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This Anti-Bullying Learner’s Manual © third edition was written by Brian Comerford of Classroom Guidance
2013
This resource can be used as the curriculum element of a “Friendship Week” or used as a stand-alone
programme.
Editor: Jennifer Rope

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Table of Contents
PAGE
Unit 1 – Is It Bullying?
B1. Bullying Is… 1
B2. Is It Bullying? 3
Unit 2 – What Is Bullying?
B3. Patrick’s Story 5
B4. Examples Of Bullying 6
Unit 3 – Cyber Bullying
B5. Cyber Bullying 8
B6. Cyber Bullying Bar Chart 8
B7. Is It Cyber Bullying? 9
B8. How To Avoid-Cyber Bullying 10
B9. What Would You Do? 11
Unit 4 – Bystanders
B10. Being A Good Bystander 12
Bullying Role Play 15
B11. Discussion 16

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PAGE
Unit 5 – How To Tell
B12. Advice for Telling 17
B13. How Can I Tell About Bullying? 19
B14. What Happens When I Tell In My School? 21
Unit 6 – Class Anti-Bullying Agreement
B15. Personal Anti-Bullying Agreement 22
B16. Class Anti-Bullying Agreement 23
APPENDIX
When & How To Contact The Service Provider 24
Mobile Phones 25
Useful Websites 26
Notes 27
Anti-Bullying Survey 28

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UNIT 1 - IS IT BULLYING?
B1. Bullying Is…
Bullying is HARD. It is:
H ______________________
A ______________________
R ______________________
D ______________________
1. Effects On The Victim Include
1. ___________________________________
2. ___________________________________
3. ___________________________________
4. ___________________________________
5. ___________________________________
6. ___________________________________
2. Aggression Is Involved
It can be one or a combination of:
1. _______________________________________
2. _______________________________________
3. _______________________________________
3.The Behaviour Is Repeated
It may be once off but it is usually ______________

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4.The Behaviour Is Often Planned
It can happen at the same________________________
or in the same _________________________________
5. It is Hard For The Victim To Defend Themselves
The victim has_________________________________
of ___________________________________________
6. The Bullying Can Be Done By An Individual Or A Group
Bullying behaviour can be done___________________
or for an _____________________________________
7. There Is An Imbalance Of Power
One person is ___________________________ stronger
or ____________________________________ stronger.
8. The Bullying Behaviour Is Unprovoked
The victim doesn’t ___________________ to be bullied.

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B2. Is It Bullying?
Fill in the below table by ticking the appropriate boxes:
Behaviour Yes No Not
Sure
1. Darren bumps into Paul and knocks his books to the floor
2. Sophie pushes Tara again in the corridor
3. Mark keeps throwing things at Jack in class
4. Sean & Dave keep calling Michael’s mother hurtful names
5.
Every time a student answers a question three students
make noises
6. Jane whispers to Sarah in class
7. Leanne and Grainne keep giving Emily “the look”
8. Pat & his friends tell Jim they will “get him” after school
9.
Karen & her friends always reserve the seats in the back
row of the class for each other
10.
Every time Sinead comes into the room a group of girls
look at her, whisper and laugh
11. Mary accidentally falls off her chair and the others laugh
12.
Martin continually copies Ramsha’s accent and jeers her
about the food she eats
13.
Amy’s mother will not let her stay over at Zoe’s house
because of the area she lives in

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Behaviour Yes No Not
Sure
14.
Kieran keeps touching Tracey in a way that makes her feel
uncomfortable
15. “Mary is a slut” is written on every door in the toilets
16.
Gemma & her friends go to the cinema on Friday night but
deliberately leave Aisling out again
17.
Phillip gets others in the class to stop talking to Ross since
he was picked as captain of the school team
18.
On Monday Karen stops talking to Gemma and by the end
of the week no one is talking to her
19.
Anna spreads rumours that Clodagh fancies Jenny’s
boyfriend
20. John keeps calling James gay
21. Someone keeps writing “lezzie” on Jane’s books
22. A hate page is posted on “Facebook”
23. Kate texts Louise to tell her she can’t go to the cinema
24.
A student receives silent phone calls and hurtful texts
everyday
25.
When Tom raises his hand to answer a question the
teacher never asks him
26. Two students keep ignoring a teacher’s instructions in class
27. Emma makes fake coughing noises during English class
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A teacher gives a student detention for not doing
homework again

