This document provides information about ADHD and resources for teaching students with ADHD. It summarizes that approximately 9.5% of children have been diagnosed with ADHD as of 2007, representing a 22% increase over four years. From 1998 to 2009, ADHD prevalence increased to 10% in some US regions and for children living below the poverty level. The document discusses challenges students with ADHD face in school and strategies teachers can use to help these students succeed, including treating each student as an individual, understanding their perceptions, and having high expectations.
The document discusses Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) as an approach to helping children with behavioral challenges. It describes CPS as a process where adults and children work together to resolve problems and teach skills in a mutually agreeable way. The key aspects of CPS are identified as Plan A, where adults impose their will; Plan B, the collaborative problem solving approach; and Plan C, dropping all expectations. Plan B is recommended as a three-step approach involving empathy, defining the problem, and jointly inviting solutions. CPS aims to reduce challenging behaviors by solving problems, teaching skills, and building helping relationships between adults and children.
The document summarizes the Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) approach for treating children with explosive behaviors. It discusses limitations of traditional parent management training and introduces CPS as an alternative. CPS assumes explosive behaviors stem from lagging cognitive skills that impair flexibility, problem solving, and emotion regulation. It aims to identify specific cognitive deficits and situational triggers through clinical interviews and assessments, then address the underlying causes rather than just modifying behavior. The document outlines three approaches to handling problems - Plan A involves parental insistence, Plan C reduces expectations, while Plan B employs CPS's collaborative problem-solving to pursue expectations and teach missing skills, with the goal of reducing explosive episodes.
The document discusses the Collaborative Problem-Solving (CPS) approach for treating "explosive" children. CPS assumes these children have lagging skills that cause noncompliance, unlike traditional models that focus on parenting. CPS uses Plan B instead of imposing will (Plan A) or removing expectations (Plan C). Plan B involves the caregiver and child collaboratively solving problems to strengthen the child's skills. The therapist helps identify skills to train, facilitates CPS between family members, and ensures all concerns are addressed to change perceptions and establish therapeutic alliances for change.
Steve Vitto Challeng of the Children Breaking Down the WallsSteve Vitto
Steve Vitto's presentation at the 2011 Challenge of the Children Conference at Hope College in Holland Michigan
Strategies for Defiant Students
svitto@muskegonisd.org
The Explosive Child: Summary CPS by Dr. Ross GreeneKathy Gregory
This presentation is meant to summarize Dr. Ross Greene's book, "The Explosive Child". None of this work is original to me, all of this work is from the work of Dr Ross Greene.
Psychosocial theory and cognitive theory pedo seminarNamya Singhal
This document provides an overview of child psychology theories including Erik Erikson's psychosocial development theory and Jean Piaget's cognitive development theory. It summarizes Erikson's 8 stages of psychosocial development and the key crises and outcomes at each stage. It also outlines Piaget's 4 stages of cognitive development from infancy to formal operations, describing characteristics and dental applications at each stage. The document is presented by a dental student and provides references for further reading.
The document discusses poverty and its effects on students' education. It defines different types of poverty and notes students living in poverty are more likely to struggle academically and drop out of school. Chronic stress from conditions of poverty can impair brain development and reduce academic performance. The document advocates applying principles of invitational education, such as trust, respect, optimism and care, to tap into students' potential and help them overcome challenges of poverty. The most important thing to remember, it states, is that people possess relatively untapped potential in all areas of human development.
Jonathan Diamond, a 13-year-old boy, frequently erupted in anger and aggression towards his parents and teachers. His parents sought help from therapists who recommended setting firmer boundaries through rewards and punishments, but Jonathan's outbursts continued. Psychologist Ross Greene believed Jonathan had difficulties with flexibility, problem-solving, and frustration that caused his explosions, not permissive parenting. Using collaborative problem-solving, Jonathan and his parents were able to understand the triggers for his behavior and develop strategies to prevent outbursts. This approach focused on understanding the root causes of issues rather than just consequences, and seemed to help Jonathan gain control over his anger.
The document discusses Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) as an approach to helping children with behavioral challenges. It describes CPS as a process where adults and children work together to resolve problems and teach skills in a mutually agreeable way. The key aspects of CPS are identified as Plan A, where adults impose their will; Plan B, the collaborative problem solving approach; and Plan C, dropping all expectations. Plan B is recommended as a three-step approach involving empathy, defining the problem, and jointly inviting solutions. CPS aims to reduce challenging behaviors by solving problems, teaching skills, and building helping relationships between adults and children.
The document summarizes the Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) approach for treating children with explosive behaviors. It discusses limitations of traditional parent management training and introduces CPS as an alternative. CPS assumes explosive behaviors stem from lagging cognitive skills that impair flexibility, problem solving, and emotion regulation. It aims to identify specific cognitive deficits and situational triggers through clinical interviews and assessments, then address the underlying causes rather than just modifying behavior. The document outlines three approaches to handling problems - Plan A involves parental insistence, Plan C reduces expectations, while Plan B employs CPS's collaborative problem-solving to pursue expectations and teach missing skills, with the goal of reducing explosive episodes.
The document discusses the Collaborative Problem-Solving (CPS) approach for treating "explosive" children. CPS assumes these children have lagging skills that cause noncompliance, unlike traditional models that focus on parenting. CPS uses Plan B instead of imposing will (Plan A) or removing expectations (Plan C). Plan B involves the caregiver and child collaboratively solving problems to strengthen the child's skills. The therapist helps identify skills to train, facilitates CPS between family members, and ensures all concerns are addressed to change perceptions and establish therapeutic alliances for change.
Steve Vitto Challeng of the Children Breaking Down the WallsSteve Vitto
Steve Vitto's presentation at the 2011 Challenge of the Children Conference at Hope College in Holland Michigan
Strategies for Defiant Students
svitto@muskegonisd.org
The Explosive Child: Summary CPS by Dr. Ross GreeneKathy Gregory
This presentation is meant to summarize Dr. Ross Greene's book, "The Explosive Child". None of this work is original to me, all of this work is from the work of Dr Ross Greene.
Psychosocial theory and cognitive theory pedo seminarNamya Singhal
This document provides an overview of child psychology theories including Erik Erikson's psychosocial development theory and Jean Piaget's cognitive development theory. It summarizes Erikson's 8 stages of psychosocial development and the key crises and outcomes at each stage. It also outlines Piaget's 4 stages of cognitive development from infancy to formal operations, describing characteristics and dental applications at each stage. The document is presented by a dental student and provides references for further reading.
The document discusses poverty and its effects on students' education. It defines different types of poverty and notes students living in poverty are more likely to struggle academically and drop out of school. Chronic stress from conditions of poverty can impair brain development and reduce academic performance. The document advocates applying principles of invitational education, such as trust, respect, optimism and care, to tap into students' potential and help them overcome challenges of poverty. The most important thing to remember, it states, is that people possess relatively untapped potential in all areas of human development.
Jonathan Diamond, a 13-year-old boy, frequently erupted in anger and aggression towards his parents and teachers. His parents sought help from therapists who recommended setting firmer boundaries through rewards and punishments, but Jonathan's outbursts continued. Psychologist Ross Greene believed Jonathan had difficulties with flexibility, problem-solving, and frustration that caused his explosions, not permissive parenting. Using collaborative problem-solving, Jonathan and his parents were able to understand the triggers for his behavior and develop strategies to prevent outbursts. This approach focused on understanding the root causes of issues rather than just consequences, and seemed to help Jonathan gain control over his anger.
The document discusses evidence-based practices for reducing challenging behavior in early childhood settings. It outlines a three-tiered Pyramid Model approach involving universal promotion practices for all children, secondary prevention practices for at-risk children, and tertiary intervention practices for children with persistent challenging behaviors. Key evidence-based strategies discussed include nurturing relationships, high-quality environments, social-emotional skill instruction, and functional behavior assessment-based individualized support.
Chapter 3 embracing the mind set of chaingeartoutman
The document discusses how poverty can impact brain development but that the brain is also able to change based on environment. Early childhood intervention programs that provide enriched learning environments can help narrow achievement gaps and increase IQ scores. Key studies found benefits like improved language skills and higher rates of school completion from programs beginning in early childhood. While genetics play a role, the environment matters greatly and provides opportunities to positively influence cognitive development and academic performance.
The document provides biographical information about Angela Searcy, who has over 20 years of experience in education and specialized training in neurosciences. She is the owner of Simple Solutions Educational Services and works as an educational consultant, professor, and speaker. The document discusses her expertise in developing behavior modification programs and professional development related to adult learning and neuroscience research.
Global Medical Cures™ | Child Trauma Toolkit for Educators
DISCLAIMER-
Global Medical Cures™ does not offer any medical advice, diagnosis, treatment or recommendations. Only your healthcare provider/physician can offer you information and recommendations for you to decide about your healthcare choices.
