Good Touch & Bad Touch

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WELCOME
Psychological Research & Development Council-INDIA
Psy. Devi Raj S
Clinical Psychologist

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Protect Children from Sexual Abuse
Some myths about
Child Sex Abuse

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 Sexual Abuse to Children
is a RARE thing
MYTH 1

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 Child sexual abuse is
occurs only in
Western Countries
MYTH 2

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 In India, child sexual
abuse is happening only
in SLUMS
MYTH 3

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 Only girls are affected
by Child Sexual Abuse
MYTH 4

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Child Sexual Abuse
happens only with children
belonging to troubled or
broken families.
MYTH 5

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 Child abusers are
social misfits
and hence are easily
recognizable.
MYTH 6

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 People who abuse
children sexually are
generally strangers to
the child.
MYTH 7

53% of all Indian children are victims of sexual
abuse according to the government report.
 Children who have faced some amount of sexual abuse
53%
 Children who report having been sexually assaulted
6%
 Cases where the abuser was in a relationship of trust
with the child 50%
True - FACTS

53% of children in India are sexually abused?
72% of these children do not talk about it and suffer in
silence?
 A majority of these children have been abused by people known to them
64% of Incest Survivors were abused between the age of
10-18 years
32% of Incest Survivors were abused between the age of 2-10 years
87% of the Incest Survivors were abused repeatedly
19% of the abused were currently living with at least
one of the abusers
Did You Know?

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GOOD / BAD TOUCH??

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When we get touches, we
get feelings inside.
Good touches
give us GOOD
feelings.

Good touches do not make us feel uncomfortable
or ashamed

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Sometimes touches can
give us “BAD” feelings.
Sad
Frightened
Unloved
Unwanted

When a touch makes us feel sad, frightened, unloved,
or ashamed, we need to say “stop”.

Please, remember all the Good,
Ok and Bad touches?

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No one should touch our private
body parts
except to keep us clean or healthy.

TOUCHING RULES
No one should ever
touch your private
parts except to keep
you clean or healthy.
Never agree to keep
it a secret.
Tell someone you
trust.

Who is DANGER?

What can you do?
 Tell the person very loudly that you want them to
stop.
 Get louder if they don't stop and tell them that you
will tell his mum or dad or some other trusted adult.
 Tell someone he trusts.
 Keep on telling different people in his network till
his problem is not fixed.
Equip yourself
The No – Go – Tell Principle

TELL
NO
Say
GOTo a safe place
A grownup

Do you KNOW?
A child’s need for love is stronger than his/her
need to avoid danger. Does your child know
he/she is special to you.

An abuser Grooms the child
and the parent !
6 stages of grooming have been identified.
1. Targeting the victim
2. Gaining the victim's trust
3. Filling a need
4. Isolating the child
5. Sexualizing the relationship
6. Maintaining control

• Grooming gives the child a sense of
uniqueness or specialness, the grooming
process is meant to establish trust
and affection, increasing attachment and
loyalty.
• When the offender is a family friend or
community member, he may also need to
groom the parent to gain access to the
child.
Are you vulnerable to
Grooming ?

Noticeable, new fear of a person (even a parent)
or certain places .
Unusual or unexpected response from the child
when asked if she was touched by someone .
Drawings that show sexual acts .
Abrupt changes in behavior, such as bed-wetting
or loss of bowel control .
Sudden awareness of genitalia .
Sexual acts and words shared with other
children or animals.
Recognizing Signs of Sexual abuse.
Be Alert!

Recognizing Signs of Sexual abuse.
• Questions about sexual activity that are beyond
the child’s development
• Changes in sleep habits, such as nightmares in
young children
• Constipation, or refusal to have bowel
movements
• Physical signs of abuse may include the
following: Anal or genital redness, or bleeding
• Unusual discharge from the anus or vagina
• Sexually transmitted diseases such as
gonorrhea, Chlamydia, or genital warts
• Repeated urinary tract infections in females

Thanks…
Psy. Devi Raj S
Psychological Research & Development Council - INDIA
9446010728

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