Modesty, or haya, comes from the Arabic word meaning "life" and refers to qualities like shyness, self-respect, and humility. It has both a natural aspect based on instincts and a religious aspect based on following Allah's commands. True modesty is an important sign of faith that makes one conscious of Allah and refrain from improper behaviors even when alone. It involves controlling reactions, treating others with respect, and recognizing that one is always being observed by Allah. Fostering modesty requires reflecting on one's actions and developing a deep love and fear of Allah.

2. Derived from
the word
“hayat” which
means life.

3. shyness, self-
respect, bashfulness,
shame, honor,
humility, etc.

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• Asking favours
• Telling truth
• When we need break from something
• Following Allah’s command in society

5. • Following cults and peer pressure
• Watching vulgarity
• Back biting and other haram

6. ‫اس‬َ‫ب‬ِ‫ل‬ ْ‫م‬ُ‫ك‬ْ‫ي‬َ‫ل‬َ‫ع‬ ‫َا‬‫ن‬ْ‫ل‬َ‫نز‬َ‫أ‬ ْ‫د‬َ‫ق‬ َ‫م‬َ‫د‬‫آ‬ ‫ي‬ِ‫ن‬َ‫ب‬ ‫ا‬َ‫ي‬َ‫و‬ ۖ ‫ا‬‫يش‬ ِ‫ر‬ َ‫و‬ ْ‫م‬ُ‫ك‬ِ‫ت‬‫آ‬ ْ‫و‬َ‫س‬ ‫ي‬ ِ‫ار‬ َ‫و‬ُ‫ي‬ ‫ا‬ُ‫اس‬َ‫ب‬ِ‫ل‬
ِ‫ت‬‫ا‬َ‫ي‬‫آ‬ ْ‫ن‬ِ‫م‬ َ‫ك‬ِ‫ل‬َٰ‫ذ‬ ۚ ٌ‫ْر‬‫ي‬َ‫خ‬ َ‫ك‬ِ‫ل‬َٰ‫ذ‬ ٰ‫ى‬ َ‫و‬ْ‫ق‬َّ‫ت‬‫ال‬َ‫ون‬ُ‫ر‬َّ‫ك‬َّ‫ذ‬َ‫ي‬ ْ‫م‬ُ‫ه‬َّ‫ل‬َ‫ع‬َ‫ل‬ ِ َّ‫اَّلل‬
• O children of Adam, We have bestowed upon you clothing to conceal your private parts and as adornment. But the
clothing of righteousness - that is best. That is from the signs of Allah that perhaps they will remember.

7. Bad and uneasy feeling accompanied by embarrassment, caused
by one's fear of being exposed or censured for some unworthy
or indecent conduct.

8. Modesty
by Nature
Modesty
by
Religion

9. • The natural instincts of
shyness and shame i.e. the
natural feeling a person has
to cover his private parts.

10. Example of Hazrat Usman (ra)
Once, Prophet Muhammad (saw) was
sitting with some of his Companions
and the shin of leg was not covered. In
the meantime, somebody informed him
about the arrival of Hazrat Usman (ra).
Prophet Muhammad (saw) immediately
covered it and remarked, "Even the
angels have regard for the modesty of
Usman."

11. • “In the times when I am alone and even in the times of need I
do no see my private parts because of Allah’s Haya. “
• “Allah has told us to cover our private parts, so even in the
times of need I do not see them because I feel shame from my
own body.”
(sermon of Abu Bakr ra)

12. • “If a person loses modesty(Haya) then he loses Allah’s fear too.
And when he loses Allah’s fear then his heart is dead.”
• “A person who is modest (baa haya) will try to cover himself,
he will not show off his body, he will not do bad things. And
the person who will cover himself will become pious, and the
one who becomes pious will be saved.”

13. Major aspect of Modesty.
Based on faith.
A sense of haya should affect a
Muslim’s conduct before Allah,
before others and even when one
is alone.