There are differing views on whether spanking children is an acceptable form of discipline. Supporters argue that it teaches children right from wrong and is recommended in the Bible. However, studies have shown that spanking is associated with increased aggression, antisocial behavior, mental health issues, and abuse in children and adults. While spanking may achieve immediate compliance, long-term effects are often harmful to the child and parent-child relationship. Alternative forms of discipline such as removing privileges or praising good behavior are recommended by experts.
Teaching with Poverty (The Impact and Strategies) (July 2013)Matt Bergman
The document discusses the impact of poverty on classrooms and strategies for overcoming challenges related to poverty. It notes that poverty affects student motivation, behavior, and parental involvement. However, teachers can build relationships with students, create a stable classroom environment, and encourage growth mindsets. Specific strategies include developing vocabulary through varied materials, opportunities to read, and building oral language skills. The goal is to engage students and provide support through challenges related to their economic situations.
This document discusses understanding and improving children's behavior. It begins by introducing Rudolph Dreikurs' view that children misbehave in order to gain attention, power/control, revenge, or a sense of inadequacy or helplessness. The document then provides tips for using logical consequences rather than punishment and encouragement over praise. It emphasizes that all children need structure and discusses disciplining children with special needs. The key points are that children misbehave for specific reasons, parents should understand the goal to teach better behavior, and logical consequences, encouragement, structure, and self-care are important for effective discipline.
This document discusses trauma informed care and adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). It notes that ACEs are very common and can negatively impact students' academic performance, attendance, and behavior in school. The presentation advocates adopting a trauma informed approach that focuses on understanding what happened to students, not just what is wrong with them. It promotes creating safe environments for children and increasing protective factors like self-care, social connections, parenting skills, and emotional competence to build resilience against trauma. Adopting trauma informed practices can help change school culture to better support students impacted by adverse experiences.
This document discusses several factors that affect children's development and academic achievement between middle childhood and early adolescence. It addresses major health concerns like obesity, injuries, and child abuse and ways to prevent and address them. It also discusses changes in brain development that impact coordination, reaction time, attention, and logical thinking skills. Finally, it examines the relationship between socioeconomic status and academic achievement and potential contributing factors like parental involvement and access to educational resources.
This approach allows the child to learn through natural consequences and teaches them appropriate behaviors. It focuses on positive reinforcement. This would help Priya learn appropriate social skills in a supportive environment.
Teaching with poverty in mind by eric jensenrobinlstewart
This document discusses strategies for teaching students from poverty backgrounds. It explains that students from poverty often have a narrower range of appropriate emotional responses due to lack of teaching at home. Teachers are advised to understand rather than judge these behaviors. The document provides action steps for teachers, such as embodying respect for students, embedding social skills training, being inclusive, recognizing signs of chronic stress, empowering students, and adopting an enrichment mindset. High-poverty schools that achieve high performance share characteristics like academic press, caring staff, and collaborative decision-making.
This document provides an overview of Amanda Nickerson's presentation on bullying prevention and intervention. It discusses research highlighting that bullying is best viewed from a comprehensive community and social perspective. It also summarizes conventional wisdom versus a "reframed" perspective on the roles of targets, bullies, bystanders, parents, school staff, and policymakers in addressing bullying. Research directions at the Alberti Center are also briefly mentioned.
This Power Point provides a description of challenging behaviors that occur in the classroom. In addition, this presentation discusses how school systems and various programs should assess children that exhibit challenging behaviors. It also shares assessment strategies in evaluating children that display challending behaviors. And finally, this presentation lays out the implications for instruction when instructing children with challenging behaviors.
Ev681 session 4 role and responsibilities parent-carer partnershipsPippa Totraku
This document discusses the roles and responsibilities involved in working with families, other staff within the school/nursery, and staff from external agencies. It emphasizes the importance of building positive relationships and partnerships with families, as the family is the child's first and most enduring educator. Effective collaboration between teachers, teaching assistants, and other professionals like social workers and educational psychologists is also essential to provide coordinated support for children's needs. Barriers to these partnerships include lack of time, clarity of roles, and mutual respect between home and school. The document provides guidance on conducting home visits, partnerships, communication, and overcoming challenges to establish strong home-school relationships and interagency collaboration.
"Bully Proof" powerpoint from the author of "The Hero in Me"annieglass
This powerpoint presentation provides information on bullying and how to feel bully-proof. It defines bullying as repeated abusive behavior that creates an imbalance of power between the bully and target. The presentation distinguishes bullying from normal conflicts and describes the characteristics of bullies and targets. It discusses the role of bystanders and provides strategies for targets to build self-esteem, develop social skills, utilize adults for help, and feel empowered against bullying. The final slides address cyberbullying prevention.
This document summarizes a presentation by Dr. Angela Searcy on using lessons from Star Trek to address challenging child behaviors. Some key points:
- Dr. Searcy has over 28 years of experience in education and holds advanced degrees in education and child development. Her research focuses on brain-based learning and aggressive behaviors.
- She discusses using concepts like self-reflection, context analysis, teaching replacement skills, and changing responses to help address challenging behaviors, rather than reacting emotionally.
- The presentation cautions against negativity bias and implicit bias when interpreting child and family behaviors, and emphasizes using logic. Behavior planning is described as both an intellectual and emotional process.
The Wisconsin Statewide Parent Educator Initiative (WSPEI) is a grant-funded program that works to facilitate partnerships between parents and school districts. For 11 years, WSPEI staff have supported meaningful parent participation, collaboration among programs, and information sharing. WSPEI provides services like parent training, technical assistance, and help for districts to meet federal indicator requirements regarding parent involvement.
The document discusses evidence-based practices for reducing challenging behavior in early childhood settings. It outlines a three-tiered Pyramid Model approach involving universal promotion practices for all children, secondary prevention practices for at-risk children, and tertiary intervention practices for children with persistent challenging behaviors. Key evidence-based strategies discussed include nurturing relationships, high-quality environments, social-emotional skill instruction, and functional behavior assessment-based individualized support.
Chapter 3 embracing the mind set of chaingeartoutman
The document discusses how poverty can impact brain development but that the brain is also able to change based on environment. Early childhood intervention programs that provide enriched learning environments can help narrow achievement gaps and increase IQ scores. Key studies found benefits like improved language skills and higher rates of school completion from programs beginning in early childhood. While genetics play a role, the environment matters greatly and provides opportunities to positively influence cognitive development and academic performance.
The document provides biographical information about Angela Searcy, who has over 20 years of experience in education and specialized training in neurosciences. She is the owner of Simple Solutions Educational Services and works as an educational consultant, professor, and speaker. The document discusses her expertise in developing behavior modification programs and professional development related to adult learning and neuroscience research.
Global Medical Cures™ | Child Trauma Toolkit for Educators
DISCLAIMER-
Global Medical Cures™ does not offer any medical advice, diagnosis, treatment or recommendations. Only your healthcare provider/physician can offer you information and recommendations for you to decide about your healthcare choices.
There are differing views on whether spanking children is an acceptable form of discipline. Supporters argue that it teaches children right from wrong and is recommended in the Bible. However, studies have shown that spanking is associated with increased aggression, antisocial behavior, mental health issues, and abuse in children and adults. While spanking may achieve immediate compliance, long-term effects are often harmful to the child and parent-child relationship. Alternative forms of discipline such as removing privileges or praising good behavior are recommended by experts.
Teaching with Poverty (The Impact and Strategies) (July 2013)Matt Bergman
The document discusses the impact of poverty on classrooms and strategies for overcoming challenges related to poverty. It notes that poverty affects student motivation, behavior, and parental involvement. However, teachers can build relationships with students, create a stable classroom environment, and encourage growth mindsets. Specific strategies include developing vocabulary through varied materials, opportunities to read, and building oral language skills. The goal is to engage students and provide support through challenges related to their economic situations.
This document discusses understanding and improving children's behavior. It begins by introducing Rudolph Dreikurs' view that children misbehave in order to gain attention, power/control, revenge, or a sense of inadequacy or helplessness. The document then provides tips for using logical consequences rather than punishment and encouragement over praise. It emphasizes that all children need structure and discusses disciplining children with special needs. The key points are that children misbehave for specific reasons, parents should understand the goal to teach better behavior, and logical consequences, encouragement, structure, and self-care are important for effective discipline.
This document discusses trauma informed care and adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). It notes that ACEs are very common and can negatively impact students' academic performance, attendance, and behavior in school. The presentation advocates adopting a trauma informed approach that focuses on understanding what happened to students, not just what is wrong with them. It promotes creating safe environments for children and increasing protective factors like self-care, social connections, parenting skills, and emotional competence to build resilience against trauma. Adopting trauma informed practices can help change school culture to better support students impacted by adverse experiences.
This document discusses several factors that affect children's development and academic achievement between middle childhood and early adolescence. It addresses major health concerns like obesity, injuries, and child abuse and ways to prevent and address them. It also discusses changes in brain development that impact coordination, reaction time, attention, and logical thinking skills. Finally, it examines the relationship between socioeconomic status and academic achievement and potential contributing factors like parental involvement and access to educational resources.
