The document discusses positive parenting techniques that promote love, warmth, and kindness while setting boundaries, leading to improved child behavior and emotional growth. It emphasizes the importance of teaching children emotional regulation and social skills through supportive interactions and concrete methods, such as using pictograms for emotion recognition and positive self-talk. Collaboration with teachers is also highlighted as crucial for consistency in the child's emotional coaching.

1. Nine Temperament
Here are some temperamental features we the parents need to know:
1. Introduction ✨
In this article, we’ll discuss positive parenting, which is all about showing your children love,
warmth, and kindness as well as saying “no” and setting boundaries in a positive way. It
emphasizes mutual respect and focuses on learning for the future instead of punishing past
mistakes. This approach leads to better outcomes for a child’s behavior, emotional growth,
academic performance, and mental health.
Drawing on the principles and best practices of Finnish early childhood education, we, the
Kinderbee schools provide practical tips for how to put positive parenting into action. We’ll
cover ways you can support children in their emotional moments and how to approach
everyday situations with them. Finally, we’ll provide some practical methods and tools. Let’s
get started!
Understanding our kids
KinderBee Parenting
1. Activity How physically active is a child?
2. Regularity Predictability in hunger, becoming tired, waking up, etc.
3. Initial reactions How a child responds to new people or environments
4. Adaptability Adjusting to changes. Is it easy or does it take time?
5. Intensity The energy level of reactions (calmness, excitement, etc.)
6. Mood The general tendency to react a certain way to different activities (smiling, upset...)
7. Distractibility Is your child easily distracted or can they concentrate despite interruptions?
8. Persistence and attention span Does your child engage in an activity for a long time or do
they lose interest quickly?
9. Sensitivity How does your child react to sensory stimuli?

2. 2. How to support your child with their
emotional response ✨
Social and emotional skills are some of the most important ‘life skills’ children
need to succeed, both academically and personally. When children practice
emotional skills, they gain self-awareness, become more calm, and improve their
ability to concentrate. When they are born, babies do not have any regulation
skills. They respond to situations with pure emotion because that’s the only way
they can communicate. As they grow older, children start to develop nullmore
complex emotions and that’s when they can start learning how to recognize and
regulate their emotions as well as respond to those of others.

3. It is common for children to show their unpleasant emotions to the people with whom they
feel safe. It is important that your children do not feel judged by you when they show their
full range of emotions, because it’s natural for human beings to experience all kinds of
feelings. As we discussed in the childhood development chapter, being your authentic self
and showing your full range of emotions is also important so your children see their own
emotions reflected in others.
Children learn social and emotional skills by interacting with others and observing others’
behavior. Therefore, it is important for you to be a good example and stay calm in situations
when your children have strong emotional reactions.

4. The best way to support your child when they’re sad is to be present and stay close. The
younger the child is, the more effectively they calm down when they can be close to their
parents. Crying is a very natural way for young children to express themselves when they are
disappointed, frustrated, or not feeling well, and you should give them space to experience
the emotion because it is not bad to be sad. Indeed, it is perfectly normal if children cry.
Instead of avoiding or trying to protect your child from getting disappointed, it is more
important that you let them experience these emotions and learn how to overcome them
with your support. 🤗
After your child has calmed down, you can support them through their emotional responses by
being present, talking in a calm voice and trying to solve the matter together.
As they get older, children become increasingly responsible for regulating their own emotions and
learn to calm themselves down. However, it is important that you still Finnish KinderBee never
leave your child alone in situations when they are very emotional. Always make sure that your
child is aware of your presence and support if and when they need it.
We’ll explain some methods below:
Helping your child recognize and name emotions
3. Supporting your child
when they’re angry or sad
As a parent, you can teach your child how to practice emotional regulation.
When children are very young, the environment contributes to their regulation.
For example, if a baby’s diaper is wet, they will start crying and their parents will
take the necessary steps to improve the situation by changing them and talking
in a soothing voice. As they get older, children learn to take on the responsibility
of regulating their own emotions with your support.

5. A good way to practice emotion recognition is to show your child a few different pictograms to
represent how they are feeling and then ask them what caused the reaction. This helps your child
recognize why they feel a certain way and start to pair the sensations with the emotion. As they
get more advanced with their emotion recognition, children can independently choose the
pictogram that matches how they feel.
In calmer moments, you can use the Kinderbee Emotion pictograms (as given below) to discuss
what each emotion means and what sorts of situations make us feel that emotion. For example,
you can show the sad pictogram and ask your child to name some situations when they felt sad.
Then you can discuss ways to express sadness appropriately, like crying or asking for a hug.
4. Emotion coaching

6. ✏️Positive self-talk!
Research shows that children with negative self-talk get angry more easily than children with
positive self-talk. You can help your child lean more toward positive self-talk by giving them clear
examples when something goes wrong so they learn how to stay calm and get some perspective.
For example, if your child spills their drink, you can teach them to think, “It’s okay that I made a
mistake. Everyone does, and I can just be more careful next time.” Other examples include:
 “He didn’t do it on purpose. It was an accident.”
 “Everyone gets teased sometimes.”
 “I’ll feel happier in a little while.”
 “Take a deep breath.”
✏️The ‘turtle technique!
‘Sometimes, children become so agitated that their hearts race and they find it difficult to
control their breathing and thoughts. In these situations, you can teach them how to reset
and relax.  During a calm moment, ask your child to imagine themself as a ‘turtle’ with a shell
EOnce children start to recognize and name their emotions more effectively,
you can build on their understanding by ‘coaching’ them and teaching them
strategies to regulate their emotions. Some examples include positive self-
talk and the ‘turtle technique.’ You can also explain appropriate expressions
of negative feelings and work with your child’s teacher to ensure consistent
guidance at home and school.

7. that they can retreat into. When they’re getting frustrated, they can stop their body and
‘retreat’ into their shell. Younger children might like to use their shirt or go under a blanket. 
You can teach them to say to themself, “I can calm down. I can control my body and my
feelings,” and come out once they have relaxed.  Praise their efforts and model the
approach yourself!
Appropriate expressions of negative feelings
As always, you are a role model in teaching your child how to appropriately express negative
feelings. Try to verbalize your frustration in appropriate ways, both with yourself and others,
and your child will follow. You can also actively teach them what to say in certain instances.
For example, if Anne is upset because Tom took her model airplane, you can tell her to say
something like, “I’m upset that you took my airplane and I would like it back.” With time,
children will learn how to say these things on their own.
5. Work with your child’s teachers 🎉

8. The Kinderbee Team 💜 www.kinderbeeschools.com
As we discussed earlier, one of the most effective ways to teach your child is
to collaborate with their teachers. Discuss the approach you use at home and
what the teachers do at school so your child have a consistent style of
coaching throughout the day. You can also share your concerns and
celebrate your child’s successes together