Games for learning about Conflict ResolutionEllen Grove
All teams experience conflict - what matters is how they deal with it. In this presentation I share some ideas that you can use to get your team thinking about how they deal with conflict and some games to practice conflict management skills.
Diversity and Inclusion in Community Building by Erica McGillivrayErica McGillivray
What makes our digital age incredible is the ability to connect with people from around the world. However, bringing people together from a plethora of backgrounds, even for a shared interest, can cause friction. Erica McGillivray, Senior Community Manager at Moz, will show you:
- How to build your community with intent on inclusion
- Why diversity will serve to make your community stronger and more vibrant
- How to set up rules and etiquette to help you manage, grow, and moderate your community
- What to do when mistakes happen on the brand side
- Ways to level up on conflict resolution to work out problems and misunderstanding in your community
- Self-care for community managers who've had a rough day
Communities are a powerful resource, but what happens when they get out of control? Erica will walk you through how to set up proper guidelines, how to level up your conflict resolution, and how to maintain your brand visibility and cohesion. She’ll share disasters, uplifting moments, and the tactics that go into creating and maintaining an engaged branded community.
What are the stories, facts, and details of your nonprofit that will build a sense of community and action? We'll answer those questions and share what tools can get you there during this important webinar
Games for learning about Conflict ResolutionEllen Grove
All teams experience conflict - what matters is how they deal with it. In this presentation I share some ideas that you can use to get your team thinking about how they deal with conflict and some games to practice conflict management skills.
Diversity and Inclusion in Community Building by Erica McGillivrayErica McGillivray
What makes our digital age incredible is the ability to connect with people from around the world. However, bringing people together from a plethora of backgrounds, even for a shared interest, can cause friction. Erica McGillivray, Senior Community Manager at Moz, will show you:
- How to build your community with intent on inclusion
- Why diversity will serve to make your community stronger and more vibrant
- How to set up rules and etiquette to help you manage, grow, and moderate your community
- What to do when mistakes happen on the brand side
- Ways to level up on conflict resolution to work out problems and misunderstanding in your community
- Self-care for community managers who've had a rough day
Communities are a powerful resource, but what happens when they get out of control? Erica will walk you through how to set up proper guidelines, how to level up your conflict resolution, and how to maintain your brand visibility and cohesion. She’ll share disasters, uplifting moments, and the tactics that go into creating and maintaining an engaged branded community.
What are the stories, facts, and details of your nonprofit that will build a sense of community and action? We'll answer those questions and share what tools can get you there during this important webinar
How Delta Airlines handled the US Army excess baggage crisisSimpliFlying
Delta Airlines faced a tough crises when it charged returning US soldiers for excess baggage, and when the Youtube video of this went viral, they dealt with it on their blog. We analyze how they did.
Learning to understand our fellow members and leaders is one of the best things we can do in Toastmasters to maintain club membership. This presentation speaks to one of the most effective ways to accomplish that goal. While this deck was prepared for Toastmasters, it may be applied in many other business and personal environments.
This deck was presented at the Toastmaster's District 45 Fall Conference on Prince Edward Island, Canada on October 25, 2014.
Since the presentation, I noticed that TM has updated the survey with 2014 data. It can be found here: http://bit.ly/1FwRRoE
Libby Sartain, former CHRO of Southwest Airlines and RoundPegg Board Member, offers 3 leadership tips when dealing with skeptics during an organization culture change.
So What and Who Cares - Getting Your Communications RightKivi Leroux Miller
Make your nonprofit communications more relevant by always answering So What? and Who Cares? How do you get more relevant? Try the 6 R's: Be Rewarding, Realistic, Real-Time, Responsive, Revealing, and Refreshing.
As presented to the Association of Fundraising Professional (AFP) Charlotte on June 20, 2012.
Ed Batista, Interpersonal Dynamics, Class 3: Self-Disclosure & AuthenticityEd Batista
This is a condensed deck from the third class of my Winter 2016 section of Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) at the Stanford Graduate School of Business (aka @StanfordBiz).
From SES London February ‘09. 15 minute overview of the social media landscape with a focus on building conversations. Coverage of the social media mainstays, including Twitter, Flickr and Youtube.
Ed Batista, Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) @StanfordBiz, Class 7: ...Ed Batista
This is a condensed slide deck from the seventh class in my section of Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) at the Stanford Graduate School of Business in Winter Quarter 2017.
From SBMU in September ’08. One hour presentation on the basics of Social Media. What it is, how it works and the most popular social media outlets for companies to get involved in. Heavy emphasis on using social media for listening and conversation rather than for direct channel marketing.
Great research starts with insightful questions. But what are the ‘right’ questions to ask, and how do I plan for the unforeseen? In this session we’ll shed light on approaches to making the most of social data. We’ll question the meaning of ‘influencers’ and tackle data segmentation. This is a session for those who are ready to level up their research but not sure where to begin.