This approach allows the child to learn through natural consequences and teaches them appropriate behaviors. It focuses on positive reinforcement. This would help Priya learn appropriate social skills in a supportive environment.
Teaching with poverty in mind by eric jensenrobinlstewart
This document discusses strategies for teaching students from poverty backgrounds. It explains that students from poverty often have a narrower range of appropriate emotional responses due to lack of teaching at home. Teachers are advised to understand rather than judge these behaviors. The document provides action steps for teachers, such as embodying respect for students, embedding social skills training, being inclusive, recognizing signs of chronic stress, empowering students, and adopting an enrichment mindset. High-poverty schools that achieve high performance share characteristics like academic press, caring staff, and collaborative decision-making.
This document provides an overview of Amanda Nickerson's presentation on bullying prevention and intervention. It discusses research highlighting that bullying is best viewed from a comprehensive community and social perspective. It also summarizes conventional wisdom versus a "reframed" perspective on the roles of targets, bullies, bystanders, parents, school staff, and policymakers in addressing bullying. Research directions at the Alberti Center are also briefly mentioned.
This Power Point provides a description of challenging behaviors that occur in the classroom. In addition, this presentation discusses how school systems and various programs should assess children that exhibit challenging behaviors. It also shares assessment strategies in evaluating children that display challending behaviors. And finally, this presentation lays out the implications for instruction when instructing children with challenging behaviors.
Ev681 session 4 role and responsibilities parent-carer partnershipsPippa Totraku
This document discusses the roles and responsibilities involved in working with families, other staff within the school/nursery, and staff from external agencies. It emphasizes the importance of building positive relationships and partnerships with families, as the family is the child's first and most enduring educator. Effective collaboration between teachers, teaching assistants, and other professionals like social workers and educational psychologists is also essential to provide coordinated support for children's needs. Barriers to these partnerships include lack of time, clarity of roles, and mutual respect between home and school. The document provides guidance on conducting home visits, partnerships, communication, and overcoming challenges to establish strong home-school relationships and interagency collaboration.
"Bully Proof" powerpoint from the author of "The Hero in Me"annieglass
This powerpoint presentation provides information on bullying and how to feel bully-proof. It defines bullying as repeated abusive behavior that creates an imbalance of power between the bully and target. The presentation distinguishes bullying from normal conflicts and describes the characteristics of bullies and targets. It discusses the role of bystanders and provides strategies for targets to build self-esteem, develop social skills, utilize adults for help, and feel empowered against bullying. The final slides address cyberbullying prevention.
This document summarizes a presentation by Dr. Angela Searcy on using lessons from Star Trek to address challenging child behaviors. Some key points:
- Dr. Searcy has over 28 years of experience in education and holds advanced degrees in education and child development. Her research focuses on brain-based learning and aggressive behaviors.
- She discusses using concepts like self-reflection, context analysis, teaching replacement skills, and changing responses to help address challenging behaviors, rather than reacting emotionally.
- The presentation cautions against negativity bias and implicit bias when interpreting child and family behaviors, and emphasizes using logic. Behavior planning is described as both an intellectual and emotional process.
The Wisconsin Statewide Parent Educator Initiative (WSPEI) is a grant-funded program that works to facilitate partnerships between parents and school districts. For 11 years, WSPEI staff have supported meaningful parent participation, collaboration among programs, and information sharing. WSPEI provides services like parent training, technical assistance, and help for districts to meet federal indicator requirements regarding parent involvement.
This document appears to be an organizational chart listing the president, general director, and various department heads including production, marketing, human resources, and finances for a company. Reinaldo Martinez is listed as the president and Fernando Luna as the general director.
This document summarizes Jennifer Wall's final project experimenting with the psychological effects of color. The experiment involved wearing a different color (red, blue, green, or black) each day and observing how others responded. However, Jennifer had difficulty remembering to focus on responses and determining if colors truly affected reactions. She concludes larger, longer experiments with more participants are needed to better understand if colors influence interactions. She provides suggestions for improving the methodology in future experiments on this topic.
This document discusses how litter and trash can cause ecological disturbances and flooding. It questions whether people care about how their actions affect the environment, such as polluting the skies and mismanaging land, and how what humans do can impact more than just themselves. The document suggests that people should care about how their behaviors can negatively impact the environment.
Notes from "geology: earth history: mesozoic, cenozoic"Jennifer Wall
The document discusses the Mesozoic and Cenozoic eras of Earth's history. It describes the Jurassic period of the Mesozoic era, noting the types of life that existed at the time including dinosaurs and marine reptiles. It then outlines the Cenozoic era, indicating it is the current era spanning from 65 million years ago to the present.
Notes from "the story of the earth's atmosphere"Jennifer Wall
This document summarizes key aspects of the Earth's atmosphere discussed in the chapter, including:
1) Evidence from trilobites suggests the atmosphere was equally transparent in the Silurian period as today, though it likely contained more vapor and carbon dioxide.
2) The average proportion of oxygen and nitrogen in the atmosphere is 21% oxygen to 79% nitrogen by volume and 23% oxygen to 77% nitrogen by weight.
3) Barometric pressure measurements can be used to determine altitude above sea level, with one inch of mercury representing approximately 900 feet of ascent at lower elevations.
Notes from "principles of geology, being an attempt to explain the forme...Jennifer Wall
This document summarizes Chapter 1 of Principles of Geology by Sir Charles Lyell. It defines geology as the science that investigates the successive changes in nature, both organic and inorganic, and seeks to understand the causes and effects of these changes. It notes that geology, like history, provides insight by comparing the present and past. It also states that an ideal geologist, like an historian, would be well-versed in many related fields of natural science to better understand the evidence of past events and draw correct conclusions.
- MakeMyTrip (MMT) is an online travel agency founded in 2000 in India with offices worldwide and a major share of the domestic flight market.
- MMT offers flight, hotel, vacation packages, and other travel bookings both domestically within India and internationally. Their main offerings are air travel, hotels, and packages.
- MMT interacts with customers through their website, stores, call centers, and travel agents. They provide search, booking, customer relationship management and other travel services.
The document discusses research on resilience in maltreated children. It explores how gene-environment interactions can help explain differences in outcomes for maltreated children. Specifically, it examines how variations in the gene that regulates serotonin levels interacted with experiences of maltreatment or healthy child-rearing. While maltreatment generally led to lower resilience, children with one genotype fared better than others depending on their environment. The research suggests genetics and environment combine to shape children's development in complex ways. Practitioners are encouraged to consider this research and apply it by fostering stable relationships and environments for children in their care.
Steve Vittos Assessing And Treating Defiant BehaviorSteve Vitto
The document discusses assessment and treatment of defiant behavior in children using positive approaches. It notes that without evidence-based decision making, reliance on punishment can damage relationships between schools and parents and teach children to blame others. The document recommends focusing on communication, documentation, and agreeing to disagree respectfully to build partnerships in addressing problematic behaviors.
Conduct Disorder Power Point 2007 Fall PbaLeslie3509
Conduct disorder refers to behavioral and emotional problems in children and adolescents where they have difficulty following rules and behaving appropriately. It is often viewed as "bad" behavior rather than a mental illness. Many factors can contribute to conduct disorder, including brain damage, abuse, genetics, school failure, and traumatic life experiences. Children with conduct disorder often engage in aggressive behavior towards others, destroy property, lie, violate rules, and show little remorse for their actions. Early intervention is important to prevent more serious issues later in life.
Stress can negatively impact children's behavior and development. Teachers can help children cope with stress by observing for changes in behavior, encouraging positive expression of feelings, providing a calm environment, developing social and problem-solving skills, and involving parents and professionals if needed. Practical strategies include using stories, art, and physical activities to help children process stressors, as well as deep breathing exercises and establishing a quiet space to self-regulate. It is important for teachers to model stress management and maintain open communication with parents.
Childhood Behaviors, Disorders, And Emotional IssuesKimberly Williams
This document discusses various childhood behaviors, disorders, and emotional issues. It notes that problematic behaviors often begin around age 2 and can include aggression, disruption, antisocial behavior, or defiance. Left unaddressed, some behaviors may persist into adolescence or adulthood. The document examines anxiety disorders, depression, bipolar disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, and other conditions. It explores causes such as biology, environment, and trauma, as well as treatments like therapy and medication.
The document discusses ADHD and its effects in the classroom. It aims to find ways to alleviate ADHD symptoms so affected children can perform academically and interact positively with peers. ADHD impacts the child's ability to achieve and their self-esteem, as well as their parents, siblings, teachers, and classmates. The goal is to help teachers understand ADHD and utilize classroom strategies like environment setup, lesson structure, organization techniques, and social skill building to help students with ADHD succeed.
