Be A Catalyst, Start a Revolution!An Uncommon Leadership Perspective By:  Ed Cabellon, LTE ConsultingOctober 6, 2010University of North Carolina - Pembroke@EdCabellon, #UNCPleads
EdDadCoachBossLeader
Learning Outcomes: Will learn why they are doing this “Leadership”
  Will learn to turn FEAR into ACTION
 Will learn how online communities can change your life
  Will learn how to build and earn trustDo you ever have days where you feel like this?
Do you ever have days where you feel like this?
How will you leave your markon this earth?
Why You Want to Become an LEADER?
What characteristics make a model LEADER?
What do you believe in?What do you stand for?
AGREEDISAGREE
Truth #1:  Not everyone is going to like you… Get Over It.Truth #2:  You won’t always get what you want… DEAL.Truth #3: No one can transform your life like you can… Don’t wait for someone else to do it for you!Truth #4:  You’re going to FAIL, a lot. Stop trying to be PERFECT.Truth #5:  You are not in complete control… stop acting like you are!Truth #6:  Someone else will always have more than you.Truth #7:  There may be no tomorrow… so make the most of today.
FEAR Factor EquationFEAR- (Possible Consequences) + (Best Outcomes)ACTIONLet’s take an example of a common FEAR that most people have:  “Asking someone out” (REJECTION)
Possible Consequences:
They say “not interested”
They laugh and say “not interested”
You get rejected
Best Outcomes:
They say “YES”
ACTION = “Ask that person out!”Why do we allow FEAR to hold us back? What’s the worst that could happen?
What would you do, if FEAR was removed from the picture?
Small Group BreakoutPlease break up into groups of no more than 10Take sheet of paper and markers and answer these questions:“What would you do with your life if you removed FEAR from the picture?”“Insecurity comes from: ____________________”What answers did your group come up with?How did you feel about removing FEAR?Comfort Challenge:  Pair up and “Eye Gaze”
BREAKING UP WITH FEAR“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened” – Mark TwainNow that we’ve defined FEAR, how do we rid ourselves of it, once and for ALL?!?Step 1:  Uncover FEAR disguised as Optimism“There’s no difference between a pessimist who says, ‘Oh, it’s hopeless, so don’t bother doing anything’, and the optimist who says, ‘Don’t bother doing anything, it’s going to turn out fine anyway.’ Either way, nothing happens. – YvonChouinard, founder of PatagoniaLife won’t improve on it’s own.  Be real with yourself, do you really think it will improve on its own or is it wishful thinking and an excuse for inaction?
BREAKING UP WITH FEAR“I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.” – Rosa ParksStep 2:  Instead of “What do you Want?” ask “What Would Excite Me?”
Unfortunately, most people will never know what they want.  The question itself is ambiguous and needs clarity.
The 2nd gets at the heart of what will bring you happiness, not just for today, but for a long time.  “What Makes Me Happy” is no longer a good enough question to break yourself of FEAR.BREAKING UP WITH FEAR“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” – Marianne WilliamsonStep 3:  Realize That Doing the Unrealistic is Easier Than Doing the Realistic!
This is easier than it seems, and all it takes is believing you can do it.

Be a Catalyst, Start A Revolution

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    Be A Catalyst,Start a Revolution!An Uncommon Leadership Perspective By: Ed Cabellon, LTE ConsultingOctober 6, 2010University of North Carolina - Pembroke@EdCabellon, #UNCPleads
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    Learning Outcomes: Willlearn why they are doing this “Leadership”
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    Willlearn to turn FEAR into ACTION
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    Will learnhow online communities can change your life
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    Willlearn how to build and earn trustDo you ever have days where you feel like this?
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    Do you everhave days where you feel like this?
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    How will youleave your markon this earth?
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    Why You Wantto Become an LEADER?
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    What do youbelieve in?What do you stand for?
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    Truth #1: Not everyone is going to like you… Get Over It.Truth #2: You won’t always get what you want… DEAL.Truth #3: No one can transform your life like you can… Don’t wait for someone else to do it for you!Truth #4: You’re going to FAIL, a lot. Stop trying to be PERFECT.Truth #5: You are not in complete control… stop acting like you are!Truth #6: Someone else will always have more than you.Truth #7: There may be no tomorrow… so make the most of today.
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    FEAR Factor EquationFEAR-(Possible Consequences) + (Best Outcomes)ACTIONLet’s take an example of a common FEAR that most people have: “Asking someone out” (REJECTION)
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    They say “notinterested”
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    They laugh andsay “not interested”
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    ACTION = “Askthat person out!”Why do we allow FEAR to hold us back? What’s the worst that could happen?
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    What would youdo, if FEAR was removed from the picture?
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    Small Group BreakoutPleasebreak up into groups of no more than 10Take sheet of paper and markers and answer these questions:“What would you do with your life if you removed FEAR from the picture?”“Insecurity comes from: ____________________”What answers did your group come up with?How did you feel about removing FEAR?Comfort Challenge: Pair up and “Eye Gaze”
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    BREAKING UP WITHFEAR“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened” – Mark TwainNow that we’ve defined FEAR, how do we rid ourselves of it, once and for ALL?!?Step 1: Uncover FEAR disguised as Optimism“There’s no difference between a pessimist who says, ‘Oh, it’s hopeless, so don’t bother doing anything’, and the optimist who says, ‘Don’t bother doing anything, it’s going to turn out fine anyway.’ Either way, nothing happens. – YvonChouinard, founder of PatagoniaLife won’t improve on it’s own. Be real with yourself, do you really think it will improve on its own or is it wishful thinking and an excuse for inaction?
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    BREAKING UP WITHFEAR“I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.” – Rosa ParksStep 2: Instead of “What do you Want?” ask “What Would Excite Me?”
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    Unfortunately, most peoplewill never know what they want. The question itself is ambiguous and needs clarity.
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    The 2nd getsat the heart of what will bring you happiness, not just for today, but for a long time. “What Makes Me Happy” is no longer a good enough question to break yourself of FEAR.BREAKING UP WITH FEAR“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” – Marianne WilliamsonStep 3: Realize That Doing the Unrealistic is Easier Than Doing the Realistic!
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    This is easierthan it seems, and all it takes is believing you can do it.

Editor's Notes

  • #7 What does it mean to be a college Student Leader?
  • #8 http://nys-eett.wikispaces.com/file/view/thinkerswanted.jpg/34937551/thinkerswanted.jpg
  • #12 Leaders will understand the power of a positive attitude/outlook in their daily interactions with students, fellow staff and othersLeaders will understand how to build trust with their residents and fellow staffLeaders will realize the damage that rumors can cause to building a healthy communityLeaders will understand the importance of upholding University policies and role modelingLeaders will value their community-building/resource role more greatly than their policy-enforcer roleLeaders will leave the session having interacted on these topics and with tools they can take with them to live these values in their RA rolesWhat type of student are you?Morning or Night personText messages or EmailFacebook or TwitterProcrastinator or Planner
  • #24 Media RevolutionsPrinting Press – 400 years ago (1400’s) – Turned Europe upside downTwo Way Conversation – Slow text based conversation, then real time phone based – 200 years ago150 years ago – Recorded Media encoded in physical objects – 150 years agoHarnessing of electromagnetic spectrum – sound and images – 100 years agoConversations to groupsGroups to Conversations1:1 or broadcasting the same message to a large group of peopleThen the Internet came along!Native support for groups and conversation at the same time. Many to many patternMode of carriage for ALL forms of communication. Site of coordination of efforts.Now all consumers are also producers.