Les catalyseurs à l'engagement d'une équipe Agile - Agile Tour 2013Agile Partnership
Lors de cette session, nous aurons l'occasion d'explorer les catalyseurs et inhibiteurs à l'adoption d'une approche Agile. Nous nous poserons plusieurs questions telles que...
• Qui est cet individu au sein d'une équipe Agile?
• Comment obtenir un engagement fort des équipes qui n'ont jamais eu à le faire dans passé?
• À quoi devrait s’engager une équipe Agile?
• Quelles sont les causes profondes (root causes) de l'incapacité ou du désintéressement d'une équipe à prendre ou respecter un engagement pour une itération?
• Quels liens pouvons-nous faire entre une prévision, l'engagement, la motivation et la responsabilisation?
• Quels types d'engagements devrait prendre Direction?
Au terme de la session, les participants seront en mesure de comprendre l'importance d'une saine dynamique entre l'individu, l'équipe et l'organisation et ainsi approfondir leur compréhension des raisons pourquoi l'adoption d'une approche Agile peut rapidement plafonner ou même s'éteindre.
How Delta Airlines handled the US Army excess baggage crisisSimpliFlying
Delta Airlines faced a tough crises when it charged returning US soldiers for excess baggage, and when the Youtube video of this went viral, they dealt with it on their blog. We analyze how they did.
Learning to understand our fellow members and leaders is one of the best things we can do in Toastmasters to maintain club membership. This presentation speaks to one of the most effective ways to accomplish that goal. While this deck was prepared for Toastmasters, it may be applied in many other business and personal environments.
This deck was presented at the Toastmaster's District 45 Fall Conference on Prince Edward Island, Canada on October 25, 2014.
Since the presentation, I noticed that TM has updated the survey with 2014 data. It can be found here: http://bit.ly/1FwRRoE
Libby Sartain, former CHRO of Southwest Airlines and RoundPegg Board Member, offers 3 leadership tips when dealing with skeptics during an organization culture change.
So What and Who Cares - Getting Your Communications RightKivi Leroux Miller
Make your nonprofit communications more relevant by always answering So What? and Who Cares? How do you get more relevant? Try the 6 R's: Be Rewarding, Realistic, Real-Time, Responsive, Revealing, and Refreshing.
As presented to the Association of Fundraising Professional (AFP) Charlotte on June 20, 2012.
Ed Batista, Interpersonal Dynamics, Class 3: Self-Disclosure & AuthenticityEd Batista
This is a condensed deck from the third class of my Winter 2016 section of Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) at the Stanford Graduate School of Business (aka @StanfordBiz).
From SES London February ‘09. 15 minute overview of the social media landscape with a focus on building conversations. Coverage of the social media mainstays, including Twitter, Flickr and Youtube.
Ed Batista, Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) @StanfordBiz, Class 7: ...Ed Batista
This is a condensed slide deck from the seventh class in my section of Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) at the Stanford Graduate School of Business in Winter Quarter 2017.
From SBMU in September ’08. One hour presentation on the basics of Social Media. What it is, how it works and the most popular social media outlets for companies to get involved in. Heavy emphasis on using social media for listening and conversation rather than for direct channel marketing.
Great research starts with insightful questions. But what are the ‘right’ questions to ask, and how do I plan for the unforeseen? In this session we’ll shed light on approaches to making the most of social data. We’ll question the meaning of ‘influencers’ and tackle data segmentation. This is a session for those who are ready to level up their research but not sure where to begin.
Les catalyseurs à l'engagement d'une équipe Agile - Agile Tour 2013Agile Partnership
Lors de cette session, nous aurons l'occasion d'explorer les catalyseurs et inhibiteurs à l'adoption d'une approche Agile. Nous nous poserons plusieurs questions telles que...
• Qui est cet individu au sein d'une équipe Agile?
• Comment obtenir un engagement fort des équipes qui n'ont jamais eu à le faire dans passé?
• À quoi devrait s’engager une équipe Agile?
• Quelles sont les causes profondes (root causes) de l'incapacité ou du désintéressement d'une équipe à prendre ou respecter un engagement pour une itération?
• Quels liens pouvons-nous faire entre une prévision, l'engagement, la motivation et la responsabilisation?
• Quels types d'engagements devrait prendre Direction?
Au terme de la session, les participants seront en mesure de comprendre l'importance d'une saine dynamique entre l'individu, l'équipe et l'organisation et ainsi approfondir leur compréhension des raisons pourquoi l'adoption d'une approche Agile peut rapidement plafonner ou même s'éteindre.
