The document describes the author's ethnographic study of elementary and middle school students. [1] In elementary school, the students were very open and talkative with the author, sharing their life stories and wanting to know about her. [2] However, in middle school the students were more shy and quiet at first, only opening up to each other and not teachers, though they slowly opened up to the author over time as well. [3] The author concludes that as she became more comfortable in the middle school environment through self-disclosure and empathic listening, the middle school students became more comfortable around her as well.