The document discusses several aspects of human nature and behavior. It notes that people naturally compare themselves to others, which can lead to envy and sabotaging others. It advises being secure within oneself, avoiding boasting, and making fun of oneself to prevent envy. It also warns that some may pretend to be friendly only to hurt others. The document suggests several strategies for dealing with insecure people and avoiding passive aggressive behavior.

2.  If secure within our self we can observe other
people’s strengths, victories, skills, and success
with a wholesome admiration. We are happy for
them.
 Human nature compares our self with others.
 Envy releases an emotion. We respond to discredit
another through obstruction or sabotaging their
person
 The origins originate in our insecure nature and
ability to create false comparatives.
 See Colossians 3:5-10 as to root causes

3.  Be cautious of people who praise too much or
suddenly become overly friendly. They are getting
close to see how they can hurt you. This is a mark of a
sociopath.
 Admit to weaknesses and struggles in your life.
 Show an interest in the work of the insecure person
and ask them for advice
 Avoid boasting
 Make fun of self
 Avoid making people feel stupid
 Be non threatening – when promoted say it is at first
an honor but “groan” not without extra
responsibilities and efforts that complicates life for
you. Make them glad they were not promoted.

4.  Once a member of a group a mind set of expectations
occurs for the group.
 Written and unwritten codes of behavior and attitude is
expected
 In the group are those who are the self appointed
sanctimonious politically correct crowd that observe our
attitude and behavior.
 They will sabotage and ostracize the non conformist. We
try to keep them in mind as to freely express our self can
meet punitive results
 The workplace is a kind of theater in which we role play.
We reveal our deep seated feeling outside of the group
to trusted friends and relatives.

5.  We do not like complexity. We resort to habits and routines
to give us a sense of control through embracing simplicity.
 The familiar comforts. The new does not comfort.
 What worked in the past is assumed to work also in the
future.
 Rigidity reject new ideas and procedures. No matter how
reasonable change threatens. Defensiveness and
obstructionism occurs.
 Axiom of life. Change happens. When the facts change – I
change. My core being of integrity does not change. I adapt
and embrace change as an opportunity to learn and to
grow. I jettison out dated habits and procedures.

6.  Human nature looks out for itself first.
 When asking for help therefore appeal to a
person’s self interest.
 View the world from their perspective
 Give them if possible something in return
 People tend to forget the past and heavily rely on
how their relationship benefits them for the
present and the future.
 A person who has no stake in the present or future
with someone else abandons the relationship.
They simply quit.

7.  We avoid prudence. We seek a quick fix solution with
pleasure now rather than endure the pain of self sacrifice
for now for a long term goal.
 People are lazy. Keep your ideas to yourself. This avoids
stealing of them by others.
 Be wary of people who want to collaborate. They may
wish to transfer the majority of the work to someone
else.

8.  People change their perception depending on their
mood. We are govern by our emotions.
Motivations are fleeting.
 People are sorely tempted to avoid a promise
made when that promise becomes inconvenient.
 We waste valuable time depending on people who
do not keep their promises.
 Depend more on our self to get a task done.
 Focus on what people do not what they say as an
indicator of their dependability.

9.  Low level symptoms include procrastination, appearing
late, making destructive comments are all done to upset
someone and be in control
 Correct by calling their behavior to their attention. Or
one can avoid comment. It is not worth the conflict it
might invite.
 High level passive aggressive is a different matter. These
avoid. They create a reputation. They sabotage or
obstruct with a smile. Focus on their actions not their
words.

10.  Display contempt while avoiding confrontation
 Invoke fear, obligation, or guilt in the receiver
 A form of abuse
 Duration can be indefinite
 Done to control and ceases when they decide not
anyone else
 Third parties are sought in alliances
 The aim is to blame others.
 Attack a person and not the root cause

11.  Avoid using it on others
 Avoid escalation or they can turn and act hostile aggressive in an act
of revenge
 Avoid blaming oneself
 Recognize it is an attempt to control through scorn. The reward
comes to the passive aggressive when they are pursued.
 Work on yourself
 Use “I” statements briefly of feelings
 Get support from others
 Trust what the person feels is temporal and may lift as they
recognize it does not get their need met.