La culture organisationnelle est identifiée comme étant l’obstacle premier à l’adoption de l’agilité. Cet obstacle souvent incompris peut rapidement étouffer le désir du changement. Nous aurons l’opportunité d’explorer une approche de découverte de la culture dominante de son organisation, identifier les contrastes avec l’organisation Agile et comment l’accompagner vers de nouveaux horizons
Lors de cette session, les participants ont l’opportunité d’explorer trois éléments essentiels à l'entreprise dite agile. En plus des individus et les équipes, nous explorerons la culture organisationnelle et pourquoi celle-ci peut rapidement étouffer le désir du changement.
Comment démarre-t-on un projet Agile?
On veut une vision partagée par l'équipe et être prêts à sprinter. On a besoin de Agile Chartering et d'un Product Backlog minimal, estimé et priorisé.
There is so much incivility today that the way to argue issues and achieve something has weakened. Therefore, I studied, applied and presented some concepts on how to argue. I hope this presentation is helpful to you.
Are you faced with conflicts in the workplace and unsure how to resolve them effectively? Have you tried to resolve a conflict with a manager, direct report or peer and felt like you got nowhere? Do you sometimes avoid conflicts because they seem impossible to resolve? In this webinar, we will discuss a step by step process for preparing to resolve a conflict, how to have a productive conflict resolution conversation, and learn more about the nature and purpose of conflict in the workplace.
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What are some essential differences between constructive and destructive conflict?
Please make sure the summary is at least 300 words as well as use the reading material I posted below
Adolph and his brother, Rudolph, lived in a small German town and had heard that the American sprinter Jesse Owens was coming to Germany to compete in the 1936 Berlin Olympics. The two brothers had a small cobbler shop and thought they would try making sports shoes for the famed runner. They approached Owens and asked if he would wear their shoes during the Olympic competition. Owens quickly accepted the offer of free shoes and then won four gold medals. The two brothers parlayed that good fortune into making their small cobbler shop into a major producer of running shoes. There was just one problem: The two brothers didn’t get along. In fact, they fought a lot. Eventually, because of the constant conflict, they decided to go their separate ways. Adolph, whose nickname was “Adi,” took half of the shoemaking machines and started his own company on one side of the river in their town. You know it today as Adidas. Rudolph stayed on the other side of the river and called his new shoe company Puma. Their family conflict had thus created two giant running-shoe corporations.1 Conflict is a fact of life. Throughout history, people have been involved in conflicts ranging from family feuds that spawned rival shoe companies to nations that waged war against each other. Communication researchers and social psychologists conclude that when people interact with one another, they inevitably disagree.2 This chapter gives you some ideas about the causes of conflict in groups and teams and presents some strategies for managing it. We’re not going to tell you how to eliminate group conflict but rather how to understand it and its importance in your group deliberations. Despite the prevalence of conflict in group and team deliberations, communication researchers Steven Farmer and Jonelle Rothe note that much of what we know about group conflict has been generalized from research that has investigated interpersonal conflict.3 The prime objective of this chapter is to help you understand how conflict in groups and teams can be both useful and detrimental to collaborative decision making. What Is Conflict? Conflict happens when there is disagreement. Communication experts William Wilmot and Joyce Hocker define conflict as: (1) an expressed struggle (2) between at least two interdependent people (3) who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from others (4) to achieve specific goals.4 Expressed struggle: A conflict becomes a concern to a group when the disagreement is expressed verbally or, more often, nonverbally. Early signs of conflict include furrowed brows, grimacing facial expressions, and flashes of frustration evident in the voice. If the conflict persists, words are usually exchanged and unmanaged tempers may flare. Between at least two interde.
Conflict is inevitable in any team, organisation or family, but the secret to healthy teams,
organisations and families is in how we manage that conflict. Recent research suggests
not only that conflict is something that healthy groups experience, but actually that it is
essential to healthy group functioning. This presentation from London Business School Professor Peterson provided both a framework for understanding how to resolve conflict effectively, and a number of specific and practical tips for managing conflicts in your team.
Be prepared to constructively engage in conflicting perspectives wit.docxgarnerangelika
Be prepared to constructively engage in conflicting perspectives with peers and prof, as appropriate. Remember to cite at least two scholarly sources in your responses to peers’ initial posts. At the end of the week (Monday), be sure to let us know what you learned about your conflict management style. Were the assessments accurate? Why or why not?
David's post:
I watched the video “Dare to Disagree” and realized that these times in my life where I challenged authority or had the courage to speak up were good qualities (Heffernan, 2012). Sometimes disagreement can be petty and adversarial and other times, maybe we should call it productive disagreement. I also took the assertiveness questionnaire. I had my highest score, a 12, on harmonious assertiveness. Surprisingly, my next highest score was manipulation with a 9. I feel like I am one that disagrees productively, but I never considered myself as manipulative.
The task of posting a statement I believe to be true is one that I want to be careful choosing. I would rather avoid political discussions. I need to pick one that could be disagreeable, not something like “the sky is blue”. Here is my statement I believe is true:
Diversity is important for groups to achieve their objectives, particularly gender diversity.
References
Heffernan, M. (2012, June).