This document discusses crisis and nursing intervention for hospitalized children. It begins with definitions of crisis and crisis intervention. It then discusses types of crises including maturational, situational, and adventitious crises. Crisis theory is explained, outlining the work of Erich Lindemann and Gerald Caplan. Four phases of the crisis process are defined. The document then focuses on hospitalized children, discussing functions of hospitalization, principles of hospitalization, modern concepts, visiting policies, rooming-in, care by parent units, parent support groups, and encouraging self-care. Reactions to hospitalization for different age groups are examined, along with preparation for hospitalization, guidelines for admission, and stressors and implications
Professionals Speak on Treating Foster Children (1)Laxandra Whipple
This document discusses two professionals who work with troubled foster children - Dr. Gerald Zimmerman and Lou Jacobs. Dr. Zimmerman is a clinical psychologist who believes children in foster care with psychological issues or disorders need treatment tailored to their specific conditions, rather than a one-size-fits-all approach. Lou Jacobs is a behavioral specialist who works to understand the root causes of problematic behaviors in foster children in order to design effective individualized treatment plans. Both professionals take specialized approaches to help troubled foster youth heal from their experiences.
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Learning Disorders in Children
3/28/2020
Abstract
Different disorders are suffered by human beings and more so in their childhood. These disorders range from psychological disorders to psychological disorders. Learning disorders are among disorders that can be seen in a child during their stage of development. There are different types of learning disorders, as will be discussed in this paper. This paper tackles each of these disorders differently to offer deep insight into each. For the clear scope of each disorder, this paper covers what causes each of these disorders, probable signs and symptoms, treatment, and the role of patients towards the management of each disorder.
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History of learning disorders
The history of learning disorders among children dates to the 1860s, although the concept had to wait a century later for its proper development. After this century was over, the concept started popping up, and it was clearer how people understand it differently from the past decade. It was in 1960 when educators and doctors started realizing that there was a challenge of learning among children, and they started to act. The development and acknowledgment of this disorder were done from 1960 up to 1980, and this is where another trend was realized concerning learning disabilities. However, there were inclusion classes that were developed in this time frame because people had not yet gained relevant insight on how to help such children. Between the 1980s to 1990s, measures were being developed on how to help those children who might be suffering from learning disorders. The development was very well impacted and entirely reviewed, and in the early 1990s, the IDEA was developed to stand for the educational rights of children with disabilities. To study the different learning challenges among children, the concept of science was brought in from 2000 up to present. This has been necessary because it has enabled studying different types of learning disorders among children and, consequently, how each can be addressed (last name of author, year of publication).
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There are different learning disorders, but there are some which are common among children. This does not, however, mean that for the uncommon disorders, they have left to chances. No, every disorder must be attended to for the learning rights of students to be met. Some of these common disorders are:
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This is perhaps the most common type of earning disorder and is suffered by children who have difficulties in their sight, and their intelligence is challenged. For children who have poor eyes.
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Learning Disorders in Children
3/28/2020
Abstract
Different disorders are suffered by human beings and more so in their childhood. These disorders range from psychological disorders to psychological disorders. Learning disorders are among disorders that can be seen in a child during their stage of development. There are different types of learning disorders, as will be discussed in this paper. This paper tackles each of these disorders differently to offer deep insight into each. For the clear scope of each disorder, this paper covers what causes each of these disorders, probable signs and symptoms, treatment, and the role of patients towards the management of each disorder.
Keywords:
Write the Title of the Paper Here Again
History of learning disorders
The history of learning disorders among children dates to the 1860s, although the concept had to wait a century later for its proper development. After this century was over, the concept started popping up, and it was clearer how people understand it differently from the past decade. It was in 1960 when educators and doctors started realizing that there was a challenge of learning among children, and they started to act. The development and acknowledgment of this disorder were done from 1960 up to 1980, and this is where another trend was realized concerning learning disabilities. However, there were inclusion classes that were developed in this time frame because people had not yet gained relevant insight on how to help such children. Between the 1980s to 1990s, measures were being developed on how to help those children who might be suffering from learning disorders. The development was very well impacted and entirely reviewed, and in the early 1990s, the IDEA was developed to stand for the educational rights of children with disabilities. To study the different learning challenges among children, the concept of science was brought in from 2000 up to present. This has been necessary because it has enabled studying different types of learning disorders among children and, consequently, how each can be addressed (last name of author, year of publication).
Types of learning disorders Comment by itorres: Centered, boldfaced, and capitalize the L and the D
There are different learning disorders, but there are some which are common among children. This does not, however, mean that for the uncommon disorders, they have left to chances. No, every disorder must be attended to for the learning rights of students to be met. Some of these common disorders are:
Dyslexia Comment by itorres: Left aligned like this and in bold.
Scope and causes Comment by itorres: In this same margin, boldfaced and capitalize the C
This is perhaps the most common type of earning disorder and is suffered by children who have difficulties in their sight, and their intelligence is challenged. For children who have poor eyes ...
Selective mutism is an anxiety disorder where children are unable to speak in certain social situations, such as school, despite speaking normally at home, due to extreme social anxiety. Assessment tools and functional analysis involving interviews, observations, and daily logs are used to diagnose selective mutism. Treatments involve cognitive behavioral therapy, either individually or in a group setting, as well as other behavioral therapies like role playing to help children overcome their anxiety around speaking in social situations.
Classroom Management For Substitute Teachers by SVitto Steve Vitto
This document provides guidance for substitute teachers on classroom management strategies for dealing with challenging student behaviors. It discusses developing patience, planning lessons, and bringing your own bag of tricks. When dealing with disruptive students, the document recommends building relationships, trust, and self-control while avoiding threats or punishment. Specific conditions that can affect student behavior like attachment disorders and emotional impairments are also outlined.
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The document discusses declining student resiliency in colleges. Students today have not learned to solve their own problems or experience failure without adult intervention. Faculty are expected to lower standards and handhold more. Students are afraid of failure and need certainty. Failure has become seen as catastrophic. The document argues students need opportunities to experience struggle and failure to build resilience and a growth mindset.
Woods Homes provides mental health services to children and families in Calgary and surrounding areas. They have partnered with the Calgary Catholic School District to provide treatment to children experiencing behavioral and emotional challenges through "Starting Points" classrooms in mainstream elementary schools. Understanding a child's behavior requires knowing their family history, any diagnoses or medications, home and school environments, triggers, warning signs, strengths, and motivations. As adults working with children, it is important to be proactive, set clear expectations, offer choices, and avoid power struggles by de-escalating situations before a full crisis occurs.
In 2011, Denton ISD partnered with the local United Way organization and Ready Rosie to form an Early Childhood Coalition. The goal was to reach all parents and community members with tools that would get all 0-6 year olds ready for success in school. We reached all 10,000 families with MOBILE video content that went straight to their mobile devices. This session will share the data and success of
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1) The document discusses building resilience in children. It defines resilience as the ability to adapt and recover from difficult circumstances.
2) Research shows that resilient children cope better with stress and adversity. The most important factors for resilience are secure attachments, social support systems, and positive experiences at home and school.
3) The document provides strategies for parents to foster resilience in children, such as creating a secure attachment, promoting friendships, encouraging interests and talents, teaching positive values and social skills, and helping children persist despite challenges.
The document discusses narrative therapy and its use with ADHD. It explains that narrative therapy sees identity as fluid and expressed through one's own storytelling. This challenges deficit views of conditions like ADHD. The document describes two studies using narrative therapy with youth diagnosed with ADHD. The therapy aimed to deconstruct dominant negative views of ADHD and help individuals discover their own strengths and successes.
LAND USE LAND COVER AND NDVI OF MIRZAPUR DISTRICT, UPRAHUL
This Dissertation explores the particular circumstances of Mirzapur, a region located in the
core of India. Mirzapur, with its varied terrains and abundant biodiversity, offers an optimal
environment for investigating the changes in vegetation cover dynamics. Our study utilizes
advanced technologies such as GIS (Geographic Information Systems) and Remote sensing to
analyze the transformations that have taken place over the course of a decade.
The complex relationship between human activities and the environment has been the focus
of extensive research and worry. As the global community grapples with swift urbanization,
population expansion, and economic progress, the effects on natural ecosystems are becoming
more evident. A crucial element of this impact is the alteration of vegetation cover, which plays a
significant role in maintaining the ecological equilibrium of our planet.Land serves as the foundation for all human activities and provides the necessary materials for
these activities. As the most crucial natural resource, its utilization by humans results in different
'Land uses,' which are determined by both human activities and the physical characteristics of the
land.
The utilization of land is impacted by human needs and environmental factors. In countries
like India, rapid population growth and the emphasis on extensive resource exploitation can lead
to significant land degradation, adversely affecting the region's land cover.
Therefore, human intervention has significantly influenced land use patterns over many
centuries, evolving its structure over time and space. In the present era, these changes have
accelerated due to factors such as agriculture and urbanization. Information regarding land use and
cover is essential for various planning and management tasks related to the Earth's surface,
providing crucial environmental data for scientific, resource management, policy purposes, and
diverse human activities.
