This presentation is from Affiliate Summit West 2018 (January 7 - January 9, 2018 in Las Vegas).
Session description: ADD is a gift, especially for entrepreneurs. When not managed, ADD is a monster. Learn the 3 components of the monster-taming framework that will help you get your life and business in thrive mode.
61. My BHAG
(Big Hair Audacious Goal)
Over the coming decade
help 10,000 entrepreneurs with ADD
double their income.
Will you be one of them?
These techniques will help you.
Thanks for intro. <clap>
Here we are, winding down after yet another great AffSumm event. Thanks to Shawn and Missy for their long-standing dedication to the Affiliate Market and the people who keep it thriving. <clap clap>
* You’ve undoubtedly learned a lot in the past 2 days & you’ll gain more here whether you have ADD or know someone who does.
I Believe…
entrepreneurs with ADD have been given an amazing gift to change the world when they embrace and harness their ADD.
* Life like trampoline – life into disarray? Love my life, always have, harder than needed to be – and got worse.
* I’ve been told I’m a Natural Leader; Organizer/Planner Extraordinaire; Astoundingly Creative. With all that going for me still have struggled
* Businesses floundered and not traction on most other businesses. Relationships hard.
* Understanding during therapy – husband’s Adult ADD – more than his being distractible.
* Relief! Name for monster. Quit looking @ husband as jerk. Had some of needed answers.
* We heard: ADD can’t be cured; is learning disability; best managed by drugs; also ADDers lack motivation, are disruptive, & don’t listen.
* We learned these are myths
* It doesn’t have to be that way
IMAGINE:
- your life when your ADD is harnessed to serve you
- realizing you don’t have a learning disability and are highly intelligent.
- life without drugs to stay motivated, a life of productivity, and a life of communicating well
If we were in a room filled with a standard sample of the American population
* 5-10% of you would likely have a neurological condition called ADD/ADHD — Attention Deficit Disorder or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. * For simplicity, I’ll use the term ADD.*
* Let’s bring this closer to home. AffSumm meetings are attended mostly by entrepreneurs, and since experts project that at least half of entrepreneurs have ADD, it stands to reason that at least
50% of the AffSumm attendees have ADD.
Now, let’s consider this room.
You were attracted to this topic, so I’m going out on a limb here and guess
75% of you have ADD. With a show of hands, who has, or thinks they have, ADD? <count> That looks like X%.
Keep your hands up. Look around — welcome to your tribe. You are not alone.
** // ** Has ADD caused problems in your life? Everyone has issues and challenges to overcome. The difference between ADDers and others is that the others — the Neurotypical Types — have a larger tribe therefore more support than Neuro-atypicals do. It’s good to know the ADDers in your life so you can get support when needed.
In contrast, has your ADD been a gift? ** // **
I’ll strive to educate you more about ADD, give you ways of harnessing it, and help you understand its gift aspects, because ADD can actually give you an edge over non-ADDers.
To be better prepared for how my husband’s ADD would show up in our life, I started learning about it. That’s when I realized — I have it too.
* All pieces of life fell into place. The challenges with jobs and careers, relationships, and food addictions.
The gifts of multitasking, planning, and creativity.
* When structured life ADD almost unnoticed, fell apart, along with my 1st business, when I met entrepreneurial, ADD husband whose life mostly unstructured.
* With this realization, I’ve since coached myself back to productivity and fluid structure so my ADD is almost unnoticed again.
* I can quit looking at myself as a failure.
* My ADD is no longer a monster. I have more of the needed answers.
I tell you my story not because it’s unique, --- because it isn’t.
I tell you my because:
* I see entrepreneurs not living up to their potential — and struggling along the way
* I see too much pain and chaos when ADD goes undiagnosed and untreated.
* I see too much shame and denial around ADD.
* ADD IS a disorder, though not in the traditional medical sense.
* it’s a disorder because special gifts —different wiring — not understood or appreciated by the general population.
* don’t fit into a tidy box, plan, or routine.
I tell you my story because I want:
* to encourage you to embrace your ADD and use it to make more of your life
* you to be freed from myths and misunderstandings surrounding ADD.
* you to step into your best self, and I know you can’t do that if you don’t embrace and harness your ADD.
People think of dragons as monsters
I’m here to tell you that they are only monsters when they aren’t tamed and trained.
Just as in the movie “How To Train Your Dragon”, when you befriend the monster dragon you can have a rewarding relationship with it.
My growth began when I used my monster-taming framework to improve my ADD-driven life.
It will help you too.
Without this framework in place, ADD was a monster in my life
ADD is a monster because:
* it steals your focus, making you distractible.
* it makes you impulsive in word and action.
* it makes your mind and body restless.
With the framework in place I’ve transmogrified my monster into a tamed dragon.
The framework pillars are — Structure, Strategies, and Self-care.
I’ll share one technique for each pillar.
Structure is the first pillar. It’s important because it provides support for your busy ADD mind.
This is where you start to tame your ADD monster.
Within a structure, the mind focuses on the tasks at hand, prioritizes better, and stays on track.
You can gain and keep clarity about your goals and intentions when your mind is focused within a framework.
One technique to keep your structure strong is Time Management — vital for the ADDer.
It creates a template for your day and gives you one place to record all the projects you plan to tackle.
