The "ManToMan #MeToo Session: Being the Imperfect Ally" is a 90-minutes to 1/2 day session that creates an empathetic space for authentic dialogue and provides a relationship based model for men and women to gain congruence on intentions, behaviors, and impact that represents #MeToo progress in the workplace.

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Man to Man: A Bold, Inclusive Conversation ™
Unpacking the #MeToo Movement

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Today’s Facilitator
Kevin A. Carter
Principal Strategist, The Winters Group
• 25+ Years National and International D&I
Experience
• Specialty: Leveraging people’s commonalities and
differences through assessments, coaching and
social technology to enhance stakeholder
engagement, affinity, and advocacy
• Husband, Vegan, African American, Cyclist,
Collaborative Technologist, Pitbull Rescuer, Baby
Boomer and Trip-Hop/Neo Soul fan

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Today, we will…
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Provide a
space and
model for two-
way #MeToo
dialogue
Raise our
#MeToo self-
and other-
awareness
Discuss
sexism,
misogyny and
patriarchy
Provide a model
for planning and
accountability

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Conversation Model ENGAGE:
Offer support as an
imperfect ally,
Align intention,
behavior & impact
LISTEN:
To hear and
understand,
Not to rebut, or to
minimize
© 2014-2018 Developed by Kevin A. Carter,
Principal Strategist, The Winters Group
ACKNOWLEDGE:
I don’t know my impact
I am well-meaning, but
imperfect
REFLECT:
Who have I been?
Was my behavior
always aligned with
my intentions?
What was the
impact of my
behavior?
•Men looking for a way to be
a #MeToo ally
•Men and Women looking
for a way to gain
congruence on intentions,
behaviors and impact with
respect to the #MeToo
movement
• Congruence increases
clarity in communication,
and effectiveness.

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The Intercultural Development Continuum
Monocultural
Mindset
Intercultural
Mindset
Denial
“I don't see the
problem”
Polarization
“I will help women
adapt to the system”
Minimization
“I will treat women as I
would expect to be treated”
Acceptance
“I will strive to learn the culture my
behaviors create for women”
Adaptation
“I will model, and hold others accountable, to
model behaviors respectful of women”
© 2015-2017 IDI, LLC used with permission
The Intercultural Development Continuum (IDC TM)
Adapted by Kevin A Carter,
Principal Strategist, The Winters Group, 2018
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Congruence Model
• Success strategies include three
elements: Intention, Behavior, Impact.
• Congruence exists when intended
behavior (Intention), actual behavior
(Behavior), and perceived behavioral
impact on others (Impact) are
consistent.
• Congruence increases clarity in
communication, and effectiveness
© 2014-2018 Developed by Kevin A. Carter,
Principal Strategist, The Winters Group
Intention
“I want to help, be an
ally, show support”
Behavior
“I will mentor you in the
strategies to lean-in”
Impact
“?????”

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Lastly…Commit to Live Inclusively™
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I commit to be intentional in living inclusively.
I commit to spending more time getting to know myself and understanding my culture. It is in understanding
myself, that I am better positioned to understand others. I will acknowledge that I don’t know what I don’t
know, but I will not use what is unconscious as an excuse. I will be intentional in exposing myself to difference.
If I don’t know, I will ask. If I am asked, I will assume positive intent. Most importantly, I will accept my
responsibility in increasing my own knowledge and understanding.
I commit to speaking up and speaking out, even when I am not directly impacted, for there is no such thing as
neutrality in the quest for equity, justice, and inclusion.
I will strive to accept, and not just tolerate; respect, even if I don’t agree; and be curious, not judgmental. I
commit to pausing and listening. I will be empathetic to the experiences and perspectives of my “others.” I
will use my privilege positively, and get comfortable with my own discomfort.
I commit to knowing, getting, and doing better than I did yesterday—keeping in mind my commitment to live
inclusively is a journey, not a destination.
I did yesterday—keeping in mind my commitment to live inclusively is a journey, not a destination.
Take the Pledge Today at http://bit.ly/LIPledge or www.wintersgroup.com/live-inclusively-
actualized/pledge
Written by: Brittany J. Harris, VP, Innovation & Learning, The Winters Group

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