Accurate understanding of land use and cover is imperative for the development planning
of any area. Consequently, a wide range of professionals, including earth system scientists, land
and water managers, and urban planners, are interested in obtaining data on land use and cover
changes, conversion trends, and other related patterns. The spatial dimensions of land use and
cover support policymakers and scientists in making well-informed decisions, as alterations in
these patterns indicate shifts in economic and social conditions. Monitoring such changes with the
help of Advanced technologies like Remote Sensing and Geographic Information Systems is
crucial for coordinated efforts across different administrative levels. Advanced technologies like
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Changes in vegetation cover refer to variations in the distribution, composition, and overall
structure of plant communities across different temporal and spatial scales. These changes can
occur natural.
Philippine Edukasyong Pantahanan at Pangkabuhayan (EPP) CurriculumMJDuyan
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𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐏𝐏 𝐂𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐮𝐦 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬:
- Understand the goals and objectives of the Edukasyong Pantahanan at Pangkabuhayan (EPP) curriculum, recognizing its importance in fostering practical life skills and values among students. Students will also be able to identify the key components and subjects covered, such as agriculture, home economics, industrial arts, and information and communication technology.
𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐍𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐒𝐜𝐨𝐩𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐧 𝐄𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐮𝐫:
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Chapter wise All Notes of First year Basic Civil Engineering.pptxDenish Jangid
Chapter wise All Notes of First year Basic Civil Engineering
Syllabus
Chapter-1
Introduction to objective, scope and outcome the subject
Chapter 2
Introduction: Scope and Specialization of Civil Engineering, Role of civil Engineer in Society, Impact of infrastructural development on economy of country.
Chapter 3
Surveying: Object Principles & Types of Surveying; Site Plans, Plans & Maps; Scales & Unit of different Measurements.
Linear Measurements: Instruments used. Linear Measurement by Tape, Ranging out Survey Lines and overcoming Obstructions; Measurements on sloping ground; Tape corrections, conventional symbols. Angular Measurements: Instruments used; Introduction to Compass Surveying, Bearings and Longitude & Latitude of a Line, Introduction to total station.
Levelling: Instrument used Object of levelling, Methods of levelling in brief, and Contour maps.
Chapter 4
Buildings: Selection of site for Buildings, Layout of Building Plan, Types of buildings, Plinth area, carpet area, floor space index, Introduction to building byelaws, concept of sun light & ventilation. Components of Buildings & their functions, Basic concept of R.C.C., Introduction to types of foundation
Chapter 5
Transportation: Introduction to Transportation Engineering; Traffic and Road Safety: Types and Characteristics of Various Modes of Transportation; Various Road Traffic Signs, Causes of Accidents and Road Safety Measures.
Chapter 6
Environmental Engineering: Environmental Pollution, Environmental Acts and Regulations, Functional Concepts of Ecology, Basics of Species, Biodiversity, Ecosystem, Hydrological Cycle; Chemical Cycles: Carbon, Nitrogen & Phosphorus; Energy Flow in Ecosystems.
Water Pollution: Water Quality standards, Introduction to Treatment & Disposal of Waste Water. Reuse and Saving of Water, Rain Water Harvesting. Solid Waste Management: Classification of Solid Waste, Collection, Transportation and Disposal of Solid. Recycling of Solid Waste: Energy Recovery, Sanitary Landfill, On-Site Sanitation. Air & Noise Pollution: Primary and Secondary air pollutants, Harmful effects of Air Pollution, Control of Air Pollution. . Noise Pollution Harmful Effects of noise pollution, control of noise pollution, Global warming & Climate Change, Ozone depletion, Greenhouse effect
Text Books:
1. Palancharmy, Basic Civil Engineering, McGraw Hill publishers.
2. Satheesh Gopi, Basic Civil Engineering, Pearson Publishers.
3. Ketki Rangwala Dalal, Essentials of Civil Engineering, Charotar Publishing House.
4. BCP, Surveying volume 1
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Add In The Inclusive Classroom
1. Presented by:
Evelyn Azbell
WSPEI Parent Coordinator
for CESAs 9 & 12
Resources for this presentation on the web
http://www.addedreality.blogspot.com
http://www.facebook.com/ADDedReality
2. Approximately 9.5% or 5.4 million children 4-17 years of age
had been diagnosed with ADHD, as of 2007, representing
a 22% increase in four years. Rates may be increasing
because of greater knowledge and awareness about the
condition, more frequent behavioral screening of
children, or unidentified factors that may be causing more
ADHD over time.
http://www.cdc.gov/Features/adhdresources
3. 1998–2009
*The percentage of children ever diagnosed with attention
deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) increased from 7% to
9% from 1998–2000 through 2007–2009.
*From 1998 through 2009, ADHD prevalence rose to 10% in
the Midwest and South regions of the United States.
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/databriefs/db70.htm
4. From 1998 through 2009, ADHD prevalence increased to
10% for children with family income less than 100% of the
poverty level and to 11% for those with family income
between 100% and 199% of the poverty level.
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/databriefs/db70.htm
5. For centuries, the basic approach for all problems related to
learning, behavior, and emotion was: TRY HARDER. We
now recognize that problems related to
learning, emotion, and behavior derive from causes far
more complicated than the difference between smart and
stupid, or strong and weak, or good and bad.
Virtual AD/HD Conference™, 23 September 2008. http://www.addresources.com
6. “Teachers are expected to reach
unattainable goals with
inadequate tools. The miracle is
that at times they accomplish this
impossible task.”
~ Dr. Haim Ginott
From the Preface of Teacher & Child first published in 1972
7. Dr. Ginott was a clinical psychologist, child therapist, parent educator, and author
whose work has had a substantial impact on the way adults relate to children. He
began his career as an elementary school teacher in Israel in 1947 before
immigrating to the United States. There he attended Columbia University in New
York City, earning a doctoral degree in clinical psychology in 1952.
Ginott’s work with troubled children at the Jacksonville, Florida, Guidance Clinic
helped him refine his unique combination of compassion and boundary setting.
From the web site Between Parent and Child
http://www.betweenparentandchild.com/index.php?s=content&p=Haim
8. Teachers know student’s basic needs – acceptance,
respect, encouragement….
Concepts aren’t effective when problems arise.
Reactions to problems determine the climate of a
classroom.
“Learning is always in the present tense
and it is always personal.”
Chapter 1 Teacher & Child by ~ Dr. Haim Ginott
9. Choose battles that could be avoided.
Invade privacy by asking things that put student on the
spot in front of peers.
Use sarcasm or shaming to motivate.
Do things for student that student might be able to
manage more independently.
Don’t acknowledge student’s perception of a situation.
10. Never deny or ignore a child's feelings.
Only behavior is treated as unacceptable, not the child.
Depersonalize negative interactions by mentioning only
the problem. "I see a messy room.“
Attach rules to things, e.g., “Fellow students are not for
hitting.“
Dependence breeds hostility. Let children do for
themselves what they can.
Adopting this approach can be a useful tool in applying
the strategies we’ll be discussing.
11. Children need to learn to choose, but within the safety
of limits. "Would you like to use the keyboard or write
your work out?”
Limit criticism to a specific event—don't say
"never", "always", as in: "You never listen," "You always
manage to spill things", etc.
Refrain from using words that you would not want the
child to repeat.
Adapted from -
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Haim-Ginott/113302512017329?ref=ts&sk=info
12. I have come to a frightening conclusion.
I am the decisive element in the classroom.
It is my personal approach that creates the climate.
It is my daily mood that makes the weather.
As a teacher I possess tremendous power to make a child's life
miserable or joyous.
I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration.
I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.
In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis
will be escalated or de-escalated, and a child humanized or de-
humanized.
Between Teacher and Child
13. The article “I Have Always Felt Different”: The Experience
of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in
Childhood reports findings from a phenomenological
study of childhood ADHD as recalled by college-
enrolled young adults. The study was part of a larger
study designed to identify the strategies and
individuals young adults remembered most helpful to
them in managing their ADHD during childhood.
(Shattell, Bartlett, PhD, Rowe p.49)
14. “In this study, the ground of the experience of ADHD was
loneliness and isolation. …Against the backdrop of this
struggle, the figural theme of the experience of ADHD at
home was “dealing with getting along (with my
parents)”; the figural themes of the experience of ADHD
at school were “I missed a lot of stuff,” “I was different,”
and “I learned to manage”; the figural themes in the
experience of ADHD in friendships were “I was
different” and “I was misunderstood.” “
(Shattell, Bartlett, PhD, Rowe p.51)
15. School taxed their fragile self-esteem by providing
numerous situations that proved to them they were
different: School was a place where they were
expected to sit still, pay attention, and grasp
concepts quickly, all of which were difficult for them.
