The document discusses using a "talking stick" approach to have respectful conversations and resolve conflicts. It explains how the talking stick works by having one person speak at a time while others listen without interruption. It encourages reflecting on others' perspectives and finding third alternatives instead of compromising. The document provides contact information for Yves Hanoulle, a leadership coach who developed this approach.

1. Win win win with a Talking Stick www.PairCoaching.net Yves Hanoulle PairCoaching.net

2. Leadership Coach Coaching & Consultancy Services on agile & Team practices Founder of PairCoaching.net Invented leadership Workshops Father of Joppe (2002), Bent (2004), Geike (2007) Partner of Els Ryssen Online Life Web: http://www.PairCoaching.net Blog: http://PairCoaching.wordpress.com LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/YvesHanoulle Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/YvesHanoulle Slides: http://www.slideshare.net/YvesHanoulle Flickr: http://www.Flickr.com/YvesHanoulle Books: http://www.librarything.com/catalog.php?view=YvesHanoulle Mail : Firstname at PairCoaching.net Mobile: +32 476 43 38 32 Skype: YvesHanoulle Yves Hanoulle.About()

3. You.About() Who are you? Name (Company affiliation) Title/function Job responsibility How do you know PairCoaching.net? What do you know about the topic? Other info you like to share? What questions do you want to be answered?

4. We are uncovering better ways of developing software by doing it and helping others do it. Through this work we have come to value: Individuals and interactions over processes and tools Working software over comprehensive documentation Customer collaboration over contract negotiation Responding to change over following a plan That is, while there is value in the items on the right, we value the items on the left more. The agile Manifesto

5. Principles behind the Agile Manifesto Our highest priority is to satisfy the customer through early and continuous delivery of valuable software. Welcome changing requirements, even late in development. Agile processes harness change for the customer's competitive advantage. Deliver working software frequently, from a couple of weeks to a couple of months, with a preference to the shorter timescale. Business people and developers must work together daily throughout the project. Build projects around motivated individuals. Give them the environment and support they need, and trust them to get the job done. The most efficient and effective method of conveying information to and within a development team is face-to-face conversation. Working software is the primary measure of progress. Agile processes promote sustainable development. The sponsors, developers, and users should be able to maintain a constant pace indefinitely. Continuous attention to technical excellence and good design enhances agility. Simplicity--the art of maximizing the amount of work not done--is essential. The best architectures, requirements, and designs emerge from self-organizing teams. At regular intervals, the team reflects on how to become more effective, then tunes and adjusts its behavior accordingly.

6. Schedule Talking Stick in Pseudo Language! Let’s Work How to turn an argument (Lawsuit?) into a Win-Win using Talking Stick Feedback, Questions & Tomatoes

7. How works the talking Stick? Person1.HasTalkingStick=True Person1.Talk() DO WHILE (Person1.HasTalkingStick) Person2.RepeatIdeasInOwnWord(Person1) IF Person1. Agrees ()THEN Person1.GiveTalkingStick(Person2) END IF Person1.RepeatsOwnIdea() END DO

8. Person Class Person Boolean HasTalkingStick= FALSE FUNCTION Talk IF this.HasTalkingStick() =FALSE THEN RETURN END IF END FUNCTION Talk FUNCTION GiveTalkingStick (Person) Person.HastalkingStick=true this.HasTalkingStick=false END FUNCTION

9. Let’s Work! Create a group of 3 people 3 * 5 minutes 1st persons talks (has talking stick) 2nd person listens and repeast what the 1 ste person said 3th person observes After 5 minute switch roles (if you did not do it already before)

10. How To Create Win-Win Situations? Are you willing to create a third alternative? Don’t compromise. I don’t want it either. Let me see if I understand your viewpoint. Am I correct that you think like this? (Use Talking Stick idea’s)

11. Sources The Seven habits of Effective people (Stephen R Covey) http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0671708635%3ftag=hanoulle-20%26link_code=xm2%26camp=2025%26dev-t=00CEHVVVV0X0EBNYDHR2 www.FranklinCovey.be

12. Feedback, Questions & Tomatoes Web: http://www.PairCoaching.net Blog: http://PairCoaching.wordpress.com LinkedIn http://www.linkedin.com/in/YvesHanoulle Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/YvesHanoulle Slides: http://www.slideshare.net/YvesHanoulle Flickr: http://www.Flickr.com/YvesHanoulle Books: http://www.librarything.com/catalog.php?view=YvesHanoulle Mail : Firstname at PairCoaching.net Mobile: +32 476 43 38 32 Skype: YvesHanoulle

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