The document discusses how to stop comparing oneself to others in order to be happier. It explains that comparison often leads to disappointment and unhappiness. While telling someone to simply stop comparing is ineffective, developing awareness of triggers for comparison and using coping mechanisms can help curb this habit. The document provides tips for increasing awareness of comparison thoughts and language, and suggests coping strategies like distraction, affirmations, and goal-setting focused on personal improvement rather than comparison. It emphasizes developing these techniques into a routine in order to build happy habits and a more empowering attitude.

1. ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING:
LEARN HOW NOT TO COMPARE
Comparison is the slipperiest slope to disappointment and energy drain.
Learn techniques to curb the compare and create an empowering attitude!

2. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE COMPARE?
▪ “Develop Good Habits” Says:
 You feel bad about yourself
 “[N]egative comparisons are the path to unhappiness.”
▪ “Psychology Today” Says:
 Theodore Roosevelt: “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
▪ “Tiny Buddha Blog” Says:
 “Comparison is generally the fast track to unhappiness.”
 “It’s a recipe for misery.”
▪ What Do We Say?:
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4. SO JUST STOP. …. ??
COMPARISON & POTATO CHIPS
▪ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCV1PfmvjgQ
Telling someone to, “Just Stop,” is like telling someone to stop after 1 potato chip.
Just Stop. … But we don’t.
1. Because a part of us is wired to keep going and keep doing.
2. Then, much like eating some potato chips, it becomes habit.
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5. HOW TO CURB THE COMPARE
DEVELOP AWARENESS
1. Notice Triggers: hobbies (i.e. Social
Media), people, activities, situations
(Psychology Today)
2. Notice Thought Patterns: are you
telling yourself a negative story? (#’s
2 & 3, Tiny Buddha)
3. Notice Language: do you keep
saying, “should” “(#11, Tiny Buddha)
DEVELOP COPING MECHANISMS
1. Distract
2. Rewrite Your Story
3. Affirm or Ask – “Why are you
comparing us?”
4. Goal Set – Compare yourself to you
5. ID Your Source of Natural
Endorphins
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6. TURN YOUR POTATO CHIPS INTO A POTATO PIE
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7. LAYER THESE TECHNIQUES – 3 STEP RECIPE TO
HAPPY
1. Awareness
 Write it down
 Non-judgmental Observation
• “Oh look, I’m human. Phew. I compared.”
2. Coping Mechanism
 Pick your fav, OR
 The one most easily accessible
 Keep a List
3. Reward
 You Won! That’s a WIN.
 Celebrate – free, low cost, or splurge if
that’s reasonable
Reward
Cope
Be
Aware
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8. LET’S GET MENTALLY STRONG. LET’S BUILD HAPPY
HABITS.
▪ Awareness: What are your triggers?
When do you start to compare?
▪ Coping: How can you cope? What can
you do to make the journey more
comfortable & enjoyable for you?
▪ Reward: You did it!! Now, how can you
celebrate? How can you Honor
yourself?
Awareness Coping Reward
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9. #NEXTLEVEL. HTTPS://FITSMALLBUSINESS.COM/SMART-GOALS-EXAMPLES/
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10. GOAL SET – COMPARE YOU, TO YOU
NAME 3-5 GOALS
1. Specific, Measurable, Achievable,
Relevant, Time-Bound
2. EX: I plan to learn about 5 new
contacts related to my industry of
interest within the next 3 weeks.
3. Why’s this helpful?? Because if that’s
your goal, then you’re not upset when
Jenny MET with 5 new people … and
your goal was to LEARN about 5 new
people.
4. If you’re not satisfied with the result –
it’s NOT you, it’s the GOAL you set.
5. Set New Goals. Learn New Strategies.
EVERY 2-3 WEEKS
1. When you reach a goal, even the
smallest, CELEBRATE. OWN IT. Toast
yourself. Smile at yourself. Post it on
LinkedIn.
2. When you don’t reach a goal: Take
Action. Ask Courageous Questions.
Either change the goal or change the
strategy.
3. Follow-Up:
 Walk-In
 By Appointment
 Workshop
 Meet Up
 Creative Wellness Opportunities Center
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11. GOAL SET
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12. WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR GOALS?
1. Goal:
2. Goal:
3. Goal:
Specific Measurable
Achie-
vable
Relevant
Time-
Bound
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14. RESOURCES
1. Develop Good Habits: https://www.developgoodhabits.com/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others/
2. Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/prescriptions-life/201803/how-
stop-comparing-yourself-others
3. Tiny Buddha: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/13-things-instead-comparing-others/
4. Fit Small Business: https://fitsmallbusiness.com/smart-goals-examples/
5. Unsplash: https://unsplash.com/
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