They realized even as young children (some talked
about experiences as early as first grade) that they
did not learn as easily as “regular” or “normal” kids
do.
(Shattell, Bartlett, PhD, Rowe p.52)
16. Once participants were diagnosed with ADD and began
treatment, other differences became apparent. Although
treatment may have improved their ability to focus in a
classroom, the knowledge of having a disorder was further
stigmatizing.”
(Shattell, Bartlett, PhD, Rowe p.52)
17. Allows development of appropriate supports
Helps parents and child understand the root
reason for their struggles
It is vital that we don’t assume the student can’t
succeed at organizational tasks, paying attention,
or controlling behavior.
18. Each year about 16% of the adult population will
experience an anxiety disorder.
That's about 30 million Americans.
The numbers are higher for people with ADD. In any
given year,
–About 25% of children with ADD will also have an
anxiety disorder.
–Between 25% and 50% of adults with ADD will also
have an anxiety disorder.
Sarah D. Wright, M.S., A.C.T., “Living with ADHD: “A" is for Anxiety” 2008 AD/HD Virtual Conference
19. Normal anxiety comes and goes in response to real
challenges involving potential loss or failure. Normal
anxiety helps sharpen your attention so you can meet
those challenges.
Anxiety disorders involve anxiety that is more intense or
lasts longer than normal anxiety, or that leads to
phobias. Basically, if you worry when there's no real
threat, to the point where you can't function
normally, that's an anxiety disorder.
Sarah D. Wright, M.S., A.C.T., “Living with ADHD: “A" is for Anxiety” 2008 AD/HD Virtual Conference
20. The types of anxiety disorders that show up more frequently
in people with ADD than in the general population are:
Social Phobia (Social Anxiety Disorder)
Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
Separation Anxiety Disorder (in children)
Sarah D. Wright, M.S., A.C.T., “Living with ADHD: “A" is for Anxiety” 2008 AD/HD Virtual Conference
21. Treat student as an individual, not as a typical
this or that.
Become a detective. Discover what the student
responds to and what works for her, vs. what's
upsetting.
Have high expectations, but express them in a
way that helps the student feel elevated, not
pushed.
22. Help them identify their strengths.
What are they really good at?
What are his or her natural abilities or talents?
Be real with expectations…
What is possible for them to do or achieve?
What is not possible or will be more difficult?
Rory F. Stern - 7 Strategies To Help Your Child With ADHD Succeed In School
23. Conveys concern and caring.
Addresses issue at hand not character.
Avoids commands.
Invites cooperation.
Encourages autonomy.
Accepts and acknowledges.
Doesn’t label.
Provides direction rather than correction.
More of Dr. Ginott’s wisdom
24. People tend to judge others’
perceptions and statements by
their own reality. A different
approach:
Do not deny the student’s
perceptions.
Do not argue with their
experiences.
Do not try to convince him
that what he sees or hears
or feels or senses is not so.
25. Trying to see things as the
student does can deescalate
emotions. No progress can be
made until there is a point of agreement
Agreeing on how the student perceives the
situation lays a foundation for change.
Understanding the cause makes it possible to
figure out an acceptable way to satisfy the need
driving the behavior
It also makes it more likely that we can alter the
student’s perception
26. Don't invite dependence
Don't hurry to correct facts.
Don't violate his privacy.
Avoid clichés and preaching.
Don't talk in chapters.
Don't label him.
Don't use reverse psychology.
Don't send contradictory messages.
Don't futurize.
"Concerned adults serve best when with confidence they stand
and wait.“ ~ Between Parent and Teenager, Haim Ginott
27. It is not helpful to ask a child, “What's the matter with you?
Why can't you sit still? What has suddenly gotten into
you?”
These are unanswerable questions. Even if he knew, he
could not say: “Look, I am torn by conflicting emotions. I
am engulfed by irrational urges.”
Paraphrased from Parent & Teenager by Dr. Haim Ginott
28. Use open ended questions, not questions that can be
answered with yes or no.
Don’t make statements disguised as questions, “You
want to do well in school, don’t you?”
Don’t use questions to cross examine.
Questions can be positive, “You do well with the Science
Class lab work. Do you think you might like doing a
project for the book report?”
29. Don’t spend too much time discussing past events.
Doing this in problematic situations often leads to
blaming.
Be careful about using the words “always” and “never.”
If you feel the conversation is getting sidetracked try
steering it back by acknowledging the other person’s
feelings and relating it to the present situation.
Brief Statements are remembered, lengthy explanations
aren’t.
30. Listen with attention.
Repeat the gist of the student's statement .
Avoid criticism .
State your views.
Acknowledging experience and reflecting feelings are
not tricks.
They can not be used mechanically.
They are helpful only within a context of concern and
respect.
31. Never ridicule, unintentionally it can inflict lasting
harm.
Really listen to their thoughts.
Repeat the gist of their view to indicate that you
have listened and understood.
Then, and only then, state your views
The key to dialogue is the willingness to summarize
the other person's view, before stating one's own.
32. How parents and teachers talk tell a child how they
feel about him. [and how they feel about themselves is
reflected in how they talk]
Their statements affect his self-esteem and self-worth.
To a large extent, their language affect his destiny.
Chapter 4 Between Teacher & Child by Haim Ginott
33. Dependency creates hostility.
Fostering dependence invites resentment.
Students crave independence.
The more self-capable we make them feel, the less
hostile they are toward us.
Be sympathetic to their problems but resist the desire
to intervene too often.
34. We sometimes talk about students in their presence.
It can create self-fulfilling prophecies.
“He is a natural pessimist. Always was and always will be.”
“She is a dreamer. She lives in a world of her own.”
Such labeling is can be harmful. Children tend to live up
or down to the expectations of the adults in their lives.
“Once teachers assimilate the principle of "no labeling," they
become more helpful even in difficult moments.”
from Teacher & Child
35. Kinesthetic Learners – A kinesthetic learner is very
active and will appear to be fidgety and
sometimes highly active. They learn the most
from doing activities and integrating information
with different kinds of tasks. A hands on
learner, likes to involve his or her whole body in
the learning process.
36. Auditory Learners – Learn and retain information
when they have an opportunity to hear it. They
are often sensitive to tone and voice pattern, as
well as not necessarily needing to make eye
contact all the time. In class they will learn the
most (and best) when a teacher is lecturing or
merely talking out loud.
37. Auditory Sequencing - Confusion with number
sequences, lists or lists of directions. Hearing
ninety-four instead of forty-nine.
Strategy - Provide written instructions as
reinforcement of oral instruction. Use of visuals
with lectures.
38. Auditory Memory - Difficulty remembering what
was heard, difficulty remembering important
items from a lecture. Spells poorly.
Strategy - Provide written instruction to look back
on. Don't penalize spelling, just correct. Provide
basic outlines of what is being presented.
39. Visual Sequencing - Problems in using a separate
answer sheet. Loses place easily. Problems with
reading. Reversing or misreading numbers of
letters. Reading words incorrectly. Difficulty with
equations.
Strategy - Read directions aloud. Provide oral
instruction. Write on the overhead. Color code
things written down. When writing questions on
the board, change color every other question.
40. Visual Memory - Difficulty remembering what
was seen. Reading comprehension. Difficulty
with math equations. Poor recall of information.
Strategy - Provide handouts that are clearly
written. Provide oral instruction.
41. Dysgraphia - Inability to form letters correctly-
students sometimes cannot read their own
writing.
Strategy - Oral tests, keyboarding, allow reduced
standards for writing.
42. Visual Motor Integration - Mechanical problems in test
taking. Difficulty copying from board or book. Spaces
poorly. Poor written work. Unorganized.
Strategy - Allow use of computer. Tape recorder for
lectures. Substitute oral reports. Provide individual
written outlines so there are fewer steps to process. In
math or science require answers only for calculations.
Use graph paper. Have "note check". Provide note-
buddy. Lower standards for acceptable writing.
43. Auditory Discrimination - Inability to form letters
correctly-students sometimes cannot read their own
writing.
Strategy - Written lectures to follow. Talk at a slower
pace. Give one task at a time.
Auditory Figure Ground - Trouble hearing sounds over
background noises.
Strategy - Sit student near you.
44. Spatial Orientation - Loses materials. Late to
class. Difficulty with oral reading. Unorganized
homework. Difficulty judging time.
Strategy - Provide more time for assignments or
shorten them. Encourage silent reading. Provide
less reading material and more reading time.
Provide help in organization.
45. Receptive Language - Appears to be "not listening".
Incomplete work.
Strategy - Have student repeat directions back to you for
understanding.
Visual Discrimination - Seeing the difference between two
similar objects .
Strategy - Clearly spacing words/problems on a page.
46. Visual Figure Ground - Trouble seeing an image
within competing background. Picking one line of
print from another while reading.
Strategy - Using an index card or marker when
reading- to blot out distraction of other words.
