This document provides guidance on choosing a life partner and discusses factors to consider. It recommends ideally looking for a partner towards the end of college when attraction is less general. It identifies categories to consider like when, where, how, and expectations for finding a partner. The document advises asking questions about a potential partner's life, culture, and personality to determine compatibility. Goals for marriage include happiness, unity, love, and sharing, while incompatibilities can lead to divorce. Research showed girls prioritize love, care, and appearance while boys consider appearance, protection, and money more.

1. TO WHOM SHOULD WE LOVE..?

2. HOW TO CHOOSE YOUR LIFE PARTNER
• W.A.D.M. Wickramasinghe
• U.P.D. De Silva

3. THE 4 CATEGORIES
THESE CATEGORIES ARE SUGGESTIONS OF WHAT MAY BE IDEAL
 When
 Where
 How
 Expectations

4. WHEN
 An ideal time would be towards the end of your college
career
- Before that age, opposite gender attraction is
usually general
 By law: over 18 years old
-Before that age,

5. WHERE
Work
place
Could be
anywhere
Marriage
proposal
A/L
tuition
class

6. EXPECTATIONS
 Some people will form unreal expectations of what
they are looking for in a partner.
“Beauty is fading and charm is deceitful”
 My partner should be very close to me in terms of my:
 Affectionately
 Financially
 Academically
This will generally minimize many problems later on.

7. HOW
 Through facial expressions
-Eye contacts
- Winking
 Through social networks
- Face book
- My space
- Skype
 Different occasions

8. FACTORS AFFECTING THE DECISION
 Family
 love and respect between parents,
 how they deal with relatives,
 Culture
 Communication
 Dialogue
 Ability to express feelings
 Responsibility (Level of success in life)
 Financial Status
 Diseases (hepatitis, Cancer, infertility, psychological disorders,
etc.)

9. QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF AFTER YOU FIND YOUR
POTENTIAL PARTNER
 Q1: Life
 Q2: Culture
 Q3: Personality

10. Q1: LIFE
 How do they spend money?
 Do they love to serve others?
 Do they respect other people?
 Do they respect the lowly?
 Is there any kind of addiction present in their lives?
 Is the person stubborn or heard-headed?
 Are they able to keep a private life with their spouse?
 Are they quick to lose friends?
 How long does it take to forgive someone? A moment, day, year,
forever?
 Ambition, greediness, laziness…

11. Q2: CULTURE
 Who are their friends?
 What books do they read?
 What websites do they go on?
 What shows/ movies do they watch?
 How do they spend their free time?
 Hobbies?
 Music?

12. Q3: PERSONALITY
 The dangers of comparing?
 Are they hesitant in making decisions?
 Punctuality in time?
 Do they like to own everything they see?
 Are they able to say sorry when they are wrong?
 Are they suspicious/ paranoid about people around
them?
 Humility?

13. GOALS FOR MARRIAGE
 Happiness
 To become one unity
 Love
 Sharing
 Protection

14. WHAT CAN LEAD A MARRIAGE TO A DIVORCE?
 Infidelity
 Finances
 Addictions
 Lack Commitment
 High Expectations
 Adultery
 Compatibility
 Family Preasures

15. ACCORDING TO THE OUR RESEARCH
Love
45%
Care
20%
Money
5%
Protection
0%
Appearanc
e
30%
Boys
Appearanc
e
10%
Love
40%
Protection
20%
Care
10%
Money
20%
Girls

16. ACCORDING TO THE OUR RESEARCH
70
90
100
40
60
100
120
100
80
60
40
20
0
Issues of priveres love
affiares
Dowry or Savings Education level and
ocupation
Girls Boys