Dare to disagree (Links to an external site.) (Links to an external site.)
[Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.ted.com/talks/margaret_heffernan_dare_to_disagree?la
Pro Mind Consulting. (2012).
Assertiveness - Self-assessment (Links to an external site.) (Links to an external site.)
[Questionnaire]. Retrieved from http://www.hr4free.com/PDF_Files/Blog_EN_Management_assertiveness_assessment_questionnaire.pdf
Brittany's Post:
After watching the “Dare to Disagree” and taking the conflict management assessment I confirmed that I am a passive person. My results from the assessment are 13 points passive attitude (flight), harmonious assertiveness 5, manipulation 4, aggressive attitude (attitude) 3. Some conflicts are productive, and some conflicts are unproductive.
A statement that I perceive to be true is; "Raising the minimum wage is doing more harm than good".
References
Heffernan, M. (2012, June).
Dare to disagree
Retrieved from https://www.ted.com/talks/margaret_heffernan_dare_to_disagree?la
Pro Mind Consulting. (2012).
Assertiveness - Self-assessment
[Questionnaire]. Retrieved from http://www.hr4free.com/PDF_Files/Blog_EN_Management_assertiveness_assessment_questionnaire.pdf
My post:
Very few people would like to engage in the conflict because most people fear of managing the conflicts. In most cases, you find employees dying in the silence while they have concerns but fear what would be consequences of raising. However, it is when such employees raise their concerns, an opportunity is created for them to discuss and creatively come up with the solutions that are bound not only to assist them but also p.
The case study discusses the potential of drone delivery and the challenges that need to be addressed before it becomes widespread.
Key takeaways:
Drone delivery is in its early stages: Amazon's trial in the UK demonstrates the potential for faster deliveries, but it's still limited by regulations and technology.
Regulations are a major hurdle: Safety concerns around drone collisions with airplanes and people have led to restrictions on flight height and location.
Other challenges exist: Who will use drone delivery the most? Is it cost-effective compared to traditional delivery trucks?
Discussion questions:
Managerial challenges: Integrating drones requires planning for new infrastructure, training staff, and navigating regulations. There are also marketing and recruitment considerations specific to this technology.
External forces vary by country: Regulations, consumer acceptance, and infrastructure all differ between countries.
Demographics matter: Younger generations might be more receptive to drone delivery, while older populations might have concerns.
Stakeholders for Amazon: Customers, regulators, aviation authorities, and competitors are all stakeholders. Regulators likely hold the greatest influence as they determine the feasibility of drone delivery.
Artificial intelligence (AI) offers new opportunities to radically reinvent the way we do business. This study explores how CEOs and top decision makers around the world are responding to the transformative potential of AI.
Senior Project and Engineering Leader Jim Smith.pdfJim Smith
I am a Project and Engineering Leader with extensive experience as a Business Operations Leader, Technical Project Manager, Engineering Manager and Operations Experience for Domestic and International companies such as Electrolux, Carrier, and Deutz. I have developed new products using Stage Gate development/MS Project/JIRA, for the pro-duction of Medical Equipment, Large Commercial Refrigeration Systems, Appliances, HVAC, and Diesel engines.
My experience includes:
Managed customized engineered refrigeration system projects with high voltage power panels from quote to ship, coordinating actions between electrical engineering, mechanical design and application engineering, purchasing, production, test, quality assurance and field installation. Managed projects $25k to $1M per project; 4-8 per month. (Hussmann refrigeration)
Successfully developed the $15-20M yearly corporate capital strategy for manufacturing, with the Executive Team and key stakeholders. Created project scope and specifications, business case, ROI, managed project plans with key personnel for nine consumer product manufacturing and distribution sites; to support the company’s strategic sales plan.
Over 15 years of experience managing and developing cost improvement projects with key Stakeholders, site Manufacturing Engineers, Mechanical Engineers, Maintenance, and facility support personnel to optimize pro-duction operations, safety, EHS, and new product development. (BioLab, Deutz, Caire)
Experience working as a Technical Manager developing new products with chemical engineers and packaging engineers to enhance and reduce the cost of retail products. I have led the activities of multiple engineering groups with diverse backgrounds.
Great experience managing the product development of products which utilize complex electrical controls, high voltage power panels, product testing, and commissioning.
Created project scope, business case, ROI for multiple capital projects to support electrotechnical assembly and CPG goods. Identified project cost, risk, success criteria, and performed equipment qualifications. (Carrier, Electrolux, Biolab, Price, Hussmann)
Created detailed projects plans using MS Project, Gant charts in excel, and updated new product development in Jira for stakeholders and project team members including critical path.
Great knowledge of ISO9001, NFPA, OSHA regulations.
User level knowledge of MRP/SAP, MS Project, Powerpoint, Visio, Mastercontrol, JIRA, Power BI and Tableau.