Processing Deficits – LD Online http://www.ldonline.org
47. In emotional situations :
Listen with Compassion.
Postpone further action.
Instant intervention usually makes the problem
worse.
Working things out is more likely when people calm
down.
48. Ask, “What are you going to do?”
Offer some choices
Have student state the consequences
Ask “How do you think that will work?”
Let the student solve the problem (or not).
49. Dr. Ned Hallowell compares the ADD mind
to Niagara Falls “…both wonders of
gargantuan movement and energy. The
trick to making use of the energy in Niagara
Falls, and to doing well in life with ADD, is
building a hydroelectric plant. This waterfall
is an insurmountable obstacle if your goal is
to paddle.”
50. S stands for Shame
P stands for pessimism and negativity
I stands for Isolation
N stands for no creative, productive outlet
51. Shame: The older you get, the more shame you are apt
to feel if your ADD is undiagnosed. You feel ashamed of
what a mess your pocketbook always is in. You feel
ashamed of how late you usually are, no matter how
hard you try not to be. You feel ashamed that you
haven’t made more of the abilities you were born with.
52. Pessimism and negative thinking create a roadblock that
conscious intent can actually dislodge like a battering ram
if properly aimed. Pessimism and negativity—which may
be boulder-sized due to years of failure and frustration—
block your growth at every turn. If every time you have a
new idea or go to meet a new person or begin to play a
game you feel, “Why bother? This won’t work out well,”
you constantly reduce the chances that anything will work
out well.
53. Isolation: Isolation is often the by-product of
shame, pessimism, and negativity. It intensifies the shame
and negativity, and can lead to depression, toxic
anxiety, drug and alcohol abuse, and generally poor
performance in all aspects of life.
54. No Creative, Productive Outlet: All of us do better when
we are creatively and productively engaged in some
activity. It doesn’t have to be overtly creative, like
writing a poem or painting a portrait. Almost any
activity can become a productive outlet that you feel
good about.
April 15, 2007 in http://www.drhallowellsblog.com/dr_hallowell/adhd/index.html
55. Managing time and procrastination cause problems for
most of us. It can be a vicious circle.
56. Wear a watch
Estimate time needed
Have a routine
Start early
Make lists
Know how much time you have
57. Are you putting it off thinking there is plenty of time?
Are you avoiding the task because you don't want to do
it or because you know there will be negative
repercussions?
Are you doing something else instead?
Are you telling yourself you will do it later, when there is
plenty of time to do it now?
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58. Are you saying, "It's no big deal, I'll do it later?" Use the
one minute rule.
Are you waiting until the last minute so the adrenaline will
kick in? Use reasonable internal, not external deadlines.
Are you procrastinating because you have a strong
negative feeling for the task? You can (pick one): #1. avoid
the feeling and the task #2. cling to the feeling and be
miserable doing the task #3. accept the feeling and get on
with things
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59. Do you know you are avoiding a task because there will be
negative repercussions? Ask yourself, "What's the worst
that can happen?" Be prepared for the worst and it won't
seem so bad.
Are you not engaged in a task and being productive with
your time because you have physical tension? Exercise, go
for a short walk, do yoga or just plain stretch.
Do you put the task off because it makes you feel anxious?
Meditate, do breathing exercises or get aerobic exercise
regularly.
60. Define objectives.
Set realistic expectations. Be flexible.
Use perfectionism to your advantage.
Realize you can't be perfect all the time.
Recognize that no one expects you to be
perfect all the time.
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61. Identify the value, worth, importance and urgency of
the task.
Work on what is more important/urgent first.
Ask, "What is the best use of my time right now?"
"Am I doing the right thing?" & "Am I doing things
right?"
Avoid crisis management and shifting priorities.
Improve decision making skills.
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62. Stay motivated.
Be positive.
Monitor self talk.
Visualize results.
Take good care of yourself.
Eat well.
Sleep well.
Exercise.
Attend to personal needs.
63. •Self concept is the perception we have of
ourselves. It’s the foundation of behavior.
•Sharing control shows respect for the other person
and sometimes eliminates power struggles.
•What we perceive others think of us has great
influence on self - concept.
•Nonverbal parts of interaction have greater affect
than the words spoken.
“Getting Special Needs Kids Ready for the Real World;
Special Education from a Love and Logic Perspective,” David Funk
64. Appreciate specific acts. Do not evaluate character
traits.
Avoid praise that attaches adjectives to a child's
character.
Praise describes a child's efforts and accomplishments and
our feelings about them. The cardinal rule in praising is
describe without evaluating- report don't judge.
from Notes on Dr.Haim Ginott’s book Teacher & Child
by Steve Hein at http://eqi.org/ginott.htm
65. Attitudes Toward Anger
How to Be Angry
Sudden Anger
Anger Without Insult
The Process of Change
66. • Dislike it in ourselves
• Don’t allow it in our kids
• Mistrust it
• Deny it
It is futile to address angry feelings with
reasoning, explaining, denying, threatening, or
moralizing. Angry feelings do not vanish when
banished.
67. To deal with times of stress, we should acknowledge these
truths:
• Accept the fact that sometimes students will
make us uncomfortable, annoyed, irritated, even
angry.
• We can express our feelings but we never insult
their personalities and character.
• There are ways to deal with our anger. The first
step is to describe clearly how it affects
us, adding nothing else.
Based on Chapter 6 of “Between Parent & Teenager” by Dr. Haim G. Ginott
68. If we are pushed beyond the brink of our
endurance. If anger flares up suddenly:
• Describe what you see.
• Describe what you feel.
• Describe what needs to be done.
• Do not attack the person.
69. • Difficult
• Goes against natural inclination
• Necessary to learn a new way of venting
without damaging
• When we succeed we feel better and we
model for our kids behavior that will
teach them better ways to express their
frustration
70. • Parents should be their children's
advocates.
• They should not condone misbehavior
• In the most difficult situations they
should try to see the extenuating
circumstances and to provide aid and
hope.
71. 1. By reasoning.
2. By clichés.
3. By “take me for instance. ”
4. By minimizing the situation.
5. By “the trouble with you. ”
6. By self-pity
7. By a “Pollyanna” approach.
Between Parent & Teenage by Dr. Haim Ginott
72. Adults usually react to children’s statements
in one of two ways: they either approve or
disapprove. Yet the most helpful response
to children is often nonjudgmental.
• Not praise or criticism
• Identifies feelings
• Recognizes wishes
• Acknowledges opinions
73. Consistent contact helps the adults be more
comfortable with each other
Problems can be addressed sooner and usually are
more likely to have a successful resolution
The student’s needs will be better met
Communication between home and school helps
with setting reasonable goals
A steady dialogue lessens the chance for
misunderstandings
74. As adults our responsibility is to set standards and demonstrate
values. Our teenagers need to know what we respect and what we
expect. Of course, they will oppose our standards, resist our rules,
and test our limits. This is as it should be. No one can mature by
blindly obeying their parents. Our teenagers' resentment of the rules
is anticipated and tolerated. They are not expected to like our
prohibitions.
There is a crucial difference between the old way of imposing
restrictions and the new way of setting limits. In the past the
teenager's feelings were often ignored. The restrictions were set
amidst anger and argument and in a language that invited resistance.
In the modern approach, limits are set in a manner that preserves our
teenager's self-respect. The limits are neither arbitrary nor capricious.
They are anchored in values and aimed at character-building.
From Chapter 9 of “Between Parent & Teenager”
by Dr. Haim G. Ginott
75. Life is an endless series of small events, periodic conflicts,
and sudden crises which call for a response. The response
is not without consequence: it affects peace and
personality for better or for worse.
Our children's characters are shaped by experience with
people and situations. They learn what they live, and
become what they experiences. To them, our mood is the
message, the style is the substance, the process is the
product.
Adapted From Chapter 12 of “Between Parent & Teenager”
by Dr. Haim G. Ginott
View video of Hugh Downs interview with Dr. Ginott at
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4vgna4lj50&feature=channel&list=UL
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Felt Different”: The Experience of Attention-
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Editor's Notes
He goes on to say that schools cannot survive on miracles and that every teachers deserves good tools and support. His book is his effort to “translate therapeutic concepts into specific educational concepts.”
The support participants experienced from parents helped balance some of the negative effects of ADHD, such as poor academic performance and low self-esteem When teachers took extra time to help participants with their schoolwork, participants felt more a part of school and less different. Participants said that those teachers who spent extra time and really cared about them decreased their feelings of difference and isolation, and many times, this led to improved academic performance. This was conveyed in the following participant's recollection: “In third grade, it was absolutely wonderful…the teacher, she t took time for me—no one had really done that before. So I would do anything I possibly could because she showed [me] that ‘you're important, you matter.’” (Shattell, Bartlett, PhD, Rowe p.53THE EXPERIENCE OF ADHD IN CHILDHOODKids feel differences and internalize a lot of their worries about that.
Share conversation that took place after presenting to Ashland staff.
