph 13, what did the Mom promise her daughter? What was the Mom's request from her daughter? The mother advises her daughter to deal with the situation in the letter. Because the daughter is shy about expressing her gratitude to others, she writes to her mother, saying, "I need you in every situation." Every season of the year, I need you. As a result, the mother is encouraging her daughter to be more passionate and realistic in her approach to life.