The Missing Feeling Technique is a method to help identify and strengthen feelings that have been blocked. It involves identifying the missing feeling, practicing expressing that feeling through daily exercises for 5 days with a partner, and continuing exercises to rewire brain circuits that previously blocked the feeling. Examples of exercises include labeling feelings, practicing facial expressions of emotion, and using a "Hostility Buddy" to help strengthen controlled expressions of anger. The goal is to unlock emotional fluidity and the natural flow of feelings.

1. The Missing Feeling Technique

2. Unlock the circuit
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3. Cycle Tool

4. Natural Flow of Feelings

5. Any “missing feeling” derails
the technique

6. The orphan feeling technique.
• Identify the missing feeling.
• Strengthen implicit memory systems of
emotional expression and feeling the feeling.
• Strengthen explicit memory systems of affect
labeling.
• Includes practicing 10 – 20 expressions daily for
5 days with an EBT Connection Buddy.
• 10 X 10 to rewire allostatic circuits that blocked
emotional expression and feeling the feeling.

7. “Hostility Buddies”
Provider demonstration: A+ Anger (primitive, subcortical, body activation, effective) vs. C- anger
(non-primitive, neocortical, no body
activation, ineffective).
Voluntary. Hostility Buddy. Instruct to stop if not
safe. After 1 – 2 weeks, continue with 10 X 10 on
circuits that blocked anger expression.
Model humor, delight, warmth and gritty joy!