This document discusses guiding children's emotional development in 3 key ways: 1) Focus intentionally on children's emotional needs, build strong bonds through quality time, and connect emotionally by understanding what children are feeling. 2) Model healthy emotional relating and teach children how to handle negative emotions like defeat, conflict, and anger in constructive ways. 3) Various basic emotions emerge in the first years of life, and self-conscious emotions develop between 18-24 months as children's emotional expression and understanding grows.

1. EMOTIONAL
DEVELOPMENT
children
*Come from many sources

2. Guide your children into an
emotionally healthy future:
• Be purposeful in guiding your child's emotional life. Focus
intentionally on his emotional needs. These needs are just as important
as his/her cognitive, physical and spiritual needs.
• Build a strong bond by spending quality time with your child.
Experts agree that parents who interact regularly with their children —
beginning in infancy — develop stronger bonds.
• Stay emotionally in tune. Connect with your child on an emotional
level. Attempt to understand what he/she is feeling. When he/she is
happy, be happy for him/her; when he/she is sad, cry with her.

3. Guide your children into an
emotionally healthy future:
• Model healthy emotional relating. Your children will mimic the way
you handle emotions and the way you relate to others. By managing
your own emotions in a positive way, your children will learn to do so as
well.
• Teach children how to handle negative emotions. Doing this well
does not come naturally. Children need to be taught how to handle
defeat, deal with conflict or be angry in a healthy way. Children who are
taught these skills early are better able to handle negative feelings as
adults.

4. Development of Emotions
Various emotions emerge in the following order:
• infants experience only simple emotional states
such as distress, contentment and interest.At birth
• Evidence of happiness appears as seen in a baby's
"social smile."Two to four months
• Basic emotions emerge, including fear, excitement,
anger, disgust, surprise, joy and sadness.Four to six months
• Basic emotions continue to develop and are
expressed in broader ways by the child.Six to 18 months
• Self-conscious emotions develop, such as guilt,
embarrassment and pride.
Eighteen to 24
months
*Come from many sources

5. Relationship has managed to
move everything, parents
who are strongly bonded to
their children share certain
characteristics.

6. Acknowledging Feelings
Follow these steps to get more in tune with
your child:
Label the feeling: For younger children, the simpler label you offer the better. Use
words like mad, happy, sad and scared. For older children, more specific words help
them to pinpoint the exact emotion: disappointed, worried and embarrassed.
State the reason for the feeling. Make your best guess as to why
your child feels as he/she does. For example, say, "It looks like
you're mad because Mom said you can't have dessert today."
Don't judge your child. Your child needs to know that it is okay to
express emotion. However, at times you may need to teach
your child how to express his feelings in ways that are
healthy and not hurtful to others.

7. WAHYU EDHY SUTRAN, S.Psi, CBA
Life Facilitator and eQuipper,
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