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UNIT 2 - WHAT IS BULLYING?
B3. Patrick’s Story
Patrick was a student who became upset when things began to go wrong
between himself and some boys in his class. He did not really understand why he
was picked on because he never did anything to anybody else or said anything to
annoy other people. Although Patrick was a bit of a loner - he enjoyed playing
computer games and reading - other boys in his class were nice enough to him.
Out of the blue things changed. It started out as slagging. Patrick was not
very good at sports and sometimes in P.E. class when he missed shots or lost the
ball to the other team he was called names. One boy, Jim, who was better at
sport, was nasty to him and made fun of the way he played. Other boys laughed
when Jim called Patrick “dopey” or “dumbo”. Being called names made Patrick
feel even more awkward and less confident when he was playing. Jim and another
boy started pushing him around and deliberately tackling him hard. They kicked
him and warned him not to tell. He was threatened that if he did he would be
beaten up after school. Patrick was very frightened by this and started making
excuses to avoid playing games. He would deliberately forget his P.E. gear or
write notes saying that he had a sprained ankle.
Soon he was being slagged in class if he answered any teachers’
questions. He was called a “lick” and a “swot” and a bigger number of boys
joined in the laughing. Pieces of paper or pens were thrown at him while the
teacher wasn’t looking and drawings were sent around the class. One of the
most hurtful things was when his mother was slagged by the other boys. They
also jeered him because his sister was going out with a foreign student. He felt
very ashamed that he could not defend himself or answer back. He did not want to
tell at home because he did not want to worry his mother and he was afraid that his
father would give out to him for not standing up for himself.
It was not long before Patrick was being ignored and left out of things by
everybody. He was never picked for teams and never asked along to matches or
other fun activities outside school. He felt bad all the time. He could not
concentrate in class and his work started to suffer. He could not get the bullying
out of his mind and couldn’t sleep properly. Yet he still would not tell.
He received silent phone calls and abusive text messages every day.
Hate messages were left on his “Facebook” page and videos of him were posted
“YouTube”. The thing that made him feel worst of all was when Jim started calling
him gay. Soon everybody in the class and in his year joined in. Even students he
did not know in other years pushed him around and called him gay. The last straw
was when people shouted it out in the street after him. He just felt that he couldn’t
take it anymore.

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B4. Examples of Bullying
Most bullying falls into the main categories listed below.
Read Patrick’s story again to find some examples of each type and list
them below.
Physical: Anything that hurts you or damages your property.
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2.
Verbal: Anything hurtful said to you or directed at you.
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2.
Psychological: Anything which affects how you think about yourself.
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2.
Racial: Anything that insults your race, religion, culture or background.
1.
2.
Sexual: Inappropriate or unwanted touching or comments.
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Homophobic: Anything that offends or insults a person’s sexual
orientation.
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2.
Cyber: Bullying using electronic means such as texting, e-mail and
blogging.
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Relational: Damaging your friendships; exclusion or isolation.
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UNIT 3 - CYBER BULLYING
B5. Cyber Bullying
Define Cyber Bullying: ___________________________________
___________________________________
_______________________________________
_______________________________________
_______________________________________
_______________________________________
B6. Cyber Bullying Bar Chart
Complete the bar chart of survey results.
0
10
20
30
40
50
60
70
80
90
100
Read Or Spread Gossip Seen Fun Made Of Mates Online
Cyber Bullying Survey

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B7. Is It Cyber Bullying?
Fill in the below table by ticking the appropriate boxes.
Cyber Behaviour Yes No Not
Sure
1.
Darren posts a message on Facebook saying Paul
is gay
2.
Sophie keeps texting Tara in class asking her to
stop licking up to the teacher
3.
Mark secretly videos his coach’s speech before a
hurling match and uploads it to You Tube
4.
Sean and Dave send out a tweet for people to vote
for the most popular student in school
5.
John’s Facebook page is hacked and his status is
changed to married
6. Jane breaks up with Adam by text
7.
Leanne Photoshop’s a picture of Grainne making
her fat and posts it on Google images
8.
Pat and his friends text Jim saying they will “get
him” after school

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B8. How To Avoid Cyber Bullying
Write down ten ways to avoid being Cyber Bullied:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
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10.