I appreciate your consideration, and look forward to discussing this role with you, and how I can lead your company’s growth and profitability. I can be contacted via LinkedIn via phone or E Mail.
Jim Smith
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jimsmith30024@gmail.com
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Oprah Winfrey: A Leader in Media, Philanthropy, and Empowerment | CIO Women M...CIOWomenMagazine
This person is none other than Oprah Winfrey, a highly influential figure whose impact extends beyond television. This article will delve into the remarkable life and lasting legacy of Oprah. Her story serves as a reminder of the importance of perseverance, compassion, and firm determination.
12. What might
you do?:
Peacekeeping/
Protection
Shuttle
diplomacy to
de-escalate
Accommodate
Negotiate
Get factual
Support and
safety
Consensus
@eegrove
Adkins: http://agile.dzone.com/articles/agile-managing-conflict
13. "Separate the people from the problem.”
"Focus on interests, not positions.”
"Invent options for mutual gain.”
"Insist on using objective criteria.”
"Know your BATNA (Best Alternative To
Negotiated Agreement)”
William Ury, Getting to YES, 1981
@eegrove
20. North-Going Zax
Position:
I MUST HAVE THE LEMON!
Interest:
I need the rind of the
lemon to make pound-cake
@eegrove
21. South-Going Zax
Position:
I MUST HAVE THE LEMON!
Interest:
I need the pulp of the
lemon to make lemonade
@eegrove
22. Discuss
• In a conflict situation, how might it help to identify
your interests/other parties’ interests before
discussion?
• How might you help the other party feel comfortable
in sharing the interest?
@eegrove
25. South-Going Zax
If you want
something done
right, do it
yourself
@eegrove
26. Recap
Perception: What’s your perception of conflict? What
kind of conflict are you engaged in?
Escalation: What escalates conflict? What is your
reaction to conflict?
Contagion: How does your behaviour affect other
people?
Constellation: Who is affected? Who needs to be
involved in the solution?
Position: How to differentiate between position and
interests?
Contradiction: How can we appreciate multiple truths
and recognize our biases?
@eegrove
Introduction
The Zax
by Dr. Seuss, from The Sneetches and Other Stories
One day, making tracks
In the prairie of Prax,
Came a North-Going Zax
And a South-Going Zax.
And it happened that both of them came to a place
Where they bumped. There they stood.
Foot to foot. Face to face.
“Look here, now!” the North-Going Zax said, “I say!
You are blocking my path. You are right in my way.
I’m a North-Going Zax and I always go north.
Get out of my way, now, and let me go forth!”
“Who’s in whose way?” snapped the South-Going Zax.
“I always go south, making south-going tracks.
So you’re in MY way! And I ask you to move
And let me go south in my south-going groove.”
Then the North-Going Zax puffed his chest up with pride.
“I never,” he said, “take a step to one side.
And I’ll prove to you that I won’t change my ways
If I have to keep standing here fifty-nine days!”
“And I’ll prove to YOU,” yelled the South-Going Zax,
“That I can stand here in the prairie of Prax
For fifty-nine years! For I live by a rule
That I learned as a boy back in South-Going School.
Never budge! That’s my rule. Never budge in the least!
Not an inch to the west! Not an inch to the east!
I’ll stay here, not budging! I can and I will
If it makes you and me and the whole world stand still!”
Well…
Of course the world didn’t stand still. The world grew.
In a couple of years, the new highway came through
And they built it right over those two stubborn Zax
And left them there, standing un-budged in their tracks.
What is conflict? Is it good or bad? What about it could be good or bad?
What are the effects?
Conflict is inevitable. And essential to creating a state of productive disequilibrium. (we want disequilibrium – a living system that is in a state of equilibrium is DEAD If we want change, we must have some tension to resolve.
“Productive disequilibrium” : http://www.amazon.com/Practice-Adaptive-Leadership-Changing-Organization/dp/1422105768
Activity: Rock Paper Scissors competition
Activity: What colour is conflict? (10 min)
Hand out envelopes of colour swatches
Each person selects one (60 sec)
Each person explains how this colour represents conflict to them. What are the negative attributes? What are the positive attributes?
Debrief:
Different perspectives?
Different reactions/orientations?
Navigating conflict:
Strengthens relationships and builds confidence
Encourages open communication and cooperation
Resolves disagreements quickly and increases productivity
Deals with real issues and seeks win-win outcomes
Calms and focuses team towards results
Letting conflict founder::
Damages relationships
Defensiveness and hidden agendas
Wastes time, money, energy
Blamestorming
Creates hard feelings
Frustrating, stressful, hostile, chaotic
Furlong’s Circle of Conflict : The main premise of this model is that conflict can be more easily resolved if discussions are focused on drivers in the bottom half of the circle (data, interests, and structure). You can contain the top, but influence the bottom. According to Furlong, concentrating on these drivers—things over which parties have some control—offers a more direct path toward managing the dispute.