Dr. Edward M. Hallowell, practicing child and adult psychiatrist, approaches ADD as a gift that is often difficult to unwrap rather than a disorder. One of the most common causes of frustration, underachievement, and unhappiness in adulthood are bad experiences in childhood due to a lack of understanding of what kind of mind the child has and how to manage it best. Supports, accommodations and modifications are tools to manage different learning styles but they’re just a start.Dr. Edward M. Hallowell, practicing child and adult psychiatrist, approaches ADD as a gift that is often difficult to unwrap rather than a disorder. One of the most common causes of frustration, underachievement, and unhappiness in adulthood are bad experiences in childhood due to a lack of understanding of what kind of mind the child has and how to manage it best. Supports, accommodations and modifications are tools to manage different learning styles but they’re just a start.
Focusing on a student’s learning style sets the stage for them to be more autonomous.
You may feel the only way you can be accepted is by putting on a mask, and that the real you is fundamentally flawed. Such shame is toxic. It is also traumatic. It raises your stress hormone levels and eventually corrodes your memory and executive functions. While your fifth grade school teacher may have planted the roots of that shame, you are now the one who intensifies it. You imagine harsh judges everywhere, as if the world were swarming with strict fifth grade school teachers. You project the harsh judgments you are making of yourself out onto everyone you meet. Soon the world becomes like a huge set of judgmental eyes, looming down on you, and your only option is to hide. - Dr. Hallowell
You can control what you think, to a certain degree. You need to work on dismantling your pessimism. Dr. Hallowell recommends the book :The Art of Living, by the Roman philosopher Epictetus, as translated and put into a modern idiom by Sharon Lebell. He says, “One reason I like to recommend it to people who have ADD is that it is short—under 100 pages. Another reason is that it has stood the test of time, and then some. “ You can read more about his thoughts on this in the handout of the article from his blog.
Once you find a creative outlet, or several, you will be much more able to hook your waterfall up to a hydroelectric plant. Don’t say you can’t find it. That’s negativity speaking.
The English language has a rich supply of expressions to give vent to all nuances of anger: We can be uncomfortable, displeased, annoyed, irritated, frustrated, aggravated, dismayed, exasperated, provoked, chagrined, indignant, aghast, angry, mad, enraged, and furious. Anger colors our vision: We turn white with anger, and purple with rage. We see red. We cannot see straight. We go blind. We are livid with anger. Our eyes spit fire. Anger affects our whole bodies. We flush, we frown, we clench our fists. Our nostrils quiver, our ears tingle, and our blood boils. Our whole body shakes. We have a “conniption fit.” When angry, we become unlike ourselves: We fume, we smolder, we sizzle, we stew, we boil over, we flare up, we explode. We blow our top. We blow our stack. We fly off the handle. We hit the ceiling, and raise the roof. We breathe fire and fury. We rave and rant. We are full of consternation and we feel acrimonious.
Among the paradoxes of everyday life none is more surprising than our attitude toward anger. We have such a rich anger vocabulary. Yet we have such mixed feelings about anger. We cultivate it and celebrate it even as we mistrust it. We often dislike it in ourselves and disallow it in our children. It is futile to address angry feelings with reasoning, explaining, denying, threatening, or moralizing. Angry feelings do not vanish when banished. Strong emotions, like turbulent rivers, cannot be reasoned with, or talked out of existence. Their force must be recognized and respected, and their fury diverted and channeled. To do otherwise is to court disaster.
Turning Anger into Action Our anger has a purpose; it shows our concern. Failure to get angry at certain moments indicates indifference, not love. Those who love cannot avoid anger. This does not mean that our teenagers can withstand torrents of rage and floods of violence. It does mean that they can benefit from anger which says: “Enough is enough. There are limits to my tolerance.” It is best not to be too patient with our teenagers. Instead of trying to hide our irritation, we can express it effectively. How to be Angry Instead of trying to suppress anger altogether, parents can express it in nondestructive ways. This expression should bring some relief to the parents, some insight to the teenager, and no harmful aftereffects to either of them. In expressing anger, we consciously need to avoid creating waves of resentment and revenge. We want to get our point across, and then let the storm subside. To deal with times of stress, we should acknowledge these truths: We accept the fact that in the natural course of events teenagers will make us uncomfortable, annoyed, irritated, even angry. We are entitled to express our feelings, with one limitation. No matter how angry we are, we do not insult teenagers' personalities and character. There are certain concrete ways to deal with our anger. The first step in any annoying situation is to describe clearly how it affects us, adding nothing else.
What if we are pushed beyond the brink of our endurance? What if our anger flares up suddenly and we are all-fired-up and ready to pounce. At such times: Describe what you see. Describe what you feel. Described what needs to be done. Do not attack the person.
Anger without Insult To express anger without insult is not easy. It goes against natural inclinations and ingrained habits. But we must learn a new language that will enable us to give vent to anger without damaging those we love. Parents who have mastered the new language have gained greater control over themselves. They feel capable of expressing their angry emotion effectively and helpfully.
When a teenager is in trouble, there are many adults willing to prosecute him. It is only fair that our child not be left without a defense attorney. And who but the parent is more capable of being the child's advocate? Many parents act as though they were their teenager's prosecutor. In any dispute they come to the defense of a stranger rather than their own son or daughter. They provide explanations and excuses for the discourtesy of a driver, the teasing of a teachers, the rudeness of a waiter, the insult of a classmate, the nagging of a neighbor, and the brutality of a bully. Some parents refuse to stand by their teenagers in their entanglements with the world out of fear of making them soft. They resist their natural inclination to help them because they believe they will be better prepared for life in “The School of Hard Knocks.” This false belief has estranged many parents from their teenagers. Parents are their children's advocates. Like attorneys they operate within the law. They do not condone misbehavior, or sanction misconduct. Lawyers do not encourage crime. They do not compliment a safe-cracker on his skill or a con artist on her cunning. However, regardless of the offense they defend the accused. In the most difficult situations they try to see the extenuating circumstances and to provide aid and hope.
By reasoning. “What did you expect? To get the first job you wanted? Life is not like that. You may have to go to five or even ten interviews before you are hired.” By clichés. “ Rome was not built in one day, you know. You are still very young, and your whole life is in front of you. So, chin up. Smile and the world will smile with you. Cry and you will cry alone. I hope it will teach you not to count you chickens before they are hatched.” By “take me for instance. ” “When I was your age I went looking for my first job. I shined my shoes, got a hair cut, put on clean clothes, and carried the Wall Street Journal with me. I know how to make a good impression.” By minimizing the situation. “I don't see why you should feel so depressed. There is really no good reason for you to be so discouraged. Big deal! One job did not work out. It's not worth even talking about. By “the trouble with you. ” “The trouble with you is that you don't know how to talk with people. You always put your foot in your moth. You lack poise and you are fidgety. You are too eager, and not patient enough. Besides, you are thin-skinned and easily hurt.” By self-pity . “I am so sorry dear, I don't know what to tell you. My heart breaks. Life is so much a matter of luck. Other people have all the luck. They know the right people in the right places. We don't know anyone. By a “Pollyanna” approach. “Everything happens for the best. If you miss one bus there will soon be another, perhaps a less crowded one. If you didn't get one job, you'll get another – perhaps even a better one.” Parents can learn to avoid such hazards to effective communication. They can learn to listen attentively and respond simply and sympathetically.
Our Responsibility: Setting Standards and Upholding Limits while Respecting Feelings As adults our responsibility is to set standards and demonstrate values. Our teenagers need to know what we respect and what we expect. Of course, they will oppose our standards, resist our rules, and test our limits. This is as it should be. No one can mature by blindly obeying their parents. Our teenagers' resentment of the rules is anticipated and tolerated. They are not expected to like our prohibitions. There is a crucial difference between the old way of imposing restrictions and the new way of setting limits. In the past the teenager's feelings were often ignored. The restrictions were set amidst anger and argument and in a language that invited resistance. In the modern approach, limits are set in a manner that preserves our teenager's self-respect. The limits are neither arbitrary nor capricious. They are anchored in values and aimed at character-building. The distinction between feelings and acts is the cornerstone of the new approach to teenagers. We are permissive when dealing with feelings and wishes. We are strict when dealing with unacceptable behavior. We respect our teenagers' opinions and attitudes, we do not belittle their dreams and desires, but we reserve the right to stop or redirect some of their acts. As adults we are not our teenagers' pals or playmates. We are their friendly guardians, concerned enough and strong enough to endure their temporary animosity when we must uphold standards and values that protect them and society.
We want our teenagers to be human beings with compassion, commitment, and courage, people whose lives are guided by a core of strength and a code of fairness. To achieve these humane goals, we need humane methods. Love is not enough. Insight is insufficient. Good parents need skill. How to attain and use such skill is the main theme of Between Parent and Teenager . I hope that this book will help parents and teenagers translate desired ideals into daily practices.