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B9. What Would You Do?
Write down ten things you could do if you were Cyber Bullied:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
9.
10.

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UNIT 4 - BYSTANDERS
B10. Being A Good Bystander
Physical Bullying
Give an example of physical bullying that is not a fight:
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
What could you do to help without putting yourself at
risk? _________________________________________
_____________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
What might other bystanders say or do to support
you?
________________________________________
________________________________________
________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________

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Cyber Bullying
Classmates have created a hate page for
another student. What could you do to help?
____________________________________
____________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
Verbal Bullying
What could you do or say to help the bullied student?
___________________________________________
___________________________________________
___________________________________________
___________________________________________
___________________________________________
What would you like other bystanders to say to support you?
____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________

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Psychological Bullying
Two friends have stopped talking to a third friend.
How can you help?
________________________________________
________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
Some students are making life miserable for a
classmate by passing sexual comments. How can
bystanders help the situation?
________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________

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Bullying Role Play
It is in between classes and the students in 2A are waiting in their
classroom for the teacher to arrive.
If you don’t have a part, do not join in, laugh or cheer on the bullying.
The Characters
John is being bullied by a group of students. His books are knocked off
his desk and he is being called gay.
Ger is the biggest bully in the group. He always starts it off and the rest
of the group are afraid to stand up to him.
Ray knocks John’s books off the desk. He thinks Ger is really cool and
enjoys the “messing” with John.
Eddie calls John gay because he’s afraid of Ger and Ray and thinks if
he doesn’t join in the messing they’ll start on him next. He doesn’t like
what they’re doing to John but is too afraid to stop.
Joe, Kate & Edel laugh when the lads start bullying John.
Mary asks the lads to stop bullying John.
Anne supports Mary and asks the boys to stop too.
Frank supports Anne and Mary and decides after class to tell the
teacher privately what is happening.

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B11. Discussion
As a class, discuss the questions then fill in your answers.
How did you feel about your role?
Do you think Mary, Ann and Frank were good bystanders? Why?
When might it become unsafe for Ann, Mary and Frank to continue
intervening as bystanders?
What should they do in that situation?
Are Joe, Kate and Edel making things better or worse?

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UNIT 5 – HOW TO TELL
B12. Advice For Telling
I’m Too Afraid To Tell!
Admitting that you are being bullied is never easy. You
may be ashamed that you are not able to stand up for
yourself, or you may feel that it is your own fault for being
bullied. The main reason people don’t want to tell is because
they are afraid that the bullying will get worse because they
have “ratted”. Bullies know this, and rely on people being
frightened.
Secrecy is what allows the bullying to continue.
Who to Tell?
The first step is to tell someone.
If you tell a friend they may understand and give you support.
But the most important thing is to tell an adult you can trust,
such as a Parent or Teacher. Research has shown that it
almost always takes an adult to get it sorted.
Telling Safely
“Ratting” means telling tales to get others into trouble.
People who “rat” feel they have got revenge on another
person and are pleased that the person feels bad. Telling
about bullying is not telling tales. It is telling to keep safe. A
person who tells about bullying is doing everyone a great
favour because telling will help stop people suffering at the
hands of a bully.

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Telling at Home
Ask a parent to telephone the school, write a letter or
speak to a teacher. You may write a letter yourself and
post it to a trusted teacher. You may get a friend to tell on
your behalf.
Telling at School
Your school may have a system for telling teachers without
anybody else knowing, e.g. an anti- bullying box or regular
questionnaires. There may be certain teachers you can go to
quietly or you may be able to tell a Senior Student. You
could slip a note into a homework copy and hand it up to a
teacher, or ask for help in a questionnaire.