Differing values and goals – needs of a security department or ISO compliance vs. product development
Relationships – stereotypes, poor communication – “testers are wanna-be developers’\”
Externals/moods – environmental or personal issues - factors unrelated to the dispute “bad hair days”
Data – too little or too much info, miscommunication – assumptions are the mother of all screwups
Interests – differing wants, needs, fears, concerns -
Structure – limitations on resources, authority –
Furlong contends that when conflicting parties allow their discussion to stray into drivers in the top half of the circle (values, relationships, and externals/moods), conflict will likely escalate. Because these drivers represent areas that are not generally within a party’s control, it is best to avoid them. Changing another’s perceptions of perceived past wrongs or dealing with external issues would make any disagreement worsen. Conversely, individuals in conflict can work together to change data problems, allay another’s fears, and overcome geographical constraints. These drivers are in the bottom portion of the circle of conflict, where, according to Furlong, most of the real resolution work should focus.
What does conflict feel like? Role Plays: http://esrnational.org/resources/lessons-from-connected-and-respected/
Role-playing:
What escalates conflict? What deescalates conflict?
Lights/Camera/Action!
Scenario
1) Employee wants to take some vacation time. Manager is concerned about meeting an important upcoming deadline (and the project is behind)
2) One team member wants to work on some code on their own in order to move quickly. One team member wants to pair in order to learn about that area of the code because she knows that she’ll be responsible for maintenance and extending the functionality in a subsequent release.
3) You’re a new PM who wants the most senior developer on the team to assign tasks to other developers and report daily on status. The senior developer wants to to take a more self-organizing approach..
Cut! Stand back to back
Debrief:
1) What kind of conflict was this based on Furlong’s model? (Value, Relationship, External, Structure, Interest, Data)
What happened to escalate the conflict? Intonation, body language, what was said?
Or
What kept things from escalating? What did you or your partner say to keep things from escalating?
What escalators are tied to culture? To personality? To external circumstances?
Thank your partner!
From http://www.kilmanndiagnostics.com/overview-thomas-kilmann-conflict-mode-instrument-tki
These two basic dimensions of behavior define five different modes for responding to conflict situations:
Competing is assertive and uncooperative—an individual pursues his own concerns at the other person's expense. This is a power-oriented mode in which you use whatever power seems appropriate to win your own position—your ability to argue, your rank, or economic sanctions. Competing means "standing up for your rights," defending a position which you believe is correct, or simply trying to win.
Accommodating is unassertive and cooperative—the complete opposite of competing. When accommodating, the individual neglects his own concerns to satisfy the concerns of the other person; there is an element of self-sacrifice in this mode. Accommodating might take the form of selfless generosity or charity, obeying another person's order when you would prefer not to, or yielding to another's point of view.
Avoiding is unassertive and uncooperative—the person neither pursues his own concerns nor those of the other individual. Thus he does not deal with the conflict. Avoiding might take the form of diplomatically sidestepping an issue, postponing an issue until a better time, or simply withdrawing from a threatening situation.
Collaborating is both assertive and cooperative—the complete opposite of avoiding. Collaborating involves an attempt to work with others to find some solution that fully satisfies their concerns. It means digging into an issue to pinpoint the underlying needs and wants of the two individuals. Collaborating between two persons might take the form of exploring a disagreement to learn from each other's insights or trying to find a creative solution to an interpersonal problem.
Compromising is moderate in both assertiveness and cooperativeness. The objective is to find some expedient, mutually acceptable solution that partially satisfies both parties. It falls intermediate between competing and accommodating. Compromising gives up more than competing but less than accommodating. Likewise, it addresses an issue more directly than avoiding, but does not explore it in as much depth as collaborating. In some situations, compromising might mean splitting the difference between the two positions, exchanging concessions, or seeking a quick middle-ground solution.
Each of us is capable of using all five conflict-handling modes. None of us can be characterized as having a single style of dealing with conflict. But certain people use some modes better than others and, therefore, tend to rely on those modes more heavily than others—whether because of temperament or practice.
Emotional Contagion: http://www.thiagi.com/pfp/IE4H/august2011.html#Jolt
Set up the first scenario. Ask the participants to stand up and close their eyes while you give the following instructions (in your own words):
You are all gathered here for an employee social in your organization. In a moment, I will tap one of you on the shoulder. If you are the chosen one, you become the Negative Infector General. Your task is to make eye contact with three other people, one at a time, and infect them with a negative expression. You can choose any negative expression. You can frown, glare, grimace, pout, sulk, glower, or show some other negative expression that is unique to you. The rest of you, your job is to mill around the room. If someone makes eye contact with you and infects you with a negative expression, then you have to infect three others. Once infected, you should maintain the expression.
Start the first round. While the participants still have their eyes closed, tap one of them on the shoulder to identify the Negative Infector General. Move away from this person and ask all the participants to open their eyes and begin milling around the room.
