HOW TO
GIVE FEEDBACK
WHEN SOMEBODY’S
WRONG
DO YOU DREAD GIVING
NEGATIVE/CORRECTIVE/
CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK?
DO YOU DREAD GIVING
NEGATIVE/CORRECTIVE/
CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK?
Here’s how to ensure it’s a win-win for both of you.
FIRSTLY,
CLEAR YOUR
CONSCIENCE
Understand it’s okay to give
negative feedback.
1
A Gallup Inc. study found that
employees who receive negative
feedback from their managers are
20 times more likely to be engaged at
work than their co-workers who are
receiving little to no feedback.
DID YOU KNOW
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
TAKE IT FROM BILL:
We all need people who will give us
feedback. That’s how we improve.
-BILL GATES
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
TAKE IT FROM BILL:
We all need people who will give us
feedback. That’s how we improve.
-BILL GATES
OR FROM STEVE
IF YOU WISH:
My job is not to be easy on people.
My job is to make them better.
-STEVE JOBS
AND IF YOU’RE STILL
NOT CONVINCED...
...in the Harvard Business Review, a survey
of 900 global employees found that 57%
of respondents prefer corrective feedback
to praise and recognition.
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
Feedback is the breakfast of champions.
- AUTHOR AND MANAGEMENT EXPERT,
KEN BLANCHARD
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
Feedback is the breakfast of champions.
- AUTHOR AND MANAGEMENT EXPERT,
KEN BLANCHARD
YOU JUST NEED TO SERVE IT RIGHT.
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
THESE INGREDIENTS ARE OUT:
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
THESE INGREDIENTS ARE OUT:
• Assigning blame
• Sugarcoating
• Beating around the bush
• Passive-aggression
• Sarcasm
• Indirect threats
• “I’m right, you’re wrong”
• One-way conversations
• Character assassinations
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
THESE INGREDIENTS ARE IN:
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
THESE INGREDIENTS ARE IN:
• Honest
• Straightforward
• Immediate
1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
Criticism may not be agreeable,
but it is necessary. It fulfils the same
function as pain in the human
body. It calls attention
to an unhealthy state of things.
– WINSTON CHURCHILL
PICK THE RIGHT
CHANNEL
Use the channel that’ll give you
maximum room for honesty,
and minimum room
for misunderstandings.
2
WHAT NOT TO USE:
Email
2 • PICK THE RIGHT CHANNEL
WHAT NOT TO USE:
Email Phone
2 • PICK THE RIGHT CHANNEL
WHAT NOT TO USE:
Words can be misconstrued, and the message
can easily be received in a negative way.
Email Phone Social Media
2 • PICK THE RIGHT CHANNEL
TO ENSURE A POSITIVE
OUTCOME, GO SOMEWHERE
PRIVATE AND TALK TO THEM
FACE-TO-FACE.
THROW THE OLD
SANDWICH AWAY
It will do more harm than good.
3
POSITIVE FEEDBACK
3 • THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
POSITIVE FEEDBACK
NEGATIVE FEEDBACK
3 • THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
POSITIVE FEEDBACK
NEGATIVE FEEDBACK
POSITIVE FEEDBACK
3 • THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
THE SANDWICH TECHNIQUE:
“Thanks for getting that article back to me
on time. Unfortunately the whole thing
was wrong and you’ll have to start over.
But you have been doing so well this week
and I’m really proud of you. “
3 • THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
THE SANDWICH TECHNIQUE:
“Thanks for getting that article back to me
on time. Unfortunately the whole thing
was wrong and you’ll have to start over.
But you have been doing so well this week
and I’m really proud of you. “
Rather get straight to the point
3 • THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
TOO MANY PEOPLE SEE
THROUGH THE “SANDWICH”
NOW. IT MAKES YOU SOUND
INSINCERE, AND DILUTES
THE MESSAGE.
GIVE THEM AN SBI
Use the Situation Behaviour
Impact Technique.
4
SITUATION
Put the feedback into context by telling them
where and when the situation occurred.
4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
SITUATION
Put the feedback into context by telling them
where and when the situation occurred.