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B13. How Can I Tell About Bullying?
List below the names of some people who can support you
if you’re being bullied:
______________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
Write down how telling someone will help you:
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
Explain what happens when people don’t tell:
______________________________________________
______________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
Give two reasons why people are afraid to tell:
1. ___________________________________________
___________________________________________
2. _______________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________

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How can your parents get the school to help protect you?
________________________________________
________________________________________
________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
How can you tell a teacher without everyone knowing your business?
________________________________________
________________________________________
________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
Which teacher would you go to for help?
_________________________________________________________
How can senior students in your school help?
_________________________________________
_________________________________________
_________________________________________
_________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________

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B14. What Happens When I Tell In My School?
Fill in the sanctions and supports that the school considers appropriate:
First
Incident
Second
Incident
Persistent
Bullying

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UNIT 6 – CLASS ANTI-BULLYING AGREEMENT
B15. Personal Anti-Bulling Agreement
Create your own personal anti-bullying agreement and write down three
things you will do and three things you will not do to stop bullying:
I Agree That
I will ________________________________________
I will ________________________________________
I will ________________________________________
I will not _____________________________________
I will not _____________________________________
I will not _____________________________________
Signed ______________________________________

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B16. Class Anti-Bulling Agreement
Discuss your answers from B15. (p22) as a class. Then list three things
you all agreed you will do and three things you all agreed you will not
do to stop bullying as a class:
Our Class Agrees That
We will _______________________________________
We will _______________________________________
We will _______________________________________
We will not ____________________________________
We will not ____________________________________
We will not ____________________________________
Signed _______________________________________
Class Name

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APPENDIX
When & How To Contact The Service Provider
To report content on YouTube:
http://help.youtube.com/support/youtube/bin/request.py
To report content on Flickr:
http://www.flickr.com/report_abuse.gne
To report content on Facebook:
www.facebook.com/help
To report content on Internet Chat Windows Messenger Live:
https://support.live.com/eform.aspx?productKey=wlmessenger
abuse&ct=eformts
To report content on Skype:
http://support.skype.com
To report content on Yahoo Messenger:
http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/abuse/If you
To report content on AskFM:
http://ask.fm/about/safety - press the report button
To report content on Instagram:
http://help.instagram.com/527320407282978/ press the Report
Inappropriate button

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Mobile Phones
O2 Customer Care:
1909 (Bill paying customers)
1747 (Speak easy prepay)
1850 601 747 (from a landline)
Vodafone Customer Care:
1907 (Bill paying customers),
1850 20 87 87 (Ready to Go)
3 Customer Service:
From your 3 mobile 333,
From other phones 083 333 3333
Meteor Customer Care:
1905 (Pay Later & Pay As You Go customers)
Tesco
1749 From your Tesco Mobile

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Useful Websites
www.internetsafety.ie
Website of the Office for Internet Safety
www.webwise.ie
Provides parents, teachers and children with educational resources,
advice and information about potential dangers on-line
www.watchyourspace.ie
Advice on managing children’s profiles on social-networking sites
www.childline.ie
Child Safety Issues
www.hotline.ie
Irish hotline for public to report child pornography and other illegal
content on the internet.
www.barnardos.ie
Charity for the protection of children
www.ncte.ie
The National Centre for Technology in Education provides advice and
support on technology in education
www.o2.ie/childprotection
Information on child protection Services offered by O2
www.npc.ie
Website of the National Parents Council
www.nyci.ie
Website of National Youth Council of Ireland

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Anti-Bullying Questionnaire
You can use this survey to get help for yourself or another student.
Each student must write their name and class and circle “yes” or “no” as
appropriate.
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Anti-Bullying Survey
Name:_____________________________________________________
Class:_____________________________________________________
Are you being bullied? Yes No
Do you know someone who is being bullied?
_______________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________
Any other comments?
_______________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________________