Stop the activity. After a minute, or when a majority of the participants have been infected with negative expressions, call time.
Identify the Negative Infector General. At the count of three, ask all the participants to point to the participant they think was the Negative Infector General, the initial person chosen to infect the group with negativity. Count “One, two, three.” Confirm (or identify) the correct person.
Set up the second scenario. Ask the participants to close their eyes again while you give them the following instructions (in your own words):
Let's continue with the same team at the same event as before. In a moment, one of you will be tapped on the shoulder to become the Positive Infector General. If you are the chosen one, your task is to make independent eye contact with three other people in the room and infect them with a positive expression. This may be a smile, a wink, or a positive expression unique to you. The rest of you, your job is to mill around the room. If someone makes eye contact with you and infects you with a positive expression, then your job is to infect three others. Once infected, you should maintain the positive expression.
Start the second round. While the participants still have their eyes closed, pause for a moment, but do not tap anyone's shoulder. The participants will assume you have identified someone to be the Positive Infector General. Move to the front of the room and ask the participants all to open their eyes and begin milling around the room as before.
Stop the activity. After a minute, or when a majority of the participants have been infected with positivity, call time.
Identify the Positive Infector General. As before, ask all the participants to point to the person they think was the Positive Infector General, the initial person chosen to infect the group with positivity. Ask the person to identify himself or herself. Pause while the group waits in suspense. After a few moments, reveal that no one was chosen to be the Positive Infector General.
Debriefing
Point out that emotions can be transmitted very rapidly and often without either person realizing it.
Explain that the group became happy because it expected to be happy.
Ask and discuss the following types of questions:
Why do you think that you became infected with positivity without the need for a Positive Infector General?
What if we infected one person as a Negative Infector General and another as a Positive Infector General. Which emotion do you think would spread faster?
What can we do to set up the expectation that our teams will be happy, cooperative, productive, and positive?
What are we doing now that may be infecting our work with negativity? How can prevent this from happening?
How does this activity relate to conflict resolution?
Learning Points
Emotions are easily passed from person to person, without either party realizing what is happening.
We have a choice to have a positive or negative outlook on everything we do, and that choice will affect others.
Levels of conflict (from Speed Leas)
Useful framework for assessing the severity of a conflict so that you can determine an appropriate intervention
From Lyssa Adkins – Agile coaches responses to conflict on the team
Describe
Attach the problem not the person
Listen
Treat others respectfully
Take responsibility
http://www.hungrytoolkit.com/speed-plus-depth-action-inquiry-leadership-that-transforms/
Frame. What is the purpose? What’s the dilemma we share? What’s your perspective, plus your assumptions about others’?
Advocate. What’s your general feeling, perception, or strategy for action?
Illustrate. What’s a more detailed picture that will orient others and help them see what you’re thinking about?
Inquire. What will invite shared understanding and coordinated action?
Dig into the problem, using Problem Constellation (from Caroline Sauve, who adapted this from Lyssa Adkins)
Why would you play this game? To get everyone involved in the conversation rather than having one or two people dominate the conversation.
Scenario: The team is quite new to Agile. In the last two sprints, the team has not been able to complete all the stories because testing isn’t getting completed in time. Stories are frequently not available for testing until just before the end of the sprint. Some of the team has loudly expressed the opinion that Agile doesn’t seem to be working
Facilitator stands at one end of the room. Line up the team at the other end of the room facing the facilitator.
Facilitator will make statements one at a time and, for each statement, participants must take a step forward if they agree with the statement. If they cannot agree with a statement, they should not step forward. If at any point a participant cannot agree, he must stay put for the remainder of the activity (even if he agrees with subsequent statements).
During this exercise, no one should speak but the facilitator. The intention is to stop group discussion and take a moment for everyone to reconcile and become aware of his own state of mind on the problem. The facilitator then makes sure that everyone is clear on the instructions before starting with the first statement for consideration.
Here sample statements (order is important)…
1. I know that not being able to get work done in the sprint is a problem.
2. I believe there is value in solving this problem.
3. I believe that our stories being to big to fit in the sprint is the root cause of the problem.
4. I believe that putting more effort into splitting stories is the most effective solution for this problem.
At this point, it’s a good idea for everyone to take note where they are and where the rest of team is positioned. The participants closest to the facilitator are those who are in agreement with the potential solution to the problem. Those furthest away from the facilitator are the people who need to speak. Then the facilitator walks to the back of the room and begins reading the statements again, only this time, the team will hear from the people furthest away from the perceived solution.
I have found this activity to be very effective at surfacing assumptions and validating our understanding of a problem as a team. It has “quieted” the “solution influencers” for a moment and allowed relevant information to come forward. It has also “quieted” unqualified participants in the discussion… that is to say, if someone cannot attest to “knowing that there is a problem”, then their role might be to support, observe and understand rather than “drive or influence a solution”. Bringing this awareness is something that the facilitator can help to do.