Yesterday afternoon, when we were having
our weekly meeting…
4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
BEHAVIOUR
Describe the specific behaviour that took place.
4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
BEHAVIOUR
Describe the specific behaviour that took place.
...I noticed you struggled to find your notes,
and came ten minutes late.
4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
BEHAVIOUR
Describe the specific behaviour that took place.
...I noticed you struggled to find your notes,
and came ten minutes late.
Always focus on the behaviour
never the person. This keeps things
from getting personal.
TIP
4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
IMPACT
Use “I” statements to describe how their
behaviour has affected you or the team.
4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
IMPACT
Use “I” statements to describe how their
behaviour has affected you or the team.
I felt embarrassed because the entire board
was there. I’m concerned this has impacted
the team’s reputation.
4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
IMPACT
Use “I” statements to describe how their
behaviour has affected you or the team.
I felt embarrassed because the entire board
was there. I’m concerned this has impacted
the team’s reputation.
Don’t hide behind “we” statements.
Always speak from your point of view.
This keeps it honest.
TIP
4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
Negative feedback can make
us bitter or better.
– ROBIN SHARMA
STICK TO
THE FACTS
COGNITION > EMOTION
Don’t let your sentiments derail
the conversation. Stay objective by
backing your feedback with facts.
5
DONT SAY:
“Your bad behaviour is getting
on everybody’s nerves!”
5 • STICK TO THE FACTS
RATHER SAY:DONT SAY:
“Your bad behaviour is getting
on everybody’s nerves!”
“Over the past two days, I’ve
received five complaints about
you sleeping at your desk.”
5 • STICK TO THE FACTS
Raise your words,not your voice.
It is the rain that grows flowers,
not thunder.
– RUMI
USE THE MAGICAL
PHRASE
Understand that every word you
weave into your feedback can have
a powerful effect.
6
A team of psychologists from Yale,
Columbia, Stanford, and elsewhere,
found that this simple phrase makes
feedback 40% more effective:
“I’m giving you these comments because
I have very high expectations and I know
that you can reach them.”
DID YOU KNOW
6 • USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE
IT WORKS BECAUSE IT SIGNALS TO THEM:
They’re part
of a team
1 2 3
6 • USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE
IT WORKS BECAUSE IT SIGNALS TO THEM:
They’re part
of a team
There are high
standards
1 2 3
6 • USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE
IT WORKS BECAUSE IT SIGNALS TO THEM:
They’re part
of a team
There are high
standards
You believe
they can reach
those standards
1 2 3
6 • USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE
It has long been an axiom of mine
that the little things are infinitely
the most important.
– ARTHUR CONAN DOYLE
OFFER A CLEAR
SOLUTION
Leave them with specific
directions as to how they can
rectify their behaviour.
7
DONT SAY:
“Don’t ever do that again.”
7 • OFFER A CLEAR SOLUTION
DONT SAY:
“Don’t ever do that again.”
RATHER SAY:
"I want you to follow the
guidelines word for word
in future."
7 • OFFER A CLEAR SOLUTION
Problem talk creates problems.
Solutions talk creates solutions.
– AUTHOR AND PSYCHOTHERAPIST, STEVE DE SHAZER
FINALLY, LEVEL
THE PLAYING
FIELD
Mastering feedback isn’t just
about giving it.
8
Forbes found that employees are 74%
more engaged when their managers ask
for feedback on their performance.
DID YOU KNOW
8 • FINALLY, LEVEL THE PLAYING FIELD
IF YOU REALLY WANT TO
GROW A FEEDBACK CULTURE,
LEAD BY EXAMPLE,
AND INVITE IT.
WHAT ELSE DO YOU
WANT TO LEARN TODAY?
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How to give feedback when somebody's wrong

  • 1.
    HOW TO GIVE FEEDBACK WHENSOMEBODY’S WRONG
  • 2.
    DO YOU DREADGIVING NEGATIVE/CORRECTIVE/ CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK?
  • 3.
    DO YOU DREADGIVING NEGATIVE/CORRECTIVE/ CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK? Here’s how to ensure it’s a win-win for both of you.
