This document discusses moving from a "business parenting" approach to collaboration system implementation and use, to a partnership approach. It outlines the common stages of child development and links them to typical stages of collaboration maturity within an organization. Business parenting can be costly and lead to issues like inappropriate system use, user frustration, and lost ROI. The key is identifying each community's stage of maturity and empowering users to grow their skills and collaboration. Moving to a partnership model where IT and users work as equals toward shared goals provides the best outcomes.