This document discusses the challenges and promise of personalizing feedback for students. It begins by asking the audience to reflect on feedback they have received that was either damaging or motivating. It then outlines some of the key topics to be covered, including the consequences of standardized "policing" feedback mechanisms, what effective personalized feedback looks like, and strategies for overcoming emotional barriers to receiving feedback. The document questions whether standardized feedback approaches are anti-educational, and presents an alternative paradigm of feedback as a dialogic, relationship-based process. It provides examples of how to bridge the "judgement gap" between a student's self-view and critical feedback, and emphasizes developing students' capacity to engage in feedback dialogue.