  • 4.
    FIRSTLY, CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE Understand it’sokay to give negative feedback. 1
  • 5.
    A Gallup Inc.study found that employees who receive negative feedback from their managers are 20 times more likely to be engaged at work than their co-workers who are receiving little to no feedback. DID YOU KNOW 1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
  • 6.
    1 • CLEARYOUR CONSCIENCE TAKE IT FROM BILL: We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. -BILL GATES
  • 7.
    1 • CLEARYOUR CONSCIENCE TAKE IT FROM BILL: We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. -BILL GATES OR FROM STEVE IF YOU WISH: My job is not to be easy on people. My job is to make them better. -STEVE JOBS
  • 8.
    AND IF YOU’RESTILL NOT CONVINCED... ...in the Harvard Business Review, a survey of 900 global employees found that 57% of respondents prefer corrective feedback to praise and recognition. 1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
  • 9.
    1 • CLEARYOUR CONSCIENCE Feedback is the breakfast of champions. - AUTHOR AND MANAGEMENT EXPERT, KEN BLANCHARD 1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
  • 10.
    1 • CLEARYOUR CONSCIENCE Feedback is the breakfast of champions. - AUTHOR AND MANAGEMENT EXPERT, KEN BLANCHARD YOU JUST NEED TO SERVE IT RIGHT. 1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
  • 11.
    THESE INGREDIENTS AREOUT: 1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
  • 12.
    THESE INGREDIENTS AREOUT: • Assigning blame • Sugarcoating • Beating around the bush • Passive-aggression • Sarcasm • Indirect threats • “I’m right, you’re wrong” • One-way conversations • Character assassinations 1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
  • 13.
    THESE INGREDIENTS AREIN: 1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
  • 14.
    THESE INGREDIENTS AREIN: • Honest • Straightforward • Immediate 1 • CLEAR YOUR CONSCIENCE
  • 15.
    Criticism may notbe agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things. – WINSTON CHURCHILL
  • 16.
    PICK THE RIGHT CHANNEL Usethe channel that’ll give you maximum room for honesty, and minimum room for misunderstandings. 2
  • 17.
    WHAT NOT TOUSE: Email 2 • PICK THE RIGHT CHANNEL
  • 18.
    WHAT NOT TOUSE: Email Phone 2 • PICK THE RIGHT CHANNEL
  • 19.
    WHAT NOT TOUSE: Words can be misconstrued, and the message can easily be received in a negative way. Email Phone Social Media 2 • PICK THE RIGHT CHANNEL
  • 20.
    TO ENSURE APOSITIVE OUTCOME, GO SOMEWHERE PRIVATE AND TALK TO THEM FACE-TO-FACE.
  • 21.
    THROW THE OLD SANDWICHAWAY It will do more harm than good. 3
  • 22.
    POSITIVE FEEDBACK 3 •THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
  • 23.
    POSITIVE FEEDBACK NEGATIVE FEEDBACK 3• THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
  • 24.
    POSITIVE FEEDBACK NEGATIVE FEEDBACK POSITIVEFEEDBACK 3 • THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
  • 25.
    THE SANDWICH TECHNIQUE: “Thanksfor getting that article back to me on time. Unfortunately the whole thing was wrong and you’ll have to start over. But you have been doing so well this week and I’m really proud of you. “ 3 • THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
  • 26.
    THE SANDWICH TECHNIQUE: “Thanksfor getting that article back to me on time. Unfortunately the whole thing was wrong and you’ll have to start over. But you have been doing so well this week and I’m really proud of you. “ Rather get straight to the point 3 • THROW THE OLD SANDWICH AWAY
  • 27.
    TOO MANY PEOPLESEE THROUGH THE “SANDWICH” NOW. IT MAKES YOU SOUND INSINCERE, AND DILUTES THE MESSAGE.
  • 28.
    GIVE THEM ANSBI Use the Situation Behaviour Impact Technique. 4
  • 29.
    SITUATION Put the feedbackinto context by telling them where and when the situation occurred. 4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
  • 30.