The act of writing everything down helps focus your mind.
Then, listing your action items and scheduling them catalyzes your productivity.
This is part of the secret sauce to make and keep you on your game. ….
Without reminders, though, you don’t have a complete tool.
To be most effective, this technique needs reminders --- electronic/sticky notes/ribbon.
I’d seen other people adopt Time Management tools and wasn’t impressed with their results.
But, I needed something to move my productivity.
I already used all the elements of this technique so this wasn’t a new idea to me.
It was the sequence of steps that made the powerful difference for me.
Strategies is the second pillar and where you start
training your tamed monster.
This is where you:
- turn desire and intention into action.
- examine your life and remold it into your new vision
- use tactics to ensure growth and change.
One simple yet powerful Strategies technique is Baby Steps. You can’t eat an elephant in one bite and you can’t change habits — adding or subtracting them — in one big step.
This is especially true for ADDers because of our brain wiring.
Approach your changes one. at. a time. Rather than revise your entire diet, for example, change one item.
When that becomes second nature, take the next step and change another item.
Approaching your growth this way you stay on point.
That’s a clever secret of high performers, ADDers or not.
* Stan used technique effectively. He’d quit walking the beach when his wife died -- losing touch w/joys of living on island.
* when I challenged him 5-minute beach walk every night right after work he reluctantly agreed.
* next week I asked how w/challenge -- sheepishly said 5 mins stupid amount time to walk beach @ sunset -- he walked 10 mins instead.
* By end of coaching he was walking 20-30 minutes –
loving the fresh air, sunsets, & his improved energy and focus.
He’d reconnected with his island muse.
Self-Care is the third framework pillar.
* I’ve saved the most important and most overlooked pillar for last.
* Your body is the machine of your life and needs to be taken care of so it will take care of you.
* High performers understand that simple notion and make time for this pillar in their day.
This is where you start to turn your trained monster into a tamed dragon ---
with the aim of making it a trained dragon.
1 technique here is Breaks – Hourly Breaks.
They provide change of scenery, shift in energy, & an opportunity for movement.
This produces dopamine which floods your dopamine-deprived brain so it can focus. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter vital for communication between nerve cells and contributes to your sense of satisfaction.
ADDers have fewer dopamine receptors, so we need more dopamine to accomplish what others do easily.
This simple technique had a big impact on Pat.
What she learned was that this technique improved her life beyond where she’d already take it & in ways she couldn’t imagine.
She had even more - energy, focus, and vibrancy - than before -- let her be that much more productive & have energy left over @ the end of day
to walk the acreage with her husband and dog. She’s one happy lady!
You’ve learned, for the purpose of harnessing your ADD, three monster-taming-to-dragon-taming techniques:
Time Management, Baby Steps, and Hourly Breaks. This is only a start. It’s your first baby step! ;) ……
Maintain the momentum.
Continue to learn more about this and how it impacts you — for better and worse.
Subscribe to newsletters find podcasts and books,
& hire a coach. Working w/coach who knows ADD & entrepreneurship is your best bet for success.
To train your tamed dragon it takes these techniques PLUS the follow-up education and work.
* You’ve learned the pillars of Structure, Strategies, and Self-care to support your efforts to thrive with ADD.
* This framework system has worked well for me to take my ADD monster by the tail & tame it into a well-behaved dragon that serves me well.
* It will do the same for you, as it has so many others.
* BTW, this framework also benefits people who don’t even have ADD.
* You’ve learned some of the drawbacks and advantages of having ADD.
* You have been invited to imagine not being a slave to those traits in your life.
* You’ve learned the beginnings of transmogrifying your monster into a tamed dragon.
* You may have noticed I still refer to ADD within a framework as a dragon. ….
That’s to remind you that you can’t let your guard down.
If you do, your ADD could wander back into the monster camp.
With attention, you can train that dragon so it doesn’t regress
ADD is a spectrum. There’s not one solution that fits everyone.
That’s where a coach comes in — working with you for solutions that help you embrace your ADD gifts and overcome challenges generated by having ADD.
ADD is a gift when harnessed: distractibility becomes focused, helping your innovation blossom …
ADD is a gift when harnessed: impulsiveness gets channeled into calculated risks. …
ADD is a gift when harnessed: restlessness becomes productivity, unleashing your enthusiasm effectively.
We are the Explorers Innovators Inventors
Sleuths, Solvers, Show-ers
Creatives
Doers
Adventurers
There’s nothing to be ashamed of regarding your different brain wiring.
Embrace your ADD gift.
Harness it.
Thrive with it supporting your life.
I started this journey with the idea of supporting my husband along his path to harnessing his ADD.
Along the way I learned more compassion for others and explicit communication.
Those skills benefit my development as well.
My world is more stable now that my husband and I are dealing with our respective ADD traits.
My business is improving.
Best yet, our relationship is getting more solid and cohesive.
My BHAG — Big Hairy Audacious Goal — is over the coming decade to help 10,000 entrepreneurs with ADD double their income.
I hope the tools I shared today will help you increase your income and put you on the path of doubling it.
* ADD doesn’t go away. It can’t be cured. * It can be harnessed.
* It’s your greatest asset, when you learn to work with it and enjoy it …
…. for the gift it is. ADD is your entrepreneurial gift.