Practical ideas to move you forward in life

1. Why Most People Will Never Be Great At Goal Setting
From www.perceivepolishperfect.com
From the ‘GET A LIFE’ Blog

2. WHY MOST PEOPLE WILL NEVER BE
GREAT AT GOAL SETTING
• Because they never set goals or lack
the motivation to take action.
• Researchers found that only one in
five Americans, who reach the age
of 65, don’t depend on Social
Security.
• Some people who do depend on
social security include high-paying
professions like doctors and lawyers.

3. • Life is full of distractions, chaos and stress, leaving little or no time for most people to focus and plan
their lives.
• We work during the week and then spend our hard earned salary on the weekends.

4. HOW DID YOU SPEND YOUR WEEKEND?
Was it productive?

5. Break the Habit and don’t be like others…..
arriving into work on Monday morning, tired and stressed.
feeling you need to look for another job, as you need more money to cover
overspending.
not stopping to plan or set goals, instead hitting the job sites looking for that
‘golden egg.’
It’s already in your hands!
WHY MOST PEOPLE WILL
NEVER BE GREAT AT GOAL
SETTING
SECTION SUMMARY
Step 1
PERCEIVE

6. PERCEIVE
Everything starts with an idea, a feeling, a need, a want or desire.
How do you move forward?
Let’s
Start

7. WHAT IS A
BELIEF?
• Definition of belief
• 1 : a state or habit of mind in which trust or
confidence is placed in some person or thing her
belief in God a belief in democracy I bought the
table in the belief that it was an antique.
contrary to popular belief
• 2 : something that is accepted, considered to be
true, or held as an opinion : something believed
an individual's religious or political beliefs;
especially : a tenet or body of tenets held by a
group the beliefs of the Catholic Church
• 3 : conviction of the truth of some statement or
the reality of some being or phenomenon
especially when based on examination of
evidence belief in the validity of scientific
statements
Source Webster's Dictionary
Using the worksheet on the next slide, write
down what YOU believe in?
Note: Don’t skip this bit…..if you do, you’ll
fail before you have even started.
Why?.. you may ask yourself
Your
Beliefs

8. YOUR BELIEFS
• Beliefs are important, they affect the way we think and behave.
• Your behaviour depends on what you believe.
• Everything you do or don’t do is based on the beliefs you hold
about yourself and the world around you.
• Beliefs help determine how you react to others' behaviour — if
someone doesn’t say good morning, do you believe they are
being rude?
Exercise

9. Belief about myself, others or the world Assumption Rule for living
Life is difficult, especially when you get older.
No one wants your skills
lack of opportunities when
applying for jobs. Ageism is
companies is well
documented
YOUR BELIEFS
In order to move
forward you
need to
understand what
you beliefs.
If you want to change your career and if don’t
believe you can. You need to try understand why
you believe this. (you won’t move forward until
you do!)
If your belief is
not based on
anything solid,
change the
rules.
Changing a rule,
take time and
effort. It’s a goal
in it’s self.
Always remember
PERCEIVE
POLISH
PERFECT
CHANGING
A RULE

10. Old Belief -
How strongly you believe this: %
New Belief:
How strongly you believe this: %
Evidence that supports your new belief and disconfirms your old belief:
How strongly you believe your old belief: %
How strongly you believe your new belief: %
CHANGING A RULE - BELIEFS
Write down your old
belief – then rate its
strength
As I mentioned earlier
changing a rule (a belief),
takes time and effort. It’s a
goal in it’s self.
Always remember
PERCEIVE
POLISH
PERFECT
Refer to Affirmations and Visualisation Techniques
THOUGHTS
&
FEELINGS

11. What do I like in my life and
would like more of
What don't I like in my life
that I would like to change
Values that are important
to me as a person –
principals, ethics morals
People I would
like a different
relationship
with
Things I would
like to change
about myself
Where would I like to
be in 5 years time
more choices and freedom to work
when and where I want too
being controlled by someone else,
namely an employer. I would like to
change from procrastination to
being more action orientated
DEFINING YOUR
THOUGHTS FOR GOAL
SETTING
Start thinking about
your goals, or
things you would
like to change?
Think of the
things you
don’t like
Examples of Values
Accountability, Accuracy
Achievement, Adventurousness
Altruism, Ambition
Assertiveness, Balance, Being the best
Belonging, Boldness, Calmness
Define a Value
• the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of
something: "your support is of great value"
• "equipment is included up to a total value of £500“ asking price · monetary value principles or
standards of behaviour; one's judgement of what is important in life: "they internalize their
parents' rules and values"
• the numerical amount denoted by an algebraic term; a magnitude, quantity, or number: "the
mean value of x"