Distribute proverb cards – ask to read silently
Give each person 2 min to think about how this contains an obvious piece of truth.
Read 1: ask participants to give examples/explanations about how this is true?
Read the other: repeat
Debrief: How can both be true yet contradict each other?
Hindsight bias - once we accept a principle we often feel we knew it all along, easy to come up with supporting evidence
Situation validity – how does context and validity affect ‘truth’
Position vs. Interests: I must have the lemon!
http://learningstore.uwex.edu/Assets/pdfs/B3870-09.PDF
In pairs
Round 1: each player receives the instruction “I must have the lemon”
Negotiate based on the information you have on the cards
What deals were made?
What was your position?
This is a simplified, but typical, example of conflict – we argue positions.
Round 2: one player receives a card with
Position: I must have the lemon!
Interest: I need the pulp to make lemonade!
Position: I must have the lemon!
Interest: I need the rind to make a lemon cake!
Did any pair disclose their interests up front?
If not, how did you eventually get there?
What made you feel you could share your interests?
In a conflict situation, how might it help to identify your interests/other parties’ interests before discussion?
How might you help the other party feel comfortable in sharing the interest?
Moving from guarded position to sharing interests can lead to a higher quality resolution and less stress along the way.
How might relationship affect the negotiation? How can you improve a relationship with an adversary in conflict?
Position vs. Interests: I must have the lemon!
http://learningstore.uwex.edu/Assets/pdfs/B3870-09.PDF
In pairs
Round 1: each player receives the instruction “I must have the lemon”
Negotiate based on the information you have on the cards
What deals were made?
What was your position?
This is a simplified, but typical, example of conflict – we argue positions.
Round 2: one player receives a card with
Position: I must have the lemon!
Interest: I need the pulp to make lemonade!
Position: I must have the lemon!
Interest: I need the rind to make a lemon cake!
Did any pair disclose their interests up front?
If not, how did you eventually get there?
What made you feel you could share your interests?
In a conflict situation, how might it help to identify your interests/other parties’ interests before discussion?
How might you help the other party feel comfortable in sharing the interest?
Moving from guarded position to sharing interests can lead to a higher quality resolution and less stress along the way.
How might relationship affect the negotiation? How can you improve a relationship with an adversary in conflict?
Distribute proverb cards – ask to read silently
Give each person 2 min to think about how this contains an obvious piece of truth.
Read 1: ask participants to give examples/explanations about how this is true?
Read the other: repeat
Debrief: How can both be true yet contradict each other?
Hindsight bias - once we accept a principle we often feel we knew it all along, easy to come up with supporting evidence
Hindsight bias, also known as the knew-it-all-along effect or creeping determinism, is the inclination to see events that have already occurred as being more predictable than they were before they took place
Situation validity – how does context and validity affect ‘truth’?
How might you bring data to the discussion?
WTF story!
1 Actions speak louder than words.
1 The pen is mightier than the sword.
2 Knowledge is power
2 Ignorance is bliss.
3 Look before you leap.
3 He who hesitates is lost.
4 A silent man is a wise one
4 A man without words is a man without thoughts.
5 Clothes make the man.
5 Don't judge a book by its cover.
6 Nothing ventured, nothing gained
6 Better safe than sorry.
7 Money talks
7 Talk is cheap.
8 Haste makes waste
8 He who hesitates is lost
9 Practice makes perfect
9 All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy
10 The only thing constant is change
10 The more things change, the more they stay the same.
11 Two heads are better than one.
11 If you want something done right, do it yourself.
12 Many hands make light work.
12 Too many cooks spoil the broth.
13 Great minds think alike.
13 Fools seldom differ.
14 Birds of a feather flock together.
14 Opposites attract.
15 The bigger, the better.
15 The best things come in small packages.
16 What will be, will be.
16 Life is what you make it.]
17 Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
17 Out of sight, out of mind.
18 Cross your bridges when you come to them.
18 Forewarned is forearmed.
19 What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
19 One man's meat is another man's poison.
20 With age comes wisdom
20 Out of the mouths of babes and sucklings come all wise sayings.
21 The more the merrier
21 Two’s company, three’s a crowd
22 The bigger the better
22 The best things come in small packages
23 The road to hell is paved with good intentions
23 One good deed deserves another
24 The best things in life are free
24 There’s no such thing as a free lunch
25 A closed mouth catches no flies
25 You catch more flies with honey than vinegar
26 You’re never too old to learn
26 You can’t teach an old dog new tricks
27 Silence is golden
27 The squeaky wheel gets the grease
28 Good things come to those who wait
28 Time and tide wait for no one
29 Slow and steady wins the race
29 Time waits for no one
30 Great starts make great finishes
30 It ain’t over ‘til it’s over