15. http://www.therebelution.com/mod
estysurvey/overview

16. • Objective: What the average man thinks about modesty?
• By Christian guys and girls who care about modesty.
• Over 200 Christian girls submitted their questions.
• In less than twenty days
– Over 1,600 Christian guys (12 and up) responded
– Close to 200,000 separate pieces of data were collected, including 25,000
text responses.
The survey was presented in a traditional five-point Agree/Disagree format.
– Each participant was presented with 148 positive/negative statements and
was given the options to Agree, Strongly Agree, Disagree, Strongly
Disagree, or remain Neutral.
– Each statement was accompanied by an optional text box for additional
explanation.

29. A person not hurting
another with his words,
tone, or body language.
Not talking rudely,
unpleasantly, or not showing
bad or uncivilized behavior.

30. Having a critical eye on us, the way we
talk, walk, behave and think and our
thoughts when we are alone.
Prophet Muhammad (saw) once said
that self judgment and self realization is
haya.

31. Covering our body
according to the rules
mentioned in Shariah.

32. • A person says something
intolerable to us.
• A person demands
something wrong
• A person talks indecently.
Controlling
our immediate
and negative
reaction when

33. Meeting someone in a
presentable way, not
being a cause of
displeasure because of
the way we have
dressed up or the way
we smell.

34. To treat children with kindness
Narrated by Hazrat Anas (R.A)
“Swear upon Allah I served Prophet Muhammad (saw)
for 9 years. I do not remember him saying me why you
did not do this, or why you did this, if I did not do
something properly, or did not do something I was told
to do.”

36. Desires of nafs
Pressures of
environment
Lack of believe in the
existence of Allah

41. The first condition of acceptance of
“Tauba” is shame, guilt, and a strong
feeling that we have done wrong.
And all these feelings come from
Haya.

44. Sign a life
Sign of faith
Sign of recognition(“Marfat”) of Allah
Sense of responsibility
Feeling of being answerable for own deeds

46. • Hilm: Not taking immediate
and negative reaction.
• Haya: Not being a source of
displeasure for others.
Two
qualities
which
Allah Loves

48. There are different levels of Haya in every
person, and these levels depend upon
The level of
recognition of
Allah
The fear of
Allah
The feeling
that Allah is
very near
The feeling of
Allah’s
omnipresence

49. He stops himself from things, which are allowed in Shariah, but he feels they are not right for him.
Haya then becomes a shield between that person and bad.
starts to see Allah’s blessing and His greatness in everything,
starts to ponder upon the miracles of Allah.
this creates Haya in him. (Junaid Bhaghdadi)

51. Feeling shame over our
mistakes.
To accept that we are weak
but not accepting “be
hayai”.

52. Deep love of Allah, that makes a
person’s tongue to seize with haya.
He does not blame others for his
misdeeds

53. Feeling shame from ourselves
This helps to move towards solutions
Modest in his relationship with Allah.
Refrain from doing bad even when alone

56. Visualize every
situation as a test

57. You have four cameras pointing at you
Recording from all directions
And all this will be played back in front of Allah, and all of creation!

61. You had a busy day,
slept late at night, could
not wake up for fajar
namaz, how would you
feel when you get up
late and realize that you
missed namaz?

62. Oh! Missed again!
No problem it was
just one namaz…
DOES NOT MATTER
MUCH

63. Feeling shame,
guilt, feeling how
great Allah is and
how unthankful we
am, and think of
how we can avoid
this in future.

64. You come home from
work/university, tired,
exhausted, your mother
start scolding you on
something that was not
even your fault.

65. Shout back
at her.?

66. Understand that she is
human too, she may be upset
because of something else.
So we should control our
immediate and negative
reaction and think of other
person’s state of mind.

67. You have a habit of talking rudely
with people.

68. Don’t forget the
cameras 
Talk to people
politely, and humbly.

72. Makes us pious
Realize that only Allah is great (Allah-o-Akbar)
The bad inside starts to vanish
Creates the attitude of gentleness in a believer