2022 COSHRM Conference - Dudes Do Better Dismantling Toxic Masculinity At Work Jeff Harry

Dudes, Do Better:
Dismantling Toxic
Masculinity At Work
Jeff Harry
Rediscover Your Play

VISUALIZE THAT
TOXIC PERSON
AT YOUR WORK
RediscoverYourPlay.com/coshrm @jeffharryplays

VISUALIZE THAT
CO-WORKER YOU
ADMIRE

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Reflect On
How We
Got Here?
Topics We Are Covering
How Much Is
Toxic Masculine
Leadership Costing Us?
What Is Effective
Leadership?
Provide Solutions
For Every Level of
The Workforce
Identify Actions
That Can Be
Implemented
Immediately

Who Needs To Change?

WHO AM I?

Built The Largest LEGO-Inspired STEM Org In The U.S.
• Play (No Business Plan)
• Intuition (Picked Fun People)
• Prioritized relationships over
short-term profits
• Focused On Inspiring Staff
• Avoided Hiring Toxic People

What Words Describe
Toxic Masculinity?

WE CELEBRATE TOXIC MASCULINE LEADERS

TOXIC MASCULINITY DEFINITION
Toxic masculinity is a narrow and
repressive description of manhood,
designating “being a man” as
defined by dominance, aggression,
individualism & lack of emotion.

TOXIC MASCULINE LEADERSHIP TRAITS
• Bullying
• Avoid losing at all costs
• Restraining one’s emotions
• During conflict, showing strength
through aggression
• Exhibiting dominance masking
insecurity

TOXIC MASCULINE LEADERSHIP
DROVE THE GREAT RESIGNATION
The Great Resignation

TRIGGERS &
IMPACT
• What Triggers You About The Toxic Person At
Work?
• How Does The Presence Of This Toxic Person Affect
Your Work?
If you are currently not dealing with toxicity in your workplace, refer to a previous experience.

TOXIC PEOPLE MAKE YOU STUPID
•Performed
25% worse

TOXIC PEOPLE MAKE YOU MEAN
• Performed
25% worse
• 9 Times Less
Likely To Help

Data Does
Not Lie
Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Produces Higher Profits

Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Produces Higher Profits
Data Does
Not Lie

Reality: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Costs Companies Billions

How Much Can Toxic Masculine
Leadership Cost A U.S. Company?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity $14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace

Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff $30,000 - $45,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them

Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff $30,000 - $45,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them
Cost To Defend An Employee
Lawsuit $75,000 - $150,000*
*Litigation Cost Survey of Major Companies - USCourts.gov

Diversity of Perspective

What Traits Does Your Team Currently
Have?

What Traits Are Missing From Your
Team?

Traits Teams Need For Successful Leadership

Determine The Primary Motivations
& Drivers Of The Organization
• What Are The Main Goals Of Your Organization?
• What Are The Values Of The Organization?
• What Are The Main Drivers Of The Decision Makers?
• What Are The Primary Motivations Of The Toxic
Staffer?

For Dealing With The
Toxic Person At Work

We Are Talking About
Practice…

ENTRY LEVEL & JUNIOR LEVEL STAFF
• Find allies & employees who have
similar issues
• Gather data/documentation on
toxic staffers
• Recognize the leverage and access
you have

MID-LEVEL MANAGEMENT
• Explore why staff are quitting
• Ask employees: Did we lose or gain your
trust these past 2 years?
• Focus on your circle of influence
• Experiment with new ways of leading staff

EXECUTIVES & C-SUITE LEVEL
•What is the worst behavior you are
tolerating?
•Reassess what metrics you are
measuring success by
•Fund your committees & resource
groups

HUMAN RESOURCES
• Change the perception of HR by
showing up as allies
• Call out hypocrisy & call in your
organization’s values
• Understand the perspective of
who’s coming into your workforce

Strategy & Implementation
• What Are Your Goals In Addressing Toxicity At Work?
• What Are The Initial Steps You Can Do To Begin?
• Who Are Your Allies That Can Help Implement This
Strategy?
• What Are The Obstacles That May Get In Your Way?

Taking Action To Dismantle
Toxic Masculinity
What Is Your Initial Step To Take Action?
Who Are Your Allies That Will Support You?

Who Will Decide The Future of Work?
Pre-Pandemic
Leadership
Post-
Pandemic
Leadership
Shared
Humanity
Collaboration
Inspiration
Intuition
Individualism
Control
Ego
Competition

Recap of What We Covered
Learn From
The Mistakes
of The Past
Outline The Cost of
Toxic Masculine Leadership
Give Examples Of
A Healthy Masculine &
Feminine Leadership
Pick A Solution
That Works For
Your Team
Take Immediate Action
& Remember To Practice

Let’s Dismantle Toxic Masculinity Together
Session Name: Dudes, Do Better:
Dismantling Toxic Masculinity At Work
SHRM Code: 22-ES2MH
HRCI Code: 598744
HRCI credit type: General credit
jeff@rediscoveryourplay.com

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