12. Situtation –
where was I?
What was I
doing? Who
was I with?
Feelings
NAT –
Negative
Automatic
Thoughts –
rate 0 to 100
Behaviour –
What did I do?
Feelings Thoughts
Alternation
thoughts – rate
0 to 100
How do you
feel now?
INDENTIFYING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND
FEELINGS
We all have negative thoughts and feelings. In this exercise I want you to look at your negative thoughts
and feeling and try and understand.
A. Do you know the root cause of the your negative thoughts or feelings?
B. Do you know they affect your behaviour?
• In this exercise I am looking at improving the way you handle negative aspects in your life and
what you can do to change this. This helps greatly with confidence and improve resilience.
• Under each heading make notes.
• Negative thoughts and feeling can have a profound effect on all aspects of your life.

13. SECTION SUMMARY
Step 2
POLISH

14. POLISH
Now you understand more about yourself in terms of your beliefs, thoughts and feelings.
We can now start looking at your goals
Will it work? How will I know if it’s what I really want?
POSITIVE &
NEGATIVE

15. Goal Pro for completing Cons for completing this goal
UNDERSTAND THE
POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE
In this exercise list
things you want to
change, need or desire.
They don’t need to be
specific at this stage.
Complete the next 2 columns.
What you are doing here is trying to
understand what it is you want and
what are the upsides and downsides of
that need.GOALS

16. Goal Specific Measurable Attainable Realistic Time-Limited SMART?
IS IT REALLY A GOAL?
This
section/worksheet
is straight forward.
Write in your goal,
then complete the
remaining sections.
There is one slight difference
to this form. The last box
asks you to be honest with
yourself and answer ‘YES or
NO’ – Is it really a SMART
GOAL.GOALS

17. BEFORE MOVING ON……
Now you have written down your goals and know they are achievable.
But, before moving on there are a few point I would like to raise.
• Note your skills, knowledge and experience
• Try out your new goal to see if you enjoy it – you may want to do
presentations to further your career, for example.
• Do your research! Talk to people and even get a mentor or coach.

18. POLISH
SECTION SUMMARY
Author of Psycho Cybernetics, Dr. Maxwell Maltz, says that once
you set a goal your mind becomes more focused. Focusing will open
your mind up to opportunities you may have normally missed. Your
mind makes corrections so that you can stay on target. The more
specific the goal is, the better the corrections are and more
opportunities appear.

19. PERFECT
Time to really focus and make it work.

20. PLANNING
Nothing changes if you don’t write it down.
Break goals into smaller chunks
Monitor progress, perhaps use a project planning tools.
Get an accountability buddy.
Remember – Goals are flexible and will change.
Know when to change direction

21. PER-FECT
Summary
This bit is down to you, the most important piece of advice I can give you is to TAKE ACTION and
HAVE FUN.
Set goals that inspire you, but that are also realistic and achievable. Set a series of goals so that you are
going step-by-step. That way, it easier to adjust them as needed.

22. www.perceivepolishperfect.com
• Perceive - start with an idea, something you
want to change, but what are the first steps?.
• Polish - investigate and play with whatever
you are trying to change or improve.
• Perfect - time to really focus and make it
work.
We all have ideas, unfulfilled dreams and life, at
times, lacking direction.
GET A LIFE!
Hi, my name is Tim.
I've had my fair share of ups and downs in life. A
successful ,but, stressful career and life. Then I had a life
saving operation that made me realise life can be very
short.
I started ‘GET A LIFE!’ a practical blog aimed at
helping those who want to change and improve their life.
Your feedback and comments would be welcome, feel
free to connect with me.
asktim@percievepolishperfect.com