    SITUATION Put the feedbackinto context by telling them where and when the situation occurred. Yesterday afternoon, when we were having our weekly meeting… 4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
  • 31.
    BEHAVIOUR Describe the specificbehaviour that took place. 4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
  • 32.
    BEHAVIOUR Describe the specificbehaviour that took place. ...I noticed you struggled to find your notes, and came ten minutes late. 4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
  • 33.
    BEHAVIOUR Describe the specificbehaviour that took place. ...I noticed you struggled to find your notes, and came ten minutes late. Always focus on the behaviour never the person. This keeps things from getting personal. TIP 4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
  • 34.
    IMPACT Use “I” statementsto describe how their behaviour has affected you or the team. 4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
  • 35.
    IMPACT Use “I” statementsto describe how their behaviour has affected you or the team. I felt embarrassed because the entire board was there. I’m concerned this has impacted the team’s reputation. 4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
  • 36.
    IMPACT Use “I” statementsto describe how their behaviour has affected you or the team. I felt embarrassed because the entire board was there. I’m concerned this has impacted the team’s reputation. Don’t hide behind “we” statements. Always speak from your point of view. This keeps it honest. TIP 4 • GIVE THEM AN SBI
  • 37.
    Negative feedback canmake us bitter or better. – ROBIN SHARMA
  • 38.
    STICK TO THE FACTS COGNITION> EMOTION Don’t let your sentiments derail the conversation. Stay objective by backing your feedback with facts. 5
  • 39.
    DONT SAY: “Your badbehaviour is getting on everybody’s nerves!” 5 • STICK TO THE FACTS
  • 40.
    RATHER SAY:DONT SAY: “Yourbad behaviour is getting on everybody’s nerves!” “Over the past two days, I’ve received five complaints about you sleeping at your desk.” 5 • STICK TO THE FACTS
  • 41.
    Raise your words,notyour voice. It is the rain that grows flowers, not thunder. – RUMI
  • 42.
    USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE Understandthat every word you weave into your feedback can have a powerful effect. 6
  • 43.
    A team ofpsychologists from Yale, Columbia, Stanford, and elsewhere, found that this simple phrase makes feedback 40% more effective: “I’m giving you these comments because I have very high expectations and I know that you can reach them.” DID YOU KNOW 6 • USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE
  • 44.
    IT WORKS BECAUSEIT SIGNALS TO THEM: They’re part of a team 1 2 3 6 • USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE
  • 45.
    IT WORKS BECAUSEIT SIGNALS TO THEM: They’re part of a team There are high standards 1 2 3 6 • USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE
  • 46.
    IT WORKS BECAUSEIT SIGNALS TO THEM: They’re part of a team There are high standards You believe they can reach those standards 1 2 3 6 • USE THE MAGICAL PHRASE
  • 47.
    It has longbeen an axiom of mine that the little things are infinitely the most important. – ARTHUR CONAN DOYLE
  • 48.
    OFFER A CLEAR SOLUTION Leavethem with specific directions as to how they can rectify their behaviour. 7
  • 49.
    DONT SAY: “Don’t everdo that again.” 7 • OFFER A CLEAR SOLUTION
  • 50.
    DONT SAY: “Don’t everdo that again.” RATHER SAY: "I want you to follow the guidelines word for word in future." 7 • OFFER A CLEAR SOLUTION
  • 51.
    Problem talk createsproblems. Solutions talk creates solutions. – AUTHOR AND PSYCHOTHERAPIST, STEVE DE SHAZER
  • 52.
    FINALLY, LEVEL THE PLAYING FIELD Masteringfeedback isn’t just about giving it. 8
  • 53.
    Forbes found thatemployees are 74% more engaged when their managers ask for feedback on their performance. DID YOU KNOW 8 • FINALLY, LEVEL THE PLAYING FIELD
  • 54.
    IF YOU REALLYWANT TO GROW A FEEDBACK CULTURE, LEAD BY EXAMPLE, AND INVITE IT.
  • 55.
    WHAT ELSE DOYOU WANT TO LEARN TODAY?
  • 56.