Jealousy stems from a fear of losing something valuable, like a relationship, and a lack of self-worth. It is often rooted in past rejection or broken trust from an early age. To overcome jealousy, one must identify the triggers, build self-confidence through positive self-talk and comparing oneself less to others, learn to trust by giving others the benefit of the doubt and addressing relationship needs openly, and help others through volunteer work to shift the focus away from oneself. With support, self-examination, willingness to change, and hard work, overcoming jealousy is possible.

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2. What is jealousy?
Wikipedia defines it as an emotion referring
to the negative thoughts and feelings of
insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an
anticipated loss of something of great
personal value, particularly in reference to a
human connection.

3. Simply put-It’s the fear of not getting
something you want, or losing something
you have.

4. Jealousy can be a symptom very low self-esteem. It can
come from a deep root of rejection that can start from a
young age and causes deep insecurity.

5. Ask yourself this?
Do you feel you are not worthy enough to
have the family, career, income, friends or
relationships you crave? Has your trust
been broken at an earlier time, causing you
to distrust everyone?

6. Do you view all women as adversaries?
As children, we play together, but once the
hormones kick in, we sometimes begin to
see other women as the competition

7. It’s a no-win situation.

8. What Can Help?
1. Identify the situation that's triggering your
feelings of jealousy.

9. 2. Doing the Inner Work
Don’t be afraid to ask for help with this-it’s a
deep rooted and painful issue and it will take
time and emotional elbow grease on your
part to heal.

10. Part of the work might include:
a)Building your self-confidence
b)Stop comparing yourself to everyone else
c)Reprogram your knee-jerk reaction-try to
do the opposite of what a jealous person
would do. Some days you’ll do great with
this and others….mehhh
Keep going!

11. d) Learn to examine your thoughts-is what
you are visualizing really happening, or only
what you FEAR may happen.
Your child is NOT going to love his caregiver
more than you, for instance.
e) Find support- positive and encouraging
friends, a counsellor, a self help program or
book

12. 3) Learn to trust-yikes!
a)Until you have a clear and proven reason not to-
give people the benefit of the doubt
b)Run, don’t walk away from people who
repeatedly break your trust.
c)Examine your feelings and be ready to (calmly)
discuss those openly .Your boyfriend may not
know how much it bothers you when he flirts with
the server.

13. d) Determine whether your needs may be excessive…
ask a trusted friend for feedback-and don’t shoot
the messenger if what she tells you is upsetting.
e) Open yourself to new friends, new interests,
courses, hobbies etc. Your happiness is your job.
f) Challenge yourself. Do something that scares you a
little and tap into your true strength.

14. g) Get your mind off yourself. Lending a helping
hand. Find a volunteer opportunity that seems
like a good fit.
h) Realize that change is hard. Self examination
can be painful- but you owe it to yourself to be
the person you are meant to be-at peace, loving
and giving

15. You can do this!
Support + self examination +
wiliness +hard work will make it
happen!

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